Would it be considered rude or tactless
 

to take Susanah to a funeral home? It isn't the actual funeral itself today, just a viewing. The actual funeral isn't until Monday and I can have someone puppysit for her then, its just that the person I trust to do that is out of town this weekend.

The ONLY reason I am considering taking her is because I am paranoid about leaving her home - even in a crate. There is a creeeeeeeeeeepy man who lives on my street and he is always eyeing her and talking about how much he wants her. I just don't trust him.

The person who passed away is my husband's best friends (they are like brothers) father. E (hubby's friend) is VERY well aware of how much I love my Susanah and how neurotic and paranoid I am. I don't think he would have a problem with me taking her at all.

*IF* I do take her, I certainly won't have her out parading her around or anything. I would keep her in her carrier and be as discreet with her as possible. I could take her out to the car if she got restless or had to potty without any problem.

if shes only in the carrier NO head sticking out and shes quiet then i say its ok otherwise then NO

I would absolutely keep her inside her carrier and would head for the door if she even started wiggling around. I wouldn't want to give her the chance to whine or bark.

If it wasn't for all the yorkie thefts and that creepy man I would not even consider taking her.

Hmmmmm, that's a little iffy..... I guess, like the other poster said, if she is in a carrier that looks more like a purse and is completely quiet, than maybe ok. Honestly, though, we lost our first baby and if someone had brought a puppy to her visitation/funeral, I would not have liked it. Of course, that is probably just me.

Tammy

This is an interesting thread. Just recently in our community a funeral home and cemetery is advertising that they can make each funeral especially for the individual. Their ad. shows a woman who loved animals, and at her funeral (outdoors, of course) there are dogs and cats along with the other mourners. Some people just find that a part of their lives. I agree that you should keep this as discreet as possible if you do take your dog.

I think I am going to just send my husband to the viewing today. My puppysitter will be home tomorrow afternoon and I can leave Susanah with her and hubby and I can both go tomorrow.

I think I am with you and think its just a little too "iffy".

Or you could both go--just one of you stay in the car with her and then swap out. You probably won't be staying long anyway.

There is no way I would take a pup to a funeral home even if it was in the carrier

I agree that it is "iffy" and if it was me, I would ask the family if it would be all right with them that way I wouldn't be offending their wishes. I know allot of people have different views when it comes to something like this. While it would not offend me, someone else would not like it at all.

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I would say no to this. I have a viewing tomorrow. and it will only be the second time I've left Gizmo. But I will leave him home.
Even through this is almost family also. Some people will not understand and there are too many emotions at funerals and viewings to upset it more.
Get another sitter if need be...but don't take the puppy with you.

OK ... I have been thinking of sharing this for almost a year now ... so here goes. As many of you know, I lost my precious 90 year old Mother on July 18, last year [also my Toto's birthday]. The night of the visitation at the funeral home, we had not even considered taking Toto. [Since I was in charge of my Mother's affairs, we had stopped by the FH with Toto early that afternoon ... it was extremely hot and the personnel had greeted her with open arms. My Mother adored Toto and Toto loved her Grammy so I took her by to see her ... didn't really expect a reaction from Toto. I was telling her Grammy went to live with Granddaddy & Jesus, etc. She looked down at my Mother, quickly turned and buried her little face in my neck and started whimpering! I was totally shocked!]As Patrick and I were settling Toto in her X-pen to attend the 6PM "family" viewing, there was a sudden storm with thunder, lightening, etc. and I could barely rip her off me she was so frightened. I just turned to Patrick and said "Mother would be furious with me if I left Toto home alone and so scared of this storm" ... I, quite frankly, didn't care who didn't like it! Anyone that I might trust to keep her would be at the FH and our Dr. Lucy, who always wants to keep her, was 45 minutes away ... I just scooped her up, grabbed a little blankie and took her with me. She is almost like an accessory on me anyway and anyone that mattered wouldn't think a thing about it ... and they didn't! The few family members who barely spoke to me anyway and showed disdain for Toto does it all the time .... the only one who truly mattered was my Mother and I knew I was doing exactly what she would have wanted me to do.

The next day when her Pastor met me at the church, the first words he said to me was "Where's Toto?" ... he loves her too and sees her often. :) I suppose it depends on the circumstances and the people involved as to whether you take Susanah with you ... I personally wouldn't think anything of it. I didn't spend that much time in the room with my Mother ... it was filled with bitter, guilt ridden people who spent very little time with her the last few years when she needed them most. I, on the other hand, spent as much time as I possibly could and tried to make excuses for the ones who didn't. I have no remorse and wouldn't change anything I did.

Sorry this is so long! ;)

Thank you everyone.

I will be staying home with her. I definitely don't want to be rude and/or upset anyone.

Susanah is like a child to me, but I understand that not everyone feels that way about animals and I definitely don't want to step on their toes.

Its really tacky in my eyes. there is a time and place for everything and a funeral is not the time or place for u to bring a dog in a carrier..

Trust me I am the Queen of tacky, and this seems like something i would definitely do myself if i felt the need. BUt at the same time I am aware of how tacky and inappropriate some of the things i do are.. I just happen to not care what people think of me most of the time.

I good solution is simply to go in one at a time and car sit the dog until the other comes back.. but still at this type of things i rather have someone beside me rather than babysitting a dog.

Bettyanne: Thank you for sharing your beautiful memory. Your Momma must have been looking down with a smile. Warmly, Deborah