Personally, I don't see why she left and left the pup alone with him knowing he has anger issues. She appears to have been thinking only of herself and not the dog. She left her baby alone with this guy after an escalated fight and then leaving him. Of course he's going to be mad and act out, knowing what we do about about him. She left her baby with a monster (matter of speaking). I feel they are both at fault. This guy definitely needs to seek counselling for anger issues and learn to deal with everyday issues in life. I feel bad for the dog. Poor little thing. I hope things work out for everyone involved, and I hope the guy gets the help he needs to make him a better person.

That poor baby...It's so upsetting to hear a helpless baby being treated that way :( I hope that your friend either steps up and defends the puppy from now on and makes sure that her SO doesn't treat the puppy abusively or decides to find a loving home for her!

Oh yes! and if left alone, he could have channelled that anger on other people and potentially risked the lives of his reports and other innocent civilians. :::: end of sarcasm here and speculation :::

The lockdown did not happen just because of a dog. None of use know the whole story so I'd suggest people stop putting blame where it problably doesn't belong.

Further I don't think anyone is "meddling" when they are concerned for the safety of lives.

I feel compelled to answer both of these. First Deuce-im not sure how much you know about the current military situation but after their divorce is final he wont be paying her ANYTHING. Not a dime. Until then, after she is home she will be covered by the army's insurance and while she is living with her family he will not be paying her any type of Basic housing allowance. If she moves into her own place she will receive money for housing, which does NOT come out of his pay check.

I meddled in her life because the previous night he choked her out and told her he could kill her if thats what he wanted, along with hitting her in the face. Im sorry if you cannot agree but it was my responsibility as a friend to look out for he well being. I do not want to receive a text that something a lot more horrible than that happened. My husband is his superior and therefore I told him. That "soldier" is unfit for duty. Have you heard about the crime rate happening in Korea with the army personal? Probably not... there is a lot of crimes against women happening right now by our soldiers, and thats not ok. I also come from a professional standpoint where I am a nurse, and if I know that abuse is taking place i have a duty to report that... ITS NOT MEDDLING. It sickens me that you could imply that I should stand by and let that happen.

And if his Unit thinks he is a wife beater than so be it, thats what he did. Im sorry you think his actions were appropriate.

To the next post, I agree she should have taken the pup with her when she left, im sure at the time she was scared and just wanted to remove herself from the situation as fast as possible.

to everyone else, thank you so much for your input and kind words.

I know I'm jumping the gun here (so to speak) but, my brain just went there...please tell your friend to first get help and above all else, whatever she does...do not get pregnant by this man!

Men who are prone to violence rarely change and a woman who is pregnant is at the highest risk for murder by a spouse.:(

Strange as it might seem...relationships like this often result in a "I'm sorry, let's have a baby" which never helps but, hurts!

First it's usually a pet they abuse, then your friend and next their child...very sad!

I dont think she will, they have 0 contact until she leaves Korea, with a zero tolerance policy. I think her mind has been made up about divorcing him for awhile now, and finally she has the tools to be able to do something about it. She is a very bright girl (also a nurse!) and she is young still only 22 so has a lot ahead of her, and she can start fresh, and after he gets help (the army is providing a LOT for him too) he can have a fresh start also.

I'm really happy to hear there will be support and help for both of them.

I just knew he had to be abusing her to... Sorry son of a gun! (to put it nicely!!) I sure hope he gets the help he needs and she (and her baby) get home safely.

I just wanted to commend you and thank you for making a difference. Too many times people choose not to get involved fearing that to do so will jeopardize themselves or aggravate an all ready escalating situation. Sadly by not getting involved great harm usually happens to the victim. The husband is not the victim but the perpetrator of the violence and must be held accountable for his actions. If it effects his career it is because of his actions and he must pay the price, not his wife or the dog. Just like what is happening at Penn State people were aware abuse was happening but it continues until some one stands up and makes sure something is done. I wish your friend and her dog all the best in their new life. Thank you to you and your husband for doing the right thing.

Wow, this was the craziest thread I've read in a long time.

You were so right to step in. If you didn't then who knows what might have happened. You're right...it is not meddling.

When I was about 19 I had an apt and the people upstairs were always fighting. One morning I hear the woman screaming help and I hear him yelling and all kinds of noise. I called the police and they knocked down the door. When they entered he was strangling her on the floor with an electrical cord. When I went to court to testify the family and her told me that they weren't fighting like I thought...he was beating her. They were SO thankful I called the police...and I was the ONLY one in the complex that did...

So, to all, ALWAYS get involved when needed. It just may save a life.

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: Thank you for making a difference.

Yikes.

As a now grown US Marine military brat, USAF military spouse to my husband of 18 years and mother of an active duty US Army daughter who was abused by her US Army husband I must say this.

I applaud her actions for stepping in to help her friend and if this man's career is ruined as a result then so be it. As far as I am concerned my daughter's x didn't have his career ruined fast enough for my liking. Ask my father who was in Vietnam and my husband if this is the type of person they would want in a fox hole next to them.

We lost my beautiful grandson at the age of 2 1/2 after one of his lovely father's incidents. My grandson was ill with a life threatening birth defect already so I can't say that he killed him but he had to be taken by ambulance after the incident and put into ICU, he never came out.

OP please don't even for one second 2nd guess your choices here, they were absolutely right and you are a hero in my eyes.

OP, i 1000% support you and think you made a huge difference in your friends life. Her husband could have eventually killed her and her sweet little dog. Ths is very serious and was not going to get any better He is a violent man and all the things he was doing to his wife and puppy would have only ecalated , I saw this in your posts just at how he was abusing the poor little puppy. I am very glad that your friend is going to be protected and she can get out , and be with her family . Thank God you did step in when you did, you may have saved your friends life and her little puppy. :thumbup: