OOOHHH NOOOO!!!! What do I do now?!?!
 

I've been posting about how I'm supposed to pick up my girl in the beginning of May. Yesterday, her owner took her to the vet for her health certificate and he said that she has hip luxation. :eek: He said it isn't giving her any pain right now, but that she will require surgery to her hip sockets. He went on to say that as she ages she will experience severe arthritis as a result. :(


Her owner was honest by telling me this and she revealed that her breeder had not been completely honest with her when she purchased her … she was also kind enough to offer to refund the cost of my plane ticket if I decided not to take her….

I know that yorkies can be prone to some health problems, especially the smaller ones … I just don’t know what to do with this information!!! I'm so disappointed, but I had already started to think of her as my furbaby!!! Also, I have a health issue myself that may require surgery, so I feel terrible with the idea of rejecting a furbaby because of a health issue … oh, I'm so confused!!!

I don’t want to just think with my heart here, I want to use my head, but I'm having some trouble flipping that brain switch right now … PLEASE HELP!!!

Any opinions would be appreciated….

Is this a rehome? or from a broker?

Personally you will probably need to add $2000 (each area is different) for hip surgery if you decide to take her. This is not something that will just go away and it will be painful for her down the road.

I am sure you have fallen in love with her.:(

Well if you are thinking with your head I don't think we need to tell you.

Best of luck to you.. I feel sorry about the news :( but you now know, better then down the road.

I'm bumping this up for you so it does not get lost.
I know other's have had hip surgery on thier pups and hope someone
sees this for you.
Wishing you well in your decision. Yes, I can imagine how hard this must be.
Good luck to you

soo sorry
 

That is such a tough spot to be in. I know what you mean that in your heart she was already yours. If you are a person of belief I would suggest praying about it. Also, I guess some one will take her on and would hate to think she would wind up being euthanized. But I am sure that is very unlikely. If you think you could possibly deal with it, the breeder should not charge you for her, because of the expense of getting her 'surg-ed' so to speak. Best wishes and prayers for wisdom. There is no wrong or right decision, but what is in your heart either way.

That's a hard question and it will also be a hard decision because you've been looking forward to your baby . . .

I know for myself, knowing what you now know, I wouldn't continue with the purchase because of the fact that the poor baby does have a dibilitating disease and that you, yourself, might have to have surgery in the future. While it would be wonderful to think she might not need surgery, you have to expect that being diagnosed with hip luxation and ending up being arthritic, she'll be a very special needs dog and will probably end up costing a lot of money and a lot of worry . . .

It's just such a hard decision . . .I'm sorry you have to make it . . .:(

Leave the heart out of it for the time being. Just use the brain. Consider $2,000 or more for the surgery and the extra care that will be required of you for her. Are you ready, willing, able to provide this plus the plane ticket?

Rehome. A lady had two. Keeping one.

awe...I certainly am not jealous of the decision you are facing.

I know you have been looking forward to this, but PLEASE make sure you think about the money and time required to care for this baby properly. If you are able and willing to do that, then *I* would continue with my plans and give her a wonderful home.

BUT, there is nothing wrong with passing on taking her in if you are not certain you can provide for her all the care she will need. Then, we can just pray she goes to a home where she can be taken care of.

I completely agree!!! :thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:

Personally, I wouldn't go through with it. I know you are excited and "love" her, but you are facing a lot of problems both financial and those that involve the heart. I think it's good that you found out now and before you actually brought the puppy home and really fell in love with her. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I am sorry you got this news on your baby. My 7mo old was recently diagnosed with the same hip condition. Had I known she had this prior to getting her, I think my decision would have been different. I do feel guilty for feeling this way, but I had just spent the last 10 years caring for another dog with a chronic hip condition (but different issue altogether), so my emotions are at play here knowing what may be in store for the future. My vet did say we would play the wait and see game and that surgery may or may not be needed. Of course, now that I have her, I cannot imagine not having her and I will do what ever it takes to make her happy and comfortable. You will make the decision that is right for you, and you have gotten a lot of good advice here to consider.

This is a very hard decision for you and I am sorry you have to go through this.

I can tell you my little Sophie Kate had a badly bruised hip this Winter from a fall and it was a lot work taking care of her. We had to make sure she didn't jump up and off furniture and actually had to carry her down and up our stairs.

Now with that said, there are a lot of products that I found that helped such as a ramp for the getting on and off the furniture and I used washable pee pads (at first when she was not allowed to walk for long periods of time).

I know you are excited to get her and if you think you can devote the extra time, care and expense that would be ideal.

Good luck

You really have to appreciate someone being honest with you and offering a refund of your plane ticket, with some of the stories here lately thats quite refreshing. With that said, if it were me and I had the money that may be required later, I would still take the furbaby. *Maybe* she will get along well enough to not need surgery....there are no guarantees even with a dog that doesn't have any known problems.:animal36

Tough decision.

If I had the money and the time I would do it in a heartbeat! So many people can't devote the time to care for a special needs pet - if you can it's a great service to the pet and to others as well who neglect pets. I would personally be worried about who would be able to take the dog if I would not do it.

i don't know about the hip problem but i just had surgery so i can tell you its difficult to have a dog while recovering your self and expensive i had to hire a dog walker and a pet sitter for the week i was in the hospital i still have to have a dog walker come twice a day because i can not walk my own 6 pound dog think about that when you make your decision

thanks for providing that info. she purchased the dog from a breeder, in my opinion, probably a BYB.

wow, i'm sorry to hear about your puppy ... esp. right on the heels of your last baby.

i am appreciative of the offer, i just wish this weren't even an issue :( i know there are no guarantees, and since i am trying to rescue a pet instead of purchase one, i have to consider that any rescue i get could also have health issues that have to be handled ... i know i could have the issue even with a baby i purchased at a high price!!

i am grateful to all of you for your opinions ... she doesn't need the surgery right now and maybe she never will ... but she probably will ...

i hadn't even considered the additional expense of me having my surgery and having to pay for her care....

grrrrrrr, this is soooo difficult!!! :( i haven't even met her and i have already cried over this!! i want to do the right thing for both me and the furbaby!! please keep us in your thoughts and prayers....

I'm so sorry this baby is sick. I know how you were so looking forward to getting her. Heck, I was looking forward to it, and we haven't met before.

I think if I was in your shoes, I would research vets in my area, and seek out specialist. Ask questions to those that know and if the lady that has the puppy would cooperate and send you her files so you can make a real educated decision. You and only you know how much your heart and your wallet can take. Good luck!

Go with your gut instinct!
 

I think the above advice is so great! It allows you to really search out your options and find everything out first and then make that decision! It also buys you some time to search your heart. I was thinking that if it were me and I could afford it I would do it. Whatever your decision, you have to make the decision that is best for you and we can all tell you what we would or wouldn't do if the situation were ours but none of us is you! So take the time you need to really figure things out and you will know in your gut what is best to do. Just to use a personal example...we were given the opportunity to adopt a baby boy from samoa that was in town and living with his uncle. Our hearts wanted so badly to have a baby that before that moment we couldn't have on our own. But my gut was telling me no and I didn't have any good reason why my gut was saying no but when you know you know. We ended up finding some details out down the road that confirmed that our final decision was right but a lot tears were cried in the process. All I can say is that your gut might be telling you yes even when all the evidence says that you shouldn't take her. Or the opposite. Go with your gut because I think it never steers us wrong if that makes any sense at all. I am praying that as you make this difficult decision that the answers will become clear and you will have peace with your decision. Please let me know if there is anything I can do even if its just providing a listening ear from someone impartial so you can dialogue all options and feelings! Would be glad to PM my phone number. Here with you in spirit! :animal-pa:animal-pa:animal-pa

I just sent you a pm. Have you made a decision yet on what you are going to do?
Sorry to hear you are having to maybe undergo surgery yourself. Praying it all works out with your health situation and you won't have to.

Hugs, Patti and Jack and girls.

Just seeing this... I know how much you were looking forward to bringing your new baby girl home... no one can really tell you what to do, you just need to follow your heart AND your head which is always the hardest part. Good Luck with whatever decision you make.

What would you have done if you had found this AFTER you had her home? None of us have any guarantees of having a perfectly healthy dog when we bring them home, but I don't think many of us would give them up because of it.

Of course, only you know your financial situation and whether or not you can take this on. No one is going to blame you if you can't. And there are more than a few yorkies out there that need to be rescued.

It's a hard decision. I hope you can find your answer.

I was just thinking of 2 things regarding your situation.....What will happen to her if you don't take her?....I wonder if there may be a veterinarian college near enough to you that would take on the surgery she needs at a reduced rate? I am so sorry you have to make this decision - I really don't know what I would do in your place.....

Nope, no vet colleges in SoCal. At least not any I've ever heard of. Good thinking though.

i was sooooo looking forward to it :( could you tell by the million posts i did?? :rolleyes:

if i had already brought her home, there's no doubt about what i would've done ... that's the easy answer situation, here's the hard one :(

that is good thinking, i got my hopes up for a moment :( i was looking so forward to a play date soon!! i feel like you are all in this with me, i truly appreciate everyone's support....

thanks, you are absolutely right ... i need to pray/meditate on it and figure out what to do ... i still have some time to decide ... i may also ask to speak to her vet and see if he has some additional perspective....

Are you paying for this puppy? Do you have any idea what the plan by this woman is if you do not take the puppy?


I really like the idea to speak to this woman's vet for more information. My other suggestion would be to search YT for others that have had similar surgeries for their pups to get a handle on what it will take financially and medically to treat. If you decide not to take her you might suggest a rescue in SoCal that would be able to help her if the owner would be willing to surrender her. There is a huge over population of Yorkies in the SoCal area and not enough foster homes available. I would hate to see her fall through the crack in a shelter. :( There are several members on YT that are involved with YTNR that would be able to guide you in the proper directions if a rescue was needed. :)

Good thinking, but this puppy isn't in SoCal yet. It's my understanding this little girl would be coming from out of state.

OP: We will have our play date. God has a plan and you'll have a precious baby. Don't stress over it. I know easier said than done.
Now that I think about it, Kaji came to me while I was recovering from surgery. I was mobile again and I know there was no way I could have cared for him as well as I did if I was still lying around trying not to move an inch. (long story, but I decided to go easy on the pain pills. I was being "Macho". :rolleyes:) Either way, your perfect furbaby will be worth all the waiting. I can at least guarantee you that much. :)

thanks for your thoughts. i hope you are feeling better since your surgery....

no, i wasn't paying for her, she is a rehome. i haven't yet asked her, but i don't think she'll give her away if i don't take her ... i do plan to find out though.... good idea about the research, i checked and most of the info i found was on LP....

she's actually not in california, she's in maryland. that's why she offered to reimburse me for the plane ticket i purchased.

so true :( but i am going to focus on the positive here ... everything happens for a reason and many times we don't know what the reasons are, but i am grateful that my steps will be ordered.... whenever it is, i will look forward to our play date :)

thanks for the support, i REALLY appreciate all of your kindness, YT'ers are AWESOME!!! :thumbup:

i also find it refreshing that the lady was honest with you and offered to reimburse the plane ticket. she could very well have kept the info to herself, so that says a lot about where HER heart is.

also, you really never do know what may happen (health issues) with ANY puppy you get. you could pass up this puppy and end up getting another one that has issues just as bad if not worse - depending on how honest the breeder or foster parent is.

this is a decision only you can make, unfortunately, and i don't envy you. i know that i couldn't personally afford to look at a 2,000 dollar vet bill right now, but that's a risk we all take when having a pet (much like a child). the pup i DO have already could very well be diagnosed with an illness (or whatever) that would be very expensive to correct. then again, she may live to be 20 and never have a problem.

what does YOUR GUT tell you?

go with it.