I agree with you! DH and I do the same thing!! Peanut sleeps in his crate at night. Before we go to sleep DH, Peanut and I have one on one time on the bed before we tuck him in his crate!!

Wow! Thanks for all of the great replies, I see that I'm not alone with this problem! The good news is that the new guy already got the boot, and Linus and Kimchee never got kicked out of the bed ;) It turned out that the new guy HATED Linus and Kimchee because they apparently smell bad (they don't! Well, maybe Linus has morning breath, but, give a dog a break!), he was mad that he had to wash his clothes after he was at my house because apparently he was covered in "dog smell," and he would only be ok with things if Linus & Kimchee didn't sleep in the bed, didn't lick him, and WEREN'T IN THE SAME ROOM WITH HIM! They. Are. Dogs. Seriously.

Good learning experience though, I'm only considering dog-lovers in the future. I mean, dogs are basically pure joy and love jumping around on 4 legs -- how can you not love that? Major red flag.

Anyway, problem solved -- thanks for all of the advice!

:thumbup: Good riddance on both of them! :D

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Wow. Do you know how pathetic your update makes your former BF sound? He had to wash his clothes after being in the house with your Yorkies? :confused:

Sounds like he needs professional help, unless he was using the your Yorksters as an excuse to break up over other issues...

In any case, you will find a much nicer guy out there who actually loves your little guys.:aimeeyork:aimeeyork

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The furbabies were there before he was!! I agree with the post talking about being a package deal. If you wanted to comprimise maybe they could get in the bed for a little snuggle time before they go to there own bed. My advise is to go with what your heart tells you and if he can't deal with that oh well he's missing out!!

So glad you didn't make any changes for that guy. You would have been so unhappy catering to his whims. Some guys can hide who they really are for a long time before it comes out. So glad you saw the light quickly.

YAY!!! Haha! I'm starting out in the dating game as well. Only dog lovers is tops on my list too. :)

Omg, this whole thread is crazy. I think it is crazy that sooo many women would rather have a dog in the bed than a human being. I love Milo, but Milo is not allowed in my bed, number one I don't think it is safe, number two I am absolutely scared of an poop or pee attack in the night, and finally I do think that it takes an incredible amount of daily attention to a pet to clear the natural smell that they emit. I think ppl forget that it is easy to get used to the smell of a dog to the point that you cannnot detect the scent throughout your house. People who do not have pets can be very sensitive to "pet smells". The boyfriend in question may have really smelled the dogs. Now this comparison is a stretch, but I if you think on how fast us non-smokers can smell a smoker, even if they haven't cracked a pack in a while. I have always been pretty good at sniffing out a house that has a pet in it, even if that pet is groomed pretty regularly.

It was much more than him smelling the dogs. He HATED them according to her post. If he hates them and they are a part of her life, well there is a huge problem. I guess my feelings on that is if you don't like my dogs then don't come to my house. They are part of me and my life. Both of my girls are in bed with me and I wouldn't have it any other way. I am blessed that I have a wonderful DH who loves me enough to love my girls.

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MarliQQ you're missing the point. No one person should have to change who they are or what they're comfortable with for someone else. If the situation were reversed, and I did not allow pets in my bed, I really shouldn't have to change that for someone else.

But, if I'm the crazy dog lady that has shared her bed with her furry baby for over 2 years and even has her baby's paw prints tattooed on her hip (which I do) then that's who I am. This is what makes me happy. Mr New that I met a few months ago can take it or leave it. I'm happy with my home (my sanctuary) just the way it is.

People who don't like dog ""smells" don't belong in my home just like people who smoke....either take it outside or don't come here.

To each his own...but I seriously don't know how you manage to live with your pup if you are that sensitive to "pet smells".

I have always trained my dogs very well and have never had a stray pee or poo in my bed. A dog that has been trained properly does not just urinate or defecate at will. I keep my home and my dog clean and they smell clean as well.

I have known people who are so "sensitive" to scent that they would only allow dogs to be tied out back to a dog house. They were so "clean" but their back yard stunk up the neighborhood because they were too "clean" and smell free to go out and clean up after their hostage dog. Truly a person with such issues should not even own a dog.

It is very easy these days to prefer a dog in the bed instead of some of the losers out there in the human market. The OP had only started dating this person. No one should change their lifestyle for someone they just met. That should be an obvious conclusion since the relationship has already ended. It is totally irresponsible to advise anyone to comply with the demands of a partner that they hardly know just to obtain a human in the bed.

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This thread is kinda weird but Giorgio is crated at night, even if he's not feeling well, I just get up and check on him. I dont want to foster any habits that I cant break later.

Some people are sensitive to pet smells if they are not used to it. I know someone's house I refuse (and wont allow my sons to go either) because they have a cat. I am allergic to them and putting them away isnt really enough. To each its own.

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: I totally agree. The dogs are already there so nothing you can do about that except to rehome them & that IMO would not have been the responsible thing to do. What if it were a baby ? They spit up & no matter what you do, they still smell like spit up, unless you fully bath them Every time they spit up & some babies spit up allot & that would not be too good for their sensitive skin. IMO people who love animals would simply not ever be happy with a non animal person & people who don't like dogs have something seriously WRONG in their heads, so why would you want to be with them anyway.I just gotta say too that I have never had a dog pee or poo on my bed & I have 5 at this time & IMO that sounds a bit neurotic to me, JMHO

Men like that expect women to jump through hoops for them and make women miserable. You were wise to be rid of him

I was confident the babies would out last the "man"...they always do!

I understand allergies completely. However, he knew the dogs were there BEFORE. So, it isn't like he didn't know. I agree with lilymae, the other option would have been to rehome the pups because he was never going to like them if he stayed around. If you have pets you need to end up with someone who likes the pets or it will never work. Now, agreeing with chachi, she would end up being miserable anyway with him. Obviously a control freak!

IMHO, I think saying the smell bothered him would just be an excuse. He HATED the pups and would use any excuse to get rid of them. The OP made a wise decision as he would have made her life a living He double hockey sticks!

Exactly. It's not that I think it's, like... disgraceful or something if someone's dog does NOT sleep in their bed. To each their own. But to come INTO a relationship, knowing the other person has a dog, and knowing it sleeps in the bed, etc, is different.

If I had been in a serious relationship or married, and THEN we together decided to get a dog, and hubby did not want a dog in the bed - I'd respect that and have set boundaries from the beginning with the dog. However, I am currently single, Jackson has been sleeping in my bed for 3 years and I don't plan on nor do I WANT to change that. So if I meet a guy, and he's really that disgusted by a little dog, well then he's not the guy for me. Because then I know for the many years to come, that he would be miserable with a huge part of my life.

To me, that would almost be like if a woman went into a relationship with a man who had kids. Let's say this man has had a schedule of having his kids every other weekend for the past 5 years, but suddenly this new woman does not like this schedule and tries to tell him to change it because "the kids are making a mess of the house..." - I don't think it's right. And if she can't accept the kids at this point, she probably never will. Might as well not even get too involved.

I don't need a spouse who is going to be as big of a dog lover as I am, or into dog related activities, and whatnot... but they would need to at the minimum NOT be worried about "pet smell" (esp. on my non-shedding, 15lb dog who gets a bath often) or him sharing my side of the bed. Ideally, I would be with someone who could love Jackson and want to spend time with him though.

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Good for you OP, for getting rid of that BF, who proved he wasn't a dog lover.

But I will say, as I posted earlier, if your intended is loving of dogs, wants to work, play, care for them; but puts a halt on doggies being in bed; then I personally think that is reasonable.

As posted earlier, I have my doggies in bed for a bit of loving time, then they go to their crates or doggie beds on the floor.

I personally would be much more concerned, if my intended thought that vet care and the $$ associated with that were crazy, or nobody should spend more than $xx on the care of a dog. I would kick to the curb that person in a flash faster, than if my BF didn't want dogs to sleep in the bed with us.

Yeah, my then boyfriend (14 years ago), now husband, said that too...needless to say the dogs sleep in the bed, nuff said!

Excellent!! ha so true!! I say dump the boyfriend :thumbdown

wow, i was going to post without even looking at any other posts, but saw them as i scrolled down & not surprising i soooooo agree, if he will not sleep with your pups it is screaming to me DUMP HIM, i am pretty sure i am older than you & have learned a lot, if someone dosen't like animals they are not nice & will not treat you nice. sorry i am not a fanatic dog person but at least be alerted to many red flags, i would kick him out of my bed way before my babies, think about it!!!!! good luck, so don't mean to be harsh, he could be ok???????, but weary hope it is ok:confused::animal36

Good job, girlfriend! It's better that he wasn't fakey fake nice to them, get you to fall in love with him, and then treat the dogs like crap! At least he was honest and didn't waste your time! Onto the next! :thumbup:

I always thought that these things would come naturally with the right guy, but they don't. Some people don't like small dogs and until they do, it's up to you to get everyone in your life to live together happily. That's if you think this guy is worth it.

My boyfriend doesn't like the dogs sleeping in my bed because he's a really light sleeper who gets woken up every time that the dogs move on the bed. We made a compromise - he is building a big doggie palace with heating, light, a porch and a balcony for the dogs and I am letting them sleep in their own beds when he's here.

Find something that works for you both, if he's worth the effort.