Nancy1999 | 06-13-2009 08:18 AM | I try to put myself in the other person's position and say how would I feel, if for whatever reason, I would not want a pet in my bedroom and my hubby chose to sleep with the dog. How would I feel? Probably, I would feel hurt, and in that case, I personally would like it if my hubby said to me, "Honey, I feel bad for sleeping on the couch, I missed you so much, but I can't help it, I was so worried about Marley." This would make me feel better, and more apt to compromise my position.
I think a little bed or crate next to your bed might be a compromise your husband could work with. Marriage is all about compromise, and maybe you could give-in on some other topic, that he feels strongly about, and he could give-in on those topics that you feel strongly about. You have to figure out how strongly someone "truly" feels, or if they are just being stubborn because their feelings are hurt. Best of luck with this, but if you feel a little guilty, it might be your inner self telling you, you need to work this out with your husband, many of us can understand your position, and may have done the same thing, but his feelings should be taken into account, and he's probably hurt. |