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Maximus is onthe verge of eviction....... from the bedroom that is...... he has slept with my bf and I for 2 months now and since that day has refused to let us touch...ALAS..he sleeps in the middle of us SPREAD WAY OUT the minte an arm goes around me....and if I get a kiss he has to be in on it...so no love life...lol but yesterday my bf went to put his arm around me and Maximus just bit him squarely in the face...and then he continued to watch guard..and my bf has had it.....he said that maximus has to start sleeping in his own bed now and that he is spoiled because of me :( .....thing is Maximus knows how to jumps on the bed and so I can't leave his bed in the room because he will just jump up.....so do I leave him gated in the living room with his bed, crate and toys??? I feel kinda bad to have him sleep by himself and I think he will just bark all night...I considered sleeping in the living room with him also...but that will only bring more arguments...any suggestions??? |
This is one of the main reason I crate trained Brad. From day one we actually had him sleeping in the bathroom. Now that Brad and I are on our own he sleeps in his crate most nights. Sometimes I'll let it slide, but he knows the routine just in case. ;) ;) |
Hindsight is a b**ch..huh....lol, I never crated Maximus, he was just gated and did sooo well on potty training that I never saw the need and now it is coming back to bit me in the butt....do you think 6 months is too late??? |
I use a playpen when I want the dogs confined for any reason and they are used to it but they usually are allowed in the bed before we sleep. :) |
Maybe you could start out slow and put him in his own bed in your room for a little while. When he jumps on the bed, put him back in his own bed. You might not get any sleep for a while, though. Then, gradually move him out of your room. I think its sad to not only make him sleep in his own bed, but not let him be around you at all while he sleeps. Making such a drastic change in his life will probably upset him and you'll have more behavioral problems. Brody has gradually been sleeping somewhere besides my bed, but it was his own choice. I think I moved too much at night. Then I put his bed in my room and he LOVES it. He'll sleep there all night instead of my bed. He still jumps up sometimes in the middle of the night (usually around 5 or 6 am), but he is mostly on the ground. When my boyfriend spends the night, Brody will sleep right on top of me. But then he'll decide that he is too tired to be protective and he'll go sleep somewhere else. I definitely would move slowly and try not to cause any major crisises in your puppy's life. |
Our dog sleeps in the guest bedroom in his crate with the door shut. Some day he might be allowed to sleep on the guest bed, but never in ours. I would suggest something like this. Do you have a spare room with a bed? if you gate him out of the room and he can see the two of you in bed together i think he will get very upset. You can try crate training but i figure you'll will have at least a couple weeks of sleepless nights. |
Why not have him sleep in his crate for a few nights. See what happens. If he starts whimpering or barking, your BF might feel bad for him..hehe..tug on the heart strings. I hope your bf wasn't too hurt, I don't know what to tell you sweety, that totally sucks. I feel for you. Maybe if you have Maximus sleep on your side of the bed instead of in the middle. That's what I do with Coco, when a friend or someone sleeps over. She cuddles with me by the edge. |
Brad didn't use the crate at all until he was 14 months (our new home) He took to it very well, but it may have been because in the next room over was another yorkie who loved his crate. I think Brad's roommate talked him through the process. :rolleyes: |
Stewie has slept in bed w/ me since day 2. I can't sleep when he's NOT in bed w/ me. I kick him out when I am, um having my love life and let him back later. He has never bit though, so I am not sure how I would approach this. |
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Hmmm one day this may be a problem for Bruce and I...Actually probably not, because I think Bruce will chase off any guy before he gets to the sleeping in my bed stage... I think Maximus would be fine in the living room if you could just ignore him when he first starts barking (if he does)...I know it is hard to do, but I am sure you can do it! |
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I put Coco's crate on my nightstand for a long time. That way she can see me but is in her own crate. Maybe he'll get the picture and be less possessive. He will have to learn to deal with your b/f being ALL over you and not him. :D |
Yea I didn't know when I got a lil dog we'd be havin threesomes...lol :eek: |
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We had the exact same problem with Lexi. Persistence is how it was corrected. The first night she jumped up on the bed some 5 times. Each time we picked her up, put her on the floor and gave her a gentle nudge towards her bed which is on the floor next to my side of the bed. The 5th time she went to her bed and stayed there. This went on for 3 nights. On the 4th night she went directly to her bed and she has done this ever since. It's been about 4 months now. In the morning she jumps up to say good morning and we allow this. Don't want to take all of her, and our pleasures away. Keep on it. They're smart and stubborn. You have to be more stubborn and more persistent and you'll win. Good luck! |
When we were on vacation it was one of my fears that Pita would drive my mother in law nuts cuz she(mominlaw) didn't want Pita in the bed with her, which is fine, she's not a dog freak like me... We took Pita's lil bed there and she slept in it every night! no questions asked! I guess they will do what's expected of them... |
Maximus has certainly decided that you belong to him ;) Trace was sleeping with us, now he sleeps in his crate in our room. He is allowed back in the bed with me after he goes potty outside. He has this routine so down pat that when my husband brings him back inside, he immediately runs back to the bedroom and waits by the bed for him to pick him up (he's too small to get up by himself). Since it sounds like you never crated Maximus, before putting him in there for an extended period of time, I suggest doing several small stints during the day in an attempt to get him used to it. You'll be surprised how much he'll decide he likes his crate. If we open his crate and tell him to get in.....he goes and even goes in it by himself to nap. Good luck :) |
Oh My!! I never thought of this (which really says a lot about me)! Maybe you could put Maximus in a playpen by your bed so he can see you? I think the best bet is to take the advice of everyone that has posted and experiment. I suppose one day I'll need a plan for this won't I? Let's hope so........ |
My husband has had a BIG no Esme on the bed rule since day one. She is allowed EVERYWHERE and ANYWHERE except for our bed. I kind of am sad that I can't sleep with her, but at the same time, when him and I are doing our stuff she doesn't bother us. She goes to her own little bed beside our bed and stays there, which is good. Also, we have a really HIGH sleigh bed so even if she wanted to, which she has never tried, I don't think she would be able to get up there... so maybe a new taller bed is the answer? ;) |
I am sorry. Maybe you could have Maximus sleep in a little bed beside your bed for a while and sneak him back in bed after your BF cools off. Good luck! |
Oh wow Sam thats a tuffy... he has been in his crate before right? This is one of the reasons why everyone told me not accustom him to sleeping in my bed.. one reason small bed... second reason ... if decide to have a VISITOR it would be a huge prob but for the past 2 nites or 3 he has been waking me up by banging his crate door. and i would go check on him and eventually take him out and place him on my bed.. and boy does he make himself comfy .. he lays out spread eagale (sp) but i leave him there for about 20 mins then off to his crate he goes... are u gonna try the crating tonite?? |
I don't know...I am thinking that I will bring his crate into the bedroom and put him in it with a treat...then try to go to sleep so that at least he is in the same room with me. No I have never crate trained him.....he has a crate and he goes in there as he pleases but I only lock the door when I am mopping and he gets a treat while I do that. He was baby gated and he potty trained quickly so I didn't see the need....but he is a climber/jumper I swear he can jump like 2 feet and climb the other foot...I am just confised...I am debating the playpen thing!!! |
oh dear.... its gonna be a huge adjustment for Max... but the sooner u do it the better! let us know how things go.. u know waht i just remembered when i first got chicle i was told that i should crate him but place him somewhere he wont be able to see you... he can hear you but he must not see you b/c then he will try to get ur attention even more. so i placed Chicle's crate down the hall outside my bedroom .. he would cry and then i would say GO TO BED/SLEEP in a stern voice and i would have to do that acouple of times and he eventually got it .. i hope that works for you. try it. cant hurt. |
You might not want to do the playpen if he is a climber/jumper. Unless you turn it upside down. That's what we did with one of our previous dogs. Does he have a cuddly stuffed animal? When Brody doesn't sleep on my bed, he will sleep on my dirty clothes or clean clothes (depending on the day) that are on my futon. He makes a little nest. You might throw one of your sweatshirts or something in there for him. |
Wow...I hadn't thought about this and won't for quite a while but my future husband will just have get used to the girls in bed, while we are sleeping...if not then he can have the couch while we have the bed...lol... |
Wow we are in the same boat!! Brett and i have noooo love life anymore because of Bentley. He HAS to sleep in the bed in between both of us..and if we kiss..ohhhhhh heaven forbid!! Bentley will get right in the middle and look at you like "Hey where is my kiss" I dont know what to do tho..i feel like he should sleep in the bed..so i dont think it's fair to make him sleep somewhere else since that's all he's known!! |
I think you better start crating him....slowly, like others have said. I definetly wouldn't reward him and punish your bf by sleeping with Maximum in the LR. I had a dog once and thought it was the cutest thing how he would growl if anyone tried to take him off of my lap. You know, it makes you feel kind of special. I corrected his behavior shortly after hearing of someone being bitten pretty vicously due to the same thing. What Maximus did was very bad behavior (going beyond growing to biting the face) and needs corrected right away. (I did post about this a while back). It seems cute at the time, but won't be cute at all later. Like when a small child swears and something about that makes you want to laugh, however, if they do it when they get bigger, it isn't funny at all. Good luck! Hope your bf doesn't hold it against Maximus for too long. |
luzangela428 I have the same problem but instead of biting she(Princess) just wants to join us. And I try to put her on the floor but she can jump on the bed. So it just makes the moment kinda fade when I am constantly putting her on the floor. So I know how you feel. I hate to here them whine but its coming to that point. :( |
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