Please pray for me
 

DH's cousin has moved in with us. It is supposed to be "temporary" but we've been here done this before and he never leaves until we finally ask him to. Even though I STRONGLY dislike this man, I can't leave anyone homeless so here he is. *sigh*

Please pray that he actually does what he says he is going to do regarding a job and finding a new place.

Please please please pray that I do not kill him in the meantime. I have both skin and fur kids who need me and I can't afford to go to jail.

Hi Aerrica,
That's a bummer but your so kind to give it a try, again!
I wouldn't let him get away with not looking for a job daily.
Make sure he up and out. It would kill me to if he layed around
all day. Prayer's coming your way that his stay is fast. Please
stay out of jail.;)

Prayers heading out to you express mail! Been there...done that...bless your heart. :rolleyes:

That's one reason I started making mosaics. I get to break things! :D

Praying he finds a job quick and you have the strength not to kill him!! You are very kind to take him in again

I'll be parying for you. Stay strong and positive in the meantime!!

You are a good people to do this for him. I just hope he wakes up and realizes how lucky he is to have you guys. Sending good thoughts and lots of patience.

Best of luck to you. Hope all works out well.

My issues with this man are as follows:

1. This is about the SIXTH time we have taken him in in 8 yrs.

2. He has no money, no job, no home, no license, no car, no ambition and its all everyones fault BUT HIS!

3. He is 46 yrs old going on 10

4. He actually had the audacity to say to me once (and truly believe at the time) that he had more of a right to be in MY home with MY husband because he was family! He has since been set straight. Guess if I didn't kill him then I probably won't.

5. He is a slob and rarely showers unless I say something. He has gone WEEKS with no shower.

6. He is OBSESSED with the online games EverQuest and Second Life and talks about them constantly and I do mean constantly.

7. He does very little to help out around here and what little he does he only does when DH is home so that it looks to DH like he is trying. However DH works nights and sleeps during the day and this is when T does nothing but watch television, read, and play video games.

The list goes on...and on...and on....

The ONLY reason he is here is because he was truly going to be on the streets if he didn't come here.

This sounds so mean to say, but he smells. He smokes (outside) but the smell sticks to him and anything he touches like glue AND he has the worst BO of anyone I've ever met. I am constantly going behind him with air freshener and bleach (I try to do it so he doesn't notice - I don't want to be rude and I try to make it look just like regular cleaning if he does notice)

I am just trying very hard to keep my patience and my temper in check because I have next to none of either one when it comes to him.

Thanks for all the prayers. I really need and appreciate them.

You're a saint!!!!

Oh that stinks! I toss around the idea of a roommate then I hate the thought of someone being around MY house all the time and give up looking. To have one almost forced onto you by feeling of obligation really stinks! I hope he gets on his feet quickly and leaves your house quickly also. Good Luck! Don't kill him now! ;) :)

This is exactly why I'm almost relieved that the roommate BF and I had lined up backed out on us. You really are a saint and I hope this man realizes how lucky he is that you are so generous. I would sit down with him early on and set some rules, like he can only stay so many months before he leaves, job or no job.

I don't feel like a saint. I feel hateful, spiteful, resentful, and very very angry at the situation and at myself for letting myself feel bad and say yes to taking him again when I really don't want him here.

I just hate feeling this way. It isn't me and really bothers me. I am usually a pretty happy and cheerful person, but with him here I just feel like the life has been sucked out of me.

It wouldn't be so bad if he would actually put forth some effort and TRY and if he would take some responsibility for the situation he is in. OR if he would just act grateful for us letting him stay here instead of acting like we OWE it to him because he's family.

*sigh* God and YTers grant me strength.

It's hard to help someone who does not want to help themselves!
Your up against a brick wall I'm afraid. Your hubby has to open
his mouth and get rid of him if he truly does not find a job soon.
It's not fair to you at all!

It's time he got some 'tough love' from your husband. 46 is old enough to start taking care of yourself.

OMG, Aerrica:eek:. His name isn't ANGUS, is it???? I have a brother who's just about the same way (only he DOES shower daily). It's so hard to turn your back on someone esp a family member when they're down.

I know this sounds so simple, but your husband should only allow him to move in with you under certain stipulations....like, he has to shower at least every other day (or whatever you all think is tolerable) and he HAS to help out around the house, and he HAS to ....fill in the blank. It's up to you to set the rules and guidelines and stick to them. If he can't follow them in YOUR home, then he needs to leave. And that's how it should be. I feel so bad for you b/c you JUST got into your house! Anyway, if he wants help. he needs to respect you and your home and the serenity of running it YOUR way. If he can't, then I'd tell him ahead of time, this is the way it is; we're happy to help you out for (however long), but if you can't respect our wishes then maybe you can find someone else to help you out.

It's hard no matter who it is or what the circumstances are, but it's YOUR home and you deserve to feel comfortable in it and not be taken advantage of in it. Stay strong! And yes, make sure he's out looking for work! Good luck honey~