We picked up Lily's ashes.....
 

We picked up Lily's ashes this afternoon and I must say that it was harder than I expected. I don't know what I was expecting, but it definitely wasn't what I thought it would be. They sent her home in a tiny tin can....white with black and grey paw prints on it. The tin can is about 4 inches high and 2 1/2 inches square! I realize that we purchased the standard package for $179 instead of the package for $250, but the only difference they said was that we could choose our urn for the $250. I quess I expected some type of urn, not a tin can that looks like I bought it at the Dollar Tree. It looks like something that maybe a cheap candle or candy would come in......not something that my baby should be in!!!!!!!! I am just so upset. Is this standard to be used as an 'urn'? They did send a note card stating that she had been cremated on the 10th, which was 8 days after she passed, but they also spelled the last name wrong! Maybe I am just being sensitive, because it has been a rough ordeal for us. I am just hurt and this didn't make things better! I wanted Lily home with us, but I look at the tin can and don't feel like that is her........my baby was better than a tin can!!!!!! Sorry to have rambled, thanks for listening. Has anyone else experienced this situation before? Is this the normal urn?:(

i have not had any experiences w/ this but i just wanted to say i was sorry and i hope things get better for you!

Pixie came home in a little white cardboard box.... There's lot of places online that sell nice urns. You could always get one of those...

I'm sorry too...that sounds so chintzy of them and I hope you know her soul is not there in that tin can - it's flying with the angels....

This is really pretty and I don't want to make you cry but thought I'd post it for you....it makes ME cry though - it's beautiful - try to think of her just like this....


Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there, i do not sleep;
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow;
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain;
When you awake in the morning's hush;
I am the swift uplifting rush; of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there; I did not die.

** author Unknown **

I'm so sorry:cry: It just doesn't seem right, you're right:( Why on earth would they get her last name wrong, that's just plain insensitive. I'd call them on it when you're feeling stronger.

I'm sure that you can find something more suitable to keep her ashes in, when you are up to it. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.:girl_hug:

First let me say I'm so sorry for your loss. But my brother had his dog cramated and got the same tim can your taking about my sister in law was not to happy about it and make a wood box with had it engraved and not the tin sits in there.

I am so sorry. I would feel the same way and I do think she deserves more than a tin can. I hope you find the most beautiful place to keep her. RIP Lily

I'm so sorry that today has been so difficult on you. I didn't have Keegan cremated but he did come home in a blue quilt envelope tied with a black bow. I held it in my lap and rocked him and just wept. It's so hard when they're right there but they're not, you know what I mean? She's not that cheap little tin, she's that precious baby that you held in your arms so many times. I have a client that got a beautiful little urn on a wooden platform. It has a picture behind the urn and a saying etched in brass. I can ask her where she got it if you'd like. Petedge (petedge.com) has a nice box and several urns as well. If you're going to keep her near put her in something that makes you feel better. God Bless

When we had my Hershey creamated, she came back in a beautiful cedar box. I think that you should put your baby in whatever container makes you happy. My intention was to bury our little Hershey under her favorite tree, but we never got around to it. Her box is at my parents house now.

I'm sorry but I do understand how you feel right now. When Boog was returned to us he was also placed in a tiny tin with a card and his information. Yes, it was very hard to go in and pick him up...I placed him in my Grandma's cabinet where I put all the little things that mean something to me. I put his collar and tags on the tin with his picture next to it. I'm not too upset about the tin...I know he's not there...and our plan it for him to be burried with whichever one of us goes first. He loved to lay and be carried in the crook of your left arm, and only the left arm...so that's where he will be placed when the time comes. It takes a long time to come to terms with something like this but I hope you will find peace soon.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope with time your heart will heal. Just remember that your baby is not in the tin box your baby is beside you and walking with you. Her sole will be with you always.
Val and Babybear

I'm so sorry for your loss :cry: Fly high sweet baby ... I'm truely sorry for your pain I will pray for you.

I'm SOO sorry.

When we got Bandit's ashes they were in a little wooden box (with a very nice design) that had his name on a gold plate. I'm not sure how much it cost...my parents took care of all of that.

Again, I'm so sorry. Maybe you should go out and buy a nice box or something...whatever you think she should go in. Rest In Peace, Lily. :cry:

Awww you can pick up some nice pottery if you want to keep her in the house... I didn't get my dogs ashes because I was just way to distraught to think that far... But I was sorry I hadn't cause I would have liked to sprinkle them out in our yard...Otis loved the back yard and I was sorry I wasn't thinking ahead to do that...

This is an awful thing to have to del with...Death is tough no matter who it is that leaves us. I hope you feel better soon....

Maybe you could buy a little wooden box and design it yourself. Then you'd feel like it came from your heart.