Originally Posted by red98vett (Post 1901017)

Debbie- before he sees this thread I think you should copy it & send it to your daughter or have HER copy it and save it - I'm glad you have her and aren't alone.

then ask admin to delete it.

you should talk about whatever you plan privately somewhere - I'd hate to see anything used against you if you end up in court.

Your man sounds nuts and after reading your latest.....even without the porn etc - it sounds like a bad situation and you will be so much happier without all that drama in your life. It's hard being alone... but compared to that - I'd rather be alone then living in constant turmoil.

You're really in a tough situation and all the best to you

Originally Posted by cariblonde (Post 1906836)

how are you?

Originally Posted by NanaDtreasures (Post 1906882)

Things are ok the last couple days.
Its warm and sunny here, and he's been outside or gone most of the time.
Sunday night Allie had her puppies ,and so I've been real busy making sure all are gaining etc.And I had one with a messed up leg :( BUT its getting better!.
Jen had several drs appointments with my grandson who has cystic fibrosis and two of her other boys have strep.Ughhhhhh

When it rains it pours..lol
I never did tell him about the porn. It just wasnt worth losing my computer over it. Not that it matters anyways...This was just like the last kick in the teeth for me.(As if there hadnt been enough)
We are planning for next week to start THE plan.
Lot of checking to do. And I have made notes from PM's and here.
The support was amazing!

Now....how are YOU doing? I've thought many times about you.
Its hard with little ones but you can do this.
YOU deserve so much better

Originally Posted by Saleswman (Post 1920714)

I have not been here in a while.....been thinking of you though....

Hope you are ok.:)

Shirley

Originally Posted by NanaDtreasures (Post 1896686)

And katelin

Ok...this is long..

Thinking how I can put a very long story into a short one...
After a 22 year marriage my husband and I divorced.
I call it midlife crisis. New woman and new motorcycle...
We are still good friends.
I received a 100.000 settlement for my part of our home which was paid off.

A year after I met and married my new husband.
I did get a prenup before marriage, even thou this was the sweetest man I'd ever met.
Little did I know that soon...verbal, mental and physical abuse would start.
He was diagnosed as being bipolar with personality disorders,after first going thru chronic depression after both his parents died shortly after we married.
I stayed with this man thru all the abuse because he was seeking help and meds to get better.
He has worked little during the 4 years we have been married, just enough to keep his medical ins in effect thru his company. 3 years ago he almost had a heart attack and ended up with 3 stents placed in his chest and different medications.
He no longer has no ins. and is laid off of another "new job"

I have wanted a divorce for years having given up on him getting stable with his mental issues.
I cant take the abuse anymore.
This wasn't new to him ,he has known for this I am done and was preparing to sell the house. Which WE bought right before we were married with ME putting my 100,000 down on the house. He put nothing.But the prepup states that if we divorced before 5 years this money would come back to me in the sell of the house.

Since I have told him, I am filing for divorce this spring AND he found out he has no medical ins. he stated to me "fine...file for divorce..the day I get served I will immediately go to the ER.Tell them I am having chest pains and all the equity that is in this house will be gone " We already know when they did the stents there were more that needed done, but they chose not to do them at that time....
I thought he cant do this and ask my ins agent where I get my medical ins, Would they take my home over medical bills. And he said sadly they can. AND I couldn't file for bankruptcy because there is so much equity in the house.
He is uninsurable...I've been denied by everywhere I applied ...Help...
I feel so used....blackmailed by someone I loved and did everything to try to help and work thru everything else. Does anyone know...Is there anyway I can prevent this.After today...I just want out :(