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... What ???? ... We (my daughter and I) went to the Store to get a few things and as I was putting stuff up at the checkout the cashier (a guy) started talking to my daughter ..... He says 'Hello' and my daughter just stood there and looked at him ..... he goes "you look pretty" and again no response from my daughter ...... so he goes " you can't talk ??? It is rude not to say Hello" .... so my daughter looked at me and I told him that she does not talk to strangers and I want him to stop talking to her ..... he goes ..... "I am not a stranger ..... it is not a crime to be polite ... do you think your better then me ???" :eek: I got irritated cause he would not drop it .... and I told him to shut up .... do his Job and leave my little Girl alone or I will go talk to his manager ..... at that point I yelled and the whole Store heard me .... :mad: I teach my kid NOT to talk to strangers and have to put up with this ???? :thumbdown |
He should have just dropped it. However, I have to agree with him, I think it is rude when someone doesn't speak to the cashier if they have been spoken to. I realize that she is just a little girl, but I do think that it would have been polite for her to say Hello. I know there is a fine line on judging who is a stranger.....but, you were with her. Just my opinion....no one has to agree! |
See I said "Hello" to him .... I understand what your saying ..... but how can I say at one point .... don't talk to strangers and then say ... ohhh it's ok now .... I think it will confuse her .... I don't know what to think .... :confused: |
I totally understand about teaching your daughter to not talk to strangers. I don't have kids of my own, but I have a niece and nephews. I've always been protective of them when I take them out. Having said that, I personally feel that if I'm with them and a cashier at a store says "hi" that it's ok to say "hi" back. JMO I think teaching them to not talk to strangers when you are not with them and they are in different situations and environments is a good thing. I think it's a hard line between wanting to protect kids from strangers and making them too fearful of people in general. You want them to like people and to be polite. That's just my two cents worth, but the cashier should have dropped it! |
I think since you were with your daughter it would have been alright for her to respond. I know the rule of thumb is to teach your child not to talk to strangers but that can be a bad thing too. There is a difference between being polite to a stranger and carrying on a conversation. Children need to know that not all strangers are bad and they may actually need the help of one someday...I would hope they wouldn't but if they did they may be afraid to ask for help. |
That's ridiculous! You should still have talked to his manager. He was completely rude and OUT OF LINE. You are the mother and he needed to shut his mouth. My youngest son is a little shy and I'm sure he wouldn't say hi either. I would have went off on the guy. :thumbdown (My two cents and I might be too paranoid but in this society you can not be too careful especially with girls and men that are too friendly) |
I agree 100% with mayas mommy & chloeandj!! |
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I congratulate your daughter for listening to you. I think it would have been fine if he also spoke to you and not "you sure are pretty". That's alittle freaky. I know my kids look to me when a stranger talks to them and I will say go ahead and say hello or say thankyou. |
You were there and may have picked up on something wierd about this guy but if not I would always want my children to learn to speak when spoken to and be friendly if they are with an adult. Now if they were alone that is an entirely different story. |
Goodness! That cashier carried it too far. He should have dropped it after no response...his undesirable comments upset you. My opinion: I'd follow thru on this and make a call to the manager of that store and give him the details...this guy may need to be "talked to" so future customers will not be harassed. I am sorry this happened to you and your little girl...such an unpleasant experience for you and her to endure. |
You were absolutely correct in your decision. She is your child and you make the rules. I don't think it was rude for her not to speak to the cashier. He should've been speaking to you anyhow, not your child. I would have felt very protective myself if he would've been so rude to my child and reacted like a mama bear. Good for you.:thumbup: |
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While I agree he should have dropped it, saying she sure was pretty seems like somethinng someone would say to a child around here. Just a Southern (US) thing I guess. If you got a creepy vibe maybe you should have talked to the manager. |
However anyone feels about if your daughter should have said hello to begin with- that man was beyond rude, not to mention weird and creepy. For any man to tell your daughter she is pretty and then badger her for not responding... What a nutcase! Perhaps your daughter was intuitive enough to realize this man was odd to begin with and was smart not to encourage conversation. |
This reminds me of the creepy kind I'm sure most of us have encountered. Some men think that you are supposed to be incredibly flattered simply by their notice and if you aren't they turn on you instantly. This is probably the type of guy who makes vulgar sounds to random women and responds to being ignored with "b!tch" or "d!ke". I understand that some people think he was being nice by complementing your daughter's looks but his reaction after that speaks volumes to me. |
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I did talk to him ..... I said 'Hello' ... guess he did not wanted to hear it ..... bad thing is ... if my Husband would have been with us .... this would of never happened ..... |
he sounds creepy, I work for a dentist and parents come back with the child and they do the talking for the child. I try to speak to the child asking questions like do your teeth hurt, do you brush your teeth etc. I don't take offense if they don't talk. I always hope for a bye bye from them when were done though. he really sounds creepy!! |
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There is a difference ...... :) And it is not that he was a guy .... if a chick would have done that I would have had the same reaction ..... |
As someone who used to work in retail, I used to say hi to all the cute little kids and have conversations with them and I don't believe it's wrong of me to do so. It's being friendly. I would have been offended myself if someone snapped that their child shouldn't talk to me cause I mean no harm, I wouldn't have proceeded with an argument though. He should have dropped it. |
Saying hello is one thing but 'you look pretty' is going to far. There are too many sex offenders out there! If we, as parents, don't protect our kids, who will? I would have definitely talked to the manager. |
I can see your side definiatly. One of my twins i have to be really careful with bc she will talk and want to be friends with any one. I have tried so hard to teach her not to talk to strangers, but she thinks everyone is nice and that the world is like Candyland. My other twin on the other hand is very shy and wont speak to anyone unless she has known them for about a week! Each mother has their own way of teaching their children and that should be respected weather or not someone else agrees. you delivered them and care for them so you are the one who sets their boundries. I think it was disrespectful that he didnt stop when you asked him to! In any situation that is wrong |
I understand a friendly hello, if your daughter chose not to speak, then this store employee should have just shut up and done his job. In a business establishment I am not obligated to speak to those who serve me other than is necessary for the worker to perform his/her duties. No doubt about it - I would have spoken to the manager AND I would consider trading with a different store. With that said, I am a gargarious, friendly person who thinks nothing of starting conversations with complete strangers. It isn't outside my mode of operation to compliment people on their hair, clothes, and in one case I told this complete stranger (male) what georgeous legs he had -- just a statement of FACT, no flirting. |
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I agree .... :thumbup: |
I never raised my boys to be outgoing because unfortunately there are some pedophiles and others who might harm them. I never forced them to say hi or perform like I have seen some parents do. I have been in places where little children will talk to you and sit by you and share personal info and the parent is like a rugrat parent awol. The register employee was RUDE! not your daughter. Better to be safe than sorry. |
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