This is not what I wanted
 

I don't know what to do. I'm not so sure if I'm getting London anymore. I would be paying for her with my money if I did get her but my mom keeps bugging me about how much I have spent on Teddy. She says I shouldn't have gone to such an expensive vet and buy him clothes and all that. I already paid the deposit for Tabitha but it will be another 4 months or so before I move out. My mom doesn't know I am getting her. I think she'll kill me if she finds out. But I want her soo bad. I feel so depressed. Everything is going wrong.

do you still live at home? Why does she care if you get another puppy???:confused:

If you are still living at home, then I guess your mother has the right to question how you spend your money. If you are on your own and totally self supporting then what you do with your moiney is your business. Perhaps you should wait till you get a place of your own before getting another dog.

if you are moving out and is financially capable of getting another pup then go for it. But if finance is the issue, that can be a problem.

Zoe has costed me a whole lot more than expected. With his sensitive stomach and luxating patella, I'm in alot of debt. Living in NY doesn't help either.

OUr babies are totally worth it but if I feel that I cannot provide a good home for a furbaby, I probably wouldn't get another one.

This may not be the issue but it sounds like it to me.

Oh hon I'm so sorry. I know you have your heart set on this little girl.

Would you lose a deposit if you backed out? I know it's hard to even contemplate, but you need to be sure that this pup will not put you into financial trouble if you do get her. Especially if you plan on moving out on your own soon.

I really really hope things work out for you. Gosh, I don't know what I'd do if I suddenly found out I couldn't get my little guy. *hugs* :cry:

Thank you...well I would be put into a little financial trouble...but not that much. The thing is though I'm going to start working asap and I know I can pay it off. It's more because of my mom. I will be fine when I move out because my mom said she'll help me pay for my apt., which won't be that much money because it's not here in the city. It really sucks. What bothers me is that A) I won't get the deposit back but it's not even that it's more B) If I don't get her I'm worried she won't get a good home. She will def. get a good home with me. I already have her bed, clothing, nutrical, I know what vet I would be taking her to. She's very cute but I don't know I feel like I'm already set on her and was sooo ready for her to come home to me. :(

You are right. I paid more for Teddy than I intented but I care about him soo much that that doesn't matter to me. I'm sorry that Zoe got luxating patella. :(

Yea I live at home. She just thinks I spent too much on Teddy and that he poops a lot and pees ont he floor, but he stays in my room and so far he hasn't had any pee accidents so he is doing soo good right now. I told her it takes time to paper train them so I don't know whats up with her.

Sounds like you are already 'too deep'. Go ahead and get her. Hopefully your mom won't be too mad or it will pass fast. By then you should be moved out?

Good luck

I kno...I just really want Teddy to have a friend. I don't want him to be a lone when I'm at school.

Oh, I'm sorry you are in a touch position!

I know that living w/ your mother, you still have to "kind of" listen to what she says..........

BUT if you are moving out soon and you are able to move out on your own and make it, then you should go for it.

I know once you pick out a furbaby, it seems like no going back! I know I would have a hard time too, but you need to do what is best for you and your furbabies! --no matter what that is.

If you feel you shouldn't get her now, do you think the breeder would be nice enough to hold your deposit for another girl? I know, I know.....I see things through rose colored glasses.

If you can't get Tabitha right now, I am sure she will go into a loving/caring home. If you trusted the breeder enough to buy from her, then you must know that she will find good homes for her babies!

Good luck and do not worry too much! Please keep us all posted.

In that case...GOOD LUCK!! and be excited about your new baby!!!

I would have a couple questions.

You're going to move out --- when??

You don't have a job right now??

Your mother is going to help you with your apartment??

She is concerned about your one dog peeing and pooping in the house
(Two will do more!)

Another thing - if you do get an apartment - will it allow you to have two dogs... can you afford a damage deposit for two little dogs - and what if they do damage - carpets, furniture, etc....

I am not trying to critize you at all - I'm probably just a little like your mother. If you are planning to move out - she's probably thinking that you should be getting a job - and saving your money. Buying dog clothes and another little Yorkie (as loveable as all this is) is really a luxury that she probably feels you just can't afford right now.

Plus - if you stay in her house with "two" dogs - she may really start complaining about peeing and pooping... rightfully so.

And - if you move out with two little Yorkies - and then have to leave them at home while you work - training and keeping them from having accidents is even more difficult to do - and - you especially don't want this if you're in an apartment. (What if you get a little barker - another thing to consider!)

** As a mother - (not really know your situation) -- I would want my daugher to save some money, find a job, find a nice place to live --- and start out with only one little dog - and see how things work out. I think you would really find this a better and easier way to start out on your own.

Nevertheless - lots of luck and I hope everything works out well for everyone.


Carol Jean

yeah i can only wish you the same good luck and hope all goes well

I agree, take it from me, getting out on your own is harder then you'd think. I totally understand where you are coming from but I see your mothers point of view as well. Living on your own is tough, things happen that you'd never expect to happen, all the sudden you have to deal with all of these things that you never had to deal with before and money seems to literally evaporate into thin air.

I'm lucky enough that I am able to work from home the majority of the day most of the time and I attend college online. The longest I'm ever gone for work is about 2-3 hours and when I am gone Jaden is a total mess! He's completely changed my entire life (not that I'm complaining) but its a big responsability when you are on your own. Its not like living at home and even if you think you have an "idea" of what it will be like, once your there its completely different, at least it was for me.

I'm not trying to be a downer here, I know how much you want her and I'm really rooting for you, just trying to let you know how tough it is, especially if you have to find a job and its your first time away from home.

Also, something to consider is your Mother might not help you get your appartment if you have another yorkie. If she already doesn't like/want the one you have she'll probably think if you can afford to get another yorkie, why can't you afford to pay for your own appartment? You might be better off waiting a few months until you're settled and have found a job and have been on your own for a little while and then consider getting another yorkie. In the mean time you could consider putting Teddy in some type of Doggy daycare if you didn't want him to be by himself or recording your voice on a tape or maybe you could drop him off at a friend or relatives house while you work.

Really hope things work out for you hun!
Big Hugs!!