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People can be so unfeeling???? Sunday we went out to eat with a couple from church. This woman use to raise Great Danes so she is not exactly unlearned when it comes to dogs. When we started to leave I said Yes, we need to get home because we are having to keep Tina in her kennal when we are gone because I was afraid she would get hurt because of the dementian she is suffering. This woman just burst out laughing, so load people were looking. She said, Sandy she is just a dog. She will never know how bad that hurt. Why can't people be more sensitive to your feelings. If she chooses to look at it like that I would never do someone like that. My baby suffers everyday not knowing sometimes where she is. Where her food, water, bed are. We love our babies very much and for someone to do that hurt so much. I just told her, well she may have furr but she is still my baby. |
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Just ignore the ignorant and keep loving your baby!!! |
wow.. what a un- called - for comment!! I am sorry that hurt you. Even if she did not understand she should have respect for your feelings and not laughed at you. Don't worry, what makes us all special is how we are different! We love our furbabies and if the rest of the world does not understand it is their loss. Maybe oneday she will understand! |
I am glad she is no longer a breeder if she thinks they are just dogs! I know exactly how you feel. I have rescheduled things and just flat out not gone to places in the past week or so since Riley came home because I was uncomfortable with how long I would be gone and he would be in his xpen. We have always been that way with our dogs even when they were older so it isn't just cause he is a puppy, he is our baby and I don't want him to wonder what happened to me. I will be more willing to be gone longer periods once he is older and I know he knows I will always return but still never think he is just a dog so I don't need to worry about how long I am gone! |
The words "just" and "dog" should never be used in the same sentence. The lady probably could tell you are suffering, and instead of trying to be understanding, she fluffed off your problem, almost like you are silly for being worried and concerned. She's giving a great indication of what type of a friend she would be, if you want to go further in your friendship with this person, I would tell her how you're feeling, and maybe she'll accept your feelings, otherwise, I wouldn't waste any time on a friendship with her. Sorry you having a hard time with your baby, bless you for being such a good momma! |
I thinkin that this couple will not be on the "people to visit with" list anymore. We have a almost 15yr old male 1/2shepard & 1/2 huskey,he is suffering from the same thing,as well as his back hips going out,cataracs in both eyes. I know the day is coming when he wont be with us anymore,but he has been here most of my kids lives and is truely a part of the family. Such a gentle soul Im sorry that you had such a bad ending to a nice evening. |
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Wow... and this is a couple from church. Hypocritical, much? Ya know, it never fails that the people you should be able to count on most tend to be like this. I can't tell you how many times I meet people who end every e-mail, text, whatever with "God Bless" and then go on to be the most condescending, unkind people ever. Ugh, sorry just something that bugs me /end rant. I am sorry you had to hear a comment like that. It would really piss me off but I guess sometimes you have to got to let things slide. |
I'm sorry that the woman said that. Some people don't realize that what they say is insensitive and hurtful. Our dogs are our children and some people don't understand that. |
That would definatly be my last dinner with her. Even if she does feel that way about dogs:thumbdown, it was still really mean for her to say that to you. I would probably never talk to someone again if they laughed in my face like that over anything:mad: |
How insensitive! I feel bad for all the dogs that are "just dogs" to their owners, not family members, even after all their years of companionship & devotion. Dogs don't get to chose the home or people they go to. Tina is very lucky to be a part of your family. |
That was so insensitive. I have been dealing with Nikki's declining health, near blindness and dementia. I wonder if your "friend" realizes doggie dementia is a real diagnosis that they give medicine for. It is very sad to see your elderly baby look so confused, not knowing where they are etc. and worry they may walk off the bed or into a wall. Try not to let her upset you. |
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Or you could turn it back to her and say something like, " Yes, just a dog, just a human, whenever a pet or person in my care requires special treatment because of an illness or injury, I see that they get it, or whatever they need. I am shocked that you find this so strange! I always thought of you as a better person than that..." And, of course, say it loud enough for all to hear... |
She sounds like an ignorant A$$(sorry there is no better word for her)Just a dog?!!?WOW!!I can't even say what I'm really thinking!!!! |
I love this poem that a friend sent to me and it says it all JUST A DOG From time to time, people tell me, "lighten up, it's just a dog," or "that's a lot of money for just a dog." They don't understand the distance travelled, the time spent, or the costs involved for "just a dog." Some of my proudest moments have come about with "just a dog." Many hours have passed and my only company was "just a dog," but I did not once feel slighted. Some of my saddest moments have been brought aobut by "just a dog," and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch of "just a dog" gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day. If you, too, think it's "just a dog," then you probably understand phrases like "just a friend," "just a sunrise," or "just a promise." "Just a dog" brings into my life the very essence of friendship, trust, and pure unbridled joy. "Just a dog" brings out the compassion and patience that make me a better person. Because of "just a dog" I will rise early, take long walks and look longingly to the future. So for me and folks like me, it's not "just a dog" but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future, the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment. "Just a dog" brings out what's good in me and diverts my thoughts away from myself and the worries of the day. I hope that someday they can understand that its' not "just a dog" but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being "just a man" or "just a woman." So the next time you hear the phrase "just a dog," just smile, because they "just don't understand." ~Unknown Author~ |
so sorry for your experience, & so in agreement with all the comments, makes me sooo crazy that someone who goes to church whatever their denomination can be so uncaring. unfortunately some people just are not animal lovers & just don't get it, their loss!!!! i would have said & done same as you & could care less if others laught @ me, dogs are more loyal than most people & i treat people & animals the same & as a real christian would. my mantra is & always will be treat others the way you would want to be treated & that certainly includes ALL animals. Bless you & just feel sorry for her because she just dosen't get it & probably never will so don't try to change her or let her make you feel like you are a crazy animal lover. you sound perfect !!!!!!:) |
Wow. That was really rude and I'm sorry you had to hear it. Some people just don't get it. Even so, she should have kept her mouth shut. Laughing loudly at someone is just plain RUDE, no matter what the circumstance. Just let that ignorance roll right off your back. |
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Thank you Jersey Boy for posting the poem. Just A Dog. |
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Jersey Boy that poem is awesome. The life of an animal lover is not without its critisism but I don't care. I just tell people who say things like that "well I'm sorry you feel that way but to me it is more than just a dog". I feel sorry for people who don't have the love of an animal in thier lives. Good for you for loving your baby like you do :thumbup: |
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I am so very sorry for the pain that she caused you. I think of you and Tina a lot, and I am grateful that she has a mom so devoted and loving to her. I know most people didn't understand why we turned our lives upside down for Ashley, but fortunately I didn't experience such insensitivity. It’s difficult for some to understand a love so pure and unselfish that we receive from our babies, and we owe them the love and protection that they need in return. I didn't think I could love Ashley more than we had before, but with her dementia we had a little girl with such innocence and the biggest, most loving heart. That stage of her life was very difficult, but I wouldn't have traded a second of the precious time we spent trying to protect Ashley and trying to make sure that she was able to comprehend our love. I know how much you love Tina. She is not “just a dog”. She is your baby and your heart. I know some people can’t comprehend that, but they are losing out on something very wonderful in their lives. You and Tina will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. If you need some support, I am always available. |
Im sorry your feelings were hurt :( that was so insensitive on her part, I beleive i have lost a few freinds because of my furkids and my devotion to them, I never leave for more then 2-3 hrs tops, like i always say....some of my BEST friends have 4 paws :) when you have a sick baby its just like leaving a child, all i think about when im gone is how she is , so i really never enjoy myself and would rather be home. |
I really appreciate your kind words and the poem. Should give her a copy of it. Its hard not to associate with them because they are on the staff along with us and my husband is ministering in our pastor's absence. He had a stroke and will not be coming back. So, its hard not to associate with them, but, I have just made up my mind I will not mention my babies again. We were just leaving and I just made the comment that yes we did need to go. She made another comment one time when we with them. My husband thinks her husband doesn't want her to have a dog and that she may just be acting like that because of the way he feels. Don't know.... But, people never cease to amaze ya! She would really think we were bonkers if she knew how we treated and loved them. lol!!!!! Dementia is a very hard thing to deal with, but, we will until its her time to go. |
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Just remember that for every one ignorant, mean spirited person that you meet and make comments like that, there are 100 that totally get you :thumbup: I wish I had been there I would've given you a HUGE hug :) Take good care of your baby, you'll always be glad that you did ;) |
I am sorry that you had to hear that. A lot of people dont understand the love you can have for a four legged baby. Good luck! |
You know the old saying, "The more people I meet, the more I like my Yorkshire Terrier". :p |
I'm sorry you had to deal with such an insensitive comment from someone who should feel very differently. Unfortunately, many people feel that way and just don't understand how much we love our furbabies. After Lulu's luxating patella surgery I has someone (an acquantance, not really a friend) say that if she was theirs he would've "treated" her with a bullet. Really?:( He had just had knee surgery himself to repair an ACL and I said perhaps the doctors should have given you that same "treatment". What\'s the difference? |
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