Oh that is horrible! I am so sorry! I think relationships with dogs are much easier than with men! Make this a learning experience and learn everything you can from it! Good luck with finding Bruizer a new home, I'm sure you won't have a problem!

Call the all of the people that you have outstanding bills on. Tell them the situation and I would bet that most, if not all, will work with you and set up a payment plan.

Best wishes and big hugs.

I have called and they (only two) want their money. They said since its in my name then there is now way around it and they have been trying to wrok out a payment plan and my soon to be ex just gives them a run around so they are not willing to work with me. The electric is due to be shut off on the 6th of august. Selling Bruizer is really the only way I have to come up with the $ to pay it and that is why I considered it. I don't want to and he really isn't much to take care of, just makeing sure he has food and water down each day. I buy all his food for about a month so I am good on that. But I have no other income other than my job and still that is only 200 a week not counting gas and all that to get to and from.

I live about 2 hours north of Detroit. In Lapeer. Thank you all so much for trying to help.

Utility companies are easy to talk to and they do take payment plans without any finance charge so I suggest you try and call them. Then maybe Bruizer does not even need to go.

Why don't you start this and start sending PM . . . as you are not allowed to solicit. Make sure to send me and I will donate :thumbup:

[QUOTE=Tiger's Mom;1274915]Why don't you start this and start sending PM . . . as you are not allowed to solicit. Make sure to send me and I will donate :thumbup:[/QUOTE


PM me also-Every little bit helps-

I agree with calling the utility companies and making out payment plans. There are also situations where they can take some money off of your bill if you are unable to pay.

Next I would call your local agencies that deal with low income issues. They can work wonders and some will take care of your utilities for you! You can also get food assistance and such there even with a job if you qualify.

I would hate to see you have to give up your yorkie if you don't have to.

Are there things you can cut out like internet/cable/phone, ect until you have a plan?

I have been in situations where money was tight before and there are almost always ways to make it work if you live at the bare minimum and get help where you can find it!

I was left in a similar situation by my ex, and I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I contacted the Salvation Army (recommended by a friend) and they paid my back utility bills. I was so grateful to have the help, otherwise my son and I would have had no heating oil over the winter or electricity. Reach out! Ask for help from United Way, as well. That's what they do, help people that just need a hand up until they can get back on their feet;)

Prayers headed up for you and your family:love:

Hello everyone, Just thought I would update those who are following this thread. I have not have any luck with the utility company's nor with any emergency services like Salvation army, state help, nothing like that! I am in tears as I write this, my electric is due to be shut off on the 6th and they wont let me make any kind of arrangements unless $300 is paid before then. :( I just dont know what else to do right now. I go back to work monday but that is the day the electric is due to be shut off. I am sorry and just needed to vent. I have no where else to go. Thank you all for listening. I love YT. :(

Do you have a 401K? You could do a hardship withdraw or maybe you could borrow the money to pay the elec bill. I'm surprised the elec company is not working with you more on this, $300 is a lot.

Have you tried any women's shelters? They don't just provide shelter, they also help women out who need help paying their bills or finding a job. They help out a lot of women going through divorces. If they can't help you, they will assist you in finding someone who can. I really don't want you to get rid of your baby just to pay bills. You are in my prayers.

http://www.mplp.org/Issues/03-05-01

I looked up this for you online.. I'm trying to find more info to help you out.

There really should be State Emergency Relief from your utility company. Have you spoken to the very top person you can talk to?

More info:

http://www.michigan.gov/dhs/0,1607,7...5420--,00.html

Thank you, I have talked to about 4 different head honcho's there and they wont help me. I have contacted most of the low income places and shelters and not getting no responce and i really do have time to wait for one to call. Monday is right around the corner. I Have a lady interested in Bruizer but I really dont want to loose him too! I love my boy, I have waited my whole life for him and now I have to give him up and it hurts so bad. I love him like I do my own children. Brenden is 2 1/2 and Allison is 1. I don't know if I ever mentioned their names and ages before but now I have. Thank you all for trying to find a way around this but I think I might have to let my baby Bruizer go to a new home. Love ya all and thanks so much

What about PeopleCare? They provide assistance to those in Michigan who need help paying elec bills. Their info is here along with links to more assistance programs
http://www.consumersenergy.com/welco....asp?ss2id=120
Have you contacted your Department of Human Services or asked about Michigan's Emergency Relief Program? This is what they are there for. The Emergency Relief Program is for those with a shutoff notice. Try this link to apply.
http://www.michigan.gov/heatingassis...5989--,00.html

Jenni - what about trying your local churches? Many of them have emergency funds to help in such a circumstance (I know that ours does) especially when children are involved.... Hugs to you Brenden and Allison.

Don't give up yet. Contact DHS. I can't believe they would let your elec be cut off with two young children.

Allright everyone. I have even more bad news.:( I am not getting no reponce from anyone at DHS nor chruches or anything like that, and to be honest I can't wait, my Electric is going to be shut off first thing monday morning and now i got into the shower today to find out there is no hot water, which meens I am now out of propane, which is another $350-400 to have the minimum they will deliver. So The first one to PM me that would like Bruizer for $1000 can take him. I can't keep him. It will kill me to see him go but I have nothing else to get rid of that woud give me enough to get these bills paid. I have been in tears and crying all day, my best friend has my Kids for the day cause I can't take care of them like this. I am so depressed and I have no way out of this except to let Bruizer go.:( My heart is broke nd I have nothing I can do to heal it right now. anyone that would like to help please pm me. Thank you all so much for trying to help me keep my baby but I have no other option now. I love you all. YT is the best place on earth. Even better than my HOME right now! I have cut all expences like cell phone and home phone/internet, cable, everything till I get back on my own feet. Thanks again YT. Love jenni

Here is a pic of Bruizer

I am so sorry. It really sucks that people keep on kicking us when we are down - and it has happened to many of us. Do you have any insurance policies that you can cash in? Is there a jeweler that will by gold or jewelry. Do you have pawn shops, and if so, anything you can pawn. Have you contacted you legal aid to see if there is anything you can do - or welfare. They have emergency funds available. Do you have any missions in your area - Helping Hands, Food pantrys, anything like that. Contact CASA - even if it isn't an abuse issue, they may have contacts that could help you. There are resources available, it's just a matter of finding them. I wish you the best and pray that somehow you won't be forced to lose Bruizer. Prayers and hugs for you and your little ones.

i just can't believe that the electric company would cut off your lights etc when you have two small children!!! To me that is almost abuse in itself!! Maybe you need to walk right into their office with your kids and talk to a supervisor or head person in charge and let them know your situation and what you can afford to pay til you can get it caught up..some money is better than none!! Social Services may be able to help you as well..Don't give up you just have not connected with the right kind hearted person..and i am praying now that you will!!! Stay strong and I am praying for you!!!

My best friend is living in Michigan and MIGHT be interested in Bruizer...can you give me more details about him...age, weight, registration etc...and I will talk to her tonight...she was thinking about getting a yorkie and Im not sure if she still is or not but at least I can ask..right? Is Bruizer neutered??

Thanks,
Dawn

I have thought of every possible way to get out of selling Bruizer, But I am having no luck any where else and To be honest I dont have time to wait for replys from the DHS. I wish this could be different but my kids have to have something better and I cant be selfish and hold on to Bruizer, even though he is part of the family, my skinchildren come first. I want to thank you all once again, and know that I hope your prayers for my family are answered before I let Bruizer go to another home.

Look, I don't mean to come across rude or harsh but you got kids that need you to be strong and positive. There is always something you can do!! Get your asswipe of a husband to work and get some money (this is his mess and he needs to help), you may have to go a few days without but.... Do you have family? Can they help? Will they watch the kids and dog while you work? Can you stay with them or your friends? Let your husband stay in the house that has nothing and let him deal with it. Cut back on everything you can, cable, internet, cell phones, just stick with the basics for now, heat, food, shelter. Get a paper route, you can take the kids and dog with you. Sometime they have signing bonuses. You are going to have to stop waiting for other people to solve your problem and take care of it yourself. I know you've made the calls but in the meantime you need to take care of yourself and those babies.

I'm not trying to come down on you, just help you realize you've got to move on. I know it's hard and everything seems like it's falling apart right now but you've got to keep going. I've been there. Fortunately I was able to move in with my folks and they helped out. My ex let my house go into foreclosure and my van repo'd. It sucked but the world doesn't end, it keeps going.

Big hugs. I hope you find a solution.

such a shame
 

There are many social welfare services that can help you. The courts should be on your side.
What are the ages of your children? Even if your ex-husband is a screw up, he IS responsible for his children. If he is working, get the courts to garnish his salary.
There is no reason you and your children should be subjected to this abuse.:cry:

Have you considered getting a job??? while your children are in school or daycare???
Before considering selling your furbaby, maybe you can sell your car?

I wish you luck ...

What about a personal loan froma bank? You can probably borrow like $5,000 and pay it back over 4 years, then only use $1,000 to get back on your feet and your payments should be EXTREMELY low that you could pay it back easily enough. and with that low of an amount borrowed, they probably won't even look into your work income, just your credit history.

Its a very tough situation you are in! I feel sooooo badly! Im in a tight money situation myself and count pennies sometimes **BLAHHH** but Im sure that things will start to look up soon enough!

Hello everyone, I am sorry for not getting on here sooner, I thought I would give you an update. I did get most of the bills paid off with help from some of you. I have one more to go, which is $434, I am hoping to get some help from my case worker. I am off work for the day toget to the friend of the court to start garrnishing his wadges for child support on our daughter. I have been off work for the last 3 days, as I have a bad knee and we are waiting to see if it is going to need yet another surgery. I want to thank you all so much for all your advice, I love YT. You guys are allways there for one another.

DO you still have Bruizer?

Yes but I am still concidering parting with him till I can get cought up. I still have one major bill to pay and then my credit card that in now over the limit. But for Now I still have him.

Nice to hear from you!! :) hang in there girl... where there is a will, there is a way! You are a very strong person for getting through this financial trouble as well as emotional mess that you must feel also. I know that things will work out for you! I know it sometimes feels hopeless but Im SURE you will survive and thrive from this! (((HUGS))) to you and to bruizer and to your children! Good Luck with the court today!!

Hi , Its sounds like thing have been better:) Im so glad you still have your bruzier:) keep your chin up and things will continue to get better, you are my thoughts and prayers.