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I'm in shock Today my miniature dachshund, Tootsie, escaped out of our yard and was hit by a car. I'm in shock at the loss of her. I alternate from sobbing, to talking about her like she's still here. I just can't believe this happened. I feel like such a horrible mommy. I had my husband come home from work early to help me find her. He found her on the side of the road dead. We haven't buried her yet..... my husband put her in a plastic bag until tomorrow when we'll bury her. I don't know if I should look at her and say goodbye. Will I regret it later if I don't say my last goodbyes to her? I want to see her and talk to her, but I'm scared that it will traumatize me. What should I do? Oh my gosh, I miss her so much. She would have turned 2 next month. http://www.dogster.com/dogs/332398/photos/1 |
So very sorry for your loss. sometimes its just nice to remember them they way they were. She knew you loved her. |
Oh, I am so sorry you lost your baby today! I am sure your heart is hurting so bad! You are not a bad Mommy- he escaped!- it was not your fault! I do not know what to tell you about looking at him! What does your hubby think?/ And that is probably something you need to decide yourself! Hugs to you! |
Oh Tootsie, rest easy sweetie. My heart reaches out to yours. Although we know that the pain will come one day, expected or sudden, it certainly doesn't dull it any, does it? I don't think you will have any regrets no matter what you decide. You can talk to Tootsie any time. She will feel your love. She is already waiting for you at the Rainbow Bridge. She is running and playing until you meet again. BIG ~~~HUGS~~~ TO YOU....... :hug: |
aww my heart gos out to you im so sorry for your loss.you need to say good bye in the way you think you can handle it.sending hugs your way |
I am so sorry. I'm sending my thoughts and prayers. I don't know what you can do about saying your last goodbyes to her...but do whatever you think you have to. I'm so, so sorry. *hugs* |
Oh my I am sorry for your loss...we had the exact same thing happen with our cocker a couple years ago..it was so terrible hard to get over..big hugs!! Dawn |
Sorry for your loss. He'll always be in your heart. Hugs. |
I've been through this before. I can tell you it is not easy at all to see them after. I've lost of few babies before and all but one I've seen. The one I didn't see and was able to say goodbye to after he was buried I can see clearly in my mind of when he was healthy. The others I had to see, I can still see the way I found them. It is very difficult. I'm here to talk if you need to as I'm sure everyone else is. Tootsie, May you travel to the rainbow bridge in the arms of an angel. Quote:
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Oh I am so sorry this happened to you.. I have been there, not with a car, but one falling off the bed and dying.. it was so devastating. something we never get over really. But we do become more protective, which some cannot understand.. I feel you pain, so much, for when I see a post like this, it brings back some old memories for me also..I am praying your heart will heal and that you can remember the good days as often as possible.. Please just know that my heart is so with you at this time.. |
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you heart heals and only happy memories remain. Sheilagh |
I am so sorry! What a tragic accident! I had a mini dachshund that was killed by another dog. I cried and cried. Wish I could be there to give you a hug. |
So sorry for your loss. I lost Lulu the same way on New Years Eve. I have to say that the damage she sustained was to her body so nothing untoward to her face. I had to see her to bring her from the road until hubby came down but I couldn't touch her more. I too had to see her. Not sure what the extent of the damage to her was but go by what hubby tells you. Please don't beat yourself up with blame. I too did that and sometimes play the was it my fault and it's not good. Aww honey I am so so sorry. I know that there is not much that will heal your heart right now. Please know that your not to blame and she wouldn't want you to blame yourself. Please pm me if you need to talk. I can give you call if you need to comiserate. Hugs. |
I am so sorry for loss of your baby. I can only imagine the pain you are going through. Please don't blame yourself, she wouldn't want that. As for me I would like to keep the image of her healthy and happy in my mind. Either decision you make I am sure will be the right one for you. May God help you through this time and help heal your broken heart. |
How Awful! I am sooo sorry for your loss! I too have a miniature dachshund and I can't even begin to Imagine what you are going through right now. Personally I would want to remember my baby the way she was, happy memories! I would go and say goodbye after she's buried. My heart goes out to you:( |
I am so, so sorry for your loss. But an accident is an accident - never meant to happen. You are not to blame. Only your heart can tell you what to do now. Having been in that position, I know, for me, the memory of the very last time I saw someone (skin or fur) is the memory that stays with me. My heart and tears are with you, whatever you decide. God Bless and Hugs. |
Oh every pet owner's nightmare. I am so sorry. When I lost Trace I did, indeed, hold and kiss him goodbye. Time heals the ache. Take care ~ |
I am so sorry for your loss .....:heart to |
Mascot Sending hugs, may the Lord ease your pain....:( and be with you during your time of grief. Dot |
Iam so very sorry:( hugs to you:lovewings |
Oh my gosh my heart aches for you. I lost my maltese spike Oct. of 06, not to a car but the loss is profound in any way. I didnt get to see spikey after he passed as it was so unexpected. But I have tons of pics that I look at everyday and remember all the love we shared. Please know you are not alone and I'm sure we all feel your devastating pain. Keep your other babies close as I know they will grieve along with you. Mine did. God Bless Elizabeth, Duncan and Piper |
I'm so sorry:cry: I chose not to look at Starr after she'd died, I didn't want to remember her that way:( You are in my prayers, hon:hands: |
:( :( :( :( I'm so so sorry !! I would try to not say the goodbye visually - just remember her happy and running free - just like she'll be doing at Rainbow Bridge.....poor baby - you have my condolences ...I hope she never felt any pain :( :( |
I am so sorry. It IS such a shock. I just went through this in January and I was the one who found our little boy. I still can't get that image out of my mind. I don't know what to tell you about seeing him to say good bye. Everyone is different. Although it's been hard for me, I'm glad I was there. I know Tootsie is at the Rainbow Bridge now, running and playing. Here's a poem that I read the night Peanut passed. I'll lend you for a little time, a dog of mine God said. For you to love while she lives and mourn when she is dead. The years they may be six or ten or even as few as three. But will you, till I call her back, take care of her for me? She'll bring her charms to gladden you, and shall her stay be brief, You'll have her lovely memories as solace for your grief. I cannot promise she will stay, since all from Earch return. But there are lesseons taught down there I want this dog to learn. I've looked the wide world over, in my search for masters true, And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes, I have chosen you. Now will you give her your love, nor think the labor vain, Nor hate me when I come to call to take her back again? We answer in sincereity, Dear Lord, They will be done. For all the joy this dog shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run. We'll shelter her with tenderness and love her while we may, And for the happiness we will know, we'll ever grateful stay. But shall the angels call for her much sooner than we planned, We'l know the bitter grief that comes and try to understand. :rbyorkie: |
Sorry for your loss... (HUGS) Praying for you. :hands: |
I am so sorry for you loss. Accident's happen no mattter how much we try to prevent them. I would just say goodbye and not do a visual. That would stay with me forever. I rather remember the last time I saw someone and how happy they were. Hence, I do not go to viewings. You have to do what makes you have closure. Know your baby is now whole and having a wonderful time at Rainbow bridge with all the other's there. You will always have those wonderful memories of the time you two spent together. Hugs, |
I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain you must feel. Sending warm healing wishes your way. |
Oh you poor thing! I am so very sorry that you are going through this. I will be sure to keep you in my thoughts! Hugs to you and your family:animal-pa |
Poor baby. Rest in peace :( ... You should not view him. For those who have been there at the final moment, it is for the comfort of our babies. Anything past that is just traumatic to us humans. Let someone else put him in what will be his final resting case (urn or casket) and then talk to him, knowing that he's inside physically ... and you can see him from healtheir days and talk to his spirit from your mind ... Sorry for your loss :( |
I am so very sorry for your loss. RIP sweet Tootsie. |
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