Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles (Post 1475308)

It sounds like you are talking about waiting 5 years to marry Kevin -- that sounds like a lot of time for things to change. Why are you deciding this now?

I can see if either of you are contemplating ending this relationship based off this decision. But it sounds like you are already willing to give up your dogs for this man.

If I were you, I would be looking at what else might I have to give up with this man. Will there be other demands or choices?

You're young, it's hard to see what you will want 10, 20 yrs from now - what happens when you feel the need for a dog again -- because I'm assuming you felt this at one time or you would not have made the big investment of taking on 2 yorkies.

I couldn't have been with a man that didn't want dogs at some point when I was your age -- but I lived in a sorority house & never had pets that weren't part of my parent's home until I was married. While I have had years where I did not have a dog, there has always been at least one cat in the house in absence of a dog -- I just couldn't be with a man who didn't recognize and appreciate my desire to share my life with a four-legged bundle of joy.

I'm sorry you are in this position

Originally Posted by Cocoa's Momma (Post 1475276)

OMG! I didn't mean to start a debate. Ok, even though I shouldn't have to I'm going to defend myself. I have 2 dogs and yes I knew he disliked dogs but, I got Cocoa and he was fine with that and then I started volunteering at my local shelter and Daisy was going to be put to sleep so, I adopted her. He did get angry that I now I have 2 dogs to bring into a marriage. I know its something he and I will have to workout and we will. I didn't ask for members to make that choice for me? Did I? You can read back and see if I asked that. I simply asked if anyone has been in my shoes NOT what are your opinions on this topic and please "dog" me and my boyfriend. I wanted to know if someone was in a similar situation and how they worked it out. I just wanted to see if someone could relate to me. I didn't mean to turn everyone against me and think badly of me.

Originally Posted by spr377 (Post 1475330)

I don't think you have to defend yourself. However, when you make a posting, you are opening yourself up to people's opinions about what you post. That is what a posting forum is all about. We are DOG LOVERS on this forum, so of course we are going to voice our opinions about questions asked about issues that concern them.

Originally Posted by Cocoa's Momma (Post 1475312)

What I believe we will do is I will keep my dogs and just not getting anymore after that. Which is totally fine by me. I wouldn't make them backyard dogs they are are too small for that and not outdoor dogs. I have 2 dogs.

Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles (Post 1475359)

You are smart for looking at this now -- although, it is hard for me and others to understand why you didn't consider this man's feelings before bringing 2 dogs into the picture.

Is it really an option for him to allow you to have the 2 dogs in your house once you are married?

While I appreciate how difficult it is to find the perfect match with a man, my perfect match will love me & my animals. I'm sorry you are in this pickle, but you created this yourself - I don't mean this to sound mean but this is the truth -- and this is not going to be an easy fix. I just feel for your 2 little babies

Originally Posted by Cocoa's Momma (Post 1475361)

I'm sorry for offending all of the people I have obviously offended with asking for advice on the subject. Trust me, I won't post anything else on this site asking for advice. I learned my lesson. I am not a bad person and choosing to not have dogs is not a sin. My boyfriend loves me and would never force me to do anything against my wishes. I know that he doesn't want dogs in the house and I have been trying to come to a mutual decision. Which, I now believe is to not get anymore dogs after my two pass on. He is willing to accept them (trust me, we've been talking about it since I first posted) because they are my babies and he knows how much they mean to me but, he doesn't want me getting anymore after them. But, if it did come down to them or him it would definitely be him. I'm sorry that he means that much to me but, that's just that. I love animals and volunteer at my local animal shelter and even rescued Daisy from there. I would never mistreat an animal and neither would Kevin. If I did, for any reason, have to give them up they would stay with my mom and would be well taken care of. Once again, I'm sorry for bringing up the subject

Originally Posted by YorkieRose (Post 1475376)

I do understand exactly what you are saying...I hope I did not sound like I was belittling your BF...I was not..I simply wonder about people who keep animals at arms length...why the "closed" heart...? I realize not everyone can own a dog or even want to for many reasons..but when a person says they do not like dogs, it is hard for me to go further..seriously I do not trust people who do not like dogs..or any animal..doesn't mean I want to own a tiger or elephant, but I am in awe of and respect them...and God must be trememously wild about animals..He made a garden full before He made a human being...

Originally Posted by YorkieShadow (Post 1475379)

Your Mom? In one or two of your help threads you say that your Family and BF both want you to get rid of your Yorkie, so are you sure your mom is willing to take him? Not to be mean but you have so many help threads and most of them are complaining about your Yorkie, are you sure its Not you too that wants to get rid of him? It sure sounds like it after reading your other threads. you even had him up for sell. Now someone is caring for him for you. Im not trying to be mean I just worry about those babies.

Originally Posted by Cocoa's Momma (Post 1475368)

Of course, I know I got myself into this situation. When I got Cocoa he was fine with it...please, look back at my other posts. I wasn't thinking rationally when I adopted Daisy, I just wanted to save her. Yes, it is an option for me to have the 2 dogs once we are married; he just would rather we not get anymore unless we discuss it first and he definitely would not want more than one in the house at a time. Don't worry about my 2 little babies, they are fine and will be. I wouldn't do anything that would harm them.

Originally Posted by YorkieShadow (Post 1475379)

Your Mom? In one or two of your help threads you say that your Family and BF both want you to get rid of your Yorkie, so are you sure your mom is willing to take him? Not to be mean but you have so many help threads and most of them are complaining about your Yorkie, are you sure its Not you too that wants to get rid of him? It sure sounds like it after reading your other threads. you even had him up for sell. Now someone is caring for him for you. Im not trying to be mean I just worry about those babies.

Originally Posted by mizzwanned (Post 1475399)

I agree. I saw those threads about Cocoa for sale and i felt so bad for him. You wrote earlier in this thread that your mom isn't fond about you having them but she accepts it now so how do you know that she will keep them if you leave? It doesn't sound like she is too crazy about them. I think the best solution would be to rehome both the dogs now to great homes so that later down the road, 3-5 yrs later when you move out they won't be heartbroken. The move will be less hurtful on them while they are still young.