I dont really have any advice for you bc when I got both of my girls my hubby was with me already! He has grown to love them so much and he couldnt live without them! I have always been a huge animal lover and I could never be with ANYONE if they didnt love animals as much as I do! I dont care if it was Brad Pitt, if he didnt like animals he would be out the door! I am so sorry that you are having to choose like this it must be really hard on you!

Also tell your bf that if he leaves things in Pixie's reach then it is fair game! Leave one of YOUR candy bars right in his face and see if he doesnt eat it! Its the same kinda thing its temptation and when these little dogs see something that is tempting they are going to do all they can to get to it and chew it to pieces!

Boyfriends come and go, but dogs are very loyal, keep the dog find a new boyfried, it's sounds like he has a temper problem to - to get jelous of a dog?? What is going to happen when you two have kids?

Sorry you're going through this. I don't think you should listen to the advice to just "drop" your fiancee because he's not an animal lover. My husband isn't crazy about my dog either. Winnie has chewed through a few power cords and a few baseboards and my husband hit the roof. You really can't trust your dog even at a year old to be left unattended. Winnie is just now three and we're just starting to give him the freedom to be downstairs by himself without suppervision. I don't think it's unusual for a one year old dog to still be getting into trouble when they're left unattended. Take your fiancee out to a nice restaurant away from the craziness of life, work and your little one and talk it over. Try to take the focus away from the dog by telling him it's really not the dogs fault but yours for leaving him unattended. We all FREAK out now and again and say things we don't really mean. Give it some time and promise your fiancee that you'll be more careful with your furbaby. Even thought my hubby says he doesn't like Winnie who do you think is the first one he "hugs" when he gets back from business trips! :rolleyes: Things will get better...you just have to prove to your fiancee that you can stop these things from happening by keeping your furbaby gated or supervise him a little better. *HUGS* to you and keeping my finger crossed. Take Care

Wow that SUCKS. I would definately ditch the boyfriend. If he is putting a guilt trip on you then it is obvious the it is all about him. If he is not willing to compromise on this matter then he will be controlling you your whole relationship. my hubby is an animal lover but he is not extreme as I am. However he knows how important my Remmy and Chance are to me and would never make me choose between him and them Just as I would never make him choose between something that he loved ( like Golf) and me. :) Maybe your boyfriend just over reacted with Pixie chewing his phone cord and will calm down and rethink what he is asking you to do. If not I would move on to better things.
Chris

I agree with Vee... The charger should not have been left out. (Esp. when you know there is a problem with her chewing) It's almost as though he left it there on purpose to cause this problem.. You can try crating her which is what I do when Daisy cannot be completely in my sight or if I am out of the house. It might take her some getting use to, but the house will be a happier place if she is not chewing things. I hope that you get things resolved, but it's not fair to you to have to chose...

Amen, She started dating him when she got the dog as a gift, he should of said he didn't like the dog when she got it instead of wasting a year of her life with him, i'm with you get rid of him ..... There are a lot of wonderfull guys out there that love pets......

I haven't read the other replies so I don't know if I'm repeating anyone else. My husband bought me my Yorkie, Lynx, as a graduation present. So you'd think he'd be in love! But he gets SO frustrated with Lynx and our relationship. He's made comments that I should leave Lynx with my mother since we are having a child, etc but he knows I'm not giving up my furbaby for nothing! He's just going to have to live with it. I told him, you're just jealous because I don't want to cuddle with you the way I cuddle with Lynx! So he lives with it and goes into phases where he loves and appreciates Lynx's company and then when he complains about his toys, poop and sickiness. Men!

Mari

if the puppy is chewing and you dont want to put it in a crate you can always put it in a baby playpen so at lease shes not completely boxed in, i use to do this when i had my sasha as she use to have fits and as the sides are soft she wouldnt hurt her self if she had one when i was out. she quite liked the playpen think she saw it as a big comfortable bed. now as for the boyfriend sounds to me if hes jealous and if he is jealous of a dog what will he be like if you have kids? its not fair him asking you to chose between them hes a grown man for gods sake, if he loves you he would not ask you to do something that he knows will hurt you so much,and this could be the start of him trying to control you,whats next? he tells you he dont like your friends,family,so you have to choose between him or them? this is just my opinion so i hope it dont upset you but if i was you id tell him he has to choose, if he loves you and wants to be with you then he has to except the dog,if he then leaves you all cos of a dog that chews things he never really cared about you in the first place and he dont deserve you hun.if he says sorry and excepts the dog then try and get him and the dog closer by getting him to do things with the dog on there own,and show your boyfriend that you love him and when he spends time with the dog it makes you happy and love him even more. good luck

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. When you love your Pixie and your BF, how can he make you choose. I would never, ever give up my babies. It really sounds like you need to think things through before marrying this man. It sounds like he could be testing the water as far as how much can he control you. Take your time, long before you marry. Having someone nag for you to do their bidding will get old and although you can't see it now, you may get so tired of it, you'll get him to the curb. Best of luck to you. Remember, time is on your side!!!

im sorry :( but i would never leave my baby for anybody. but thats jmo.

Yikes. I would never plan a future with anyone who is intolerant of a puppy or jealous. What happens when bigger, more serious problems arise in your future marriage? Is he going to give ultimatums and pout?

at the risk of getting bash myself...I do believe the girl is at fault here.

B4 you ladies jump down my throat…let me just say that he is definitely wrong for making her choose. But I can understand why he is getting so upset.

It seems like her yorkie is not trained enough yet to be free roaming around the house. And instead of preventing that she wants the boyfriend to put everything up and away from the yorkies reach. That’s not how you solve a problem or is it a solution. It should be try to put everything out of reach but the yorkie need to be crated/xpen when it can’t be watched.

I don’t think he hates the yorkie but she is breeding an environment where he isn’t allowed to enjoy the yorkie and putting the yorkie above his needs.

In her version of the story...she defends the yorkie instead of her boyfriend's things. That would piss me off too.

Oh man... he sure put you against the wall on this one. I could NOT, NOT, NOT give up my furbaby/ies because my BF or Hubby wanted me to choose. If he's not an animal lover then minor things are a BIG deal to him. The only reason I would find a home for my furbaby would be because of serious problems with the dog that cannot be corrected even after all attempts have been made and it was still really painful for me to do that. Chewing,barking is going to happen. I keep two toy boxes filled with tons of toys! Every kind of chew toy I see , I buy it.There must be like 50+ toys here.Cookie is not a chewer but Lola is(still a puppy) . She has not damaged anything of ours because I keep the floor spotless with no shoes,remotes etc.... For some reason she shows no interest in cords for now. I agree with some of the posts saying to get a xpen. I found one at Sears that cost $47 ,it's actually for kids but it says it can also be used for dogs. How would he feel and act if you no longer had Pixie? I can imagine you would be totally depressed and so hurt.How could he be happy with you like that??? He has to meet you halfway on this. Tell him that you understand about the chewing and are WILLING to compromise and get a pen to keep her in while you guys are away so she doesnt get into chewing stuff that's not hers. If he just wants to stick to his ultimatum (sp?) of getting rid of Pixie then I would choose to let him go . If he truly ,truly loves you then he can accept Pixie if he wants to.

Sorry for the long post!
GEnie,Cookie & Lola

I do agree that she should be making every effort to train her baby. And teach him not to do these things. And I would never make my husband FEEL seond fiddle to my furbabies. I don't mind my husband playing Golf just as long as he does not make me feel that Golf is more important than me. Its a balance. However S*&! happens and the boyfriend has to understand that dogs chew things. Believe me I don't like it when my boys get into stuff but have come to learn that when this happens usually it is my fault for not watching or not putting them in an area if I can't watch them.

Wow, that is tough. I'm afraid I've always based who I've dated on my dogs' opinions. If my dog, or my parent's dogs didn't like a guy; well he didn't pass the test. Lol, coming to think of it I think I listened to the animals far more than my parents. . . hmmm

Sorry, back on subject. Honestly if he loves you then he should respect what you love, and try and make it work. In my opinion he should be bending over backwards to get your doggie to like and trust him; sounds like he could care less. I have to agree that maturity is involved here; no secure, mature man would make someone choose between their dog and him. It would be one thing if the dog was dangerous, and prone to bite and hurt people. That would be more of a safety issue than anything else.

And I wonder how he'll be once kids are along -- you think it's hard to puppy proof a house; it's nothing compared to baby proofing. My kids did and still do get into everything!!! I always consider before I put something down or away whether it needs to be out of reach or locked away as a danger just in case one of my children get curious. BTW, children break a lot of stuff also, Jacob, my 6 yr old son, dropped my cell phone in a cup of water a couple weeks ago. . .

We never leave anything on the floor; and if we forget and do. . . well rather than getting angry with one of our two puppies (although they do get scolded, so they know it's wrong) I get more angry with myself. My Rhapsody chewed up the data wire to my Ipod last week (and let me tell you, those wires aren't cheap), although she got in trouble, the fault was with me for not realizing it was dangling within her reach. . .

So just think; yeah you could get rid of your dog, but I have a feeling it won't stop there. I feel that if he truly loves you; he should make every possible effort to find a solution that doesn't force you to give up something you love.

Good luck!