Grieving the loss of him in a dif. way
 

I signed back on to YT looking for something. But what? I'm not sure. I'm in a saddened state right now, and I have been to fearful to announce to everyone that we no longer have my beloved Louie. Even though I cried like a baby the night he left me, it has hit me hard tonite. I can't quit crying and thinking of him. I just want to hollar out... I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU LOUIE!!!!!!!!!
Trying to make a long story short, he is with a family member now, and I'm not sure how I can get past this void in my heart. I have my 2 girls but it's just so hard not seeing Louie running around the house.
He was my first Yorkie, who I "rescued" from a puppy mill. He was a good boy.
I guess I'm posting this in need of something, a friend, maybe advice, I guess I'm not sure.
I'm hurting but I know there is a family that is finally happy. They added a wonderful yorkie to their family.
I know I'm going to get asked..... Where is he? and Why don't you have him anymore?
Good questions.....
My daughter, Allison, was in a 4-wheeler accident.(she races motocross) She broke her humerus, a rib, and had a concusion. She spent the night in the hospital. After arriving back home, we had tons of visitors. One of them being my nephew and his family.
After talking for awhile they told us they just lost their dog, from getting ran over by a car. The family was devistated. They said they wanted a small inside dog that they can watch over 24/7. Thats when my dilemna started.
Without knowing, my husband told my nephew that he could have Louie. :eek: (without even talking to me)
There is more to the story, but the short version is that they now have my precious Louie, and I'm having a hard time dealing with him not being here.
I watched him hop in their van and I can't get that picture out of my head. I'm hoping that I can get past this but right now all I can think of is my precious boy... how could I have let you go??????????????
Maybe one day I'll understand, but now just isnt the right time

I read your post and I'm so sorry for you, but I don't understand how a husband could give away your dog without asking you first.. This is very strange to me. I do think Louie is probably in a good place but this leaves you heart sick, so the only solution is go out and buy yourself another yorkie.
You will never get over Louie, but a new puppy will help!;)

Oh, I am so so sorry for you. I don't even have the words to say right now. I wish I could do something for you to make it easier.

Many years ago I gave my beloved Misty (poodle/pug mix) away when I had to move to an apt where no dogs were allowed. I had to do this because my rent was raised so much where I was living that I had to find a cheaper apartment. My sisters mother-in-law had told me several times she would take Misty for me. I ended up giving Misty to her.

I cried and cried and cried. I felt like my heart was cut out of my chest. I regretted it so much. After a few months a miracle happened in my life and I got a call about a job that was paying MUCH MORE than the one I had. Also at the same time, my sister's mother-in-law called me and asked if I would possibly be able to take Misty back because it she was more trouble than she had expected because she didn't have a fenced yard. She didn't even know that I got a different job and was able to move again.

I had 2 miracles happen at the same time. I pray that you will have a miracle in some way also. I think everything will work out for the best for you, whatever it may be.

Can't you talk with your husband and explain your feelings of loss for Louie? It must be heartbreaking and can't imagine how you must feel.

What is it that you are wanting??
are you wanting him back??
If so Call Them and tell them what you have said here.
That your husband said they could have him without talking to you first and then offer to help them find another pet.

Poor Louie must be experiencing feelings of loss also.

oh my gosh i do not know how your husband could give your dog just like that seems strange to me. Anyway that is your dog and you have all the right to rescue it! GO AND GET HIM BACK!!!!!!!!!!

Gosh, I am kinda speechless...I don't know how you are coping with this. I would be beyond devastated. I wish that I could say everything will be ok, but to be honest, IF I were you, I would go there tommorrow and get my dog back - end of story! Louie is your dog, he is your lov, he is suppose to be with you, you made that commitment to Louie when you rescued him. I am sure that your Nephew and his family are wonderful, but YOU are Louie's Mom and I bet he is missing you just as much as you are missing him.

My advice is to LIVE FOR TODAY, Live to make YOU HAPPY - GO AND GET LOUIE BACK - ASAP!!!

I would call them immediately and tell them that he's coming home. Family or not, Louie is your baby.

If you have to, help them find a new dog. Animal shelters are filled to the brim with them.

Please get Louie back...for you and him! He's probably feeling the SAME thing right now.

Im so sorry this has happened and understand how you feel, I gave a chi away once and I cried and cried. I waited to long and the lady moved. and shes never left my mind, I know I did the wrong thing. and im still so sad about it. If you think its to hard to let him go, Go get him, there are a lot of dogs and puppys at the shelters let the boy pick out one from there, they all need good homes.

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And your still married? :mad: I'd been in prison for killing a husband that would do that to me.

Tell them you made a mistake...you're sorry, but you can't live without Louie.

And, Louie shouldn't have to live without his MOM.

Heck, make your husband do the "dirty work" for you - that'll teach him.

Now go get your boy!!!!!! :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

Ann

get your baby back ....
 

I am so sad to read this. How in the world could your husband give away your little precious one? I am not admonishing you ... but I would have a talk with him and while doing that, call your nephew and request that Louie be brought back where he belongs.

I hope your daughter heals quickly and soundly ... but one thing has nothing to do with the other.

What if the nephew had liked your husband's car ... would you have been right to give the car to him? Would he have liked that? :embarasse I don't think so ...

You have every right to grieve and be angry ... now go get your little one back!

Not sure what happened to my above reply....:confused: :confused:
Anyhow, can you not get Louie back because there is a child involved? This is all just too sad, and I hope you can resolve it somehow and get Louie back. Perhaps you can get your Nephew and his family a puppy and get Louie back?? Oh, I hope you get it sorted out for you and Louie!!:(

Sending you hugs..... :ghug: lots of hugs :ghug: :ghug: :ghug: :ghug:

I am so very sorry..... sometimes things in our lives go wrong really wrong.....

I'll keep you and your entire family in my prayers -- it sounds like your plate is full. Also sending HUGE GET WELL QUICK wishes to your precious daughter.

Go and get your Louie. Your husband is very wrong for making that decision. Your nephew will be disappointed, but you're heartbroken.

Maybe it is time for some counseling for your husband, since that was a real slap in the face.

Yes.. this is exactly the way I feel right now. The bad part about it is I let him go. I watched him leave. I DID NOTHING.
I'm making a phone call tomm. I miss him too much.
Please don't hate on my hubby. He was trying to make it easier on me but he didnt mean to hurt me so much. With me going back to school, I have made comments that I needed help around the house and with the dogs and with the house cleaning, etc. He thought he was trying to make a bad situation better by relieving some of my stress. He asked my opinion of it one night and I told him that I didn't think Louie was happy here lately cause he wasn't getting as much attention.... Things would have been different as soon as I was out of school, and the puppy done with potty training, and my daughter all healed up... but he was trying to do the right thing for Louie and making a family happy, He didn't realize I would be the one hurting so much.

That is good. I thought it might be a situation where your husband wouldn't let you get him back.
Tell them how terribly you miss Louie. You could even help them find another. There are millions of dogs, all shapes and sizes, looking for homes. They can save a life.

I hope everything works out and you get him back without any trouble.

I hope you can find them a puppy like someone suggested and tell them you made a terrible mistake and you want them to have their own puppy to raise. Then chances that they will just give him back are probably really slim.

Your story is so sad and I truly hope you can get your Louie back. I have no clue what to even say to you but I'm sending prayers your way. I hope everything works out for the best. So sorry your going through this :(

Oh this is great news!!!! Louie is coming home - Louie is coming home ;)
I don't think your husband is a bad guy, I understand completely, he thought is was doing a good thing. BUT, in reality, giving Louie away was not the right thing. Sometimes in life we have struggles and difficulties, but we are strong and we make it through. Once you get Louie back and your daugther heels, the puppy grows up and you are out of school, things will get better, BUT - You All Do It As A Family - INCLUDING LOUIE!!!

I can't wait to hear that he is back home with his MOMMA :D

P.S. I know there is a 'child' involved - and while it may be hard for you - I do beleive it would be harder for you not to get your baby back! And I agree with everyone elses comments. There are so many dog (in a sizes) that need to be saved from shelters - The 'child' can get his own dog to love and raise - but LOUIE is YOURS - Go get him!!!

I hope you can get him but without nobody getting harsh on you because you are right, it's your baby, you should get him back. And tell your hubby to never ever do anything like that without asking you first!!!

Kim, so sorry to read about this, it brought tears to my eyes...Allison has my good thought & prayers for a speedy recovery...I can relate to the quad accident my son fractured his back on one a few years ago...it's very scary for us as parents when our children get hurt...as for Louie it sounds like you weren't
giving him away willingly, but under guilt,pressure, & maybe a lot of reluctance. You have nothing to lose..you could go to the nephews home & speak to the parents in private ...if you explain it as you have here I don't see how they would not give Louie back...maybe offer part of the funds for a new pup for their inconvenience ...I really hope you get Louie back..Good luck.

So sorry to hear about your loss...i hope as the days continues your spirit will be lifted...

Sending you hugs...I don't know what to say except that if you really can't live without him maybe they'll give him back ?? It sounds like whatever the outcome, he has 2 homes that love him and that's more than many dogs have ....I hope your daughter is on the road to recovery and your heart mends...Will you be able to see him ?? I don't want to say anything against your husband but he never should have done that without talking to you first....:( :( Maybe you can help then find a rescue dog in exchange for them giving him back ??

I could not agree more, just give them a call and explain how you feel. :)

I don't know what it is about this thread that just pulls my heartstrings so dearly....I had to post a 2nd time!

I'm so glad to hear you'll probably be getting your baby back. Like someone else said, there are millions of dogs out there looking for a home.

Heck, for this situation - I'd be willing to donate some money toward getting them their own yorkie, if they are intent on a yorkie - AND I'M NOT KIDDING!!!

Hugs galore,
Ann

GO get LOUIE !!!!!
 

You either go get your baby back and they will understand or you get a new baby for your self. Ther grief is bad when someone gives your dog away for a bad reason.:eek: And any reason is a bad one unless you can't control the dog I wish you all the best. Keep us posted.:aimeeyork

Mim's mom

I do hope you get your baby back. My heart was just breaking along with yours.