If my Dog can't come I am not going... My question is am I wrong to feel like if George isn't welcome at someone in my families house then I don't want to go there either? The reason I asked this is because my neice got a new apartment and I took George over there on Saturday. She has a Yorkie Oliver who is 2 1/2 and I have done a ton for him including babysit him, bath him, feed him, cloth him, buy him toys and clean up after him when he has accidents (both #1) which up until about 2 months ago he still wasn't house trained. Anyways long story short my Georgie who is almost 11 months (and completely trained at home) had a couple of accidents, and she went nuts I mean completely crazy on me. So now I feel like if he isn't welcome then I won't be going over there either. I guess I could understand her position more if she didn't have a dog or if I didn't do so much for her dog. Am I overreacting? |
Now that is just unreasonable of her. I am that way when visiting family, if Skittles can't stay at their house then we don't stay there either. I hope your niece comes around. |
Maybe a little... You may have caught her on a bad day, or there may be something else going on that you were not aware of. I would say that you can give it another try, but you may want to put a diaper or belly band on Georgie. He may be marking the territory. You should also discuss it if you can in a calm rational manner, if possible. I know my pup isn't welcome everywhere I go, so I leave her home on occasion. It doesn't hurt her feelings at all. Good luck! |
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Thanks for your honesty :) I also forgot to mention that she is the one that gets upset when people tell her she can't bring Oliver in the grocery store! I guess I just thought her house would be the last house that I would have this problem. I will get over it I suppose ;) |
I think you have a right to feel bad. Especially if her dog has accidents at your house too. |
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Thanks and I can't tell you how many he has had. He has puked a few times at our house as well. Actually he puked 4 times in one night when we were watching him. It got to the point where my dog loving, very laid back fiance' was getting mad. He couldn't believe her on Saturday especially since we have done sooo much for her and Oliver. |
I do not go to any family members house (or any one else for that matter) that my yorkies are not welcome. All of our family live out of town and most of our friends, they all know that I bring them with me. If they can't come neither will we. Have we ever had an accident, of course I just clean it up and keep going, no one has ever gotten mad. I do honor personal feelings about furniture and such. An accident is nothing to get upset over. |
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GeorgiesMomma --- Not to worry. This is a very common syndrome - and anhy of us may catch it sometime. It is called "new apartmentitis" or sometimes "new houseitis." It doesn't last forever - sometimes only a few weeks or a month or two and then it goes away. It just wears off and everything goes back to normal. You should never hold a grudge against any women suffering from this malady. Remember the day may come when you have it yourself. Just be patient, understanding, and as sweet as you can be...... This always works best. And often - after a while - you may find yourself getting an apology - these are fun to get! Carol Jean |
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Sorry to quote everyone but I was interested in reading everyone's comment. This one is a funny one thanks I needed that. I tried to remind her when we bought our new house and Oliver "christened" it that I didn't get mad, but it didn't work too well. Oh and she did apologize and told me that Georgie is welcome as long as he doesn't pee everywhere like he did Saturday!!!! The nerve of some people ;) |
Poor you - I would be mad also but it is family and that won't help. These panties are the best (not cheap) but perfect for our little ones. You got them covered and it looks like they are wearing jumpers. http://www.joybies.com/pagedog.html |
PLEASE don't get mad at me. My Lexi potty trained very easy, but Tori was/can be awful. I get upset with her when she pees on the floor a foot away from the wee pad. I don't yell at her and have never spanked her, but I don't like it and lock her in the kitchen or her playpen when she does this. So if a friend comes over and their pup has an accident I clean it up and let it go, if it happens again I offer my playpen or the baby gate to the kitchen. I don't want to be mean but I don't like it when Tori does it and I sure don't want someone elses pup doing it. The same goes when we go to someones house, I watch very closely (specially Tori) and hold her a lot. Go out very often. Now if she does start peeing then I either pack it up and leave or suggest we pup the pups in the kitchen. If I am staying the night or weekend I ALWAYS take their playpen. Again PLEASE don't get mad it's just my 2 cents... :) I forgot to add I do use doggy diapers, I bought them from Chloeandj |
I know that you have reason to be mad, but don't be. She is probably young and this is her first apartment. If you are close to her just tell her that you feel hurt by this and explain how you have treated her yorkie. She may not realize that she is doing this. Just be upfront. I do not take Gucci when I go visiting unless someone in my family asks me to. Most of the time Gucci would just sit by me and she does have accidents with number 2 so I do leave her home. I wouldn't enjoy myself at someones home worrying if she is going to have an accident.. Gina |
Thanks for everyones advice I don't get mad trust me I like to hear people's thoughts on things. It's hard being in the situation to seperate yourself from it sometimes. Thanks again :D |
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very cute thank you :D |
Oh for heaven's sake -- I should have told you... Whenever I take my little boy visiting. I take a stack of washclothes (his) and use them for belly bands. I just fold one diagonally and wrap it tightly around his tummy and pin it with a diaper pin. It works great. Of course, I still keep my eye on him, and whenever he gets "damp," I put a dry one on. This way none of has to worry and my little Murphy can have free run of anyone's house. And - washclothes are very inexpensive. Carol Jean |
your niece is being totally unreasonable. you have done so much for her and she doesn't welcome your little one at her home. my mother doesn't like me bringing Buttercup inside her house and every time I visit, I just let him run around in her backyard and she's totally fine with it. |
I always take all of my dogs with me when I go to visit family or friends. Not all of them have dogs, but they are very understanding and know that if I my dogs are not welcome then I will not be going there. Sure they have had a couple of accidents, but they don't mind, they know how I feel about my babies and are great about it. I would be upset too, if someone had a fit like that and did not welcome my dogs. |
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P.S. I just put a woman's light day pad in them :) |
I Dont think you are wrong at all, I feel the same way as you, if my dogs cant stay then neither do we, i wouldnt have it any other way . |
i think in your particular instance it's a little different since it's family. but in general, i always check with the host of a home i'm visiting to see if bunjee's invited too. if he is, then i bring belly bands, potty pads, cleanser, etc basically every effort to keep him accident free. if he isn't welcome to a home for any reason, i would hold that against the host and refuse an invitation. the host is entitled to manage their home however they'd like whether they have a pet already or not. jmho. |
if romeo isn't welcome then you just don't get the pleasure of seeing me. he is my baby. i've taken enough crap from friends and relatives kids. my nephew , who i adore, puked all over my living room. my nieces ,who i adore too, spilled soda all over the interior of my new car. crap happens. if romeo has a lil accident oh well. anyway , he usually stays on my lap when we go anywhere. |
I'd have a hard time enjoying myself somewhere that my girls are not welcome.... I am physco about keeping the girls off of the carpet! Cause they are not house trained yet! And my mom brings her Chi over... Who is not House trained... She lets hers pee all over the house at home! :eek: She has throw rugs all over and she washes them every week... It also smells like S#@T in her house! I flip out when she puts her Chi down on my carpet! She starts sniffing around and I leap up to grab her! I have tried explaining that I don't even let my OWN dogs run the house.... Why would I let hers?? I welcome hers but only if she can respect my rules! If she took measures.... I don't know... I have not said that her dog is not welcome yet... but boy I am close!! But not because of the dog... its the owner!!! lol I think that if you are making an effort to protect her home... then she is way out of line... Especially if she is not extending the same to you!!! |
Do you think that possibly she thinks you have different "house rules" than she does? Maybe she thinks that in your house it is "okay" for her dog to have accidents, but in her house she doesn't want to deal with accidents. Maybe after so long she has got it in her mind that it's okay. Sometimes people assume things after a while. Here is an example: At my mom's house everyone knows they HAVE to take their shoes off at the door, she goes nuts on people if they don't. So everytime I go there I do it. But when we go to my house I don't mind people wearing thier shoes (because I rent.) When she comes over I don't make her take off her shoes, she just does it sometimes out of habit. The point I am getting at is maybe she just thinks that you don't see it accidents in the house as a big deal and she does because of the new carpet. I really think that you guys should talk, it could just be a misunderstanding! |
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It wasn't her dog making the mess so it wasn't ok. I would just quietly let it go - wouldn't want to make a family fued out of it. I bet she will come around. I do try my best to ask if it's ok if I bring Punkin visiting - and I do warn of potential accidents. I can always tell if someone is saying yes because they feel they have to. At these times I choose to leave Punkin home. Just my opinions... |
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I don't even have my puppy yet (counting the days!) but I already know that I'm going to hate to go ANYWHERE without her. However, I agree with the poster who said, let's give ourselves a little reality check....our pets, however beloved, ARE 'just' animals. Hopefully none of us would let otherwise happy and beneficial human relationships go to ruin over whether or not someone wanted a dog at their house (their right and their choice, whether we agree or not.) I have a huge lab who is the absolute apple of our eye, and a big part of my son's life, and luckily my mom loves her too, and loves her to come along with us when we visit. My dad....not so much. :D He's just not a dog person. If he became a stickler on the point, and told me that I couldn't bring my dog over there anymore, would I turn my back on him, or spend any less time with them? NO! (however, we all may have family and "friends" that we might WANT to use this as an excuse to distance ourselves from! :D) As for the original poster and the situation with her niece....given all the details of that situation, I certainly do understand why it would tick you off! I think you're probably right to chalk it up to age and immaturity. And maybe she was PMSing or something. :D |
I'm afraid I agree with Kizzy's mom and Jiggityjig on this one. I always ask if Topher is allowed to come, and if it's a situation where the hostess thinks it would be best if he stay home, I don't worry about it. It is her home after all. Most of my friends have dogs, so it's never usually a problem, but I do have some friends who aren't dog people and that's okay. I can't expect everyone in the world to love yorkies as much as I do! :) And though I do love my little yorkie boy, my people friends and family do come first...we, too have lost many, many family members unfortunately, (my husband lost his whole family) and the ones remaining are very precious to us. |
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