So am I in deep trouble here?
 

We were sort of hoping for the new Yorkie to become "my" dog because my SO has her hands full already with her Yorkie. I wanted a cute one as well so we could both have one to lay with and play with. Hopefully we'd each have one to follow us around and walk with.

Only 2 days in, I'm really concerned. BOTH of them are constantly hounding her for attention.

I'm not the one he wants to sleep with at night...
I'm not the one he goes to lay on all cutely....
I'm not the one he follows around...
I'm not the one he comes to when he's called....

Honestly, I think the people we got them from were a lesbian couple, so maybe he's just more comfortable with females in general. But she doesn't have the time to give two Yorkies adequate attention!! If she were to try, both of them would be getting a little neglected. I have all the attention in the world to give and it seems like he just doesn't want it. It's really heartbreaking, to be honest. :(

Is there much of anything I can do at this point? I've never seen a dog take so strongly to one person and not the other so quickly. When I took him to have him sleep next to me last night, he huffed and wasn't happy about it. Whenever I'd leave, he'd snuggle next to her.

The end result, if it keeps up, is two Yorkies constantly battling for attention and probably not getting enough...and me on the sidelines a little upset by it.

But if he was raised around women only for his first 6 months, it may be tough to break...

Are you for real??
 

From reading all these posts, I don't think you will ever be happy with this dog.... Might as well re-home and give the poor thing a chance... sorry if this is offensive but good grief....:mad:

You know, I posted a sad and caring message here only to get this in response?

I'm sorry for caring. I'm sorry for wanting him to have the best situation with us imaginable.

I'm sorry that I want to give him attention and love.

i think you may be trying hard but i think you should rehome too and start over

by now you should be attached to this dog in some way and it doesnt seem that you are! thats not your fault tho you cant pretend to like something. I say rehome because i think there will be someone out there to really love him and there is a dog out there that is for you! Just take your time next time and view lots of pics! even go see the baby in person!

i hope this isnt offending you!

:rolleyes: How about "get over yourself" and think about the dogs feelings.... and then you might get some sympathy. You have had this dog for literally days, and you are not happy about how the dog looks, who it gets attention from......

One thing is for sure, if there is a next time (and there probably will be), I will be going to visit before purchasing.

I was just stupid not to ask about his living situation before this and who he may cling to more. Usually people can answer questions like that and I neglected to do so. I'm mad at myself for that.

lets be nice

I think you and only you know in your heart if this yorkie is the right one for you. Sometimes we don't bond with every animal we bring into our home. Do whatever your heart tells ya, Good luck.

He's a great dog. I'll say that for sure. He does all the things to her that I wanted a dog to do to me. I'd love one that lays on my shoulder or near my head. He's pretty mellow now too. That's why it's a shame he's doing all those things, but just not to who we want him to.

I don't doubt at all that you care for this puppy. However I have to agree that I don't think you will ever be happy with him. From reading your other posts, and now this one, it seems you have found anything and everything to be "wrong" with him.

I think you should consider rehoming him. He deserves to be loved unconditionally in a home where he doesn't have to constantly prove himself lovable.

So what if he doesn't look purebred enough for you, if his legs look a little long, his ears are a little big, his hair too short, he isn't paying enough attention to you and doing what YOU want him to do, he seems to like/love your SO more/better.

The truth is he an absolutely adorable little guy who deserves an owner who will accept him just as he is and love him to pieces.

This post was not meant to be offensive or hurtful, its just my honest opinion. I just don't feel like you are really giving him a chance. At least that's the way you come across in your posts.

My hubbys dog is the same way. He's more attached to me even though I try to keep him at bay. I think it's because I'm the one that feeds the dogs, takes them out, cleans up after them etc. Maybe you need to become more involved in those things, and just give him time, or if you're really unhappy rehome him. There's no guarantee that any dog you get will pick you as his alpha, so I think if you rehome hime you may not want to get another one, or get a different type of dog.

I don't do the cleaning up because I about vomit at that, but I do the rest though.

I even feed out of my hand as a way to TRY to bond. Ack.

this is amazing to me. in your original thread you were saying that you didn't really like him because he didn't look like a yorkie, he was having potty problems, etc. you made it very clear that you didn't think you could bond with him because of these things. believe it or don't...but he picked up on that. so the first few days he is with you, he gets the clear and evident vibe that you don't love him. that he is not welcomed there. now you want HIM to bond with YOU and not your SO?? he's not stupid...he knows you didn't want him. why would he feel like bonding with you...only to have to live with the faft that he could be rehomed at any minute if you dont like something he does or if he doesn't look the way you want..

like many others have said...i am not trying to offend you here...but seriously...i am sick of people being so concerned with how their dog looks and saying they can't love him/her because of it and want to find them a new home...then SUDDENLY..you don't know why the dog doesn't want to cuddle with you. i wouldn't want to cuddle either!

Patience....patience...patience...this will take weeks or even months for everyone to adjust, not days...that's really unrealistic..

Don't force everything at once, let it happen at it's own pace....no two dogs are the same........reeeelax everyone....your expectations and your attitude needs to drop a notch or two for results to occur....

I must say it took about two months before everything felt natural and in sync...I would start slow, picking up briefly and putting down, always softly talking to him when ever in his presence, getting low and doing sweet talk to him, giving treats while sweet talking some more....everything is great now...

Good luck.....

Plus, I really don't want to re-home him.

The owners before this were REALLY nice people and even though they live 3 hours away, they said they'd call to come see him if/when they were ever in town. They've already called twice to check on him. Can you imagine the reaction if I tell them that we are selling Iggy?? I mean, I made a promise to send them cute little Halloween photos with costumes on and to allow them to visit whenever.

I've gotten over the looks issue, I really have. My main concern was being told that I was getting a Yorkie when I wasn't. I'm since past that, and I believe that he is what they said he was.

i wouldn't worry about how the previous owners feel...i would worry about how the dog feels.

Keep trying to bond with your new puppy, there is still time!! Give the puppy some time to adjust. I think your puppy feels your stress about trying to hard. relax abit and perhaps it will flow more naturally.

dogs can sense stuff! maybe he can sense how you feel about him and the tension.

:yeahthat:

Gosh you have only had him for a couple days, it takes time to bond with a new family, please dont give up yet, he is still adjusting to his new surroundings, its normal for him to want your so more in the beginning, I know with all 4 of mine they kno who is the mom and who is the dad, they love my dh but look to me for there daily care , but when hubby comes home they give him love to, you need to be more positive with him , they can sense when there not wanted:( good luck to you.

I would say give it time as well but I dont think with time you will feel different. You are too concerned with his looks and sorry but that isnt going to change in your favor...he is going to continue to get bigger and obviously bigger and longer is not what you want:( I do feel bad for the little guy he deserves to be LOVED not just tolerated because of a promise you made to the previous owners. Im not sure if you mentioned whether you can give him back to them or not but if thats not an option then call them and let them know you are thinking of rehoming him. And please make sure his next home is a wonderful one he deserves it...poor thing

Spend more time with him, take him for car rides with you, to the park with just you. Give him lots of special treats. That's how I was with my chihuahua and she grew to love me best ;) The more love you give, the more you'll get back.

I'm sure he has a bright side. Maybe you should look at the positive side of what the puppy has. Take him for a walk or mall or park to bond with him. Be a little more patient. It takes time.... ;)

I personally think he feels you are stressed. That will only push him away. Give him some time and try to relax. Most boys are mammas boys. It is that way here. Winstin just adores me and follows me everywhere. When my husband comes home he does give him kisses but then it's right back to where is my mom. Now, our black lab is a daddies girl. She had emergency surgery in August. My husband was out of town so I picked her up. When the vet brought her into the room, she did not even show she knew I was there.I called her name and everything. I got her to the car. I was talking to her and even trying to pet her, she would ignore me. Once we pulled in the drive she got all excited and came in looking for her daddy. He was not here but when he arrived she was so happy. I know she is his girl and I am ok with that. I do 99% of feeding taking out potty and cleaning up the messes. She is till his girl. She could care less when I get up in the morning but when he does she becomes very vocal.
Give yourself time to bond with him. It started off on a rough note so just try to relax and enjoy him. Give that bond a chance to happen. If he likes your SO, who cares as long as he gets the love he needs. I would almost bet in no time he will love you as much if you give it a chance. Poor thing has been moved around enough and just needs a chance to settle and see that you love him. Two days is hardly enough time for him to figure out where he is,let alone who he loves. Just love on him, do special things with him. Let him know you do like him and love him.
If you do not like him then he needs a new home.

I'm sorry that your new yorkie isn't bonding with you right away.
I'm sure there will be time that your yorkie will be attach to you.
My last 2 yorkies (were mine but I was young so I didn't really take care, just play with them!!) didn't really bond with me and it wasn't fun.
But I loved them both to pieces.
I didn't care the didn't want to sleep with me.
They gave me a lot of kisses when I come home from school, when I was crying, or when I ask for some and that was enough for me.
They weren't small yorkie, just a right size. (about 8lb or so.)
They both were attach to my father, and he didn't do anything, no feeding or no cleaning after them but they loved my dad the best.
Now I have my 3rd yorkie and this time, there is only me and her.
She is glue to me!! lol
But this doesn't mean I love her the best.
I love and loved all 3 the same way, wheather they were attach to me or not.
Hope you will love your new yorkie and will have better relationship with him!!!
Good luck.

Whoa, I seem to remember a long time ago someone asked a very similar question and they were given some very good information like having the other caregiver purposely take a less active role in feeding and caring and stuff which should result in what this poster is looking for. But because he got started off on the wrong foot with ya'll, you jump down his throat immediately on this thread. I think maybe when he posted about his "Yorkie's looks", he may have worded it wrong. I think he really was just concerned that it is truly a Yorkie. I purposely stayed out of that thread. Maybe this poster is not articulating correctly exactly what he feels but he's coming here for some advice and immediately gets jumped on and told to rehome the pup. Are we being just a little bit touchy here??? Or maybe I missed something by staying out of the other thread.

To the OP, hopefully you can get some good advice out of all this.... I do see a few responses that might help. I don't have any specific advice since Tatum is almost 100% Mommy's girl and our toy poodle was also. I have heard though that there are things you can do that might increase your chances but sometimes you just have to accept the dog's personalities.

Good luck.

I'm just wondering, do you work or are you home with your new baby all day? If you work it's less hours that you can spend creating that bond. I'm home all day w/ Sugar so she tends to hang out by me more than w/ my dh. When he gets home from work she's all over him for a while and then she comes back and lays by my side. I don't smother her w/ attention, for the most part she just wants to lay by my side. My dh is wonderful w/ her and she shows that she loves him, she's just with me more so it feels natural to her to come and lay by me. She does sleep between his feet though which he hates. He can't move all night because he'll squash her. In the past all of our animals have slept on my side of the bed so he's having a hard time adjusting to having to share his space. I don't mind that she sleeps on his side, I like to be able to toss & turn w/out worrying about her. :)

Just give your baby some time and it will all work out okay. Maybe just try to adjust your mindset a little to thinking of the dog as a "joint ownership" instead of a his & hers thing. I'm sure it loves both of you and as long as you show it love it will know where to come when it wants a belly rub. Good luck & keep giving that little one all your love.

I'm sorry but I have to agree.

It seems as though you are just trying to come up with an excuse to convince yourself that the dog isn't working.

If I were I would rehome the dog into a situation where she might be better suited. :)

Quote:

Originally Posted by pepe mint (Post 1405005) this is amazing to me. in your original thread you were saying that you didn't really like him because he didn't look like a yorkie, he was having potty problems, etc. you made it very clear that you didn't think you could bond with him because of these things. believe it or don't...but he picked up on that. so the first few days he is with you, he gets the clear and evident vibe that you don't love him. that he is not welcomed there. now you want HIM to bond with YOU and not your SO?? he's not stupid...he knows you didn't want him. why would he feel like bonding with you...only to have to live with the faft that he could be rehomed at any minute if you dont like something he does or if he doesn't look the way you want.. like many others have said...i am not trying to offend you here...but seriously...i am sick of people being so concerned with how their dog looks and saying they can't love him/her because of it and want to find them a new home...then SUDDENLY..you don't know why the dog doesn't want to cuddle with you. i wouldn't want to cuddle either!

I completely agree with pepe mint!! Here is my Trigger... take a look. He is FAR from what a traditional yorkie looks like, but I can GUARANTEE that he is just as spoiled & loved as every yorkie on this board. I was concerned at 1st, but I just decided that I loved him reguardless of what he looks like. (He is absolutely adorable, he just doesn't look like a yorkie yet) He will always be my baby boy & know how much I love him. Let your dog know how much you love him, and he will be more responsive to you. I really believe this. My poor dog went into hypoglycemic shock, tore a ligament in his leg, gave me a panic attack, cost more in vet bills than I spent on him, and still my husband's 1st reaction was to grab him up and loooove on him, telling him that he was such a strong boy. (it was adorable) Trigger knows who mommy & daddy are, and of course he would rather be held by me most of the time because I am "mommy", but he also love his daddy too. Try not to push him, let him get comfortable in the house, and continuousely let him know that you care for him, and want to bond. If you don't truly care, or want to bond... I agree with the others, you should re-home him.

Good luck in whatever you decide.