My Dog isnt Cuddly
 

I thought when I got a Yorkie he would be super cuddly and always want to be in my lap. Afterall, that's what my stepsisters 2 yorkies and my brother's yorkies do--they constantly stay by their owner wanting attention.

Winston does not. In the morning he wants love for about 15 minutes then he is totally aloof the rest of the day. He doesnt even come when I call and sometimes when I throw his ball, he just turns the other way. If I want him to come to me, he just sits there and stares. I just want some little yorkie LUVIN!!!!!! He gets plenty of time to chase animals outside and gets tons of exercise and attention, all I want is his affection in return.

Do you think this is because he is still young (6 mos). Or do you think he will continue his aloof behavior FOREVER....*sighs*

Do any of you have an aloof yorkie who could take you or leave you? I feel ashamed to admit it, but sometimes I feel rejected. :(

Simon is very much like that as well! He is 2 now and the older he gets the more cuddly he is becoming. At 6 months though, he had too much exploring to do to settle down! He still has lots of energy but he will come to me when he wants love and at night time in bed he is super snuggly. Winston is just busy being a puppy and learning new things, he will cuddle and be snuggly soon!

Oh, I am sorry...whattabummer.

When we first got Shelby she didn't hold still long enough to cuddle but I took advantage of every opportunity when I knew she was tired. I also found favorite chewies and I held her in my lap with them and let her chew away. It helped. Now she is busy, busy, busy...but when she is tired she is ready to sit in a lap and crash.

still haven't figured out how to get her to hold still so I can groom her well. oh well.
good luck

Thanks Yall!
 

Whew! Okay good. I do think age plays a part in cuddliness. My beagle is getting more cuddly now that she is a year. I hope Winnie does too. It just makes me sad. Even in bed, he would rather go far away from me to sleep. Im so pathetic, it sounds as if I am talking about my husband...HAH

They all have their own personalities. Chachi doesnt cuddle at all. MY younger yorkie Jewels does cuddle though but usually it is when she wats to.

I think they go through stages. But, one thing you said ... "He doesn't come when I call him ..." ~ I really think it could be a matter of life or death, that's how important it is to teach him two things. To Come and to Stay. And both are really easy to train. Just get him a little (cat?) halter and longggg (15'-20') thin clothesline rope. Always say his name, "Winston, come!", repeatedly until he does. Then just put him down and say, "Winston, stay!" and walk away ... repeatedly until he does. Only takes a few times over a few days.
Once he knows these two commands ... he won't jump out of a car unexpectedly and possibly be run over, he won't (well ... he might) take off down the road, he'll come back!

I guess is the age. Gucci wasnt too cuddly, now she is 1 and she a bit more cuddly but when she wants to be. When she is into playing, I don't bother tying to cuddle with her. When she want to sleep she always looks for me. So dont despair he still can change and become cuddly. :)

I would have to say that Rowdy (8 months old tomorrow!) is not too cuddly either. When I come home he is so glad to see me and he lets me pick him up and love on him and he gives me sooo many kisses - but then he's off playing and doing things and although he likes me to pick him up, he doesn't necessarily want to cuddle. He will let me pick him up and give him a hug and a kiss and he will usually give me a kiss back, but if I try to do it one more time, he starts pushing to get down. He only sits in my lap when he is tired or chewing on a toy or something and then he is usually up and down several times (unless he's tired). Anyway I would say that he is becoming more cuddly as he gets older but he is definitely not a cuddly guy right now. He is extremely sweet and good natured though, so I think as he matures, he will be more likely to want to cuddle.

He always comes if I squat down or make an urgent sounding voice with a treat. But what I meant about not coming is when Im sitting on the couch and say 'winnie'--he knows the difference in urgency and when Im just wanting his attention.

Ive been to puppy school and we do know come and stay, but thank you for the advice Chipper.

Minnie my little girl would stay on my lap 24/7 if I would let her. Mickey only wants to be cuddle when he wants to be and never stays on my lap. he comes gives me kisses and is off again.

Yorkies are pretty independent most of the time. They are terriers and are lively and would usually rather look out a window or play outside unless they are asleep in your lap. :D

Missy would lewt u hold her and pet her all the time. she takes her foot and shoves your hand if your not petting her. BoBo loves to be held but would rather go byby. We tought him to come no matter where we are by calling him and giving him a treat always wehen he does whats told. Harley runs all day and goes to bed when i go. then he will kiss and kiss and go nite nite.

Sometimes my yorkie Lacey would get like that. Sometimes she would be all cuddly wanting to be in your lap at all times. Then, sometimes she would hide behind the couch and not want to be bothered. But, usually that was only when she was not feeling well. When we had company over, she had to be in my mom's lap. If she even tried to put her down, she would be scratching at her leg and barking until she picked her up. Just like a baby. She got really clingy the last few months before she died. She wanted to be held constantly. She knew the end was near and did not want to be alone.

Just a thought, but maybe if you acted more aloof Winston would actually start to want more loves. I know it workes that way for humans sometimes. We all have had friends at one point in our life who acted very needy and the one thing we wanted to do was have some space from that person no matter how nice or caring that person may be. But if the person starts acting like they have a life--then you actually miss feeling wanted and needed. I think dogs can be the same way. I'm in no way implying that you are "needy" but maybe Winston feels like he needs some space (even if you let him play on his own now) and the more you try to coddle him(beg to hold him or ask for attention), the more he'll probably want to avoid it. I could be totally wrong, but maybe you should just try to be busy and do something where you're preoccupied, like cleaning or reading or something like that where all your attention is on something you're holding. He just might get a bit jealous and want to be the "thing" held. Again, it's just a thought, but it might work.

CHloe wasnt very cuddly for the first 6 months at least. She is about 10 months and just now getting cuddly. SHe still doesnt give me too many kisses. SHe is easily distracted. I think they are just still in that hyper distracted puppy phase. My chi is almost 2 and all she does is cuddle now.

Hugs: I totally know what you mean! Ive actually tried that..just sort of ignoring him. He doesnt care. I think just like a child he is in that 'self absorbed' stage and he just wants to play all the time.

Since I wrote this thread though, he has been much better it seems. Strange huh?

How cute about missy making you pet her...my cats are just like that. It gets old with the cats though.

I think it's the age. SKippy isn't much of a cuddler at 8 months. He'd rather be playing. Gwen who is 3 just loves to cuddle all day.

Reagan just turned 1 and in the past few months I've noticed a change in her. When I would sit in the arm chair I would always put the foot thing out for her to lie on now here lately often times she will climb on up to my lap and lie on me. She will also sit by me and lay her head on me to get me to pet her. She's become extra sweet these past two months or so. As far as the bed goes she's always had to lay up against one of uswhen we goto sleep. We got her in Feb so maybe it started out for warmth I don't know. I definately could be the age.

I might also recommend you continue working on your training at home, which you may already be. Just because I've noticed with one of my big dogs he is devoted to me like nothing you've ever seen before and he was my first dog so I worked with him a lot. He's 5 now and where ever I go he goes if I sit down he will sit down and eventually lie down once he realizes I'm not going anyway, then if I get up he gets right up too. I've noticed this a lot with hunting dogs and work dogs as well. I've heard that training creates a bond that you've never seen before and the more I see the more I believe it. It may not happen right now for you but I believe in the future it will definately be worth it, not to mention you will have a very well behaved pup.

Either way I'm sure he will turn around one day.

Awwwe, that rejection feeling stinks! Here is the thing....they start out cuddly, then they lose it, then once they get older you get it back. It is nothing personal against you....most puppies just don't want to hold still very long. Trying to hold them when they don't want to be held is NOT ENJOYABLE AT ALL! I have got to the point in the past that I was like "YOU are MY dog and I AM GOING TO HOLD YOU AND LOVE ON YOU WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT!!!!!" Well.....that didn't work either. Just wait, your time will come....you won't even be able to go to the bathroom without adoring eyes staring up at you the WHOLE time! ;)

Sydney didn't enjoy being petted and cuddled until we got her spayed. Then it was an almost imediate change. During her recovery she wanted to be held because she was in pain...and that just never stopped. Now she is such a little cuddle-bug. I can put her to sleep by rubbing her tummy and chest. :)

I'm sure it will come with time.

I've been thinking so much about the cuddly problem. Susan wasn't cuddly at first either and I've been trying to remember what helped. I think sitting on the sofa helped a lot. On the sofa she had the choice between sitting beside me, on me, or at the other end. At first she sat on the other end, but gradually got closer and closer. Now she usually lays with something of hers touching something of mine. Every so often she decides it's "Yorkie Time" and takes a flying leap into my arms. But I think that offering her choice with no pressure at all helped her when she was a baby. I tried to just be content to be on the same piece of furniture with her and let her choose her own times to get close. Eventually she certainly did! I know this won't work with all Yorkies. Some are just more independent than that. But I think the general principle of letting the puppies choose helps.

Satch likes to be held but only when he wants to! If I pick him up he wants to chew on me anywhere he can reach and his little teeth are like needles.When we go to bed he likes to cuddle and when he is awake it is hit and run.Try picking him up and just giving him a smootch then put him down and walk away.Maybe after a few times he will beg for more.Independant little ones aren't they??

My choc boy, Snickers, is that way. He is the only one I have that does not want you all the time. BUT, Yorkies have their own minds and Remi is a daddy's boy. He will get on Daddy's lap for numm-numms and when I pick him up and ask if he wants numm-numms- he has a fit..Licks my face and tries to get down.
I hope your little one cozies up soon...Remember, it is not personal..Some are just that way especially those who have been taken away from their siblings too soon..

Snickers was cuddly at first but now she isnt as much, she would rather sleep and cuddle up to Jasmine. She will once in awhile want up and just lay on our lap or in bed with me for about 15 min then she is back on the floor with the Danes for the night. I could just see if she was constantly sleeping on the bed with us that Jasmine would think she could also and then we ( Husband & I) woud be on the floor with Sky lol

Its soooo funny. Since it has gotten colder, he has been a snuggling machine! Its tooo cute!

When I first got Tucker at 8 wks, he did not want much to do with me. He didn't have a lot of human socialization when I got him. Then he got attacked by the neighbors poodle and I am convinced that if I had not had him on a leash, he would have been really hurt. I grabbed him up real quick and yelled at Luca the poodle and since then he has been a mama's boy. There are only about 4 hours a day that he wants nothing to do with me. Oh, and everytime I take him to Petsmart, he begs for me to let him down to play with other dogs but that will never happen...Give him some time and lots of love and he will learn how to give you love..

Cooper didn't become cuddly and kissy until after he was neutered. Now . . . if my husband or I are laying on the sofa, he's on our chest wanting to be as close to us as possible!

Yorkie puppies are very busy babies. There is always a dust bunny to chase, a fly to eat, a foot to bite, not to mention toilet paper that needs to be unrolled, etc.

My three were always way too busy to be cuddly. Even now at 2, Chattie only wants to be cuddled WHEN SHE WANTS TO BE CUDDLED, Chizzie at 1 1/2 is way too busy playing ball, and Peppy, well Peppy is just way to busy being busy.

Chattie and Peppy are becoming night snugglers, though. One sleeps on each side of me except for when they both decide to sleep on my pillow.

Tigger has his moments. he'll be really cuddley and sometimes he just wants be left alone on his section of the couch. and he makes it known. he will get off my lap and jump into his section and plop down. most of the time though he prefers my lap. I think because My boyfriend(John) and I have constantly had him in our arms or on our laps since day one, we've turned him into a spoiled rotten lap dog. in fact right now he's sleeping on my lap. but don't get me wrong, he loves to play oh my goodness does he love to play. his favorite past time is playing with his squeaky basketball, and playing fetch.