Thats really too bad that your mother in law has you pay to watch your kids. My mother in law and father in law love to keep my daughter and usually have her over once or twice a month to stay at their house. We all go to amusement parks together and other things. She is missing out on so much by being that way.

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Me too and I'd let her know that I did not need her permission nor her help to get this puppy. I'm a very independent person.

If you think it's too much for a one day trip, make it two days.

I know how you feel...after my husband and i had been together for 4 years she came to me and said she accpets me now..she can tell i've changed and settled..lol..i still sit at home the same as I did when I got with him. She also at one time told me I was a burden to him..when i got with him i owned a tanning salon..she also said it bothered her that i had been married before..well so had she..so now she says she likes me and i could care less now...I've never said one hateful thing to her or ever disrespected her but ooohhh i'd sure love to lol..none of our kids have grandparents..none of them do anything with them..it hurts me but i can't change it...i just look at it this way..they are better off anyway..either way i'm sorry for you..i know what yoiu are going through..i couldn't get a babysitter if i was dead and on my way to be burried..and that is no joke..

I would not give in! I'm sure you will be able to find someone to watch the kids.
How about friends who have to go to the same practice? Or you can talk to the Coach. Our son is a Water Polo Coach, he always has his kids over here. Heck, my house is always full of kids, have them jump on a plane, They can spend Spring Break with me. :) :)

Thank you guys for all the kind words of encouragment. I am gonna make all of you honorary Aunts/Uncles to my kids and furbabies. I wish I had a close family like some of you. My situation is alot like Tashasmom: It takes a miracle for me to get her to watch them. Mustangbee: I am sure they would love to spend their spring break with you in Cali (so would I).To answer the question about hubby: He is the one driving. I only go to the MIL for help because my kids dont have other grandparents around here. I was raised by my grandma and my mom lives in California. I am thinking about moving out there, when I am done with school, so we can be closer to my mom and aunt. They are the only real family I have and they love my children. My mom gets soooo upset when the MIL does this stuff, she called and cussed her out one time but it never helps in the long run. Maybe a move to Cali is in my future. We will see.

hope everything goes ok, you are in my thoughts, keep the faith, and bythe way you are definatly suppose to have another yorkie :)

Hugs to you

Some M I L need a firecracker up there where the sun doesnt shine!!!!

DON'T let that woman discourage you from getting your baby... she needs a life.
Show her that you don't need her for ANYTHING...ask her NOTHING. If i had a M I L like that i sure as h*ll would ignore her existence!

Tell your M I L you lovingly paid a good price for your new beautiful baby, everything that's beautiful is expensive. You get to look at her "ugly mug" for free :rolleyes: she should spend some bucks on her face... after all, you have to look at her :eek:

your mother in law is a miserable person who in turn wants everyone around her to be miserable because no one wants to be alone. If she dislikes you as much as you feel she does and is really mean to you, you might not want her to keep your children because she's probably not very nice to them either.....
:yay_jump: you need to do what we do, make friends with people who are in the same position as you are (they don't really have anyone to watch their children). get to know them and then do the kiddy switch from time to time. although both my parents (my children are the only grandchildren and are spoiled rotten) and my husbands parents would gladly keep our children, we are military so we do not live close to any of them. So do what we do in the military community, find some friends to do the switch, everyone needs someone to keep an eye on children sometimes.
In the mean time could you leave really early in the morning or the night before then you could make it back in time before practice.

LOL Sherry Lynn....at "Want me to talk to her for ya?"


Francie

:eek: PAY! Omg...thats awful! You poor thing...that is so inexcusable...she's twisted!

At this point...I'd count your blessings that she has limited contact with your kids...who needs "Cruella" in their lives?

Francie

oh my goodness I could have writen this!!! Just don't let her bother you, or pretend she doesn't that will get her goat. Live like she doesn't even matter and she will want to matter. My MIL hates my dogs and me. I found out from my son that once when I was gone she spanked my little puppy. I wanted to smack her up side her head.

Good luck girl!

Oh my goodness what a real winner your MIL is....Unreal :mad:
She must be a miserable person to do you like this. I say family is family and there should not be one prefered over the other in any circumstance.
I am sure Renotta ( the breeder )will work something out with you as she is a really nice person and she does have understanding. :)
If I were you I would have no more to do with the MIL..That would serve her right and hey I would move to be with your family if I were you as they sound like they care.
Good Luck and keep us posted. :) Go get your fur baby.... :aimeeyork

Encouragement
 

Honey you were meant to have your baby. Now your mil needs a real slap in the head. I think it's a great idea to work out the detail with another parent. I am sure that you have done a ton of car pooling for others so I am sure that someone will be glad to do it in return. Your mil sounds like my mother. My mil was the best...thank god and made up for my mother.

What you or your hubby decided to pay for that furbaby is for sure none of her beeswax. When I got Lex and my husband asked I told him the same thing. I wouldnt' have spent it if I didn't have it. You have a right as a mother and wife to require some creature comforts and if that baby makes you happy then you for sure deserve it. So piss on her..literally. Maybe your new pup will do that for you :p .

As for her making excuses to not watch her grandchildren...she is the lowest. So much for a grandmother's unconditonal love. Sad that she would punish her son's children that way to punish you.

Good luck and I hope you get a ton of enjoyment from your new baby. I am sure that will make her even madder when she sees how you managed to be wonder woman and pull it all off.

:aimeeyork

I'm sorry your MIL is like that!!!! How awful!!

Oh you guys are so sweet. I even got a PM from a very sweet person offering to get him for me ( I dont want to embarrass her by saying her name without permission) . You guys have all shocked me with your kindness! I am taken away by all the generosity. I have all the motivation I need from you guys and for all that you have done for me to make me feel better...I will make sure I get my baby (somehow). And i will post all the pictures in the world so all of his Aunts and Uncles on YT can see him. Oh... why couldnt I have you all for family! My kids would love a bunch of aunts, uncles, cousins and fur-cousins.

Lol....
 

You know what she will get what is coming to her. Kids aren't stupid and they notice the difference in treatment. I had grandmother like that and I gave as good as I was old enough to show my displeasure.

Hugs and belated birthday wishes as well.

I can't imagine a grandmother like that. I have 3 children and 8 grandchildren. My children and grandchildren are my life and I would do anything for them. My husband and I are upset if we don't have the grandchildren all the time. They are such a joy to us. We have even been babysitting my granddaughter's Yorkie for the last 3 months.

I had the sweetest MIL in the world. I loved her dearly. I also had the best grandma in the world so I wanted to the a good grandma and a good MIL because I had a good example in both of them. Hopefully, I've succeeded. My grandchildren range in age from 5 to 20 and they all love to come to my house and want me at all their ballgames,plays, etc. I am very close to all of them.

I am also very close to my DIL. She is like a daughter to me and she knows I would do anything for her.

I have also kept some of my children's friends kids and even some of the children of the ladies who work for me. I am a surrogate grandma to quite a few. Too bad I don't live close to you. I would sure keep your kids too. Even overnite if you wanted.

I just can't imagine anyone not wanting their grandchildren anytime they can have them. I am going to be a greatgrandma in June and I can't wait .
It's going to be a little girl. I am looking forward to keeping her too.

The next time your MIL wants the grandchildren (if she ever does) they would be unavailable.

It was none of your MIL's business how much the dog cost. I would never ask my kids a question like that. If they volunteer the information that's one thing, but otherwise it's none of my business. I am very close to my children but I try very hard not to interfere in their business. I had a mother who liked to interfere and I did not want to be that way. I just want to be there for them if they need me but not interfere in their personal lives.

you too bizzy, i had a grandmother like that also. i haven't seen her in about 10yrs or more. she is always asking my parents why i do not come around. FOR WHAT, that ole hateful hag. she knows she was mean too.
that is why i say maybe the children are better off with out her, no child should have to grow up feeling like their grandmother hates them.
So, get your pup without her watching your children and tell her thanks for nothin' Some times there are some family members you can live without.

bosslady you sound like a wonderful example of what a mother, mother in law and grandmother should be. i would let a grandmother like you keep my yorkies too.

Thank you. My goal is that my children and grandchildren have the wonderful memories of me as I have of my grandmother and MIL.

If I never do anything else in life that is worthwhile, I hope I have been a good mother and grandmother. That would make me very happy

prayer!!!
 

If God wants you to have this dogg he's going to do it for u and your in my prayers sister!!! :) :) :)

Idea
 

Hey they have a "drop off" day care in my state that you dont have to be a regular day care to use...open on weekends. Also, what about some college girl from church? You know, you are probably a lot like me....I dont drink, run around, smoke or do much else other than stuff with my kids. So you and I both are deserving of a puppy....so hang in there gal....

As far as MIL, have minimal contact with her, and ignore her ignorance, because she does not understand how you feel.....I think we all HAD a MIL like that at least ONCE.....lol...

Wish I lived closer.....or if you are picking up your puppy in Tenn, you can email me and they can play with my young sons....

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You guys are great!!!!!!! And Bosslady you are the kind of mother/grandmother that I aim to be. I know one thing this has taught me what kind of mother/grandmother NOT to be.I just came back from a long, boring day at school and I haven't had much time to think about how to go about this, but I reassure everyone that I will have my baby boy! Pics will be coming real soon! So be on the lookout! I will make a really big deal about his homecoming too. Maybe I should through him a "Welcome Home" party and invite the MIL. Then I will let all the dogs come and literally piss on her leg.!!!!!

Urgh. Your MIL is a pain. I can't believe she'd penalise her own grandchildren to prove some dumb point. My mother in law also made a big song and dance about how much we paid for my puppy (she told my husband I should have 'done the right thing' and got a dog from the pound). She is also all in a tither because I called my Yorkie, 'Badger'. She's really pro-hunting (they still use Yorkies here for badger baiting) and I'm really anti-hunting which is why I called him it. She told my hubby that I did it 'deliberately to upset her'. Haha! Like I care about what she thinks, the old misery

I definitely think you should go get your puppy and something will work out with the kids. It sounds like it's meant to be. Although I'm not very religious I'm pretty sure God likes people who help each other. Good luck and please put some pics up as soon as you get him! :) x

sorry about MIL, that's tough. Makes it hard on the relationship sometimes and puts hubby in the middle. Hang in there and keep your chin up.

I'd suggest asking another parent take them and keep them until you return in exchange of returning the favor sometime or try and take them with you. If not because of the significance of the activities, maybe you could arrange a more convenient time with the breeder in which you can take the kids. Maybe if you stop asking MIL she'll get the hint.

Wwwah MIL's/Grandmothers.
 

My MIL was the greatest (may she rest in peace...we lost her almost three years ago and it was devastating...she was only 52) as a MIL and a grandmother. I hope to one day be that kind of MIL. It's funny because she said she patterned herself after my husband's grandmother (her MIL) because she was the ultimate. I really hope to be just that way. My children were super blessed because she loved them so much. I really wish that I could have had that for myself. She was great because she never made one child feel better than the other. The love was abundant and totally equally dished out to each of the kids. Sadly she passed and never got to meet my son or my BIL's first child. I am always sad for my son becuase he never had that. My mom is a pretty miserable grandmother. She is a functioning alcoholic and my kids dont' really like to be around her which makes it hard because they love my dad.

I never quite could understand how a person even if you hated your DIL or SIL that you would punish the children that are part of you. Sad. As one of those kids that got the neglectful end I have to say it's very hurtful. When my grandmother died in December...I mourned her for what we should have had and not because of what we did have (does that make sense? lol).

Your children will be strong for the love that the recieve from others around them so no worries. I am telling you...try to train your new pup to pee on her shoe ever time he sees her....loll

Tara what day are you going to go. Is your son going to the little league field on 4th street. I will help if it is on my day off or my son could pick him up somewhere and take him. Let me know.

Hey Sal,
How are you! You have a PM!

That is just the sweetest...

Your MIL sounds like my FIL. In-laws...gotta love them! :mad: