I don't know what to do :x
 

I know none of you know me, obviously I'm new. I'm stuck in a rut, and saw this forum and I thought all of the knowledgeable people could help.

So long story short... My name is Rachael, and live in NY. I'm a huge animal lover, and go to college for Zoology. Here's where my story begins: In november I had a minpin, named Chloe, she was literally the love of my life. She went every where with me, and I ate, slept, and breathed for her. In november, A yellow lab got out, and before I could react, the lab got a hold of her and killed her, immediately. It still brings tears to my eyes thinking about it.

Later, I met up with a friend who I haven't seen in awhile. We went to her house, where I saw she bred Yorkies (registered). Of course, I fell in love and bought one. I still ache from my loss of Chloe, but this dog has helped alot with my anxiety and has kept me very busy. Immediately I was attached. Then a few days after buying her, my car was smashed into by a drunk driver and totaled.. this year has been a total mess.

Because of my car being totaled and other things, financially, I could not afford to live on my own anymore, and had to move back in with my father (whos girlfriend just moved in, and hates dogs). He told me that I couldn't move in if I had a dog. So even longer story short, we fought, bad. When I get a pet, I get one forever and it kills me to even think about giving her up. I don't want to ruin the relationship between my father and I, over a dog, but then again she's not just /a dog/.

Sooo I don't know what to do.:confused::(

Is your dad's house the only place you can go or do you know someone that will take her until you get back on your feet?

Stick with the dog. Austin helps me BIGTIME with my anxiety. He's my angel with paws..lol

That poor pup shouldn't be an option!

I would stick with my puppy too. I got rid of a dog a long time ago...should of kept the dog.

Are you working at all? I was wondering if there is someone you could room with and share expenses? I'm sorry you're in that situation. Wish you were here. I'd let you live here!:)

I honestly don't know what to tell you- I can't imagine giving up your baby will be easy. However- if you don't have anywhere else to go and your Dad won't budge- you may not have a choice. Is living with him a short term solution, or some where you may be long term? Because you may be able to find someone to foster your baby for a few months if you think it will be short term. I am sorry you are faced with this decision.

I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you can find a solution. Is there any other family member or friend that you can stay with till you can get back on your feet? Hang in there! Maybe someone will have some ideas.

Well the thing is, my dad knows how much she means to me and how much Chloe meant to me. He would want me to keep the dog, it's mainly his girlfriend that is the anti-dog, she's starting to talk him against me. I own (now) two dogs, and a horse. I work for both of them and they have never had to pay a penny toward them.

My father or his GF don't understand how much she helps me, because they have never been attached to an animal like that. I can stay other places, but that side of the family is harassing me and saying "you picked a dog over you father, I hope you feel good" and all of these other things. But I'm not the one who is picking sides, if I could I would choose both. My father feels horrible and actually cried, but his gf keeps saying "don't back down, then she will think she can get her way every other time". :eek: Which to me is amazing because I'm very independent and responsible, I've lived by myself for a few years now.. idk

edit- & I do have a job, that's the ONLY reason why I want to stay with my dad, because he has an extra car I can use, and I work at a horse barn that's not far from his house.

i would look into any other options you can find for living and if there is still nowhere to go i would suggest finding someone you can trust to care for your baby until you get a chance to get back on your feet. there are lots of nice souls that are willing to foster a puppy for you until you are able to regain your own place. you might have to offer to pay all the pups expenses but they will do all the care taking.

i wish you luck, that sure is a bind to be in and i totally understand not ever giving up on a dog. i'm scared my Sadie won't deal well with children but i just can't bring myself to think of ever giving her away. my husband and i have talked about it and we would pay whatever amounts of money it took to train her through it and if there was no hope we'd beg my auntie to take Sadie in with her yorkie until the baby grew up more.

I wish there was an easy answer for you. If you want to stay with your dad, I don't know what answer you are looking for, especially, since he has said no dog. I hate overbearing girlfriends. You probably feel like a piece of bologna between two slices of bread. I can't imagine a father doing that.

not to be rude but daddie's little gf gots ta go! :D i can't believe she is manipulating him into going against his own flesh and blood! that upsets me and i'm so sorry you have to put up with that. i wish i was close i'd take her right away.

I agree. Like I said, I just cannot imagine a father doing that.

:thumbup:Great advice

Ok you work at a horse farm? Is it possible to foster your YOrkie there, until you get on your feet again?

Maybe also live there in exchange for horse duties? Is that possible?

Thanks everyone so much, for all of the replies. I'm very upset that he is on her side, you can clearly see that it kills him to do that. We were best friends, and did everything together, but once I went to college and got a job, he got a girlfriend, and she controls EVERYTHING. She even walked into my room when I stayed there (for only a night) and flipped out saying how gross it is that she was using a pee pad and told me that I was horrible for bringing the dog home because it was "too soon", and that she and "your father" decided that once their dog dies, that's it..

She wanted to not let me stay but dad offered to "let me stay in the basement, and he will convert it into an apt.." :eek: are you flippen serious? I really don't want to choose sides, and it's stupid that they are trying to make me feel guilty.:(

She could stay with my grandmother for awhile, but even then Idk.

It's sad to be torn apart like that. None of us know your precise options or the ins and outs of your familial relationships. You said the only reason you were going to stay at dad's was the closeness to your job and he had a spare car. So, if you can find other living arrangements, where you can have access to a car, I would seek them out. Please let us know how things work out. I feel so sorry for you to be in that situation.:(

I'm a horsewoman here in Texas. Hello, fellow horsewoman! If your choices right now are between giving your dog away, using your dad's spare car so you can get to work, letting Dad convert the basement into a temporary apartment until things get better, and yes, having to put up with his awful girlfriend for a while, or leaving your dog with Grandma for the short term. I would endure whatever unpleasantness I had to in order to keep my dog. Your father's "peevish" girlfriend would NOT have the power to decide whether I kept my dog or not. NO WAY. Your situation is temporary and I would hate it if you gave your little dog away over a situation that WILL get better. I think you ought to stay in the basement and use your dad's car. All the while looking for a better situation ASAP. If that situation expires for some reason before you can get on your feet, then leave the dog with your grandmother since she's seems willing to care for the dog awhile. Doing all this will give you some time to figure things out and get your life back on track. Life is rough sometimes, "real rough", and then the sun comes out again. Don't give your animal away. Your dog is your family and "needs" you to go out in the world and find some way for the two of you to stay together and survive whatever situations present themselves in your lives together. I really think you will suffer great regret if you give your dog away that you love so much. Good luck to you, and take care, o.k.

Thanks! It was a breath of fresh air coming here. Here I am thinking I'm a horrible person, I'm glad there is other people like me out there, who are as passonite about their babies as I am. I will post pictures tomorrow so everyone can see her! Caw, that's great! I have a QH and work 5 days a week at a riding stable.

Your Dad's GF sounds like a witch. Sounds like it's time for her to go!

Could you talk alone to your Dad and tell him how you feel? Tell him that your puppy is really helping you and how.

I agree with this. I'm a daddy's girl too and I simply adore my dad. We have special Saturdays together where we just sit and chat, just the two of us. I was in a similar situation last year and it was a blessing in disguise. My landlord stopped making his payments for over a year and the bank foreclosed on my home. I moved back home much to my mom's protest (she hates/is afraid of dogs). I had no job, lost it the same time the bank took over my home. This year I found a job in Aug thanks to a guardian angel, and a few months after, my dad fell ill. I was able to help him out financially. Then my aunt passed away this month, and again I was here to hold down the fort.

Before moving in I had a one on one chat with my dad. We both knew my mom was 110% against me bringing a dog into our home. He helped me convince my mom, and I was able to be here for when they needed me the most. I hope you are able to work something out.

RACH...I'm glad we could all help you out!! Stick to your guns....stay the course. Let your dad worry about the girlfriend thing. She's HIS problem in the end. It's a real possibility that she won't even be around a few years from now. Right now, it looks like he's sweating it out trying to keep the peace. Regardless, he has his own path to go down and you have yours. You worry about making YOUR life the way YOU want it.

caught in the middle
 

I agree with most here when it comes to keeping your baby. You took her to be her forever home, she'll give you more comfort and joy than anyone else can. Girl friends aren't always forever, they tend to come and go. I wouldn't be letting her tell you what you can and can't do in your dad's house. If he's willing to make an apartment for you I would let him and talk to him alone so he understands that the girlfriend is not allowed in there.
Good luck with the future, hope a rainbow comes your way.

AGREED! I think the OP's dad is wonderful for wanting to make everyone happy. Having your own apt means having your own space and frankly, she shouldn't be allowed in there. Granted, you might have to share things like the kitchen, but I bet your baby would be ok if you go upstairs, grab some grub and eat with her downstairs.

RACH...Quarter horses are wonderful animals....great athletes!! Good Luck!!

I am going to tell it like it is ... the GF is a Bit** Obviously not an animal person. Some are not. However this ought to between you and your father. Even converting the basement into an apartment won't be acceptable to keep your dogs? That is IMO very controlling and strict. If you are able to live with animal friendly , people then try that instead of having to put up with this nonsense. you seem like a good person who really loves her dogs and horse. Be strong, and make the best decsisions for yourself and your pets. It is my opinion that the GF ought to go .

Can you afford to get astudio apt. for you and your yorkie? That is what I would do. I am so sorry about the trajic loss of yout minpin.

I feel like if you dad knew how much your baby means to you especially after what happened he wouldn't even think about making you get rid of your baby. Its a tough situation i'm very sorry you have to go through it, your dads gf sounds like she has nothing better to do wit herself than to make things harder for you. Good Luck with everything, it will all work out in the end.

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SHOW HIM THE REPLYS ON YORKIETALK:D:D:D:D:D


THIS IS A MESSAGE TO YOU DAD; YOUR DAUGHTER NEEDS YOU RIGHT NOW. OK SHE HAS A DOG, BUT ITS NOT JUST A DOG ITS HER SOUL MATE, please be fair, she was there in your life first and will always be there for you, we all feel her pain x

Wow, you are in a tough situation. I hope you will be able to work things out, so you can keep your pup with you. I also hope you can talk to your dad one-on-one to explain everything.

I hate to admit this, but one of the times my adult stepdaughter wanted to live with us (around 2000), she also wanted to bring her Yorkie. I was not happy about this at all because I had cats. But after much discussion, she came with her Yorkie Tinkerbell, and that was the beginning of my love affair with the Yorkie breed. So, you never know what can happen....