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05-13-2009, 03:37 PM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ontario
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| Yorkie & Affection Hello all, My first post, and I have no idea of where to search for this. If you have any links, please let me know. This may seem like a small deal, but it is a very large concern of mine. We bought a yorkie (3 months old) on Sunday and brought him home. My girlfriend was sick for a couple of days and today she went to work and I stayed home. I am currently unemployed and hopefully I will have a job by September. She has played with him a lot and cuddled with him. I have spent the days with him, leaving him in his pen when I go outside and letting him lay near me when I am inside. We purchased the yorkie because she had to give her cats away because I was allergic to them. I like animals but she loves them so much more and wants our yorkie to love her. Problem is that, after only 3 days, he whines for me when I leave him in the room with my girlfriend. I really want her to be the primary person he goes to. I think this problem will only get worse because I will be off work for another little while. I don't mind being the "mom" but I don't want him to run from her to come to me. Has anyone run into this? I would love any tips anyone has to prevent this from becoming more severe. I can see no reason, other than the fact that I am spending more time at home, that he shouldn't want to be around her. This puppy was supposed to make her happy but I think it hurts her that he is clinging much more to me. |
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05-13-2009, 04:15 PM | #2 |
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| Unfortunately, dogs usually "connect" with their care-taker so if you're going to be his primary feeder every day, the treat giver, the attention giver, etc. He will probably take to you more. Try getting her to feed to feed him every day, etc. I don't know your schedules and if that is possible, but that will help!
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05-13-2009, 04:26 PM | #3 |
Thor's Human Donating Member | I think that dogs can change their affections, so I wouldn't worry about it too much if she is going to be spending more time with the dog than you at some point. Britster gives good advice as usual (). If possible have your gf feed him. Also, FYI, I became my dog's favorite person while he belonged to someone else, simply by being more fun. I took him on walks, she did not, I trained him, she did not. So maybe your dog can have some special fun time with your gf that he does not get otherwise -- special treats might help with this too! I'm sure he will love both of you, and it's only been a few days. Try to be happy that the dog is happy.
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05-13-2009, 04:37 PM | #4 |
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| Welcome to YT! We went thru a similar situation. Our newest puppy took to me like glue and wasnt too fond of my husband so we we have a little routine thing in our house called "puppy time." Its an opportunity for my husband and him to bond whether it be by cuddling, playing or training and I totally ignore them. So far its worked like a charm. Since its so early on the best thing you can do is take a back seat approach and remain indifferent to the little guy, as hard as that is. Congrats on your new little guy! The boys are lovers! |
05-13-2009, 04:44 PM | #5 |
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| I'm home all day with my girl. She still manages to bond with my husband. She looks forward to when he comes through the door in the evenings. In the mornings, he's up with her to do the first morning toilet relief routine. He takes her outside for a walk before work if it's dry out. If not, he tosses a toy with her inside while supervising her play with the cat also. This while he catches up on some readings and such is their morning routine. All the while, I'm just sleeping in. She also hangs with her daddy (curls on his lap or against him on the couch) or doing her own thing or chase the cat in the evenings when we're all home doing our thing after her evening outting. During the day, if it's nice out, I also take her out for a walk. I am the one giving most of the treats. She still managed to bond with her treat-stingy father. He does do the evening feeding because she expects it of him. She does not necessarily run from one of us to go to the other. Her favourite person is not human, it's a cat. She runs to the cat on call. She doesn't care which one of us leaves the house if we're not taking her along with us, but she does care when any of us returns home to greet her. But when we're out, she does whine when either of us leaves the car without her, but not so much because she prefers either one of us as it is because she loves going out in general. So maybe besides cuddle and play, your girlfriend should also be feeding her. And by playing, for dogs, it's not all about tickles and cuddles, unfortunately (for me ). I find myself playing the part of a dog sometimes with the toy tugging and such. Have her play chase with him too. They generally love that game. |
05-13-2009, 05:07 PM | #6 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: vacaville ca usa
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| My little Krystal is 5 months old today. I had my gall bladder out 3 days after I got her, was home with her for two weeks and we really bonded. But she loves my husband, all four boys, and the cat. (he's last, he doesn't play with her) One of my boys will get down on the floor to play with her, so he's the favorite son. Have your girlfriend get down on the floor on his level and play, give a treat, maybe even brush the hair. Keep doing this and she'll quickly become a favorite. |
05-13-2009, 05:20 PM | #7 |
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| Treats, hugs and lots of patience!!!! Will make your yorkie connect with your girlfriend. If your yorkie is still young most luckily that is why he is crying for you, your like his mommy! Just tell your girlfriend to have lots of patience, praise the little guy with lots of love, hugs and treats. Have her take him for walks when she can and keep working on it, stressing over it will make things go slower, the dogs can feel it! We are a work in progress here, my yorkie would not go to anyone but me, especially scared of men. She now will go to my hubby without a problem after lots of what I mentioned above! Good luck |
05-13-2009, 05:26 PM | #8 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ontario
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| Wow.. lots of fast responses. I have read them all and will make sure to do everything I can to make certain my girlfriend gets the love she wants from our little guy. Patience we will have! Thank you so much for the help... it has calmed much of my anxiety. I will no doubt be frequenting the board as the puppy grows up! I still have a lot to discover re: training! (especially crying at night!). Billy |
05-13-2009, 05:29 PM | #9 | |
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05-13-2009, 05:52 PM | #10 |
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| I actually spend more time with Winston...but OMG he LOVES his daddy when he's home. Lays on his lap, plays ball with him...literally follows him every where he goes. But still, if he's scared or not feeling well it's me he seeks...I'm the one that takes care of him over all...hubby just gets to love him and play with him...LOL, I think Winston thinks daddy is his favorite toy!!!
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05-13-2009, 05:57 PM | #11 |
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| Hi there, and Welcome to YT ! You have already recieved a lot of wonderful advice. Your new puppy will attach himself quickly to the first person who spends the most time with him. He is like a new human baby. Very needy and demanding. I am not surprised by the little puppy's behavior one bit .He is so young, and everything is new to him, being in a new home, and new people to bond with. He obviously has really connected to you, which I thi8nk is natural. In time, he will also bond to your Girlfriend .However, she needs to also take interest in the puppy. She has to play with him, feed him, pet him, and hold him as much as possible. Give him affection, treats, and be there for the little puppy. He will love the both of you. My Suzi loves me , and she and I are bonded by the hip. LOL. However, she is always exptionally happy to see my son, spend time with him, and can't wait to see him every day when he returns from school. They are both very happy together. ANd share a close relationship too . Although, Suzi still sleeps on my bed, always runs to me after spending time with my son in his room, Ect> Suzi is a people person though, and loves it when anyone comes over .She can't wait to jump in their laps and lick their faces if they let them! I do not think all Yorkie's are like her with people though . And Suzi is not this friendly with other dogs. She is shy .And more stand offish. Congradulations on your new puppy.
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05-14-2009, 12:16 PM | #12 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ontario
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| Today, he was walking from one side of the couch, where she is, to me to lie down. I have gotten in the habit of picking him up right away and putting him back near her. I hope he is going to associate the two things and just stay near her when we are relaxing. She gives him so much more affection than me... not sure why he reacts this way. He won't relax with her on the bed. Sometimes we think he may have to go pee. So I bring him to the pen to pee and instead he lies down... he won't play. So, after 5-10 minutes in the pen with him I bring him back to her and he will not relax! When my girlfriend first went to look at the puppy, he seemed to be very attached to the husband. Could this affection have been transferred over to me? Our next step is to put a piece of clothing that smells like her in his crate. I have some more questions, but will put them in another post... my search function is not working! |
05-14-2009, 12:23 PM | #13 | |
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05-14-2009, 12:24 PM | #14 |
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| We've had Baxter for just over a year. He likes my husband but he is so attached to me. He can be totally involved with playing with DH and favorite ball and if I stand up he stops dead still to see if I'm leaving. It is very frustrating for DH- doesn't bother me a bit! Good luck with the new baby. |
05-14-2009, 12:27 PM | #15 |
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| I am home all day with mine but when Daddy gets home their his babies. I think they just view you as the pack leader. You can have your girlfriend feed, give treat, walks and play time and he still may favor you because your the pack leader.
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