Regarding negativity at YT, and what is expected going forward
 

We’ve become increasingly aware of negativity here at YT. In the last several months, this has worsened – as evidenced by reported posts, attacking PMs which are reported to us, arguing on the board, and inappropriate remarks on the board. We have also received numerous PMs from multiple members who are admitting they have become scared to post because people may “come after them” if they are of an opposing opinion.

There are people here who have personal issues with other members. As is always the case here at YT, if you have a personal issue with another member – you either need to work it out with them privately and within the PM rules; or, if the issue cannot be resolved, it’s expected that each member choose to work around the other member.

Going forward, we expect that everyone will make a better effort to realize that if they are overly emotional about a post – they will control themselves more effectively; and that we will use some common courtesy, even when we vehemently disagree with another. This does not mean, nor has it ever meant, that a member may not express themselves. It simply means – use some common sense when communicating. Some respect and civility and calmness are the least we can offer one another.

This is a community about support, compassion, friendship, learning, love of animals. It is not a community about competing opinions; it is not a community about figuring out who is the most right or who is the most wrong. Or who should be blamed for this and that. Or whose opinion is worthy, and whose is not.

I’ll be blunt here: people can pretend all day long that they have no idea about any snide remarks or personal jabs that have been happening here at YT – this is always said when this subject comes up; usually by the very people who are engaging in this behavior. But the truth is, we all see it; we all know if you’ve been participating in it. It is not acceptable to use snide, intentionally mean, nasty, underhanded jabs at your fellow members. And yes, we know that those are not objective words, but we all know exactly what we mean by this and none of us can try to claim naiveté any longer. If some don’t know the difference between rude and direct – then we will literally cull the threads here, and copy/paste examples (without names) of what would commonly be seen as appropriate vs. inappropriate.

When posting here at YorkieTalk, we ask that you please try to keep in mind the spirit of why this board was created.

People are welcome to comment and share their opinions in this thread, but don’t utilize this thread with negative intentions or for personal issues, please.

I'm glad to read this. I try to only post when I have something valuable to add to the conversation, but I do a lot of reading...and I have to admit, I've become uncomfortable the last little while with the tone in the posts. Here's hoping we can come back together in a spirit of mutual learning and sharing.

Marg

I understand perfectly, I have to admit that sometimes I have not posted in threads about breeding because I know how some member will inmediately post a negative remark about the subject. I always try to keep my answer positive and civil. I want the best for the Pregnant or whelping Bitch. but I have to admit that breeding and vaccines are very touchy subjects here and they can turn VERY easy in the negative way. Hopefully we can all listen and adhere to your wonderful advise.
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Thanks Ann for the reminder. I hope we all can start respecting others a little more, and also encourage others to be more tolerant of different opinions.

I think everyone needs a reminder every once in awhile and this is great reminder thank you Ann.

Thanks , I stop posting for a while , now I'm back . Sounds like this was coming to a head thank you for putting it out there.

Thank you Ann, for the guide lines going forward. This is such a wonderful place to get so much information on so many topics, much of it contributed by knowledgable, caring, sincere people. Methods of doing different things, or what we each feel is the "best way" to do it, is only our own "personal" opinions, and should be offered up to the person asking the question or asking for help or support, as such. The OP can then decide what action they wish to take.

Thank you Ann for the wonderful post. I was so glad to see this, as I wondered, what had happened to YT.....thanks again.

What stands out most in my mind about this community is the compassion of its members and the desire to help each other, so I have been saddened by so much negativity and the many attacks. Thank you, Ann, for your post and for always setting such a positive, compassionate tone. No matter if we are behind a computer screen or speaking to each other in person, respect is of utmost importance. One of the things that makes YorkieTalk so great is that the members have heart and passion, and they care about each other and the pups. I don't ever want to see that change.

Ann you always have a way to say things right. Thanks, I know sometimes I dont post at all because I dont want to get involved with bickering, especially when one or more of the folks involved I like. I too think we all should be more compassionate.

Thanks Ann. You are right. This is such a great place to share experiences and knowledge. As well as the fun of showing off pictures of our babies. It needs to be all in positive spirit.

Thanks for the reminder Ann.

I think what's hardest for most people is to keep in mind is that we all may have issues; it's how we deal with them that we'll be remembered.

Thank you Ann for addressing this issue. It's quite troublesome for the forum when some members are creating an atmosphere that is making other members afraid to even post. The forum as a whole is being viewed as a negative place, especially by new members. I hope this puts them at ease and they start to join in and participate in the threads.

Thanks for posting. The great thing about being an individual is to have individual opinions. That's what makes the world go round. It's ok to disagree. But is should also be respected to allow someone to have their opinion even when it conflicts with ours. I learned through the ages not to take things personal even though I totally may not agree. It's ok not to see eye to eye. We just need to be civil when disagreeing.

Great words for all. Thanks for remind us all the real reason we all love yorkie talk. For great information and awesome pictures. :)

Thank you Ann for the post. Yorkies are so sweet and I love being part of a Yorkie Loving Community. :)

Good and wise advice as usual and it will keep YorkieTalk.com as the place to visit on the web when seeking information, help and advice about the Yorkshire Terrier. A respectful but still vigorous exchange of ideas should be everyone's goal and encourage more participation than ever.

Thank you Ann for the reminder and working so hard to keep us in check....you're amazing!:)

Ann, Thank you for all that you do. As usual you get right to the heart of the matter.

Thank you Ann, you are a very special lady you always seem to know the right words to say :)

Thank you for a reminder about this. I think this is a great site but i have almost been afraid to ask honest questions because im afraid of attacks. We are all yorkie lovers or we would not be here some are new some arent but there is way to much anger in the world already so maybe we can work to make our small piece of the world peaceful :)

Just wanted to add that I get so bored and find it a waste of my time to read back and forth posts that are just a few members criticizing each other.

Very well put Ann, Thank You !

Thanks for the reminder! YT is a happy place for me, and it loses its magic when everyone isn't enjoying the experience.

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so happy to be moving forward with posts like this.

I'm so happy that i was able to find this forum.

My precious boy has such the better chance of enjoying the best life possible as long as i educate myself on how to do that. i know i've done so much good for him in comming here.

Thanks so much to everyone for being so involved and compassionate.

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Thanks Ann, I LOVE YORKIE TALK and so happy to see you and Admin. right up front doing all you do to keep this YT FAMILY site one to be proud to be a part of.
I notice many new comers and want to say WELCOME, happy that you each are aboard and know you will, as we have come to learn more and always feel if in need that there are so many knowledgeable and ready to offer suggestions, how great to have the support for our fur loves also to come to know and love their Mom's and Dad's :)
Jack and I are very appreciative of so many here, thanks again, Ann and Admin for all you do.
Hugs, Patti and Jack
Baby Blessing, Dollie, Prairie Bea say thank you too.
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Great post! Thankyou for the reminder...

Thank You! I'm so encouraged to see this post. There are so many wonderful people here and I'm glad for the reminder to all about being respectful even if someone doesn't agree with another.

Thank you again.

Thank you for this!!! All public posts on YT should be limited to the topic of Yorkies. Anything else should be discussed offline, i.e., politics, religion, etc.