Worried something could happen
 

Hi everyone! Ok, so for the last several days I've been so very worried about our baby, Oli. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her, and she's not sick. But for some reason I'm wrought with worry. I worry every time she goes potty, I worry she will fall off the bed and get hurt, I worry she may develop a sickness, I worry someone will steal her, etc, etc, etc.

I have NO clue what's brought this on. Granted, I'm a semi-worrier anyway, but never like this. I've even contemplated getting another Yorkie in case something were to happen to her which is CRAZY and even makes me sad just thinking about it.

Anyone else experienced feelings of unease like this? And, does anyone have suggestions on overcoming them?

Thanks in advance!

It's b/c you love her SO MUCH! I'm a bit of a worrier as well... For a while, I couldn't even stand the thought of leaving them alone to go to the store which would only be 30 min or so...

I know it'll be hard but you'll have to "convince" yourself that everything's going to be okay. That you're taking all precautions possible. One of the reason I visit this site is b/c it keeps me informed. And there are so many great members that's always here for moral support!

Just take it one day at a time. Keep telling yourself that your Oli is safe and happy. :) Another way to look at is that it's better you enjoy your time with her giving her happy memories instead of wasting that precious time worrying away.

You're so right! I do love her so much, I just don't know what I'd do without her. I lost my first Yorkie due to a very sudden death - which may be where some of this comes from, unconsciously in a way.
You're right, I just need to tell myself it will be ok and spend every moment I can with her. I know my worry won't help things and only distracts from the present. It's just been so difficult lately. Thank you for your words of wisdom!

The worry about falling off the bed is a legitimate worry....dont leave her on your bed unattended....she will walk right off the side of the bed and hurt herself! That stealing thing is also a legit worry! That will happen if anyone is given half a chance....dont let strangers hold her, dont let her sit in a shopping cart unattended/unsecured.....dont leave her unattended in your back yard, even if it is fenced in.....you have very valid concerns and I am thrilled you have thought of them....be prepared for how you will handle/correct/prevent/address each of your concerns! Just remember....if YOU thought of it, your Yorkie will also think of it!

Oh she is never, ever unattended on our bed or anywhere else dangerous. Whether that be on the bed or elsewhere. She is literally everywhere I am at all times. When she goes potty she's secured on her harness and leash. When she's in the car she's secured in her car seat. When we shop, she's securely hooked in her stroller. It's so funny you mention not letting strangers hold her because I have had to tell people no before. And I'm sure I've told some nice folks no, but I can't risk it. It's weird though, I've never asked a stranger to hold their fur baby. So maybe there's something to it!

I'd never dream of leaving her outside alone. Oh goodness that makes me panic just thinking about it. I can't imagine anyone leaving their little one outside alone. That's a good way to get lost, stolen, very badly hurt, or mauled by another animal (even if fenced).

And when I'm away from her (which is not often at all) I have a doggie cam so I can see her on my phone :) & she is in a crate during those instances for her safety. I'm sure there's things I've not thought of, and those worry me too.

Do you have steps/ramp for her to get on the couch (if she's allowed)? That was one of my concerns for little Zoey. I'm bit worried she'll wear out her joints as she ages with all the jumping on/off the couch/bed. I ended up lowering my bed and also keeping the ramp. The couch has a low part where I don't think it'd be a problem but I might add a small ramp there as well.

There's something about these little loves that just seem to ratchet everything up times about 100. I worry, too; and the least little change in Piper causes me huge anxiety, but I agree with Magnus to try to keep things in perspective and enjoy every minute with Oli!

You're not alone! I even panic when my vet tech holds my newest pup, Dominique Faith. The tech is in love with her! I'm glad but I'm like give me my baby back. For 2 or 3 days after her vet visit I can smell the
techs perfume on her. That's how much she loves on her. Smells good! I'll have to ask her what she uses. I get laughed at I'm sure but I take potty pads with me on vet visits so my baby doesn't touch anything. I pulled away from a lady who wanted to pet her on her last visit without even thinking. I must of looked like a snob but I don't care. I even stand over her with my arms out when my husband holds her. I could go on and on...It's crazy what love can do but in my mind it's all legit!

There have been a few recent tragedies that have sensitized my emotions and yeah, I have been feeling a similar anxiety with my Monty. Sometimes it will zing through me - fear of something happening to him - and I simply acknowledge it as a phenomenon that is supposed to happen when I love something so very much.

I noticed that you posted your anxiety very shortly after Kerryn915 shared her news about her little one's tragic passing. Perhaps that has tweaked your fears too?

Having an anxiety disorder myself (PTSD), I am familiar with these seemingly absurd or "wrong sized" fears zipping through my life and when they do I utilize the energy to do a quick scan through my world and see what safety improvements I can make.

It will settle ... nod nod. Thinking of you because it certainly is not fun. Yep.

Thank you so much! I do agree that hearing of tragedies and accidents does heighten my fears. I often find myself running through various possibilities of injury or accident. I wish I didn't have them so often, so I need to work on this and determine some things I can do to focus my thoughts. Thank you for sharing your feelings as well 💜 :)

LOL that's too funny! I don't blame you though, I don't let mine walk in certain areas either. So much can get into them through their pads (or so I think). Oh I'm the same way! I get major anxiety when it's time for a checkup or vaccines. I always worry the vet will discover some illness or sickness. So I have to mentally prepare myself before we go. It's nuts! I'm glad I'm not the only one who has similar feelings :)

She is allowed, but I don't have a ramp or stairs. Only because she cannot jump and I have to lift her onto the higher places like the sofa. It's not very tall, but I think it may be a good idea to get a ramp just to give her that option should she all of a sudden decide one day she wants to try something different. I really need to anyway, our little senior Chihuahua girl would also appreciate it. I've always wanted one, I guess I just put it on my to-do list which never got done.

It's so nice to hear from those who have similar thoughts and feelings! And having moral support is unbelievably helpful, which is one reason I love YT. I'm going to work on trying not to worry so much and put that energy into Oli, and loving her. Which is very easy to do :) I just have to find that medium where I'm aware and alert, but not let it take over in my daily life. Thank you!

You're not alone in your worry...I do worry a lot about mine too, and sometimes it's not totally rational, ya know? But I worry nonetheless. They're just SO precious to me, and I couldn't bear it if something happened. It's like they're walking around w/ my heart :love:.

It's like they're walking around w/ my heart :love:.
Beautifully said and oh-so-true!

I think it's good to worry as well. It means you're thinking of all possible mishaps and are more alert/aware to avoid them. You just never know what could happen!

Last night I was walking my little weasels and I saw a "lost dog" posting. Domo the chi/terrier/others mix was apparently last seen outside our neighborhood liquor store (tons of pedestrian traffic and dog-owners around here).

It made me so sad to read that the owner is offering $3000 no questions asked. For such a large reward, I wish they considered that there are malicious people out there who steal dogs left outside in public and it wouldn't be worth the risk to lose him. Or, if I give mankind the benefit of the doubt, dogs can sometimes get loose and run away.

:( Poor poor little Domo away from home... :(

It is so nice that your Yorkie is so loved!:) I also keep track of where Bailey is... all of the time. These small darlings can get into mischief and it wouldn't take much to ingest something and get into trouble with their small bodies. Case and point - I had to visit a loved one in another province a couple of years ago and my daughter was home with him. She is around 25yo and I warned her about leaving her purse on the floor... and open:( I got a phone call saying that everything is alright now, but she had to take him for an emergency vet appointment because he got into her purse and ate 3 birth control pills.:eek: An expensive lesson for sure... $450! She now keeps her purse out of his paws reach! I don't wish to alarm you with this example, just to let you know that it is commended that you are very mindful of your precious Oli. With support here, I truly hope that you know that you are not alone and that you are able to enjoy your baby w/out constantly stressing about a worst case scenario. Being vigilant is a good thing, as you never know what could happen, but I hope that you are able to enjoy your time in the here and now with Oli.

I feel the same way! Suffered a loss of a family member recently, so I got my puppy to comfort me. I find myself constantly running through horrible scenarios of things happening to him. I just have to take the best care I can of him and realize that nobody can have perfect control over everything.

So true and beautifully said. It's so hard not to worry, I truly don't know who is worse me or my husband. Honestly, Lexi has us beyond wrapped around her paw. We know her so well, we are crazy people when she is not herself. I will say she knows how to play us sometimes too...:D

I relate to this. I'm a huge worrier. I worry mainly about loose dogs in my neighborhood. This is a huge fear because a pit bull got loose 2 summers ago and it bit my mom in my driveway. The day before, it started running down the street at me and my maltipoo. I grabbed my dog and hurled a huge planter at it and managed to get in the house.
This was before I got my Yorkie Jake.

Now I worry about loose dogs and I worry about Jake because he's always sick with tummy issues. He has colitis and all his blood work is fine and he's healthy and playful otherwise, but I still worry he will never be 100%
I worry that I'm paying too much attention to his issues and neglecting my maltipoo.

I basically have to let it go and give it up to God. I tell myself I have to be strong for them because they are totally dependent on me, and I'm doing the best I can for them, and I'm sure you are too.
You sound like a very concerned loving mommy.

There's actually a video called 'How to stop worrying' on YouTube. It's by Actualized.Org and it helped me, you could look that up. (Sorry I don't know how to post links.)