Venting...
 

My younger sister,26 is in the hospital as we speak having surgery to remove a brain tumor at the base of the brain. My son, 5 yrs old had a cardio catheter done yesterday and is not up to travel today. I feel lost i feel I should be there with my mother as she faces this alone. I'm new here, alot of you have no clue who I am yet. My family has been through so much in the last five year. Those here from the pixel community know my story well.

My father died at age 54 Oct 2003. He just died, no reason nothing just didn't come back after a seizure. Two weeks later my nephew, who was 15 days younger then my son, died at the babysitter. He had just turned one a week before this. Later we found my nephew was murdered,given enough Loratab to kill more then one adult. No justice as of date, no idea what happened. My Grandma had a stroke following the news that my mother was having an affair with a married man,and has not been the same since. I won't go into anymore detail here,but that is our lil family bad luck I guess.

So here I sit, at home on the computer and not with my family at the OU Medical Center in OKC for my sister. So I'm rather going nuts calling them every two minutes for an update wanting to know if she comes out of this okay and if she will gain her eyesight in left eye afterwards.. the right eye is gone, the optic nerve is dead from the tumor. :( She is 26 yrs old, has two daughters, one Cricket five years old,that she gave my mom to adopt.. and another little girl Niecie is now 3 years old. My sister and I have a lot of differences and I don't agree with the way she does her daughter adn former daughter.. but she is my sister and I'm scared to hell that she won't come through this okay,and I didn't even get to tell her I loved her.

Thanks for letting me rant.

:(:(:(:( sending hugs .....and lots of prayers for your family - you all have been thru way too much ........I hope the surgery is a sucess....

I'm so sorry

Sending hugs and prayers for your family and you

I am sorry that you have been through so much. I am glad you shared it with us, because sometimes that makes it a little easier to bear. I am going to say a prayer for your sister and one for you, too, because you are having such a rough time. Keep us updated about your sister. (hug)

OMG...you have had a lot to deal with. You can vent on YT anytime you need to...we can be with you in spirit....sending you warm wises and lots of hugs.

Oh man sweetie, when it rains it pours huh? I know that your sister knows you love her, even if you do have your differences. My family had a string of bad luck in recent years as well but we all came through it and although a little worse for wear, we are all more & more appreciative of what we are/have and accomplished. Hang in there and keep us posted on how your sister did during surgery and how her eyesight fared. I am sending good vibes and prayers your way to you and your family. I hope this is the last hardship you have to face and smoother roads lay ahead of you all.

OK,,,, Sit down, take a deep breath......... Your son needs you home with him today and I'm sure your mom knows your with her in Spirit and by phone. Thank god for cell phones... What did we do without them years ago???? My prayers are with you and your family. Good luck and keep us updated..:aimeeyork

sendings tons of hugs your way! just remember to breath!

Thank you for your words,all of you. I was not sure about posting it, I try to keep the "personal" stuff out of it. But shesh, I just spoke with mom, they are JUST NOW taking her back to surgery. they are going through the nose and pallet (roof of mouth) to get the mass out, we will not know what we are up against until they get in there. It could be a cyst,or a tumor, cyst they drain it and hope it never returns, tumor, we have problems. I'm waiting for word,if it is a good operation it will be about 3 hours, if it's a difficult it could be 5 to 8 hours. I will update as I can... thank you so much for letting me get this out ladies and gents.. I do appreciate it.

Oh my gosh! I wish I lived closer!

It sounds like your family has had more than it's share of sorrows. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I am so glad that you feel comfortable enough with your "new family" to vent and share your very personal family history with us. hugs :hug: and prayers :hands: coming your way.

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I feel for you and will say a lot of prayers, you might also try 4WomenTalk.com. You will get a lot of comfort and support.

Sending you a big old hug and prayers for your family.

Sending bunches of hugs and prayers for you and your family. That's just too much pain for any family to have to deal with. Keep strong, sweetie.

I can not say thank you enough, I'm on pins and needles waiting for updates. Korbin,my son is going to see Dr Jackson again here in about 20 mins to see if his lil body can take a trip. I have never left either him nor my daughter in anyones elses care. This will be a first for me if he makes the trip Scott's parents are going to keep the kids and my furbaby while I"m at the hospital. Thank you for the thougths, the prayers and just for giving me a place to "talk". I am usually the rock of our family, I make it all better,but this, I just can't. I have not spoken to my sister much the last few days because the words just escape me,and her seeing or hearing me scared would be worse. I will keep you up to date and post when I can. If Korbin can make the trip I will be taking my lap top so I can check in tonight at the hotel with everyone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I am so sorry for all you are going through. I will have your family in my prayers.

Big hugs to you. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to vent/talk or whatever. :love:

I am so sorry, Sending tons of prayers for you and hugs. I am sorry that you have been through so much.:(

Kiara is out of surgery and in recovery,they will move her to ICU with in two hours. The operation went well, they had to enter through the nose and the pallet(roof of mouth) to get to the mass. THe mass was a pocket full of fluid,but has been sent to be tested for any trace of cancer. They are unsure if her good eye will be okay or not. She has lost the site in the right one already and the left one was almost gone, they told her this surgery could take the left one as well. We won't know anything else until she wakes up in a few hours or so. They have to watch her now because this could throw her hormones into major mix up .. Will let you know when I know.

I don't know what your faith system is, but with all you've gone through and all your family has experienced, my first thought is...what a woman of strength! My second thought is, what a mighty God we serve! God is a God of healing and a God of communicating. Sometimes we don't have the words to express, but He sends a Comforter that allows our expressions to be known. We are expected to communicated via words, written and/or spoken, when we can, but don't beat yourself up for what you can't or haven't said...do what you can and know that God is able. My prayers are with you and I offer hugs and love to you this day. May your son heal with great speed and no complications...and may your sister be restored to wholeness. I know that the doctors have said something different, but our Father God is in the miracle working business, and I pray...for her...a miracle.

Thank you ladies.... I just spoke with my sister.. I talked she moaned.. she is okay! She is in ICU right now and is seeing better out of the left eye, while the right one can not be saved, she was able to get sight into the left eye again. I am going to see her tomorrow. I can't wait I will print out all of these messages I want her to see how many people that do not know her,or even myself pulled for her.. thank you for all of your thoughts your prayers and now we start the road to recovery!

Good morning ladies.... I just spoke with my mother... my sister has taken a turn for the bad. A complication of this surgery is that the person will have a urinating issue. Apparently Kiara is having this complication, she hs been urinating much more then want her to. They did a blood test this morning, will post when I know what that is about. I can't thank you enough for this thread, and for hte support. It has helped me so much with not being able to join my family. I felt horrible when she told me last night all she wanted was me there. I will go sometime to day to see her, it is an hour and half drive from where I am (I'm in Tulsa,OK they are in OKC,OK) and Korbin has finally left his leg alone long enough to clot where they did the cardio catheter. I will watch him this morning and see if he is ready to make the trip,then we will go. thank you again and love to you all for this help.

Prayers that your sister's complication will be sorted out so she can continue healing to her fullest.

I hope Korbin is feeling good enough to go.

Again, we continue to pray for and with you. God is a God of healing and miracles. No matter what the outcome...He will see you and your family through this. Be blessed.

Prayers coming your way, bless your heart

I was able to see her today! I can't tell you what it felt like to just see her adn touch her hand. and She can see out of the left eye,better then before! She will not ever have the right eye again,but that is okay. She is facing alot of ups and downs right now. Her blood pressure continues to rise so they are keeping her in ICU for the time being,adn the urine is still an issue. I will update as I get it. Korbin is doing GREAT they were able to clot his leg last night from the catheter and he is on the mend. He did well on the trip and was happy to see his AUnt Kiara was okay. Thank you ladies... I printed all of these out and took them to her so she could see the encouragement.

I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.
Glad you were able to see her. (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))

I just saw your thread for the first time... I am very sorry for the grief your family has endured.
Very happy to know that you had the chance to see your sister and that she is doing well! AND that your son is on the med with her!
Our prayers are with you and your family.
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UPDATE

I spoke with mom this morning. She is doing well, her blood pressure, blood sugar and urine are a concern,but they are talking of moving her out of ICU. Thank you ladies so much, It has been a huge wt lifted with being here and able to discuss this with you all. I am so happy things are moving right along,and she is ready to get home and see her daughter. She has not seen her since July 4th. I hope all is well and you are all doing well also. thank you so much