What a complete jerk. You deserve so much better...I cannot believe some men.

Everyone on this forum is TOO wonderful. I cannot imagine why I waited so long to get back online, but am so glad I did.

Your support, kind words (and mean ones about the ex ;)) mean the world to me and are giving me strength to make today better then yesterday.

HaHAHAHAHA :sidesplt:
Glad to hear you are doing better. :happyboun

I think I am doing better. I start the new job next week - move into my new apartment the week after! I have decided to paint my bedroom PINK!! :p

My upstairs neighbor works from home and has agreed to let my furkids out twice into the backyard each day, so I feel much less guilty about them being home alone.

I bought my furballs winter coats (after living in Miami, the cool air is SO confusing to them!)...

It still hurts...love can be painful, but loving the wrong person does not make me feel bitter or cynical, it only helps to show me how beautiful love will be when the right person comes along.

In the meantime, I am MISS INDEPENDENT! No one tells me how to spend my money, dress, walk, talk, eat or think! I am delighted at all that I have yet to discover about myself and when it gets rough, I snuggle up with Louis and Ella Bean and realize - true love comes in furry packages and is unconditional, constant and I want to model the way I live and love after these two little miracles.

You go girl! :ladywinks sounds like a exciting new life to me!

For some reason, i almost feel like i am jealous of you! LOL :jump28ib: Keep up the good positive attitude. ;)

To CupofDog
 

CupofDog, I am twice your age allow me to share with you some of what I have learned in the 25 years since I was 25 years old...1. Never love someone more than you love yourself, you must love yourself at least as much as you love someone else that way you will give the best of who you are and you will recognize an unhealthy relationship and will have the wisdom to get out of it. 2. When you have ended a bad relationship... (even if you thought it was a good relationship, the reality is that it was a bad relationship because of how he treated you)...but when you have ended a bad relationship, thank God because He has released you so that you can be free for the good relationship that will come to you if you pray and ask God to guide you to that relationship. 3. Before getting into the next relationship, develop and nuture a relationship with yourself, you need to get to know you so that you will be able to recognize who will be best for you. NOW... Don't be sad anymore, allow yourself one day of grieving (you've had that day!!!) now dry your tears, stand tall and in the words of Dr. Seuss in "Oh the Places You will Go"... "you're off to Great Places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting. So ... get on your way!!!" MOVE ON YOUR FUTURE IS WAITING FOR YOU!! :thumbup::):aimeeyork God bless You :)

I was sorry to read about the bad things you've been through this year......but sad to say............the DIVORCE sounds like it is the best thing you could be going thru!!!

The gal that posted right before me gave you some priceless words of wisdom!!!! Hope you take it to heart...and your real love is out there somewhere...waiting to be found... Take it from me.......I had a BAD, TERRIBLE, AWFUL marriage....and I didn't even realize how bad it was until things fell apart......and until I found my soul mate...so don't give up.......Stay strong....and don't lose hope for love....it's out there.....

I am very sorry to hear your news but it sounds like you have a wonderful attitude now and sounds like things will turn out to be the best! You have 2 really adorable dogs that are keeping you great company. I love dog's unconditional love :)

Goodluck with your new job and apartment!!:thumbup:

zenzele, thank you for your wisdom. It is so meaningful to have the benefit of other's experiences and their feedback on a situation.

I do have to say, I am worried about being a 'single parent' to the dogs. Not that the jerk did all that much, but I guess there was a security in having 'backup'.

The stress of moving and my anxiety has gotten to them. Louis my Cavalier has chewed on his leg, leaving a little raw spot and my yorkie mix Ella Bean is crying all the time!

What can I do to help them through this as well? I know they are feeding off of my stress and anxiety...

little girl, you are on the right road to success.. keep your chin up,
your head up and dont look back.. remember,, what goes around comes
around... i was am divorced too. loved my x to death, thought my world
was coming down on me, got sick.. not worth it.. im glad he divorced me,
like you, i would of never did it and would of wound up misserable or dead .
thought i would never find another man,, but they are out there. good luck
with your new life.. you will learn to love it.. you have your babies to care for now.. who needs a man... he will get his.... i promise

Thank you...I needed that. :)

When God closes one door, he always opens another one. Your plans are not his plans. Let go of your own and he will guide you to his. Also , if all doors are closed....he will open a window! :)

if u need to talk, just pm me ok... i will make u laugh...

Everthing happens for a reason
 

I'm sorry for your wrold to be turned upside down, He abviously doesn't desrve you. You and your babies stay strong. Sounds like you've made all the right decisions. You'll make new friends...maybe at the dog park. Good Luck on your new place,and hang in there girlfriend!!!!:thumbup: