Guys.. Suck, well most of them.. well atleast mine :mad: Im soo frieken tired of all the bullcrap that I have to go through. Life def is a roller coaster you def go up, and it takes a while to go up, but as soon as you think it can't get any better, you fall, and you crash and when you do it hits hard!! Well Josh told me today that he isn't moving down here, and I told him that Im not having a long distance relationship for 5 frieken years! I just got this new job and Im not moving to another agency any time soon! It frieken sucks bc I have wasted like 3 years of my life with him.. I feell miserable, sad, angry, ppissed, and every other emotion that you can feel... we were soo close, and theres a few things that I never should have done but I HAVE to let it go, if he doens't want to move here then it will never ever work. He doesn't care about my feelings, he lies about the littlest things, things that really don't matter.. so what bigger things does he lie about? Its a bunch of crap and I don't know what to doo..... sorry for complaining. :( |
I wish there was something I could say, but I agree with you. Guys (ok... most) suck. Long distance relationships rarely work out. I know there are some that do. But I look at it this way, If they are having a hard time comprimising now... it will only get worse. And as for lying.. One lie is one too many for me. To tell me a lie is to look me in the face and tell me they think I am stupid enough to believe it. And once they lie one time, it gets easier all the time. There is someone special who is just right for you out there. Just take your time and he will come when you least expect it. Sonya |
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I know, im miserable now and he blames everything on me and half of its not my fault.. o well. I know theres someone out there, this is going to be hard, but im willing to leave him. If theres probs now like u said there will DEF be some there in the future. |
Well, I would agree that lieing is one thing I won't tolerate. If you can't trust someone then you might as well forget it or else resolve yourself to a life of misery. At least that's my opinion. Maybe he is just a little young right now and needs to do some growing up? Anyways, sorry you are going thru this. I can remember being where you are at and it doesn't feel good at all. :( |
Oh, hunny, I am so sorry you are having problems with Josh. I don't know anything else to say, but keep you chin up and before you know it, you'll find someone to make you 10x happier! |
He def needs to mature, the thing i hate the most is that he "stuck"in his town he doens't want to leave, which is fine for me.. bc im not going to be in that situation another girl can. |
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I wish I could say that I hope you work it out but I'm worried that the same thing will happen again in another couple of years and you'd be more torn up than you are this time. Again, I'm not being a b*tch and you know you can always talk to me, (as your late night/early morning texts have proved! lol). |
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yes, they have def been proven! I know thats what everyone tells me, but im just that "dumb girl" that has to have her life laid out in front of her and come crashing down b4 I can see it. My biggest problem was getting a bank account and cc with him, and a DA** ring. Why didn't I ever listen to my parents?? I was soo nieve (sp) that I just HAD HAD HAD to do it since I was soo in love. :( :thumbdown |
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Obviously Josh doesn't realize what a great catch you are. This has to be really hard for you. :( |
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He doesn't, he takes everything for granit... :( :mad: :thumbdown |
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but I wish I would have realized it earlier.. instead of almost 3 years later. O well.. I have learned lessons from it, and I do thank him for that. |
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At least look at it this way... you're still young, still in your teens... better to have wasted 3 years now rather than later on... and besides, it's not been a complete waste of time... no one finds their true love first time round and sometimes not even the second or third time. |
Yes, i know. Im just crying/laughing he just told me "atleast I know what love is" omg.. I still have time to meet someone, hopefully..lol |
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That sucks! I'm so sorry for you. At least now you know what kind of man to look out for and you can focus on what you need to do to better your life. Let him be stuck in his little town, and not have enough desire for the future. You will find someone, maybe not right away but hay, now you can go out without permission and have a good time. You go girl! Enjoy it! |
Kelsey there's nothing worse then a liar. Lying changes to cheating, and cheating changes to pain for you. I know it's hard to let go of someone you care about, but it's better to do it now then after your married. Like I keep telling Kylie there's someone out there for her. You just have to be patient. Your relationship has been so up and down I don't know how you stand it. It was really wrong of him to wait till you started your new job to tell you he's not moving. I think you'd be better just moving on with your life. I know it's easier said then done, but be strong and do what's right. |
Awww, Kelsey, I'm so sorry you have to go thru this, but I guess we all do at some time or another! You're a smart girl though; you see what at least some of his shortcomings are, you see the mistakes you've made and so the best thing is just chalk it up to experience and move on. It's not that he's a BAD guy (or you wouldn't have been with him for so long), he's just not the guy YOU need. I think it's incredibly intelligent of you to be thinking so clearly about what you really want and need; I know people who would probably cave in and give up a good job just to be with "their man".....dumb idea IMO. Unless it's for a good reason and he's willing to sacrifice other things as well. You're such a sweet caring person, you deserve someone who will treat you well and if they don't, let someone else have them. And yeah.....lying about small things is NOT good.....b/c those are only the things you CAUGHT...believe me, been there done that (for 3 yrs too.....live and learn:rolleyes: ). I am glad that I've stayed friends pretty much with all my ex bf's...sometimes it takes awhile to get over the hurt and angry feelings and wondering what he's doing now with whom, but eventually, all that stuff will fade away and you (if it's worth it) will be able to be friendly with him again. Just don't give up yourself, b/c in the end, you're the best person to know what's best for you! All the best; there's lots of great guys out there (don't ask me where, LOL)somewhere and you'll find one when the time's right. |
I'm so sorry Kelsey:( You deserve wayyy better than him if he's lying to you, etc. Were you always in a long distance relationship? You are so brave and strong for being able to be in one, i dont think i could ever be in one, not being able to see the person that much would not work out for me. Most don't work but there are still some that have. He doesn't know what he's missing girl, and you are young, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea! |
Kelsey, Vicky has some good things to say and I'm glad you have a friend that is willing to be honest and up front with you like she has. Really, just take the time for yourself. You have plenty on your plate, you have pups that love you, and anyone can benefit from time to assess who they are and where they are going in life. You are so cool and a very level headed girl, and I know that you could really grow from being alone and self sufficient. Your pups love you, and so do lots of other people, and for good reason! You seem to be taking all of this so well, and seem to me that you are a strong woman and can make it just fine without him. Remember, love isn't something we absolutely must have, but something that is best given and then received. Many hugs to you, girl!! Lauren |
Sorry you are going thru this but things happen for a reason. My dtr has this sign posted on her door. Don't cry because it's over Smile because it happened. Her BF od 3 1/2 years dumped her out of the blue for anothe girl and she took it very hard but finally moved on and has been having fun just going out and hanging with friends. Enjoy your young life!! |
Well, every one has said it all!! I just want to say that I'm sorry your in so much pain right now. Things will slowly get better for you in time. Sending you big hugs .:ghug: |
Kelsey, I am so sorry that you are sad!!! There are so many of us that have been through your exact situation!!! I was your exact age when I went through the breakup of my HS bf. (we were together for 5 years and were engaged) I too thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him but after HS we wanted two different things. He was pursuing as career in country music and I wanted to go to college. We eventually broke up. Over those next few years I grew up and changed so much. I realized that my old bf could never give me what I wanted out of life. At the age of 25 I met the man of my dreams....my perfect DH of 14 years!!! We are perfect for each other!!! My ex...became famous (to this day he is alone, never married and no children). We are still very good friends (he is also good friends with my DH)...he teases us both and says my DH stole me away and I am his biggest regret....he says he should of never of let me go. But I have no regrets!!! I picked the right man for me!!! As much as the break up hurt me....I knew it was for the best!!! Sounds like this is what you are realizing!!! I wanted to share my story with you because I know exactly what you are going through. If Josh is not the one for you....it is better to find out now than later!! PM if you need anything!!! Big hugs!!!!! |
I'm sorry to hear this. Although I don't know mcuh of your history with him, I do know that life is too short to be feeling like this. Nobody deserves to be lied to..you shouldn't have to suffer..Please don't let this drag on for any longer. You don't need anyone else to be happy. It shouldn't be "I have to have someone.." It should just be natural and it'll will come to you! I don't know if it makes any sense but I hope you make a decision by following your heart. :) *HUGS* |
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Aww, Kelsey I'm sorry. I just saw your myspace bulletin saying you were single so I had to come over to YT and find out. I'm too nosy... I'm really sorry you're hurting right now. Whenever I feel as if I've wasted my time with a guy (too often), I try to think of it as a learning experience for next time. You'll be in my thoughts. |
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Aubrey! I feel soooo bad! Lately it seems that things are so up in the air for you! Most of us go through times of turmoil like you are in right now. I know its really hard and scary right now. When my ex and I of 10 years broke up, my life was in turmoil for months, then it settled down and I had to deal with the grief it all, but that was after months of being like "What the heck more can go wrong right now????" UUGGHHH!!!! Sometimes our most carefully laid plans never come to fruition. (never come to be) and thats ok cuz thats the way it was meant to work out. I know everything will work out for you in the end, exactly the way you'll be the happiest and most fulfilled! Sometimes things take a little longer than we plan them to, but its really not up to us to plan our lives when those plans are based on anyone or anything that is not solely ourself. Does that make sense? In other words you can plan to get married to a person when you cannot guarantee for another person that its what they want. You cannot plan to have a job when you don't have the ability to hire yourself. So accomplish your own personal goals that have 100% to do with you alone and the rest will all fall into place :) :) (((HUGS))) sounds like you need one!! |
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you can find someone thats closer to you to fall in love with ! :) |
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