Tired of of the comments...
 

Ok, so this has been bothering me since I've had Couver.

I like to have his hair up so it stays out of his face. But, people automatically assume he's a girl because his hair is up. It upsets me. A girl even said something about him being a cross-dresser. I don't know why it is such a big deal, but people are weirded out that he has his hair up.

Does anyone here have a certain way that they explain the hair tie without people being weirded out about it?

I enjoy the look of him with his hair up, but even the hubby is bothered by the comments that people make... I'm just frustrated.

Don't worry too much about it . I had the same experiences when Nathan was alive . I never paid attention to what peoples said .

Just tell them they know nothing about the breed. When a Yorkies hair is longer you pull it up so that it's out of their eyes and won't damage their eye sight!! Simple just like the people that make the rude remarks!!!!! IMO...:rolleyes:

Try to get used to it... I have both of my boys in puppy cuts and no top knots and people still mistake them for girls! :rolleyes:

Couver is so cute in his pony!....I have three boys and they all wear their hair in a pony.....I keep Jake's more off to the side because he just looks better like that rather than one sticking up on his head......

I've gotten comments here and there but it doesn't bother me in the least....I just say, "They're boys".:rolleyes:......

Once I had a repair man here and he thought I had three girls...I just get amused by it...:p

Just explain to people that Yorkies wear a 'topknot'. Couver is adorable! I'd put a pretty blue bow is his hair, and let people's ingnorance roll off your back, like a duck does water.

Sheila

I used to get that with Hot Rod also. I just tell them that he's my baby and if I want him to have a topknot than he will. :)

He is so cute. Too bad they don't make bows that say, "I am a male"!!!!!

Actually there are quite a few bows with sports items on them. Do browns, greens, and plaids on your boys--fewer people then think the dog is a girl. Just a suggestion.

Thor's former owner had him in a top knot for a long time. I would train him sometimes, I would find myself saying "Good Girl!" over and over again. He's in a puppy cut now and I'd say maybe one in three people guess he's a boy. That's about as masculine looking as he is going to get. :)

We have some cute plaid bows for Seymour. He has a brown one with a bear in the center. Although he sometimes gets a light blue one at the groomer, we don't do pastels very often. I actually like the "softer" looking bows, but if I ask my hubby to get a bow out for Seymour....... you can bet that it is more "manly" than the one that Shelby gets! ;)

Most people who comment loud enough for me to hear say things like, "Oh, look, she even has a little bow on her." This is when all she has is a hair tie on her with her hair up like a turnip head (Hubby calls it that. I call it a broom or ponytail LOL). But I've noticed that whenever I use a blue hair tie, people automatically assume she's a boy. I don't bother correcting them. When it's a grey tie, they seem more unsure and actually ask. Half the time, when they ask, I tell them she's a boy. The other half of the time, I tell the truth. I really don't see the difference whether they know it's a girl or a boy much like I see no reason most of the time for strangers to know what I had chosen to name her. So I even have a fun boy name we sometimes say is hers depending on mood and person interested. ;) Her jackets are gender neutral or lean more toward the boyish side too.

I've only maybe had to explain briefly to strangers twice before about her hair getting in her eyes if it wasn't tied back. There are times I like leaving it down and she can still see, just not as well, and walk her that way. She seems to attract less attention at that point so we are left well enough alone to do our thing. :D

I don't worry about it too much. Whether people think she's a boy or girl, they aren't making the assumption with rudeness as their intention. But that girl who called Couver a cross-dresser, I hope she was just too young to know better.

I think a lot of people assume yorkies are girls regardless. A lot of people think rylie Is a girl but I just tell them He is a boy. I don't care what other people think or say. I think yorkies of both sexes are gorgeous with long hair and a topknot with bow. I don't like the visor cuts personally. I like a topknot.

You can tell them the yorkie breed standard says that the hair on head is to be tied up in a topknot with bow. It does say they are to have a bow. You fan also say it's to keep his hair out of his eyes. And that you just like the way it looks

You can not only use the explanations of it being part of the breed standard to have a topknot and that it makes it easier for the dog to see by having the long hair pulled up and back; but you could also "blame" it on the groomer! :awink:

Try not to worry about the comments..everyone, without fail, thinks that Molly is a boy..even when she is wearing her lovely pink spotty puppia harness, with matching pink lead! :rolleyes:

That is when he got called a cross-dresser! :mad: He had a bow in his hair...

She knew better... she was probably 30. I was quite offended by the comment.

Yeah, I don't mind as much when they mistake him for a girl, but when they make comments about how I should not have his hair like that (my MIL) etc, I get upset. I prefer the look of the topknot, I do not know why it is such a big deal to everyone. :confused:

Everyone often mistakes my boys as girls too...sometimes I go along with it...other times I just smile and say they are all boys...and joke about them not being able to tell with the "manly" bows they are wearing..... sometimes I explain that Yorkies often top knots...depends on my mood...

I try not to get too bothered by it...I have all male dogs...so unless a dog is in pink I often refer to their dogs as boys...so I guess others could get upset by me too :-)

Mine are both 11lbers and most people seem to assume they are both boys-1boy 1girl (even with a bow in her hair), . But people are just ....... Years ago I had my son (skin kid) in a stroller. He had a little white and navy blue sailor suit on and some woman said "oh, isn't SHE cute". I tend to just smile at them and don't have time to justify it.

:thumbup::thumbup:Rosey, using the situation as a training opportunity is a great idea. Just telling them that the standard says.... "The fall on the head is long, tied with one bow in center of head or parted in the middle and tied with two bows" would be enough. But some might prefer the more utilitarian explanation of keeping the hair out of their eyes. And you're right again, blaming it on the groomer could be fun. :)

Mostly, we just can't take the comments too seriously. We know!

Don't even get me started! lol i know how you feel. I also keep Teddy's hair like that and ppl always think he's a girl. I tell them he is metrosexual like David Beckam LOL Yesterday i was in the store with my bf and Teddy and a guy goes 'i guess he should date the dog and not you' cause Teddy looked like a girl with a purple hairclip. The guy was just trying to make us laugh, which i did cause its not that serious anyway. I didn't even notice Teddy had a purple hair clip anyway, i try to put blue and green but they fall off and they end up all over the place so i just put which ever hair clip i find closest to me most times, which belong to the girls also.

Everyone assumes Norman (shih tzu) is a girl now that his hair is long enough to pull up out of his eyes. I just smile and tell them "REAL men wear ponytails!" :p

I dont know why people always assume that. But I at one time would assume the something before I knew anything about yorkies and one person told me that females where the girlie colors and boys wore the boy colors that would probably help me tell them apart but, then what happens if you have neutral colors on?

I'm glad I'm not the only one frustrated with this... Some people have no tact!

I also hate the comments about how "that's not a real dog!" My husband said to say to them next "So just because your husband is not 6 foot tall, does that make him not a man?!" (My husband is 6'4" and thought it was funny...) haha I can't wait to pull that one out :p

I wouldnt worry about it. I have 2 boys of my own and while I am growing coat they will always have topknots. I guess I am a little callus to it because in addition to the topknots I get all sorts of nasty comments when people see them in wraps.

Just be nice and play into it. I have some very creative stories I use when people make comments on the hair wraps ;)

As long as your dogs are happy, healthy and well-cared for, if you choose to put a topknot or boy in his hair it is nobody else's business. :)

Btw--your boy is a cutie!!

I would try and remind myself that these comments are coming from people who probably have no experience with Yorkies, therefore they have no idea what they're talking about. Hold your head high and ignore it.

Boy dogs wear bows in dog shows. You could say he is metrosexual. LOL Josh will be wearing bows too when his hair grows longer. I think the bows make the boy and girl Yorkies look adorable. Why should the girl dogs have all the fun? Everybody has their own opinion on how to style their dog's hair. Do what is best for you and your dog. You are not hurting the dog so what is their problem. Some people need to mind their own business.

Harley gets mistaken for a girl alot also. I usually just have a clear band on him, but even when he wears his "man bows" (camo w/ helicopter, black w/ motorcycle) people still make comments about how pretty "she" is. If it is a total stranger, I just say thank you and go on about my business, but if it is someone I know I will usually correct them. My poor mom sees Harley all the time and calls him her/she about 50% of the time. I think it is the pretty flowing hair, she never calls my brother wienie dog a girl!

Jeri and Harley:aimeeyork

I thought that it was so odd last night on "Groomer Has It" when the girl was talking about the other team wasting time putting bows on a boy dog! Harley always leaves the groomer with a bow...

LOL I thought it was kindof dumb to put bows on a male St. Bernard. If its a male long coated toy breed then bows are necessary but a st Bernard? LOL but hey it's all what the owner likes I guess