Grieving Yorkie
 

My poor Dudley ( 2 1/2 years old) and his little brother (5 months old little poodle) are having a really hard time. My husband died Feb. 24th and they just can't seem to accept that Dad isn't coming home. They sit at the door and watch, jump up every night to see where Dad is at bedtime, and lay around and look sad. I am trying to spend more time with them and holding them close to comfort them, but it seems like they just can't come to grips with it all. Of course I'm am not the bravest person at this time, He was my soulmate and I miss him too. Any ideas how I can help these little guys? :(

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. I think thry have to have time to grieve as well. Time will help.

I am so sorry for you loss. When my Mom's husband passed, their mini-pin (Tessa) went through the same thing. I'm sorry, I don't have any brilliant ideas to help you or your baby's through this tough time, but I do know Tessa quit eating and became very sick. Just something to keep in mind and watch for. Lots of time and lots of love, that's all you can do right now to help them. :cry:

I'm so sorry to read of the death of your husband! How hard that must be on all of you! Did he have any special rituals with the doggies, like a special cuddle time or game or snack? If he did, maybe you can keep the tradition going and it will provide a bit of comfort for all of you!

:hug:

Julie

Sorry for your loss. Maybe if you have a t-shirt or something the dogs can cuddle with your husband's scent it will help them.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I also would suggest maybe a shirt or something for the dogs thathave your hubby's scent on them. Other than that, I don't know. I know our little ones do grieve over beloved owners just as we do.

AWW thats so sad ..guess time is the only thing that will help ..that and endless love .

so sorry
 

My heart really aches for you at this time.I can hardly see to write this through my tears.It must be hard enough for you let alone trying to comfort your fur kids,the only advice I would say is talk to an animal behaviourist if you are worried as they might be able to give you some advice on how to comfort them, but most of all take care of you.

Oh you poor thing. I am so sorry that you've lost your husband. I'm glad you have your babies to help you through this time. They will be ok, especially with you there to help each other. What did they do with your husband? Can you do the same things? I'm not sure what else to suggest, only time heals. I'll keep you in my prayers.

I am so sorry to hear you lost your husband...Please accept my condolences and how hard this time must be for you and then to worry about your little guys .... :( I wish I could help too but I did like the idea of putting down something of his for them to smell...I don't know what to say except how sorry I am....I hope you all get thru this hard time and each day will bring you more and more peace....

I am so very sorry for your loss. I was going to suggest what scrapindee just said, I think it will help them. I know how difficult a time this is for you, my prayers for God to give you comfort in your loss. What a caring lady you are I am sure they will be ok in time.
Sincerely, Patti and Jack ~~Baby Blessing~~

How very sad...
 

I too am so sorry for the loss of your soul mate. My hubby and I were having one of those frank discussions today about what I need to do if he passes before I do, and it dissolved me into tears. He is my soul mate, and I have no idea what I would do... therefore I grieve for you upon the loss of the love of your life. :(

Your pups will need time to grieve, just as you do. Time does heal all wounds, though at this time you probably feel yours will never truly heal, but will hurt a bit less as time goes by.

I wish you all the best. Take care, and please give those pups some hugs from me.

I'm so very sorry to hear about the passing of your husband and Dudley and brother's dad. That is so incredibly sad. :cry: And it is probably doubly sad for the pups because they don't understand why he hasn't returned. I suggest trying to keep them distracted at their most worrisome times, perhaps with a walk or a trip to the park. The change in routine would probably be good for you as well. Please let us know if we can be of any help to you in these difficult times. :hug:

Your note was so beautiful and how amazing that you can move beyond your own grief and realize your two little furballs miss him also. Your little ones are so lucky to have you and all you can do is hold them and love them. I too would put a shirt or robe down for them to lay on and in time their hearts will heal as will yours. I also know there will be mornings that you won't want to get up but I can tell you love your two dogs to much to stay in bed. The three of you will heal together. You and your little ones will be in my thoughts.

I too am sorry for your loss. Grief is something you have to allow your pups and yourself to experience before you can get on with some semblance of a normal life. It IS difficult, and you will find that some of your human friends will feel uncomfortable being around you because they are trying to pretend things are normal. THINGS ARE NOT NORMAL for you. You and your little ones are dealing with the most difficult of life's challenges--it should be expected that you will be sad and depressed. Don't be anxious about it--just experience it.

Your little Yorkies will take many of their cues from you. I am so glad you have them to love and to love you back. I am sure they will make your grieving easier. They will get back to their normal routine fairly soon, I feel reasonably certain of that.

I read your post with a heavy heart. I am so sorry for you losing your soul mate. So sorry for the pups too! I have no advice, and I guess grieving isn't something one get's over too fast...it takes time. In the meantime, you and your pups take comfort in each other. My heart goes out to you and your pups. *HUGGGGGGGGGGG*

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Hold those furbabies close and it will help you both!!!!! They are lucky to have you. :aimeeyork

I am to sorry to hear about the passing of your husband. May the days ahead bring you some sort of peace and healing... God Bless

Thank you all
 

for the wonderful words of comfort. I put my husbands pajamas on the bed and now they will stay up there and sleep. I appreciate all of you that answered with suggestions. My puppies are my best friends now and you have helped me to comfort them.

My heart goes out to you and your little ones. I am glad that you have them to snuggle up with and hold on to at night.

Im soooo sorry to hear of your loss, poor lil ones its hard on them too..so sad, i pray that God gives u all strength...sending a big hug to u all((HUG)))
Baby Gene and momma

I am SO sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I cannot even begin to know how you feel right now. But you have shown such courage to get beyond your own grief to worry so much about your babies. The three of you are so lucky to have each other and this will be what gets you all thru this hard time. Each day will be different I am sure. There will be good days and there will be bad days...just take each day as it comes, deal with that day and don't worry about yesterday or think of what tomorrow will bring. May God Bless and keep you and your little ones...wish there was more we could do to help.

I'm so sorry for your loss and now your pups grieving also :( I liked the idea of letting them sleep on something that belonged to your hubby like a sweatshirt or tshirt. I know dogs can sense when you are sad or sick. Only time will help. All I can say is love and comfort them and they will also do the same in return to you.

((hugs))

Genie

I have some differing opinions than some of the members. The longer their lives revolve around the familiar smells, sounds and smells, they are gonna have trouble moving on. The pj's on the bed are good but I would start putting different beds on top of the jammies and add layers each night til the smell is lessened. Then, after a week or two (or how ever many it takes) Wash the jammies a couple of times. Then put them back up on the bed -they will be less interested in them, I think. Also, DO NOT do things that you and hubby or just hubby did with them for a good while. Another reminder. This will be controversial but here goes-keep them away from his clothing andpillows..anything that has the strongest odor of him on them. Start new habits. Walk in different places. Replace daddy's toys that he played with them. Move the furniture around in the rooms where he spent the most time with them. Use Febreeze or similar to help dissipate his odor..Get rid of anything of his that YOU are ready to let go. Air out the house; vacuum with a deodorizer in the vacuum bag. Anything to challenge their senses..
One of the biggest issues is you. How sad you must be! Grieving for him and helping the babies to get thru theirs. But, please try and I do mean TRY, cause you don't feel upbeat, to act a little happy and use a cheery voice with them. And, distract them at the times when dad would come home-they are children and they will make it thru this, as will you, but it will not be easy. However, if you make just 1 baby step a day, you are healing. Then, your babies can do the same. They really will bounce back quicker with distractions and changes in routine and re-arranging anything that you can. There are holistic practitioners and books that can help you help them.
Meanwhile, we are here for you and will do what when we can..just ask> Bless you and your grieving babies.
Sorry about the book!

Dudleys MOM
 

Hi, My name is Lynn and Penny is my Yorkie....

I am in San Diego also, and read your post. I am so very sorry to hear about your husband, my heart goes out to you.
I see you manage an Rv park. Well we are full time RVers and I would love to get together with you and maybe have a yorkie-poodle day. I would love to meet you and get our pets together maybe that would help them also. I want to offer my shoulder to lean on. I truely would love to get together with you . Let me know!!!
:aimeeyork
I will be praying that the lord comforts you and your babies....

A very well said post and I couldnt of put it better. You are in my thoughts today.

Oh my..poor babies. They are picking up on your feelings of grief too...it will probably just take some time and when your heart lightens and brightens some so will theirs. Godspeed to all of you and I will remember you in my prayers.

I am sorry for your loss. I know this must be a very hard time for you and your babies. I know you all will get through this, but it will take time. I will be keeping you in my prayers and hoping you and your babies get through this in good time. :animal-pa

I'm so sorry for you loss. My dad's now my mom's yorkiepoo went through the same thing after my dad died. It took her a few months to go through the grieving process. Now she is my mom's shadow and my mom wouldn't have it any other way. It just takes time. I wish I had some good advice to help you and them through your grief.

:cry: I am sorry to hear your lost, I think what you are doing is great but I find that animals grieve different from humans. They probably just need more time to grieve and everything should be ok. I wish you all the best and take care. Keep us posted.

:aimeeyork Babe Girl * :girl: Mommy