Missing Jake! Did I Make the Wrong Decision?
 

Ok, so I am sure I am going to get bashed on this thread but I need to give it a shot.
Many of you may not remember me because it has been such a while since I was here. So, my son got a Yorkie from Santa last year in 2005. His name was Jake. I also had a 7 year old female. Anyway, Jake was the most lovable dog in the entire world. The problem was that we practically live on a farm. Jake seemed to like to devour the chickens on a daily basis. I would turn both dogs out in the morning and Jasmine (my 7 yr. old female) was the only one that would return back to the door. Jake would hide and stay out all day only for us to come home and find mutilated chickens. Prior to this, Jake was also agressive with my 5 year old son.
So, my sister found a wonderful home for Jake this past week. I let Jake go spur of the moment and feel so heartbroken. I know he is better off where he is getting the best attention in the whole world but I never imagined missing him so much.
Jake is at home with a lady in remission from breast cancer. He is an only pet and is getting the best loving and attention any animal can imagine.
My other drawback from Jake was that I work 40 hrs. a week and go to school at night two nights a week. This was not expected when Jake was purchased.
As I said, many of you are going to bash me and I expect that. But, I miss him so much and have actually asked for a change of heart from the lady that got him. She have fell in love with him and has welcomed him into her home. She says I can't have him back.
I have Jasmine but something is still missing and that is my spunky "Jake".
I had an 18 year old dog to pass away last year and it seems almost as hard as letting Jake go.
I know he is happy but I would love to have him back. Maybe I'm selfish!
Again, please don't bash me too much! I'm just looking for sentiments here. I think I did what was right for Jake.

I do not understand why you asked for him back if you think you did what was right for him? I am sorry for the loss of your other dog. I understand the feeling of missing a pet, and if he was in a bad situation where he wasn't being cared for, I would support the decision to try to get him back. Aggressive towards your child is a red flag to me. Also, he was killing your chickens? It doesn't sound like it was a good mix there. Is your yard fenced in? Did you try taking him out on a harness and leash?

It sounds like he has found a loving home with someone who will give him the time and attention he deserves. I know you must miss him dearly, it is amazing how fast they work their way into our hearts.

Did you meet with the lady before your let her take him?

You HAVE done what was best for Jake. You are obviously going to miss him and maybe even feel a bit guilty about him having to go but personally i think you did the best thing for him, what if something happened to him while he was out all day on a farm?? worse still what if he really went for your little boy?? He's in a happy home getting one to one attention please don't take that away from him or the lady who's life he has brightened up. In time the hurt you feel will lessen and you can feel proud about what you HAD to do for everyone involved x

I'm not going to bash you at all!! You were a good yorkie mom for letting him go to a place that was better for him. It must be hard and I know you are second guessing yourself and that makes it all that much harder!! But really, with all that you mentioned..the agression with your little boy, the chicken problem and also your lack of time...he IS better off and that is what you have to think of first, as hard as that is. Does he live to far away now that maybe you could have visiting privileges? Again, not bashing, but really it isn't fair to ask her to give him back either. You sound like a caring person and if you weren't you wouldn't miss him so much, but in this instance it sounds like you made the right decision for him and your family! Sending you a big hug...I hope you make it through this rough time and don't beat yourself up too much and you should let yourself miss him and even grieve for him, how could you not...you loved him and you put him first:dogsm:

I think you made the right decision. Give it a few days. You will be okay. Just focus your energy on your schoolwork =)

Tears are really streaming now...
Yes, I met the lady. There were no doubts in my mind. After he was gone was when it really hit me...like 1 minute after the fact. I have heard that once a dog has the taste of blood, he will keep going after it. Jake loved to terroize our chickens. I gave him so many chances. I even tried a leash for him but he almost tried to break his neck getting off of it.
He was such a good dog.
Am I wanting him back for the wrong reasons???
I have heard from his new owner many times and he has just overtaken her home...She loves him!!! Which I still do.
I never imagined it would be this hard!

Maybe ask the lady if you can visit him? Would that help? or do you think visiting him would make it harder for you? If she agrees, schedule days to go over and have coffee or something. Surely she won't object to that?

I would love to visit Jake (the owner would love that) but I am kind of afraid. I think it is too soon. All Yorkie owners and pet owners as well can imagine what it is like to love your dogs. Deep down I know what I did was best for Jake but he grabbed my heart from day one. I finally figured out that our environment wasn't the best place for him. I really blame myself for bringing him here and then letting him go. If I could change it, I sure would!!!

oh wow - I think you probably did the right thing for him too....and he sounds like he's living like a king....

I would accept your own decision and maybe, like someone said - see if you can visit him.... but I would tell the lady that has him she doesn't need to worry about you taking him back cause she probably is now....that's alot of stress for someone with cancer.

I bet he's very happy and sometimes we just have to move forward - you made a choice and it seems everyone loses if you try to get him back...but I'm sorry you're having such a hard time,

I can imagine how much you are missing him. But it sounds like you made the right decision for both your family and for Jake. And Made that poor woman very happy. You may have even given her somthing to live for.

Sometimes when people or pets enter our lives for a short period of time and then leave again, they were never really ours to keep. We were just place holders until their real purpose came along.

I think Jake was waiting for his real mom to be ready for him, and you were just taking care of him for her.

When the time and circumstances are right, another one will come along.

Thanks for all the posts...
Jake was such a live wire for us. He woke us up every morning with all happiness. That is part of why I miss him so much. I guess I was chosen to take care of him for a while until it was time to pass him over. It is still so heart breaking to me. I miss him SO much! Maybe I am selfish for wanting him back but he became a huge part of my life in such a short time.
I know he is being well taken care of and that is the important part. I would give anything if I could have been the one to give him eternal happiness! That is where I feel like I let him down!

I understand where your coming from...I had a golden that I raised from a baby but I just felt like I wasn't giving him all he needed so found him a great home with children..I must of drove them poor people crazy calling every other day to make sure he was okay...Give it some time it does ease and just keep telling yourself you did the best for Jake....I couldn't go see Hunter it would break my heart but maybe your stronger than me...:(

I just can's figure out...Why am I crying so hard? Did I really do the right thing? This is really tearing at my heart. Right now, I would do anything to get him back. But, deep down I know he is in a better place...somewhere where he can be free and be happy. I am still crying almost a week later. I wish I could find peace....somewhere..:(

you will it takes time I did the same thing for about 2 weeks, its having him not there and being so quite with out him is doing it...I had to just let go after 2 weeks no calling or anything...I know I made the best choice for him and it sounds like you did the same for Jake.....He is in a better place....not that you didn't love him but he is getting all the attention and love...so don't feel guilty, it hurts but you did make the right choice....:)

Haveing a dog that like to et at your chickens is not a good thing.I have a friend that has a small farm and they got a rat terr. this year. Last week she tore a wing off one of her chickens:eek: Well she has always said that if the Animals don't get along she would have to get rid of the one causing the problems. :eek: This lil Dog also Gets at the cats( But I think they really like to Play with her).:rolleyes: They also will stalk and Pounce on Her it's kinda cute to watch.;) I Think you did the right thing. Maybe You and this Lady can become good friends and take the dogs for walks and such. Hey you never know you could Gain a new best friend outa the deal and still get to play with Jake.:animal36

Your pain is understandable and I guess we're all a little selfish when we lose one. Take comfort in knowing that he is happy and his new momma is very happy. It takes a good heart to do the right thing.

I think you made the right decision plus it wasn't healthy for you or him when he was killing those chickens.

I know how you feel... I had a dog I had to give away once... it was soooo hard. But I will tell you that you are greaving now and time will heal you. You can visit but wait till you are feeling ok about him being gone. You did the right thing, you miss him because he was a part of the family, but he was unmanagable and you could not give him the time he needed so let him go, let this other woman love him, and in time she will share him with you. she will want to know you are feeling good about his new home, if she doesn't feel safe about it she won't let you see him. Let things go for now, greave, and allow yourself to miss him, and then when you feel better about it(And you will) THEN go see him. it will be fine. You don't want to rip him away from his new home.

I agree with the rest, you did the right thing. It will take time for the pain to go away, but think of it this way, he moved on to a happy home in which he is probably being treated like a king. He needs that attention and I am sure he is bringing happiness to the woman who has the cancer. They are good for each other and both will thrive. , you didn't lose him to sickness or death, that would have been devisating you can always go visit. You made a woman very happy and that is a beautiful thing.

Could it be guilt hitting you also?

Please know that you did the very best (and hardest) thing you could for Jake. You gave him a home, with someone who will be giving him attention all the time. And with what you described, seems to me, like she needs Jake, as much as he does her.

Try to remember that now Jake isn't getting beat up by chickens on a daily basis now.

I'm sorry your hurting so bad from letting him go. And I'm also sure this wasn't an easy decision. I think you did the best thing in the world for Jake myself!

I have to agree with the rest - you did the right thing. I don't think you would have been able to stop him from killing. Many years ago I had a chow that killed a Grand Champion Black Faced Sheep and I had to have him put to sleep because that was the law in the city where I lived. I wish I had given him to a new home before that happened. A few months earlier he had chased some goats and did some damage to their milk sacks. In that case, the owner was really nice and I just paid the vet bills. Laws are really strict when it comes to killing livestock.

I have to compare your love for him the way I think about young mothers who have babies and love them enough to want what is best for them by letting them be adopted. I know it must be terribly hard, but how can doing the right thing be wrong.

I can understand what you are going through..I got married very very young and decided with a newborn baby to get a springer spaniel..in an apartment!!! Her name was Belle and she really was a great dog, she just didnt do well in an apartment and I had no energy or time to devote to her. She needed alot of excersise and play time and I just wasnt capable of that at the time. I found a wonderful family for her and I missed her TERRIBLY...

About a week after she was gone I went to the store to get something and who is parked next to me but the owner and Belle...Belle was sooooooooo happy to see me and I drove away in tears..vowing never to get another dog until I had my own home and ALOT of time to devote to a pet. And that is what I did.

I think you did the right think and that Jake needs contant attention since he is such a busy boy...sounds like he needed to be an only 'child' and he is probably already very spoiled. When you feel you are ready to visit him without getting upset then go do it and you will feel more at ease with your decision I am sure...

Dawn

You did a wonderful thing for the little guy and his new owner, you must realize that when you love a pet or anyone for that matter that you love them enough to do what is best for them even if it means letting them go. Yes you are hurting right now and anyone would, you can't keep a pet that long and not love it. Take comfort in knowing what a blessing this little one is to this woman, the pain will pass and honestly you didn't have time for such a live wire.
God Bless

hi
i am really feel for you.puppy is like our baby.you loss him .because you did not know .how you feel when he gone.it is very sad for you.all you can do right now is think he is happy and love.and safe.and go to see him later on .he will never forget you.
hugs
nicki...:animal-pa

I think you did the right thing and it shows your great heart and love to give the little guy the chance of the life he deserves. Maybe if you can accept your grief as necessary and the start of the healing process it will be less confusing for you. And PLEASE FORGIVE YOURSELF!!!!! :thumbup:

What a wonderful Mom you are, you gave someone something to live for. My oldest daughter just gave away her little Pom to a neighbor who has epilepsy and she is going through the same issuses as you. I feel that the dog now has a purpose in life, and thats to take care of their new owner. You did the right thing, and in your heart you know it too. Take comfort in knowing that Jake has a new owner who loves him.:hearts6:

You did the right thing both for him and his new mom. You made her happy and he is in a better place. Give it a time and visit him when you're sure you won't take him back.

I think you made the right decision and it will get easier in time. Hang in there. Hugs from Chachi and Jewels

The Right Thing!
 

Sorry you miss him sooo........but you have to do what's right for him!
I don't fault Jake, our Dogs are a product of "Us" and our Training or lack of?
Beleive it or not alot of us forget that Yorkie's are Hunting Dogs they track,
stalk, dig for Prey and that means anything that moves! It's us humans that dress and parade them like living dolls......I know I do. You can't change decades of Breeding just b/c they are incredibly gorgeous and adorable?
They are what they are and they haven't changed in years that's what they were originally bred for. After you get over the initial pain & guilt you will be fine. Just try to concentrate on other things, getting a new puppy takes alot of time, energy and Training. It sounds like you have more important things to worry about?:confused:

A week ago today (about this time) is when I let Jake run out to my sisters truck and jump in. I told her that is the way I wanted it to be. I spent over an hour with him beforehand just holding him and trying to explain. I know I am being selfish and I have to get over that. I even asked for Jake back in the middle of last week but my sister said "No". You did what was right.
As of last night I heard that Jake has became a "lap dog" and is very spoiled. The owner is impressed that she can leave him running freely all day with no accidents and he doesn't harm anything in her house. I guess that should be a positive note on my part. I did have him well trained...inside anyway.
I will always love Jake and would still take him back in a heartbeat. There was an agreement made in the beginning if it didn't work out for ANY reason, he was to be given back to me instead of just passing him on to a new home.
I offerred Jake's papers to the new owner but she wasn't even interested. That also lets me know that she loves Jake for who he is, not just what he has on paper.
Anyway, I'm still crying today. It is bad to say but I didn't cry over my 18 year old dog this much that had to be put to sleep earlier this year. I guess it was different because she was suffering tremendously. I realized in a day or two that I had done the right thing for her. I just can't seem to find peace yet of letting Jake go. :cry: