Well kudos to your b/f, for being upfront about the sleeping arrangements. After having read many of the posts in response to your question; I don't believe that some-one male or female is necessarily a bad person or an animal hater just because they have concerns about dogs or cats for that matter sleeping in the bed.

I personally don't encourage regular sleeping in the bed for my dogs. My Yorkie is crated at night-time, and all pups before bedtime, get some loving on the bed, then it is off the bed for the big ones, and into crate for the Yorkie.

Good sleep is the guardian of health. If in all other ways, this b/f is good to you and the pups. Loves them, walks them, plays with them, makes them a part of your life together; then I would never let go of such a good soul. He may come around in time, to acceptance of pups in the bed, or he may not. Dogs can get used to sleeping on their doggy beds beside your bed.

My husband does not want KS sleeping in the bed with us either. For our situation, he was here first. But I have gone with his wishes so far. But she does sleep in the room with us in her big girl bed. She is right near the foot of the bed so I think she feels like she is right up there with us. She has barked a few times, but not too bad. But if it were the other way around, I would not give in I don't think. LOL. I would have to say...if you want me, my babies come with the package! Tee hee! ;)

Joshua was not crazy over Rudi when we first got him. He loves all animals but Yorkies just were not his cup of tea. You can guess how long that lasted :D haha. He wormed his way into Josh's heart rather quickly and now he is constantly at his side and Josh would not have it any other way.

Now from the way you mentioned the new BF's concerns in your first post it does not sound to me as if he is telling you NOT to have them in bed. From the way you worded things it sounds like he just has concerns and is being honest? Am I correct? Our babies are extremely loved and adored but they do not sleep in bed with us often. This really is not because of an issue on either side we just started them out in crates at night and that is what they are used to. Now on the other hand my dog I had throughout my childhood and teen years ALWAYS slept in bed with me and had anyone tried to change that... well they would not be around lol. It's all in preference in my opinion. To me as long as he is only voicing an opinion and not flat out telling you what to do I would not be concerned. Now on the other hand I will tell you that from experience (was in a severely controlling relationship for 3 years) that he may seem sweet as pie right now while things are easy but if he is telling you what to do and has that type of controlling personality of his way or the highway then you should show him the door. Trust me that is NOT a road you want to go down. Control freaks are no fun. In my personal opinion the way a man treats my fur babies is a good show of how he treats others.

so in short minus all the preaching as long as he is not trying to control you and making you take the pups out of your bed I would not be too concerned about it. Compromise with him but be firm that they are not just dogs and they are a part of your family. Trust one thing first and foremost if he has the mentality of "it's just a dog" then turn and run girlie. People who have that outlook on pets will not click with you in long term... it's just not worth it I promise

On the other hand...I know we should to be kind and compromise with our spouse. This person is NOT your spouse.
My 1st husband(RIP) always slept with his dog before we were married. I said, "Fine Honey you sleep with Sebo ( a 120 pound Bull Mas.) I will sleep on the sofa." Honestly, the snoring, farts, slobber, and hair on the sheets were so UCKY to me. Hubby decided, Sebo could sleep on his own huge custom made dog bed, and that I should sleep in the people bed with him. But.. Hubby still snored, farted, slobbered on the pillow and shed hair like crazy. I did compromise, Sebo's bed wasn't big enough for both of them. :)
Seriously Now, Hubby and I had a terrific marriage and the Yorkies slept with us for all 26 years ! He didn't mind, they didn't take up much room and he never heard them snore.

as the fefe dobson song wold sing...bye bye boyfriend...hehe,JK!!...i can understand where hes coming from, ever since getting meesha i now have to wash my bedsheets a few times a week, and i never get the same kind of sleep i use to, always waking up if she gets up to pee or drink when i hear her going down her ramp, but its also so cute having her near me...maybe once he gets to know her better he'll love having them sleep near,can you maybe get them a mini bed to put next to yours, or have them sleep on your side.. i'm sure you'll find some type of comprimise where you'll meet in the middle:)

I love my yorkie but he will never be allowed in my bed either. Even after housebroken. The kids want him to sleep with them when the time comes and I still have issues. Mainly that my bed and room our sanctuaries to get away from everything else. But also to set boundaries with my pet. But if the kids are okay w having him, I would allow.

My concern would be if you move them off the bed will they start to resent the boyfriend. If you allow them to stay are you putting them before your boyfriend? Tricky situation Idk you need to do what feels right to you and no one else.

I wouldnt let a man especially one I just started dating telling me my dogs cant sleep in the bed. My dogs and I are a package deal love me love my dogs

Tell him it's safe, cuddley and he can't have you if he'll not have your furbabies.;)

Generally speaking, its a lot of fun having them sleep with us, and its useful, too. For Ms Daisy, who does not like to use the pee pad unless we put her in the bathroom and close the door for a minute (apparently, she likes her privacy :rolleyes:), she licks our face if she has to go. Otherwise I am pretty sure she'd pee anywhere she'd think she could hide it.

As far as sleep interruption goes, I never notice it unless they are clicking their nails and walking around a lot, which may mean they are not feeling well, in which case I like to know what's going on and can catch them and put them against the sink if they have to thow up. This is very rare these days since we give them yogurt most every night, but it does still happen on occasion, and this saves a potential dried up mess. I also have taken to wearing an ear plug at night and they rarely disturb my sleep, but all dogs are different.

For other activities one might consider in bed, they are put in the basement until its over. With our male, he has a #1 complex with me, and does not like it when anything gets in the way, if you know what I mean. Maybe we need to spend more time on training, but this is tough for him to get over.

I vote for Yorsters in a well protected bed (only allowed in the middle so they can't fall) with pet steps and cushions to protect the perimeter as an extra measure of protection. It can work great if you give it a chance. I can't take not letting them be with us, as we all know, Yorksters are VERY GOOD at getting their way in the end.:D

I understand that some people draw a line when it comes to the bedroom concerning their pets. Personally, my pets have always slept on the bed. I did have to get bigger beds but that's OK.

The point is these dogs are already used to sleeping with their owner. Now she is considering changing her's and her dog's life style for a guy she has just started dating.

I have lived long enough and seen enough break ups to know there is bad news in this relationship already. I would warn against changing anything at this point in the relationship. Give it time. If he loves you he will accept you for who you are and have respect for your lifestyle. If it ever happens that a wedding is considered down the line then you can discuss some give and take for both of your lifestyles.

with me the dog comes first especially in a situation like that.
reason: the dog has unconditional forever lasting love. the man doesn't.

now i am married and lucky for me or i wouldn't be married to this man, is that he loves dogs just as much as i do. our Kiva slept with us since the very first nite she came into this house....and she greatly enhanced our lives. sleeping with us was no big deal at all. we loved her dearly. she was like our child.

Yoshi used to sleep in our bed until he fell off and it almost scared me to death..We have a very high bed and a little one could easily get hurt if falling off accidently. Mine sleep in their crates and love them. As long as your guy loves you and your dogs, I think it will work out. Good luck !!!

I wasn't going to do this but after a little thought I decided to. So here is a story of my sweet girl Mikki.

Mikki came to my family last July. She was a little over one year old at that time. I bought her at a gas station from a lady for $50. She wanted $150 and decided to sell her to me for $50 because she wanted her to go to a good home. I asked why she was getting rid of her and she told me because she didn't have time to take care of her. I bought Mikki, brought her home with me, and she has bloomed into a beautiful furbaby. However, going back. After about 2 weeks with us, my DH runs into the woman I got Mikki from. The truth came out then. Her Boyfriend didn't like Mikki. He wouldn't let her sleep in bed with them (and Mikki was used to sleeping there). The not liking ended up being him being mean to Mikki. To make a long story short, the woman loved this dog and ended selling her to me because she knew this girl was going to end up getting hurt. She knew he didn't like her and figured it would be best to get her a new home. Mikki got lucky. Not bragging, but we have completely changed this baby's life. And she will never ever have another home. She is here with us where she belongs now. She is loved and sleeps in the bed with us. Right in between me and DH. She is well loved and well taken care of. And she never has to worry about being hit or us being mean to her. That part of her life is over.

I am telling you this story because your boyfriend don't like your dogs in the bed. Is this a start to another Mikki story? Not trying to be mean at all. Just want you to be aware that it does happen. And some of them may end up in really bad situations. You love the furbabies. They were there first.

It's so sad that so many women would rather have a bad boyfriend than no boyfriend. Have we taught our female children that it is more important to be like the fake depictions of life they see on TV and in the movies than to have some self respect and demand the same from their male friends?

it's so so sad....both my sisters ended up with horrible men that sucked their souls dry because they couldn't imagine living alone.

i on the other hand, loved living alone and i was the only one that wanted equality & respect from my man.

it's too bad they couldn't see how important that was until too late.