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MY MOM is Moving In? I'm having 2nd thoughts and Anxiety Attacks....My 65 yr. old Mother is arriving this Thursday @ 5:30 pm. she's flying in from Berkeley, California. 6 months ago she lost her Job as a Real Estate/Mortgage Broker, then lost her House in Foreclosure and then a week later got her Mercedes repo'd. She stayed w/my Brother for 5 days and then w/my younger Sister (26 yrs. old) for the past 4 mos. I have NO Children but I have 3 Yorkies, she HATES All ANIMALS - ESPECIALLY DOGS! There is nothing I can do, I can't change the situation and I'm definitely NOT getting rid of my Yorkies. I'm hoping that she will fall in Love w/that Yorkie charm & personality? She can't NOT Love all 3? I'm sure that Yorkie attitude will win her over? After all NOT everyone is a Dog Lover. Maybe I'm just nervous b/c I have'nt seen her for 3 yrs. I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight, Thanks for letting me vent.:animal-pa |
Whew, good luck to you! If she won't be paying any of your utilities, I say she'll just have to suck it up! :p |
I'm wishing the best for you and your mom and the yorkies! I think it's harder NOT to fall in love with these little guys, hopefully it will be easy for your mom! |
I think even if she is helping to pay utilities, she just has to suck it up. She's under your roof afterall. |
My mom HATED dogs too. My dad always wanted one, but she never let him get one. Then she met my Pixie, now she can't wait until she has her puppies because she wants one too! :D Hopefully your mom will fall in love with yorkies too, how can she not??? |
I'm sure she will change her mind. My sister had some health problems at 64 and moved in with us for 16 months. I had 7 dogs at the time. She HATES dogs! I said no problem and put a gate in the hall to prevent then from going near her room. She are in her room to avoid the dogs. After 2 months she removed the gate and said she liked Rusty but not the others. After 4 months she decided they were all OK. Now she is in her own place and comes to visit the dogs! The fur babies will win her over you watch! |
Give it time... Your mom will fall in love with your Yorkies. She will have to, She's living under your roof after all. Good Luck to you all... Blessings...:aimeeyork Baron's Mom |
She'll fall in love, if she doesn't she's nuts :p! My mom has NEVER been an animal lover. She's always been very allergic to them to begin with but even with that aside she still never really cared for them. I wanted a dog for YEARS and she'd NEVER let me have one. Finally, my boyfriend got Lilly for me and I moved out and we'll just put it this way, my mom calls everyday asking when I'm bringing her over again. :rolleyes: |
I'm sure she will come around eventually. How could she not??? Mom moving in -- been there, done that, still have the scars. You should be upfront with her about the "rules of the house" regarding your furkids. You will have to be firm. And make sure she doesn't "accidentally" let them out. Tell her this would not be considered an accident. It just cannot happen. Before she even made her plans to visit you, did you have a conversation about the dogs? Do you still have time to do this? Let her know what the conditions are that she must abide by with regard to the Yorkies. Lay it all out for her, then tell her if she will abide by the rules, she is welcome. If she says one thing, but does another when she arrives, she will have to make other arrangements. This is non-negotiable. Good luck, and let us know how it goes. |
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From an outsider looking in... Your mom: Is 65 Lost her job Lost her home Lost her car Wasn't able to live with her son Wasn't able to live with her daughter Is moving out of state, into a totally different environment If that was me I would be SCARED to death, and feeling very alone, lonely, vulnerable, not wanted....etc. If anyone needs TONZ of TLC and understanding right now, it's your mom. If anyone is probably cranky and upset enough to be VERY difficult to love right now, it's probably still your mom. If anyone is able to continually give UNCONDITIONAL love and acceptance, it's going to be your furbabies. Even the toughest, crankiest, most hardened animal haters would have to come around to the kind of love our yorkies give us. And, thankfully, our babies seem to understand far better than people how to "be kinder than necessary." I don't envy the position you are in. Not even a little bit. Hang in there and try to look at the world through your mom's eyes - I know it has made me feel more compassionate just in the past few minutes thinking how she must feel. Things have a way of working out the way they are supposed to - I'll bet she is going to especially take to one of your babies, and she is going to take comfort from the love she receives in your home. And your yorkies are going to come out looking like the Heaven sent Angels that they truly are! I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. All of our parents (and us!) are getting older - yours is a situation any of us might find ourselves in. Keep us posted as to how you are doing. |
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I know you are nervous but it will all work out. I wish I were in your shoes. I lost My Mom about 7 yrs ago |
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Anyway Micahel became Dad to 3 cocker spaniel girls. By way of HAVING to deal with the dogs, cruella was around them a lot. For some reason, she and Cybil, one of the dogs, made a connection. Pretty soon, Cybil was spending most of her time at Cruella's house and a way from Micahel and the two other girls. Someway,somehow, she wormed her way into that coldest of hearts. Unfrotunately, Cybil died over a year ago, but I was there, and I SAW CRuella weep with my own eyes, throw herself protrate on Cybil's body. Grieving STILL as we speak. So I say, when it comes to your Mom, anything is possible. And don't forget....sounds like your Mom used to be a high roller...Real Estate is for a personality type that has the Little Engine That Could personality. AND she is getting older, and I dohn't like it, so sure she doesn't either. House, MERECEDES.... she's gonna be in a bad mood. She doesn't like HAVING to be bopped around between you kids like some charity case...so those yorkies have their work cut out for them. |
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Good luck, I'm sure everything will be fine. I wish I had your problem I lost my mom 8 years ago she was only 62, so try to understand. But your dogs also come into play too. |
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if she's on YOUR house I will say this - she's going to have to suck it up and make the best of it - dog lover or not. She's probably grateful to have a place to go at this point but may go thru some anxiety with all the moving around so have patience. I hope it works out. Remember this is YOUR MOM!!! ps - good for you doing this - |
My mother doesn't care for dogs, either. When I got Lucy after my husband died - she freaked out. "She'll poop in the house, tear everything up, it'll stink....etc" I heard it all. Well, let me tell you - within a week, Mama was in LOVE with Lucy! She comes over now to visit Lucy and Rebel and always ends up playing with them in her lap. If one of them has an accident - she's the first to make excuses for them and I think it would absolutely kill her if anything happened to one of my babies. She brought treats when they were spayed/neutered and can't wait to see them in new clothes. Your Mother will not be able to resist the yorkie personality!! |
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OP, good luck with your mom. Who wouldn't be won over by three Yorkies? :) |
Hey love I'm 66. I'm sure your mum will learn to love your Yorkies too. They sort of get under your skin after a while. lol. I pray everything works out for you love. Hugs Shirl x x |
We Converted my MOM! Let me start by saying "Thank You" to everyone for all your support! I want everybody to know that we converted my Mom, she is now a Yorkie Lover and my 3 Yorkie's over whelmed her with Love. It officially took 24 hrs. for them to force themselves all over her. At first she said "I don't want them sitting on me" and "I don't want them to kiss my face/mouth" and now she is brushing them while watching TV. She met Artie 3 yrs. ago while I was visiting her, we stayed for 4 mos. so she already knew him. She gets along w/all 3, but Abigail has laid claim on her and acts like she owns her. They are inseperable and she keeps talking to her. I had moved out of the Master Bedroom and Bathroom so she could have some extra privacy and space. We are staying in our Guest Room w/c is smaller. I kept Artie's Cubbie Hole Bed in her Bathroom b/c that's where he likes to stay and she has NO problem w/it. She has not complained about them at all or the House smelling like Dogs or their miniature Furniture all around my House? Or how much time they are hanging around us. I'm relieved and I should have known better? I don't know why I wasted my time worrying about it? Who would'nt Love a Yorkie? I believe she was meant to be here and experience them so they could penetrate her Cold Heart. |
I AM SOOOOO HAPPY FOR ALL OF YOU!!! Good job giving her the chance to be with you - you are doing the right thing. If your mom is anything like the rest of us, I'll bet Abigail knows secrets hurting your mom's heart that noone else knows - they are such good little therapists! That was very generous of you to give up the master bedroom for your mom - I can only imagine how much she appreciates all that you are doing for her - whether it is easy for her to say it out loud or not!! I looked at your profile - you and I are the same age. It could be my turn next - you never know...you are a great example of what we need to be doing. THANK YOU!!! Have a great day and I will keep praying for your entire household!! |
That is wonderful wonderful news! So glad that your little yorkies have warmed her heart...sounds like she really needs them right now.:aimeeyork:aimeeyork:aimeeyork |
I'm glad everything is going well! You're rite, who couldn't love a yorkie! |
So glad that things are working out! |
Another one bites the dust:D |
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Oh good! Just read your update and I'm so happy for all of you. Hopefully the pups will help her in so many ways, just being loved by a dog can uplift the spirit:) My mom is crochety as all hell, but loved my Starr to bits. She always hated dogs and would never let us have one growing up, but now she's even contemplating having a Yorkie. I wish I could afford to buy her one, it might make her cold dead heart liven up a bit:laugh: |
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