Goodbye Sophie Bear
 

I dont really post here enough for any of you to know my dog, but I didn't know really where else to post.

Yesterday, while in the park, my Sophie saw a little girl on a scooter and ran across the road to see her.

Unfortunately, she didn't see the car and was knocked over.

We rushed her to the vets, but I knew in the car there was nothing that could be done, she was dead on arrival.

She was an amazing sweet soul and ... and .. right now I'm so in shock that I'm having difficulty finding the words.

I know this community is warm and supportive and I thank you in advance of your kind words.

However, the main reason for my post is ...


What do we do now ? Practically ?


I didn't want to post this in the main forum as its just too depressing, but I feel as though I should be doing something.

The vet said he would take care of the body and would give me her ashes in a week.

I feel she deserves a little more than to be returned to me in a plastic bag in a cardboard box.

Can anyone share there experiences with me? What did you do for your baby? Cremation? Burial ?

While cost isn't a huge factor, both my husband and I are very practical people and don't believe in wasting money, but at the same time I do feel I need to mark the event someway, a celebration of her life perhaps.

I dont know .... I dont know the options, she was less than a year old ... I hadn't researched this and now I dont feel capable of doing so.


Any advice would be appreciated.

A short video on YouTube if your curious - Sophie is the one in my lap.

I'm so so sorry for you lose hun. I know exactly how you feel as I just lost my baby girl on 7/25. I still miss her so very much. Since my girl died after midnight my fiancee buried her in our backyard because he didn't want her body to sit out all night long. We are fixing up her grave in our backyard...yesterday was the first day I finally had the courage to go back there. I placed bricks around her grave and in the center is where I'm going to lay her stone. I posted a pic of my girls stone that the YT memebers sent to me. It is absolutely gorgeous.

Again I'm so sorry that you have to experience this. I know how much I hurt and it hurts so bad to see someone else going through this. My heart is with you and if you need to talk please PM me.

So sorry for your loss, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sorry for your loss. If you could I'd bury her in your yard, so you can make it all pretty for he.

I am so sorry for your loss. How devastating to you and your husband! I know there are no words of comfort right now but please know that we at YorkieTalk are here for you to try to support you and get you thorough this rough time.

As far as what to do with your dog's remains, it is such a personal thing. I know that it's not legal in a lot of towns to bury an animal in the backyard, but I personally would probably do that anyway. As long as you put her deep in the ground and in something that can't be dug into by other animals or pests. A little 'shrine' of sorts might be nice too but that's personal as well.

A good friend of mine had 2 dogs cremated and it did cost over $100 for that and to get the dog's remains. The remains came in plastic box inside a velvet bag. She doesn't really know what she's going to do with the ashes - she may scatter them in the garden.

I hope that you can make a decision that you will be comfortable with and that will COMFORT you.

God Bless.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. :sad: We had our dog cremated by herself so we knew we'd get just her ashes back. We didn't have a choice, cause it was in February and the ground was just way too hard to bury her. Her ashes came back in a very nice wooden box. I have it sitting in a cabinet in my living room. For me anyway, I just couldn't put that box in the ground. :(

I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending warm healing thoughts your way...

oh i'm so sorry for your loss. What a terrible tragedy!. I'll pray for you and your family. RIP Sophie Bear

I am so sorry for your loss. What a tragic story to read.
R.I.P. Sophie Bear.

Perhaps you could make a donation to a sick animal or a Yorkie rescue in
Sophie's name. You would be helping another Yorkie in need.
It dosent' have to be a large donation but in Sophie's name might make
you feel like she has done something to help a yorkie who needs it.
I hope your broken heart heals soon.

im so sorry for your loss, im in tears as my heart goes out to both of you.
that is my worst fear yet

I am very sorry for your loss. Sophie Bear sounded very sweet. I agree that a donation to a Yorkie rescue or to a fund to help sick or injured pets would be a special way to honor her memory.

R.I.P. Sophie Bear

Oh no I'm so sorry! I can't even imagine what you're feeling but I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am

If you have any photos of her I'll be happy to frame them for you and add her dates

im so sorry for your loss:(

Thank you all so much, Its surprising how much comfort your posts are.

I find myself sat here waiting for e-mails from friends and family. I only moved to the states 4 years ago, from england, and dont really have much in the way of close friends here in the states. (E-mail being the main source of communication between my family & friends in the UK).

Moving here was pretty hard, and even though my husband is allergic to dogs, about two years ago my husband bought me my first Yorkie (Jacob - the one with the bone in the video) because I come from Yorkshire, England.

Cutting a long story short, Jacob became very sick and required to have constant attention for the first few months of his life with us ... he grew up to be an amazing companion, but had serious separation issues because he had to spend most of his first few months in my arms being nursed back to health.

We got Sophie to help him, to be a companion when we were out and unable to have him with us ... We joked that Sophie was Jacobs "Christmas Present" as we picked her up a week before Christmas 2006.

Sophie taught him so much, how to play with toys, how to eat food without assistance (Jacob wouldn't eat unless I put it on my finger and fed him) - He hasn't realised she has gone yet, but I know it will hit him hard soon.

I wasn't that close to Sophie at first, she was big (11lbs last time we weighed her), had a round body, and short stubby legs. She didn't "need" me like Jacob did and rather would sleep on the floor instead of besides me.

But over the next few months as her personality developed, she began to shine .... her easy going attitude, her affectionate nature, the way she let Jacob tease her even though she would of been able to stop him with a well placed paw ... were all amazing qualities ..... despite not being the "standard" Yorkie frame she was incredibly pretty, soft warm fur, and the most expressive eyes you can imagine.

You could not of asked for a more perfect dog.

I'm sorry I rambled on a bit there ... *smile*


Following my post earlier, I think when we pick up her ashes we will find a beautiful wooden box and keep her in the living room, somewhere discreet but visible. The husband & I discussed burial, but we believe its against the city rules and there is a lot of wooded land around here, which brings the fear of something digging her up.

Also, this isn't going to be our last home, and I want to be able to take her with us when we move.

Your ideas were a great help to me, I appreciate you sharing your personal moments with me.

To everyone who replied, THANK YOU, you do not know how much comfort you have given me.

I'll end with a quote from my father in law, who met her for the first time last week.

"She was for sure the best kisser we ever knew".

How sweet of your Father in Law to say something so nice. I loved reading the things you wrote about Sophie. I hope Jacob is a comfort to you during your time of loss.

I am sorry for your loss.

Im so sorry you lost your baby girl today and your baby boy will be sad, it's so amazing when these babies show us about life unconditional love in there short time they are with us,she taught your boy so many things in a short time,God sent a angel down to help your little boy.

Gods Peace
Donna

I am so sorry you lost your little girl. I wish I had had the forethought to have my past pets cremated so I would always have them with me. But, I didn't. I do have many pics and framed memorials which mean so much to me. No matter what you do, if you ever hear what sound's like the flutter of tiny wings, or feel the slightest breeze on your cheek, that will be Sophie, right over your shoulder, watching over you. I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless.

I'm so sorry:(

I am so sorry for your loss, you must be heartbroken, hugs ! RIP little Angel !
I think G.W. Little, Inc sells pretty urns, Just a thought !

I am so sorry for your loss. While I have not experienced this loss yet, I have seen some really nice options for ashes. One I particularly like is a bird bath and the ashes go into the base of the bird bath. That way if you ever move, your baby can go with you as well. RIP Sophie.

I am so so sorry to hear of your loss honey, i lost my Lilly last Tuesday and i know the pain you feel i still cry everyday for my baby and i miss her so much,if you need some support feel free to pm me you are in our thoughts xx

I Am So Sorry for Your Loss, You Have My Deepest Sympathy.

I'm sorry for your loss, I know you must be so sad!!!:( :(
Here in my state, you must get permission to bury the remains of your pet in your yard so we had our last little girl cremated for around $60 and then a simple urn was another $60 which can be either kept in the house or can be buried outside. I think it is a matter of personal preference. Again sorry for your loss!:( :(

I just had to say something to you as I feel close to your little girl as mine has the same name. I am so sorry for your loss, and I cannot even imagine how you are feeling right now. You asked what to do, and I wanted to share with you my story. In 2003, my husband of 18 years just walked out one day, leaving me with my two teenage girls. It was horrible, and we had a rough time, but our beloved cat, Simon, was the one bright light in all of our lives. Well, in 2006, he developed kidney failure, and we had to make the horrible decision to put him down. It was the hardest thing all three of us had to do, even worse than dealing with the divorce. However, we had a little funeral and buried him under a tree in our yard. It was a very little tree at the time, but today, it is at least 12 feet tall, and it is called "Simon's tree". I am re-married, and my new husband calls it Simon's tree too. It is a great memorial.

I am so sorry, I wish there were words that would help but there not any. We lost Ichabob in march suddenly, I know how you feel, believe me I do.
We buried Ichabob in the lower pasture by the creek under a tree. You need to do what you feel is right for you.
Penny

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I remember your Sophie Bear and how very beautiful she was. God bless and comfort you all.

Samantha, as I said in my email to you I am here for you. I know how heartbroken you are. Cali and Pixie would be happy to give Jake some female companionship.
When I had to put Gracie to sleep at 6 1/2 years old I had her cremated seperately and have her ashes here with me so I can take her with if we move. It was very difficult when I had to go pick up her ashes, but later became a comfort knowing she was here in spirit. Hopefully we can get together in a few weeks. In the meantime if you need anything I am here.

So Sorry for your loss
 

O what a beaut she was lovely. As I read your post I could tell that she was put with you for many reasons. If you read what you wrote about sophie you will see that what you think you are not doing you really are. With all the things that are surrounded with departing we feel we have to do. What do we have to do? Cry appropriate, laugh some frown become depressed and take to bed what do we have to do, when we have done all we could do just breath and know love. Do what you did best that was love a larger yorkie unconditionally sing with a wonderful voice and accent and maybe one day when you are ready find another one to sing to. Sophie lives in you your hands your lap your hair and most tenderly as it was put she was the best kisser. Thank you for sharing her life and know she is playing with all the others at the Rainbow bridge.....

OMG, I am so sorry for your lost.
I lost my Duke when he was only 11 months old, also being hit by a Truck.
My DH burried my baby in our yard and I spent all of my time here on YT talking about him. I also made a scrapbook for his short life. It helped with my healing.
I then, got another yorkie to love. NOT to replace Duke, There is NO replacing one, but to show that he taught me to love Yorkies and I needed someone to hold while I cried. Then not even three weeks later a 2nd yorkie was added to my family. (Dukes sister)
Please follow your heart and God will lead you down the right path for you.
RIP, Little one.