Denise, I wish you would reconsider about leaving YT.

I honestly believe that no one intentionally posted anything on this thread meaning it to be cruel or condesending. Sometimes when things are written, you cannot understand the tone or emotions behind the words. Oftentimes, our emotions make us think people are being cruel when they really aren't. I truly believe that everyone on YT feels very badly for the situation that you are in. As loving YT members, we were simply trying to think of alternative solutions to rehoming your little man since you expressed how much you were hurting that you had to give him away. I think that from your first post we did not understand that the decision was already made to give him away. That is why we were offering suggestions on potty training and suggestions on how to resolve the issue without you having to part with your beloved doggie. None of those suggestions were meant to be taken that you were a bad mommy. We ALL know that you are an EXCELLENT yorkie mommy!

I can assure you that no one wants to make this situation harder than it already is for you. Simply from the fact that SOOOO many people posted offering suggestions should tell you that we all really do care about you and want you to be happy. Again, PLEASE reconsider leaving YT. I truly believe that EVERYONE on this forum is here for help and support of others that need it. Sometimes when we (including myself) don't like the advice we receive, we misconstrue the intentions behind it.

Please keep us updated on how the rehoming goes.

Please don't go
 

I can symapthize with your issue...if you ever need to talk pm me. I have been there.
Chris

FIRST OF ALL I WANT TO SAY..... MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!!:mad: And I will not let some bad people on here make me leave yt when sooooooo many other good people are on here. You guys are right... I wont let them ruin it for me... Thanks to all who have pm me.. you are truely great people.. and if you can read...... I said it was my decision now too... not in the beginning.. after much consideration and family talks (so get it right)!!!! OK NOW... PLEASE NO MORE POST! GO P...... SOMEONE ELSE OFF. ITS NOT GOING TO WORK WITH ME ANY MORE!!!:) :) :)

I agree with Nobella. No one looks down on Denise or her hubby for their decision. But in my opinion, a dog is a LIFETIME commitment. I would never rehome one of my babies because of potty issues -- but that is just my opinion and I mean no disrespect to Denise. I hope Parker finds a wonderful home and his potty issues can be worked on. He sounds like a wonderful little boy.

PS - I had a hard time training my Yorkie, Katie, who passed away. Took me a year.

SHE DIDN'T BASH HER HUSBAND..how many of us have said oh he's just being stupid..or men can be so blah blah blah..
She isn't harming Parker..she is simply finding a home for him that fits him..And yes you have bashed..you are quite good at it actually..I've seen you do it quite a few times..
Parker doesn't need anyone to take his side..he isn't in any danger..
And she was too bashed...I can see if she came on here and she her hubbie mistreated parker..or anything pertaining to parker being abused or parker abusing others..that wasn't the case..so there was no need for cruel comments..You are one of those that are quite good at running people off here..I hope when your all alone on here you have lots to say..cause you won't have anyone to listen

Do you mean me?? :confused:

I hope not because I didn't bash Denise. There is nothing wrong is rehoming a dog if you have no other choice. I've seen it done successfully. But I would not rehome ... that is just my personal preference and decision and it doesn't reflect on anyone. No one can tell her (or anyone else for that matter) what to do because you have to live in the situation to really know what is going on. At least Parker will be going to a loving family. Most people would just drop him off at the pound and be done with him. But thank goodness Parker is in Denise's hands and will definitely go to a great home. But I meant no disrespect in my posts. It's a difficult and painful decision to rehome a beloved pet.

oh gosh no..i'm sorry ..that did sound like it was to you lol..no i think your very nice..i meant really those that are always goin round bashin people..it's wrong and hurtful..

That's ok LOL :)

Maybe if you take the pee pad out of the crate and put towels/blankie in it he will see his crate as a bed and not a bathroom. If he uses pee pads out of the crate then he knows they are for bathrooming. If he doesn't pee in your bed, maybe seeing his crate as his bed will deter him from peeing in the crate and only using the pee pads out of it or going outside to bathroom. you may need to thoroughly clean the crate of even try buying a new one to teach him the difference. Good Luck!

My Kammie sleeps in her crate and stays in there when we can't keep our eyes on her all times. She very rarely has accidents in her crate as she knows it is her bed. She also sleeps in our bed in the morning. She does still have accidents from time to time in the house but I have found it is normally our fault.

Ultimately it is your decision to make. I hope you exhaust all possibilities before giving him up. I do believe some dogs are extremely hard to train and have emotional issues beyond the owners ability to cope. Your marriage is your #1 priority and nothing should get in the way of your families happiness. Yes, our furbabies are our family too but giving them up to a home that can better deal with their problems and is the utmost display of our love for them. It may be very hard to do but your eternal human family has to come first. Maybe you and your hubby will work this out for all of you.

I have not had the time to post much at all lately, but have communicated with Denise via email and PM's. My heart goes out to her for having to make decisions of this sort. I've known Denise for a long time and know that she loves her little Parker...she has gone to great lengths to make it work with him and deciding to rehome him has to be one of the hardest decisions she's ever made. I can understand her decision and will continue to be a support person in the weeks ahead. My heart goes out to her!

Big hugs to you, Denise...when you need me, just write...I'm not always at the computer, but will always answer you eventually!

Maddie sends kisses!

Denise, I see you have a female as well, could she be going into heat? If she is, that maybe why your male is marking. Or is he neutered? It may help with the peeing problem to have it done if he is not.

All the best! :)

Tashasmom...you are right there are some people on her that are very opinionated and judgmental...they know who they are. Sometimes I read some of their posts and it really does turn my stomach and I want scream where do you get off. Everyone is entitled to their opionion and honestly Denise has to do what is best overall for her home, marriage, children and sanity. The upside is she is being very responsible and loving by finding him a home that will be a better fit for him.

Denise I applaud you and stand behind you in your decision. At the end of the day we have look at the bigger picture and do what is best for yourself.

Good luck in the changes that have to be made :love:

I"m just thankful Parker is alive and well..he was well cared for and will continue to be well cared for..
I would give anything to have tasha alive and well..rather in my home or someone elses..

Hey Denise, I just got on the computer and didn't know about the difficulty with Parker. I know that you love him very much and how much this must hurt you. I have a dog right now (not a yorkie) that ate my couch, a plank out of my 100 yr old wood floor and a whole quiche off the oven top! My husband has had it! I am at a loss also. These things happen. Don't beat yourself up over it. You have done the best you could do in the situation...and that is good enough.
Hailee's mom...jan

HEY! Here is a thought. Both of you can kick your husbands out and become roomates and have all these furbabies to play with...HAHA:D

Jan my condolences....I had a dog that ate the floor (two layers), a new mattress, shoes and the sofa way back when. It's so not fun. Good luck.

Denise,
I have to chime in here. I have read most of the posts, but not all. I just wanted to let you know that you are not the only one that has had to give up a pet. It is obvious that it is painful for you. I am glad that you are looking into references etc for the home you will place him in. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON!
I had to give up my little girl Bichon named Clarabelle Majic 10 years ago this month. I had 3 dogs at the time, she was 3 years old and well trained but my work schedule changed and I went to 12 hr shift work and not a regular schedule. She suffered separation anxiety severely. I dealt with it for a year and tried many different solutions, and it was a very tough decision for me but I knew she needed a home with someone home most of the time. I interviewed over 10 potential new owners in their homes and found a wonderful work from home family that she was perfect for. I cried and cried the day I let her go, and struggled with the decision but I know she was better taken care of and got the attention she deserved that I could not give her. I would think since Parker is still so young it will be better to do it now than later. And since the new home will know the isssues you have had with him and be willing to deal with it, you should feel good that you are putting him into a good home.
I think it is harder on us then the furbaby. He will have an adjustment, but with love and attention, he will adapt. My girl just couldn't adapt to my work schedule like the other 2 did, and the guilt I felt over that outweighed the guilt in letting her go. I still have a large portrait of her over my desk in my office and think of her often, but I know it was in her best interest.
Just wanted to share and say I hope it all works out well for you and little Parker and remember, if you are giving him to a GOOD home that is what matters most.
I was able to visit Clarabelle a few times and she was so different and happy it made my heart warm. I am the type who says when I get an animal I commit to caring for him/her for life, as I have a Bichon who was recently diagnosed with diabetes and requires insulin daily and special needs as well. I now in my careeer can adapt my work schedule to meet my furbabys needs, But sometimes, you just have to do what you know in your heart is the best thing. So do what you know is best and don't let some peoples opinion hurt you or make you think you are bad. They are just voicing opinions. As we all have them :)

Take care
PS Parker is a beautiful little guy.

MaryKay
Mom to AprilLove, Bailey and Bitsy-Roo

I am not by any means trying to continue this discussion, but I have looked back at all the posts (especially mine), and if I said anything wrong or judgemental I would take full responsibilty. However I don't feel that I did. I understand this is a sensitive issue, but no one that I read bashed you or your husband you said he is stupid not any other YT member. I agree people here can be judgemental, but I also think that this is a website with a ton of different people from different places. I take advice good and bad because I know everyone is giving their honest opinion. Anyways I sat her allday and questioned whether I let it go or respond and as you can see I chose the latter. I wish you all the best. Take care

:( I hope I didn't bash you when I wrote my opinions,if I did or it sounds like I did,please forgive me.I have never had to deal with this kind of problem or known what you are going through mentally.I went back and have read all your posts and can see how much this is hurting you . I do understand that Parker needs a home with a full time Mom dedicated to him and his problem,someone that will love him as much as you do.He is such a beautiful little guy and I am an old woman that forgot what it is like to have a child and husband to care for too.Good luck to you in finding the perfect home for Parker.Again,if my words were painful or harsh ,forgive me,please.Like others I sometimes speak before I know the whole story.I will be very careful in the future.

Sorry for your heartache
 

I have read every single one of the posts in this entire thread. WHEW! It's interesting that so many people have been moved by this issue in one way or another to the point of comment. It has been a very intriguing read.

How sad that your family had to make this difficult decision, Denise. I know you must be heartbroken. You did ask for help, and many people who wrote here did offer help. Of course there are always some who get upset with the whole idea of re-homing, and they have reacted strongly on your thread.

I see these folks for the most part, though, as not intentionally "bashing" you or your family, but expressing their opinion in their own way. Understandably, none of what they had to say could ever have been welcomed by you after going through the pain of the decision making process. The strongest opinions are rarely sweet and kind, but we should understand that everyone has their own unique ways of expression.

I also find it interesting that you and others asked multiple times for this thread to be closed, yet Admin obviously felt that it should remain open. I think that gives some credence to the nature of the discussion. Other people may have to go through this same type of situation, and your thread may help them. Kudos to you for starting this thread.

You have made the best decision for you, your family, and Parker. It was obviously not an easy one, and you may have regrets about it in the future. But at this point it is the only decision possible. Do not dwell on the perceived unkind words of strangers. Move on and do the best you can with Maddie. I am hoping that you will be able to get her potty trained so that you will never have to go through this again.

Best of luck to you, Denise. My heart hurts for you.

People take a chill pill
It must be hard being so perfect that you think you have earned the right to be looking down your nose at someone else. Im sure you self rightous people never do anything wrong and you think its not offensive to degrade her husband or her well my hat is off to you perfect people. Dont mind me Im just
a person that thinks she is doing the best thing for her dog.
PS my mother always told me if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. Nasty people get a life::thumbdown

Glad,

Very eloquent as always……:thumbup:

I am glad that there has been a happy conclusion. So, are you going to tell us who the lucky YT member is that is going to be Parkers new mommy? I think it is great that someone knows that he has a problem to work on and is taking him in unconditionaly!!!!! I am dying to know, hope you tell us soon.

Thanks
 

Theres enough crude people in this world we dont need to add to it .
Akua o'e hoomaika'i (god bless you):) :) :)

good luck. and i hope the new owner is great.

Like I said earlier, I don't think anyone came on here to bash Denise. :rolleyes: I think the lines just got blurry bc people thought she was looking for advice on ways that she could possibly keep Parker, which wasn't the case. ;) Denise, I, for one, most certainly was not coming on here to bash you or talk down to you. I by no stretch of the imagination am perfect, nor am I a perfect yorkie owner. I was honestly just trying to help in any way that I could. I just want you to be happy :D

P.S. -- My family had to give our dog, a Jack Russell Terrier, away when I was younger. She was just TOO bad! So, I understand. It is definately a tough decision. But, everything happens for a reason. If we didn't give our Jack Russell away, we would have never gotten our first yorkie.

:) :aimeeyork ;) :animal36 :D :animal-pa :p