Well, I'm going to give you my experience because I was actually on your boyfriend's side...here's the story.

My ex-boyfriend had two cats when I started dating him. He knew I didn't like cats (sorry cat lovers, it's the truth), but I treated his cats well. I NEVER asked him to get rid of them, but I said, "When they pass, that's it for cats right?" He said, "No" that he always wanted cats and not dogs. So...I had to make a decision. Did I love this man enough to live with his cats, litter, hair all over, vomiting all the time, and scratching the furniture? Well, he's an ex today...not because he threw me out, but because I guess I didn't love him enough to put up with something I was not comfortable with. Does that make me a bad person? I don't think so. I tried to compromise, but he didn't want to. O well, I'm glad I left because then I would be living with cats and not Baby!

Now your boyfriend on the other hand is just getting fed up with the chewing things and is jealous of your dog. I will tell you this, if you get rid of the dog, you will regret it...because if he's complaining about this, there will be other things he complains about and expect you to change those things too. If he really loves you he will live with your dog. If he leaves, and he realizes he loves you more than he dislikes the dog, he will come back.

I hope I helped a little, and I hope nobody things bad of me b/c I'm not a cat lover. :)

I dont know what I would do if my Husband was not an animal lover like myself. Luckily he is. It is easy for us to tell you to keep the dog and dump the boyfriend. You are in love with your boyfriend and I am sure he has alot of good qualities. Why not take Pixie on walks with him and other things to try to create a bond. Ass far as the chewing just keep things that she can get ahold of up and that shouldnt be a problem. Good luck.

I didn't read through the other post but have you tried Bitter apple? If you catch her chewing on something you don't want her to chew on and can't move it (ie furniture) you can spray a little on and they won't chew on it anymore. It comes in different brands, there were a lot to choose from at petsmart. I crate our little girl at night for fear she will chew on cords in our bedroom.

I can relate, sometimes my husband of 10 years gets a little upset when the dogs have chewed something or made a big mess or had an accident in the house. I think men are just wired differently then women. We have nurturing attitudes about a lot of things men simply do not. They are not bad just different. If people were polled I am sure a lot more women then men would want an indoor pet. I am speaking in generalities so don't bash me (please). Do a little preventive measures to help things out and try to get him to interact with the pup as much as you can. If he sees some of the good things like how much love they have to give maybe he will just change his mind.

I think you would have a hard time finding someone that was thrilled about having their things torn up. AGAIN not on his side and not at all saying he is right!
JMO

I come as a package deal....me and my pets. In our house we've had items destroyed or soiled by pets, everyone has learned NOT to leave items on the floor where they can get to them. And no offense, but it sounds like a control issue to me, then again I do not do well with demanding ultimatums. Chances are my choice isn't going to be the one expected. Good luck.

Sounds like a control issue to me also. I do not do well in those type of situations.

Ok, you have to choose between your Pixie and your BF. BF must learn to put his stuff up where she can't reach it. Round my house, if it's left on the floor, it's "free" game!! Put your socks, shoes, phone cords where they belong, or they're going to get chewed on. Simple as that. Grandkids wonder why their toys get chewed on....well, where did they leave them? ON THE FLIPPIN' FLOOR!!! Yep, you guessed it. It was in the "free" zone. Kids want to leave their stuff all over the house? "Free" zone. Hubby leaves his stuff on the floor, on the chair, on the couch (ie., remote controls) "free" zone. It is not my job to go from room to room to make sure nothing is on or in the "free" zone. If you want to keep it, and if it's something you'd prefer not to have chewed up, PUT IT AWAY!!!

Crates or X-Pens are good. But if I were you, I think I'd crate the BF!!! JMO
Suz

I haven't read the whole thread, but in my opinion, the dog will always love you unconditionally and if this boy would give you up completely for something as small as a little barking and a $10 phone charger, then I wouldn't call that unconditional love (and isn't that what you're supposed to feel when you get engaged or married?).

I see red flags!!!!
Hey, sorry, but no way would I give up Princess. It's been over a year,
he should have talked about this a lot sooner. I would sit him down and ask him. What his plans are when you have children? Are you sure he wants them??? I think he wants to be in total control, he needs to learn you are a team, and you have to work on everything together. If he really loves you, he will work things out, if not, it's better to find out now.
I wish you luck, go with your heart, but never let anyone control you. :2hearts2:

To be blunt, I would dump the boyfriend. He sounds like bad news and I doubt he is going to undergo a miraculous transformation. I hope I haven't offended you, but I'm in my late 50's and have had a few boyfriends in my time, so I think I speak from experience.

I'm sure this is a totally difficult situation. My boyfriend is not an animal lover and I disagree with people here. Just because your significant other isn't an animal lover doesn't mean he doesn't love you or can't love you. My boyfriend loves Coco, not really other animals or dogs but he loves her and takes care of her. That's all you could really ask for. Now I don't agree that he should live putting everything away to keep Pixie from chewing because you should be training her on those points, maybe even take her to a class. But he should not make you choose either. Try talking to him rationally and if that doesn't work, maybe he's not the one for you. Good luck hun.

is he willing to take her to sometype of training????

Please don't take offense to this, but I think your boyfriend is acting very immature. This is a dog. It sounds like he is vying for your attention and is jealous of a little dog. There's something wrong with that.

my husband is not an animal lover but in our house we have 2 hamsters, 1 hermit crab, 2 cats (which he absolutely hates but Daughter loves) and 2 yorkies..(which he does love)..what does that say about compromise...we get the animals and he gets his golf..lol

Ok, I skimmed through all of the posts... everyone seems to have good advice for you.

My advice... maybe sit down and talk to your BF and see if together you can come up with a compromise. You keep Pixie and "baby proof" the house, set up spots out of reach from her for his things (phone charger ect.) and agree that when he wants you all to himself or he feels like you are giving more attention to her when he needs your attention (men are big babies too sometimes) you will put Pixie in a designated safe spot, away from the both of you, so that ya'll can have alone time...
Sitting down and trying to compromise will really show you if he is "with you all the way" or if he is "my way or the highway"... does that make sense??

Men may come and go but Pixie is for life! She will be there for you always, can you say the same for him????

I wish you all the best!

I would be rethinking the reltionship. But I would also try to correct the dogs behavior. She will outgrow a lot of this as she grows older. But if BF can't deal with a puppy, how is he going to be with children????

I understand that you love your boyfriend ( Fiance ) But if you love your puppy then your dog is what comes with you, and he needs to except you for you, and your pup comes with you, I'm so sorry you are having this problem, I would never give up my little ones, Anyone who is with me needs to LOVE my puppies, because they come with me . I hope things work out in the end sweetie . I know this must be so hard for you right now . Do what you think is best in your heart and whats best for your life
Good luck. (( Hugs ))

I'm sorry that you are going through this. That's not fair of him to make you choose between him and Pixie. This dog has been in your life over a year and he's giving ultimatums now? Maybe the 2 of you can sit down and compromise a bit so you would not be forced to choose him or her. Relationships are all about compromise (or at least they should be) Is he willing to compromise?

My boyfriend loves Max and Abbie (Max was actually a birthday/valentine's day gift from him) but if we ever break up and I meet someone else, it is required that they like (or tolerate at the very least) my dogs. Max was my first dog but I can honestly say that I will ALWAYS have a dog or 2. They are a part of who I am and if someone doesn't want to be with that part of me then I would have to move on. Plus-I don't respond well when given an ultimatum so I could see myself becoming very stubborn if something like that ever happened :D What can I say, I'm Italian :D

oscar's mom: i felt the same way. if he is having this much difficulty adjusting to the things that small dog will do and the attention that animal receives, then what would he be like with a child. what will happen if your child spills milk on his suit or papers or phone????? what will happen when that new born is taking up your every waking moment. sometimes these small situations that anger a person in this way are signs of much bigger and worse things ahead. maybe you should try crating and some of the other suggestions you have received, but maybe you should also keep your eyes wide open and give this some more time before you fully commit.

first off, i'm sorry to hear about the problems your've having between your yorkie and your bf/fiance. here's my story:

my husband really didn't want a dog, but i really really did. so we agreed that bunjee would be my responsibility, both financial and maintainence. i didn't want to go off and just get a puppy without hubby at least agreeing to tolerate the new little one. afterall, the new puppy will be in our home and hubby's living space too. it wouldn't be fair to hubby if i completely disregarded his needs.

so although bunjee was going to be MY puppy, i included hubby in the process of getting him. i knew there was no way hubby would care to drive 60+ minutes to a breeder to check out a puppy, so i found breeders who were closer. we picked out the name "bunjee" together because he hated my first choice for a name.

upon getting bunjee home, i knew hubby would just hit the roof if bunjee ever pee'd on the carpet, chewed on the nice furniture and especially hubby's floor standing speakers. so i kept bunjee gated in the tiled areas of the condo. hubby gets annoyed when bunjee's cries wakes him up at night, so i learned to be a light sleeper and at the slightest sound from bunjee, i go to check on him before he makes noise at night.

i also did a lot of reading and took bunjee to obedience class the first chance i could. and worked a lot on obedience training and curbing all the undesireable puppy behaviors. i may not have been as aggressive on this had hubby liked bunjee from the start, but he didn't and i needed to do whatever i could to help all three of us get along since i'm no longer willing to give up one for the other.

today we're one happy family. hubby plays with bunjee as much as i do and shares in some of the responsibilities of caring for bunjee when i'm not around. he expresses a lot of concern when bunjee is feeling down or low. he's starting to work with bunjee a little on obedience ('cause he's kinda jealous that bunjee is so responsive to my commands but not responsive to his... i told him well, you gotta work with bunjee more! and he's starting to). and it's second nature to both of us that bunjee just comes with us everywhere we can take him.

he's not a dog fanatic like i am, but he's definitely growing to be a dog lover. i can say the same for my parents as well, especially my mom. she, along with my husband, was very vocal about why i shouldn't get a puppy. now i hear she just talked my cousin, who was on the fence about puppy ownership, into getting a puppy based on her experience with bunjee. she loves bunjee and babies him whenever she sees him, and bunjee knows it. he always acts like the spoiled grandchild around her.

so the bottom line ... it's not fair for your bf to give you the ultimatum of choosing between your yorkie or him. it's childish, it's immature, it's stupid. there will be things that come up in the future that requires lifestyle adjustments on both your parts, having children is definitely one of them. he needs to learn to pick up his things and away from pixie's reach. he also needs to understand that pixie is a living breathing part of you. she's not an old shoe that you can discard and leave behind since you're starting a new life with him. he's going to have to learn to live with pixie.

at the sametime, you need to create an enviornment that fosters a successful relationship between your bf and your yorkie. crate and confine pixie to areas of the home where she can be trusted not to chew and destroy. put more work into obedience training and enroll in a class if you've never done one before.

list all the "issues" your bf has with pixie and determine if they are behavioral/obedience problems or common dog behavior. and be very critical! don't casually write things off as "that's just what dogs do", and maintain the status quo. excessive chewing and attention barking are definitely behavioral issues that can be corrected with some time and work. you really have to do your part to making this relationship work, both with your bf and with pixie. it's not fair to your bf if you just expect him to "deal with it" with regards to pixie behavior. especially when the issues can be corrected with proper training. and believe me, a well trained, obedient, and CUTE dog does wonders for the mentality of even non-dog lovers.

good luck!

I had a lot of problems with my oldest Yorkie, Krissy, chewing on any and everything. Than I got her some Dingo bones, which she loves, I put them all around the house and she quit chewing on my things. I also have a 13 week old yorkie, Roscoe, and he's teething bad, but he loves these Dingo bones too and I haven't had any problems with him chewing on my things. (I've had him since he was 8 weeks). Hope this helps.

Crate her when you aren't at home and when you are at home when you see her chewing on something she shouldn't say no firmly and replace it with a toy. My little girl has only chewed on shoes twice when i brought her home because as soon as i saw her chewing it i did this and she has never chewed on anything she shouldn't since. I do spend alot of play time with her at least 1 1/2 per night is dedicated strickly to her play. The rest of the day i work and i will stop every 1 1/2 hours and take her out or just pick her up for a hug and kiss and tell her how much i love her. I know alot of people work outside the home and that isn't feasible. Just try crating her and putting a SAFE TOY in her crate with her so she will have somthing to play with or buy a gate a put her in the mud room or bathroom and leave toys in their with her while you are away.

Please don't get rid of her. There are men out there that would ac cept her behavior and love you enough to work with you and your pet. My boyfriend told me if i got a dog he would leave me WELL GUESS WHAT!!! i got a dog and i am getting my second puppy this weekend. He is 14 weeks and Sassy is almost 2 now and i got her at 5 weeks. For someone to raise so much cane about me getting her he LOVES HER TO DEATH AND HE CALLS HIMSELF DADDY!!! There are good men out there.

Hope this helps and good luck,
Melinda and Sassy

:cheer: for dingo bones, Never had a chewing prob since she was a tiny puppy !!!

I'm no expert on relationship, but my husband and I do have a good one and it's because of some little tricks we've learned. One never get caught up in the moment. He's mad, you're tired, he yells, you cry, no one listens, and nothing gets solved. Take some time to calm down and think about his feelings and concerns and what he actually said. Hopefully he will do the same. Go somewhere nice and private, probably away from the dog would be best because a barking yorkie can make a tense situation worse. Try and get down to what his main problems with the dog are now. How was he with the dog before you lived together? Is his new unfoundness for the dog based upon his stuff getting destroyed or other things? If it's just the barking and his stuff being destroyed hopefully you guys together can find ways to compromise and have every one live happily together. If you try to speak to him calmly and rationally and he still insists you choose and is not willing to compromise then I would suggest you take your dog and look elsewhere. When in a long term relationship a lot of things surfice that you never knew you'd have to deal with. If you love this person unconditionally and they you then you figure out ways to work these things out.

Nah, that's too much work...kick 'em to the curb :D



PS I AM KIDDING....good advice ;)

This is actually Reggies Dad reading the posts.

Keep the Dog, dump the bum.

If he blows up over something that minor... He'll blow up on you next.

Please Listen to me. Please do not EVER let a man push you around or make you do anything you don't want to do. If he's asking you to do something you don't want to do, he's manipulating you. If you do it... He'll always manipulate you.

A relationship is 2 people SHARING a life (Sharing means Both of you involved)

I think his true colors are showing, and you (nor any other woman) needs that in her life.

Just my opinion.

Interesting situation. Here are a few points:

1) You are right - just put everything up high. We can't leave ANYTHING laying around the house or Stomper will get it. We always have to have a perfectly clean house. I guess that is somewhat of a good thing. It is an easy fix - he just needs to be consistent.
2) Beware of someone that gets that mad over a dog. If he can't handle a stress of a little dog running around...what about a baby? Just a thought to consider.
3) You shouldn't have to "choose" between the two. That is not fair of him to do that to you in my opinion.

There are simple changes you can make to help this problem. Here are a few suggestions:

1) Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that giving your dog up is not an option. There are things you can do (together) to prevent these "accidents" from happening. Work something out... You both need to take ownership though of the quick fixes around the house.
2) Your dog is jealous. Stomper used to do that. Be consistent and tell the dog NO! Your dog does need to know that the other human does come first and she can't always get her way. If you are consistent with this, she will stop doing that. Just kiss a lot! That is what my husband and I did. I would make Stomper sit down and call him up when we are done. He has gotten much better. You need to teach the dog a new trick!!! Even use treats. I promise this will work! Be consistent though.
3) Crate the dog more often rather than loving her all the time. She needs to learn she can't have it all. I know that is hard. I find it hard myself. I sometimes close the bathroom or bedroom door while I'm in it and don't let him follow. He still whines, but gets the clue and will eventually walk away. I know it is hard, but it will be good for your little one.

Hopefully you will find one of my bullets above helpful. Best of luck to you. I feel really bad for your situation.

Oh Sweetie, Sorry you have this problem. In my opinion, your dog is not baggage!! If he loves you and wants to be with you then he won't expect you to choose... I hope things works out!!

Lis

Hey Reggie's Dad...if Reggie's mom ever throws you out...you come on up to Virginia, ok? I'll leave a light on for ya ;)

I'll tell you one thing:

your boyfriend will not give you the kind of love that pixie is giving you!

You give him a choice...learn to live with pixie or pack your bags!