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Would you do this? DH was at a store the other day and noticed Mikki's former owner worked there. He didn't say anything to her. But it got me thinking. When I got Mikki she kept saying she wanted her to have a good home. That's why she offered to sell her to me for less money than she was asking. I promised her I would give Mikki a good home. So here are my questions 1. Would you go up to her and tell her how well Mikki is doing? 2. Would you show her pictures? Or take Mikki in? 3. Or would you just pretend you didn't see her? She told me she was getting rid of Mikki because she didn't spend enough time with her. But she told DH the boyfriend didn't like Mikki. So I think she loved her enough to rehome her but wasn't educated enough about Yorkies to have her fixed and stuff. I don't know. What do you think? What would you do? I don't want to upset her. Just want to reassure her that Mikki ended up doing just fine. :) |
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well, in my experience when i adopted my 7 month shih tzu from a family member of the previous owner ( who had passed away ), i did contact her several times to let her know how kaiah (original name lily) was adjusting. when i met with her she acted like she really cared for the dog but didnt really want her. i never did hear from her again... so i guess my answer would be not to bother and make contact , if i were in that situation again... |
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We had to rehome our dog a few 5 years ago because we lost our house and had to move quickly . Easiest place to find was a small non pet home. It was a very hard decision and told the family we would like to stay in contact or if they could no longer keep her we would take her back. We tried to call and they never responded. Its hard not knowing what happened. Is she happy, safe, well taken care of. If anything just a short conversation to let the previous owner know she is OK. What the previous owner does with that or feels is on them. If they even care about her or not at least u could close that chapter. |
Nah Mikki is yours. She got RID of her, for whatever reason. Would you get RID of her? Heck no. |
I might go up to her in the store, and maybe even share a picture if she seemed interested..... but I would not take Mikki in to see her. That might set her right back (progress wise) to where she was a year ago :eek: Mikki might be confused and scared and anxious ~ or she could be perfectly fine. I'm not sure I would take the chance :hug: |
With my two, I contacted the previous owners after the pups had adjusted. With Khloe's mom, I have her on my Facebook and she gets to see pictures of her all the time. We have even visited her in Portland several times. She however, was very upset to have to rehome Khloe and loves her to death. I would take Mikki in and tell her old owner about how she is doing. I think she would appreciate it. |
It is a very painful decision to rehome a dog. Whatever her reasons were, the previous owner cared enough to rehome her. Maybe she hasn't contacted you because it is too painful? I wouldn't contact her, though. |
I actually think the previous owner would like to know what happened to her baby, if she was doing well...I would not takle the pup to see her, but I would talk to her and let her know the baby is doing very well, is very much loved, and she certainly is apppreciated for allowing you the opportunity to provide her beloved baby a wonderful loving home.No harm, no foul if she has moved on or does not care...and if she does still think of her little girl often, you have done a kind thing! |
I would talk to the woman and bring a picture, show her how well Mikki is doing, but I would not bring Mikki for fear it would upset and confuse Mikki. |
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If it were me, I would say hi & let her know how Mikki is doing & how glad you are to have her. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt that she'd want to know her former dog is doing well in her new home. But, I wouldn't actually take Mikki to see her in person. |
you could try to talk to her once what could it hurt? if she didnt seem interested you dont have to go back. and you could take a picture in to let her see at first. |
I would not take the dog to see her. Maybe I would approach her and see how she reacted to conversation about Mikki. Not knowing the person very well I would want to be very careful about her attitude and current situation. I just don't understand how someone could re home a pet and not ask for updates about it. I don't know how painful it was for her to part with Mikki. Maybe it is easier for her not to talk about it or maybe it was just not that big a deal for her. I guess you would have a better idea about that. |
She's probably love to know how she's doing. When I had to rehome Teddy after having her only 9 weeks and Jilly was starving herself & chewing her fur off in protest of our having another dog, her new mommie usually called once a year to let me know how she was doing for 8 or 9 years. I really appreciated it. |
I would let her know how Mikki is doing and share pictures with her. I am of the opinion that if you took Mikki to see her it woud confuse her. My Little Luci that I took in as rehome at the end of May, I have stayed in touch with her owner if he text's me and I answer back and I have also sent him pictures of her. But I would not want to upset Luci by taking her to see him. Luci has adjusted really well here and I think it would really confuse her. |
I would think that having to rehome her had to be so hard, how could it not be? We don't know how she handled it after she was gone, people handle things differently. I'm not sure what I would do but it just made me think about how hard it had to be. |
I would mention to her how well she has adjusted and that you love her very much! My little one is almost 3 years old, bought as a puppy, and his breeder and I still keep in touch. She loves to hear about how well he is doing, etc... |
Has she contacted you asking about Mikki? I think I would show her pics, even if she never did care about Mikki I dont believe that would hurt. If she did care I am sure she would love to see them:) |
Rhonda I wouldn't make a trip into the store to talk to Mikki's former owner, but if I was there and she was working I would tell her how much you love Mikki and how good she is doing. I agree with several others..It would be too confusing for Mikki to take her to see the lady. |
Rhonda.. I would say Hello, tell her How mikki is.. maybe share pictures. I would not take Mikki because it could be very painful for the girl and for Mikki. We don't really know what is in the girls heart, she tried to do what was best by rehoming Mikki to you. If it is painful for her it would be nice to let her know it was a good thing to rehome her but not rub salt into the wounds. |
I have decided to not take Mikki with me. I'm still not sure I should go at all. But I do think, after reading all your comments, that taking Mikki in would not be a good idea. Maybe I should go there and see if she recognizes me? Then if she does, I could bring up Mikki and show pictures. But I do agree taking her would not be a good idea. Thanks so much for the suggestions! |
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You'll make the right decision though, so don't stress about it:) |
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I think that is a good plan. |
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I love hearing from the folks that have my puppies and dogs. And to see pictures. Once in awhile I run into them at the groomers, and the dogs come running into my arms without any prompting from me, lol. I think in your situation, tell the former owner how much the dog means to you and how well she is doing. She'll appreciate it. |
I am still in touch with the girl I got Charlie from I send her pictures and keep her updated on Charlies health She had a store close to my home for awhile with clothes and grooming and such and we went to visit quite often, she really likes to hear from me to know how Charlie is doing. |
Coco's first mommy lives upstairs from me and we see her often or she'll come to visit occasionally. Frankly I get jealous when Coco greets her with such excitement - which Coco does with all her human friends - but this one gets my nose a little out of joint! I know - I need help! LOL :D |
to me the answer is simple, it depends on how the rehoming was done and what happened right afterwards. If the original owner did not seem interested in knowing what happend to Mikki or ask to keep in touch or get updates then why bother. I am glad you have decided not to bring Mikki in because if she remembers her first owner it might make her very nervous that she will be going back to her. Also if you do let the old owner see you and or pictures of Mikki what if she says "Oh I would love to see her, bla bla bla", then what will you do, you will have to say no and give a reason why. My thoughts are if she left her with you and did not express interest in seeing her again, don't open a can of worms, leave well enough alone. You need to only think about Mikki, not the old owner. LOL I know if I did the great job you did with Mikki I would sort of want to flaunt it, like look at my pretty girl now see how happy and healthy she is with me, but unless you want to take the risk that she asks to see Mikki I would stay far far away. |
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