OK.....no "mean comments", no bashing, no criticism.....just a mature, rational approach, just facts to address your request for advice: Did you read any material at all before this purchase, ESPECIALLY in light of your experiencs with your first puppy? I am curious what in the world led you to this particular breed? Yorkies are essentially like children and want to be every much as integrated into your life as a child would be! Being a responsible pet owner involves committment to that pet. That goes with any breed....but Yorkies are not like any other breed. They MUST have an owner that is as completely devoted and loyal to them, as they are to their owner. That does require a sense of responsibility and accountability to that baby....that little soul deserves NO LESS than an owner that at the very least, thinks of him in the very same thought and breath as you think of yourself. Yorkies do not thrive if they are not adored and included in the new owners life, as an INTRICATE AND IMPORTANT part of the family. Behavioral issues and separation anxiety behavior will evolve in what was a perfectly well adjusted little dog! My advise to you or anyone with this same sense of overwhelming constraints on your " unbridled, young, carefree, spontaneous, lifestyle", would be to allow that baby to go back to the breeder, so he can be placed with someone that does put him and his needs above their own. That will allow this beautiful baby, who seems so very well adjusted and with very few of the generally accepted and expected "puppy behavioral faults", to blossom and grow into a well adjusted, well socialized, loving, devoted, loyal, involved and included, family member. This baby does not deserve to be short changed. I just dont think you are at a place in your life where you are ready to give that total committment to ANY other soul, be it mate, child, or pet. No bashing or critisizing....just my personal feelings and advise...if I was the breeder, and it was my baby, I would want that baby back, so he could be placed where he would get 100% committment from a new owner. But I do want to add....do some research on different breeds before you choose another puppy. Wait until you actually feel in your heart that you are ready to accept another life into your own realm of existance, so that you do not have the resentment you feel now ie., your coming and going unrestrained by the wants or needs of another living thing is more of an inconvenience than a joy....When the wants and needs and demands of a puppy surpasses your own desires, then you are ready to include a puppy into your lifestyle. I am sorry if you feel I have beat you up on this...as a breeder, and as someone that is completely devoted to this breed and responsible for any baby that is ever brought into this world by what I do as a breeder, I will ALWAYS come down on the side of the puppy.....the puppy has my thoughts and concerns for what is best for the puppy, first and foremost, above all else. You are an adult, you are a human, you are a thinking, reasoning entity, completly capable of independence and not relying on another human being....that puppy is not that fortunate. That baby was dependent on the breeder to select the very best life circumstance and forever home to send that baby into. In the event THAT fails, it is on YOUR conscience to do what is best for that baby.

Thank you to everyone bringing positivity my way. Just the fact of not looking at him as a child anymore....I feel better already:)

I think every one feels overwhelmed after they get a puppy. I know I had a moment of "what did I do??!" But I can honestly say that I fell in love with him the moment I brought him home - we had a connection.

Yes my life would probably be easier in a lot of ways without him, but he makes up for it in what he gives me. To be honest, my life would be so boring without him. He is my partner in crime.

If you feel you can't give this pup a good home, then give him back now. Don't wait until he becomes attached to you and then make him leave. :( That would be very unfair.

Also, not everyone is going to feel an instant connection with a new puppy. Give it time. I've heard of some people that could barely stand their puppy until they reached 6 months old or so. They loved them, but didn't have that connection...

So give it time, or if you KNOW it's not going to work out, send him back now.

I never said I can't give him a good home. I love this little guy, he is so sweet....he is fine. It's me I am speaking of and how I feel. I've been all up under him, loving him and playing with him, my feeling are within. But I rather not continue going on and on about this. I am mature enough to make the right decision....but I thank all comments, even the ones who say hurry and give him back. No worries....I will give it time. I know I am not alone.

p.s- so many people have come forward in private through inbox telling me they felt the same way when they got their puppy, so just knowing I am not alone, I feel much better. Thank you everyone.

In all honesty, the fastest way to bond with your pup is take an obedience class together. You can't do this until after all his vaccines are complete, but as soon as you can, do it. And then set aside the time to work on what you learned each day.

No one gives up a well trained, well behaved dog. The bond you create from watching him trying to please you is indescribable. Plus, it gives you both something to "do" together... a goal to work towards. Before you know it, you'll be teaching him tricks and he'll be happily learning all the way. Yorkies are incredibly intelligent dogs. They catch on fast to the good and the bad. They don't like being idle and they enjoy figuring out what it is you're asking for. They wait for that positive reaction.

When i first got Raelle..she was my life, she went everywhere with me! So when her breeder asked me if i wanted her brother, I jumped at the chance of having two! For some reason i thought he would be just like his sister...WRONG! He is polar opposite...where she is calm, he his rambunctious, always going. My thought was to give him back, I thought to myself what have I done?! My fiance talked me out of it...bless his heart, he told me give it time,he's a good dog. I'm glad I listened(I'm not one to listen)..he is not at all what I expected, but He's still here, driving me nuts! I cant imagine my life without him...he is far more needy than Raelle is where he always has to be right under me at all times..always kissing, always loving, and far bigger than his sister..all 10lbs of him. Raelle is 6'5lbs...remember I thought i was getting another Raelle. Hang in there, I know you already love him, you will regret giving him back..Pack him into your purse and away you go. You can still do all the things you were doing before you got Marley and will be better for it. I still take both dogs everywhere I go, although Orion makes me crazy sometimes,I wouldnt have it any other way....AND, I'm looking to add a third! If you need to vent you can pm me. It's gonna be okay..trust me I've been there.

There is nothing wrong with what your feeling, it is a big responsibility to have a Yorkie or ANY dog (cats included). Your young and the future seems scary when your making "mind movies"! Imagining going through ANYTHING is worse than going through it!!! And just for the record Marley will be making you too busy soon to think about anything!!!

We are here for you, don't get discouraged, keep yourself busy, spend time with your pup, it will all work out!

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Give Marley a big hug for me. I understand how overwhelmed you feel. Just take it one day at a time.

Just take a deep breath. You were so filled with excitement and anticipation waiting for Marley, and now reality is here and it is overwhelming. It's scary too. Just take it one day at a time. It is a new adjustment for both of you. Read the threads here about potty training and like other people have suggested, take an obedience course together. Marley will learn and you will both have fun together. Good luck.

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: And really obedience training starts the moment you receive your pup.

A small share, after working with Magic for 18months, we went to our first obedience competition; this was for real, it was for his CD title. I was so so nervous. Imagine my pride when we got first in class three out of three competitions; that is scoring highest marks for our competitive group.

I have never ever done this before. That bond built over hundreds mayhap by now, thousands of hours of working together. And it truly is together. We count on each other.

Razzle our Yorkie is just starting out in the competitive world of obedience. But we have built a strong bond already, through play in lots of places, he has travelled all over the States sometimes with me, sometimes with a handler. We've hiked and camped together.

But I rarely go anywhere without a pup or two with me. Such a joy to have doggies in the car. And they love love the car rides with Mommy.

As I type both doggies are lying by my feet. My life would be so empty without their warmth, their joy, their love.

I just want to say performance sports of all kinds really rock with your dog! You also get to socialize with like minded folks and dogs.

There is Earth Dog trials, Rally, agility, flyball, dock diving, obedience, weight pull(teehee) I'm going to show up one day with Razzle. And this summer we are going to take the Herding Test just for a blast! I can't wait to see the testers face when I exit the car with a Big Blackie and a wee Yorkie:D

I won't lie... puppies are hard work. But don't fool yourself... you say you're keeping your feelings inside... but Yorkies can sense what you're thinking and feeling. You'll have to get all negative thoughts about him or having him out of your head. If you need a moment here and there to feel bad... go in another room and do it.

When puppies grow up it's more rewarding, especially if they've been trained correctly and don't have any major issues. Peek a Boo came home with me at 5 years old. Two of my older dogs had passed. Then it was nice... everything ran like clockwork. They knew the schedule and followed it. Peek didn't. He would hide from me and constantly was into things he shouldn't be. I thought I was getting an older dog... now at 15 he still acts like a puppy! I just know now what I need to do for him, and he has settled in very well, and we have bonded and are best friends, which is most important.

I used to go out on occassion, but now I'd really rather stay home to be with my dogs. It's always more fun! (and alot safer!)

It's good to be honest about your feelings.
Dinky is so integrated into our lives now, but yes, sometimes, I do realize I do not have the same freedom I enjoyed before we got him.
In the end, it's a trade off. I love having him more than I miss being not tied down.
Also, Yorkies are hard to train. Just keep at it. You ARE making progress. Eventually your pup will get it.
All relationships take time and patience. Maybe that wasn't modeled for you so much. You can do it. I'm not the most confident person in the world. I tend to doubt myself sometimes, but this little dog can teach you that you can do it!
Learn about yourself in the process. Dogs can teach us so much about patience!
Bless you and your pup. You are going to be fine.

This will come across as negative BUT I want it to be positive. Sounds like you are in the phase of life that "it's all about me". You can recognize this by the number of times you state your feelings about being restricted in your socal life. Give the pup back to the breeder. Get a fish. They can go for several days without constant care.

I pomise that things wil get better, just give it a chance, soon you wont be able to imagine your life without him. You can still go out and have a social life, of course if you are going to be gone over night you will have to make plans for him, but to go out for a couple hours just make sure he is in a safe spot with water and food. BTW your mother should not have gotten upset with him he is just a pup and in a new place he doesn't know what is expected out of him yet, and if it were me I would tell her that!!! Basically just give it time...