We picked up Lily's ashes.....
 

We picked up Lily's ashes this afternoon and I must say that it was harder than I expected. I don't know what I was expecting, but it definitely wasn't what I thought it would be. They sent her home in a tiny tin can....white with black and grey paw prints on it. The tin can is about 4 inches high and 2 1/2 inches square! I realize that we purchased the standard package for $179 instead of the package for $250, but the only difference they said was that we could choose our urn for the $250. I quess I expected some type of urn, not a tin can that looks like I bought it at the Dollar Tree. It looks like something that maybe a cheap candle or candy would come in......not something that my baby should be in!!!!!!!! I am just so upset. Is this standard to be used as an 'urn'? They did send a note card stating that she had been cremated on the 10th, which was 8 days after she passed, but they also spelled the last name wrong! Maybe I am just being sensitive, because it has been a rough ordeal for us. I am just hurt and this didn't make things better! I wanted Lily home with us, but I look at the tin can and don't feel like that is her........my baby was better than a tin can!!!!!! Sorry to have rambled, thanks for listening. Has anyone else experienced this situation before? Is this the normal urn?:(

i have not had any experiences w/ this but i just wanted to say i was sorry and i hope things get better for you!

Pixie came home in a little white cardboard box.... There's lot of places online that sell nice urns. You could always get one of those...

I'm sorry too...that sounds so chintzy of them and I hope you know her soul is not there in that tin can - it's flying with the angels....

This is really pretty and I don't want to make you cry but thought I'd post it for you....it makes ME cry though - it's beautiful - try to think of her just like this....


Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there, i do not sleep;
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow;
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain;
When you awake in the morning's hush;
I am the swift uplifting rush; of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there; I did not die.

** author Unknown **

I'm so sorry:cry: It just doesn't seem right, you're right:( Why on earth would they get her last name wrong, that's just plain insensitive. I'd call them on it when you're feeling stronger.

I'm sure that you can find something more suitable to keep her ashes in, when you are up to it. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.:girl_hug:

First let me say I'm so sorry for your loss. But my brother had his dog cramated and got the same tim can your taking about my sister in law was not to happy about it and make a wood box with had it engraved and not the tin sits in there.

I am so sorry. I would feel the same way and I do think she deserves more than a tin can. I hope you find the most beautiful place to keep her. RIP Lily

I'm so sorry that today has been so difficult on you. I didn't have Keegan cremated but he did come home in a blue quilt envelope tied with a black bow. I held it in my lap and rocked him and just wept. It's so hard when they're right there but they're not, you know what I mean? She's not that cheap little tin, she's that precious baby that you held in your arms so many times. I have a client that got a beautiful little urn on a wooden platform. It has a picture behind the urn and a saying etched in brass. I can ask her where she got it if you'd like. Petedge (petedge.com) has a nice box and several urns as well. If you're going to keep her near put her in something that makes you feel better. God Bless

When we had my Hershey creamated, she came back in a beautiful cedar box. I think that you should put your baby in whatever container makes you happy. My intention was to bury our little Hershey under her favorite tree, but we never got around to it. Her box is at my parents house now.

I'm sorry but I do understand how you feel right now. When Boog was returned to us he was also placed in a tiny tin with a card and his information. Yes, it was very hard to go in and pick him up...I placed him in my Grandma's cabinet where I put all the little things that mean something to me. I put his collar and tags on the tin with his picture next to it. I'm not too upset about the tin...I know he's not there...and our plan it for him to be burried with whichever one of us goes first. He loved to lay and be carried in the crook of your left arm, and only the left arm...so that's where he will be placed when the time comes. It takes a long time to come to terms with something like this but I hope you will find peace soon.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope with time your heart will heal. Just remember that your baby is not in the tin box your baby is beside you and walking with you. Her sole will be with you always.
Val and Babybear

I'm so sorry for your loss :cry: Fly high sweet baby ... I'm truely sorry for your pain I will pray for you.

I'm SOO sorry.

When we got Bandit's ashes they were in a little wooden box (with a very nice design) that had his name on a gold plate. I'm not sure how much it cost...my parents took care of all of that.

Again, I'm so sorry. Maybe you should go out and buy a nice box or something...whatever you think she should go in. Rest In Peace, Lily. :cry:

Awww you can pick up some nice pottery if you want to keep her in the house... I didn't get my dogs ashes because I was just way to distraught to think that far... But I was sorry I hadn't cause I would have liked to sprinkle them out in our yard...Otis loved the back yard and I was sorry I wasn't thinking ahead to do that...

This is an awful thing to have to del with...Death is tough no matter who it is that leaves us. I hope you feel better soon....

Maybe you could buy a little wooden box and design it yourself. Then you'd feel like it came from your heart.

So sorry for your loss and then having to deal with this problem!:( You have a right to be upset..........but she is at least home with you now.:sad:

Sorry for the upsetting day you had. My Gracie came home in the same tin container. My Brother in Law's ashes, who passed away a couple of weeks ago in Denver, came to our house the other day in a cardboard box. We thought they would put him in a wood box at least.

I had my "Precious" cremated. I took her to the crematory myself and put her in it myself because I had to know that it was her and just her. I waited right there and then picked a small pine box with a gold plate engraved with her info and it was $200.00. She sits with me in my office every day. You must get a nice urn for her that you think she deserves. I am so sorry about all of this. I have read all along all your post and believe me, I feel your pain. You will never get over her loss, but at least know it will become bearable. My heart goes out to you.

You can get a nice urn.

I wouldn't worry about her name being spelled wrong. You can correct this. It was just a mistake.

I have seen this happen with people on their Death Certificates often. If I ever notice any errors, I contact the funeral home and have them correct it.

Interestingly - my father died at the age of 82 - and I got a copy of his Birth Certificate --- and his middle name was spelled wrong.

I am so sorry about your losing your little dog. It is just heartbreaking. I lost a little dog a little more than a year ago. I certainly am better than I was for a long time after I lost her, but I will miss her and love her every day of my life.

I am very sorry.

*** I didn't have my dog cremated. I like to feel that she is buried in my heart - because she really is.

Carol Jean

This must be very hard on you. I'm sorry that this has added to your distress. I hope you are able to find a suitable box to keep your precious memories in.

I'm so sorry about your precious Lily. Just remember that she is in good hands and is smiling down upon you and her little family.

We had our Brett creamated four years ago. He was nearly eighteen years old and we felt that he deserved more than just a burial. We paid $195 to have him creamated alone and his ashes were put in a container which is housed in a beautiful walnut box. I was very surprised when the vet brought him back to us. He sits on my coffee table along side my yorkie statues.

Once you're feeling better maybe you can find the perfect little box for her. I'm sure there are places that sell these or a woodshop that would make a special one for you.

Take care and know we are thinking of you.

I'm so sorry about Lilly. I'm sorry you feel so disappointed about the urn. You have every right to feel this way. You should have been shown the options of urns before the cremation so you know what to expect and have a choice to make a decision. Not to mention it is so unsensitive that they couldn't spell the name correctly! That is outrageous! I would ask them to make a correction on the certificate (at no charge) and have them mail you a new one.

The people who have crematoriums are in the industry that depends on pet owners who love their pets. If a person didn't love the pet, they wouldn't have them cremated. These are OUR BABIES! and our babies DESERVES RESPECT on their final journey! They need to be be respectful both to the pet owner and the pet that passed and placed in their care.

We lost Jewel just about 8 months ago. I've been through a cremation before and was so disappointed about the "urn" (a wooden box), that when it was Jewels turn, I vowed to find a perfect resting "vessel" for her.

I used a Jewelry box. It was a gift from Dan that he got for me. It just seemed right you know? It made me feel I did something good for her. Then I made a "Memory" album of her. This was my way of saying goodbye, for now. I also have a beautiful box that I put her favorite toys in along with her dinner bowl, harness and all the card we received from family and friends. Next to the jewelry box is her picture and a cross to hold her collar and ID tag.

Take your time, no need to rush but you know what Lilly is like and you WILL find the perfect vessel for her. There is no rules or a reason to BUY a "Memorial Urn". Why get something hundreds of other people have?
Just follow your heart and find something that says "Lilly" to you. That can be your gift to her.

I want to say it will get better soon, but honostly, I don't think anything can fill that hole in your heart. I think they take a tiny bit with them to keep and cherish until we join them in Heaven.

I hope you feel better soon. Cry all you want, it helps. Write about her to us. I don't know how I could have coped with out YT.

As if you haven't been through enough already!! Dang...even getting the name wrong!

I'd complain.....and I'd also look on the internet and find a urn you want, and ask that they have her name put on it, with no charge since they got her name wrong!

I'm so sorry your still going though all this. Its bad enough to loose her, and taking over her motherly duty, then this?

I'd call about the name being wrong, and tell them this is "unacceptable". Tell them you could have bought a tin box at the dollar store for a lot less than what they charged you.

Don't get angry with them, just let them know how much this hurts. Anger won't get you anywhere with them.

Good luck with this, and please let us know how this turns out.

I'm so sorry that your Lily's ashes were given to you in that kind of urn. :( My doxie ( my late mom's dog ) was creamated also and we got her ashes back in a very nice wooden box with a gold plate with GiGi's information on it, that we could attach to the box. I placed GiGi's box in the cabinet that I keep a lot of my mom's things in that I received when she passed away. I felt that was an appropriate place to put GiGi, since she was my mom's dog for 13 years and mine for only 3. I got a double picture frame and put GiGi's picture on one side and The Rainbow Bridge poem on the other side. I have this sitting behind GiGi's box in the cabinet.

May God give you the strength to get thru this sad time in your life. Lily will be waiting for you at the Rainbow Bridge. :rbyorkie:

Take Care....
Rudy's Mom (Dawn):animal-pa

I'm so sorry for you loss...No, a tin box just doesn't seem fitting when Lillies precious, valuable life is gone, but her little spirit is running and flying painlessly in a special place..... There are some pecious little silver pendants for ashes, that you wear around your neck on a website that seemed reasonabley priced??? I don't know, just kinda sounded special to have her ashes in a little pretty pendant around your neck until the pain gets better....I don't know.....

When I had Bo done they put her in a little wooden box that was carved with flowers on top and a brass name plate to attach to the front. It also came with a certificate with the date of cremation and her other info. I was very pleased with it and feel she is still with me when I see it and touch it.

I'm sorry they did that to your Lillie...it does seem they could have done better. I also want to give you my condolences.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think I'd check into having something made especially for your baby girl. That way you can have exactly what you want and maybe find peace with this tragedy.

When we had our Sugar cremated I brought her home and put her into a yorkie statue. She sits sweetly on our sheves next to the fireplace watching over us. Some of the larger statues have a hole in the bottom. This would be a nice idea for you to do with her. At least now she is back with you. I'm so sorry. It saddens me so to hear of your pain.

Im so sorry :(
When I had mine cremated I got them back in little cedar boxes with a lock and key and a gold plate on top with their names on it.
When I had gotten my German shepherd back several years ago I was extremely disappointed. He came back in a red satin like box (it looks like a little jewelry box) and inside is a zip lock bag with his ashes. I keep talking about taking him to the crematory that is used now and having them fix it. I called and they said they would. But i just havent done it yet.
Like someone else said Pet edge has some nice urns

I am so terribly sorry. It's hard enough when you lose someone you love and you feel that this is the last thing you can do for them, but to be disappointed is awful. I would just find something that would be deserving of little Lily and place her there. God bless and comfort you!