Yep that is it for sure and as a dog love it's hard for me to see those and I cry for those dogs and hurt for them. It's upsetting.

Effective communication
 

Some people think with logic and some think with feelings and neither way is better - just different.


I, for example, am a logic person. I understand things and communicate that understanding via logic which is not always construed as "nice" to a feeling person because truth is often blunt. In my opinion, one should adapt their feelings towards truth - not the other way around.


Yet, social intelligence is important especially on a forum where all sorts of personalities converge. What good is logic without the ability to express it so that it can be shared with and learned by others? So, I have to ensure that I try very hard to come across as understanding AND logical. I must understand that not everything is logical and feelings can be the most illogical of all things. However, without the compassion of a feeling person, my logical statements would not always be well tolerated.


Albert Einstein said, "Gravitation is not responsible for falling in love."


We all need each other to grow. So, LOGICIANS, if you state a fact, try to do so compassionately. FEELERS, if someone states a fact, try to see it as good intent rather than an attack on your character.


Give and take is key to effective communication.


I think someone stated in an earlier post that we all care about the dogs. That's the thing to remember. We can learn from each other so that our dogs benefit from our knowledge and our love.


:cheers: Drinks on me.

*LOVE* this post - so insightful!

Yep, I totally agree! :)

SirTeddykins...... cheers to you! :thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:

That was the most amazing post of this entire thread. It should be a sticky note, right up on the front page.

Thank you for your superlative analogy of communication that we can all benefit from understanding, especially in internet discussions.

Good point sir teddykins

Yt needs a love button for posts like this! Empathy goes a long way!

Great post! Yes, it should be a sticky note so we can refer to it often. The way I like to think is...speak to others with the same respect that you would want others to give to your mother or daughter.

Simply brilliant insight. We all communicate so differently and there is no one size fits all package. I know I am one of those feelers and sometimes my heart will fight with my head but I will follow my heart each and every time. People come to this forum for support, advice, and valuable information. People that give that advice are valued to me but I am not going to take that advice each and every time. I hope that individual people can see that there are dozens of others giving advice also and sometimes that advice conflicts with each other. It is my job to take the information as a whole and then make the most informed and best decision for me and my dog. Sometimes I will make mistakes. I can tell you right now that I made plenty of those on my human kids and trust me their lives and little psyche's were at just as much risk as my little furbabies. I hope and trust that the members of yt realize that each of us is here because we adore these furbabies and are really doing the best we can. That is how I choose to view each member and try to keep that thought in mind when making a post. I know when I am lectured and preached to a wall or a barrier is automatically put up. I hope this post doesn't offend; just sharing my thoughts and feelings on the subject.

I will respect whatever decision you make as life is too short to spend it feeling attacked but as a complete newbie I just want you to know I have always loved reading your posts and value your input as much as everyone else's. Diversity in thoughts is what makes this site so valuable. I need to see all opinions and then make my own judgements.

I agree with you, if we only hear our own opinion repeated over and over, there's no chance of any new learning. Sometimes the argument for the opposite side can even strengthen our own belief system or add another dimension to it.

I believe as many have said in this post..there are many people-numbers unknown, that no longer post , because of the negative interaction.

They may read, but they will not comment any more..

I think that after a long day at work getting beat up, who wants to deal with
more of the same?

But the education and help is certainly invaluable.

AZkaty

I've grown to dread this thread.

I stay out of any medical threads because, I'm not qualified, have nothing constructive to offer. LOL I also, because of the response I received here, would never ask a medical/dental question unless I wanted only a SECOND opinion to what I already knew from other sources.

No secret, I only hold my grudge against the one. The others are merely followers. I have chosen to simply ignore whatever negativity that the followers displayed and I do comment on some of their threads.

There are a lot of good people here. We can post nearly anything. I appreciated the comments while working through the choices for dog food fairly recently... Much better than this other forum all about dog food. I was disappointed in the direction the nutritionist thread went. Once the one posted there, it was doomed! LOL

My main thoughts about YT are there is lots of room here for nearly any discussion you would like to hold. Stick around, post it up, just because someone disagrees with you is no reason to leave.

I seriously have to know why you continue to post posts like this? How many have been deleted now? Is it just like ohhhh I have gone to long with out bringing it up? Let it go.

Just remember that ONE is the ONE AND ONLY and we love her....there is no one like the ONE and the rest of us are grateful for the ONE AND ONLY...