sounds a lot like my hubby! BUT I pay for everything to do with my dogs! I am a on the go mom (i am not the stay at home type lol), but I do sell Arbonne, I am a photographer, and I sell stuff on eBay to make money for my habits.. dogs, shopping, and lunch out with the girls lol! DH does let the dogs out and he plays with them, i think he secretely loves them too, but he wont admit it... hehe I told him i wanted to get a lil girl, and he was like why?? I said cause I want one! lol

i want to say again THANK YOU for the support!!!

You go girl....i too have become addicted to this site in a very short time,probably spoil my baby way too much and spend far more then i really need too but the way i see it....i am not doing anyone any harm and after all i could be spending all my money on booze or cigarettes or at the casino every night!!!!

I am with you on the harsh bit
 

He sounds like a bully to me. If your dog give you pleasure and love so be it. You sound as if you need as much as you can get from your babies. Rock on.

Hopefully he'll give in a little at a time. Initially my husband did not want a dog, but after years of convincing he finally gave in. Now he totally adores her. Everyday when he comes home he plays fetch with her. The only thing he won't do is to take her out for walks (he doesn't want to be seen by neighbors walking a small dog).

I divorced a man that did not understand my attachment to the dogs and the love of showing and training them. No, we did not divorce because of the dogs, rather over other issues, but I am getting re-married in a few weeks to a man that was one of my students when he brought his dog through the obedience class I teach once a week. He had (still has) a cattle dog and started showing her in agility and then started going with me to the breed and obedience shows and now his cattle dog also has an obedience title, he has now finished more papillon breed champions than me LOL, and he is "specialing" a papillon for a dear friend. Life is much more satisfying with a partner that loves the dogs like I do.

But do not give up on your husband, he may very well come around. Some things really *are* more important than dogs. Has he ever wanted a pet of his own? Maybe if he had his own dog or other pet he would understand the bond better.

lol i am not going to divorce him, I just don't know how to get him to understand that my pups are my babies now... Since I can't have anymore and my youngest starts pre K tom they help fill the loneliness...

I want to get him his own animal, but he is not interested... we were going to get a yorkie/poo before I got my yorkie... he liked the idea cause we were going to call him "Porkie" haha I really don't want to get him a pet w/o him agreeing to it... KWIM??

Wow, I thought my dh was tough! He HATED my parrots (it was mutual:p), barely tolerated my cats; but once we got Max (our first Yorkie), he was totally IN LOVE! He's not home except on the weekends most of the time, and when he's here, he wants Max with him constantly. He makes sure he's covered up on the bed so the fan won't blow on him, if he takes a nap in the afternoons, he takes Max with him. It's pretty cute (most of the time....he can also go a little overboard sometimes, like when the sprinklers have just gone off and the dogs need to go potty....he'll say "they're going to get all wet"....I'm like, "they don't care if their feet get wet, they have to GO", LOL. I can't imagine anyone not falling in love with these little cutie pie love bugs!

My dh isn't CRAZY about me dressing them, but he actually thinks their clothes are cute. And we hardly go out to dinner anywhere anymore unless we can take the dogs with us, which is why we frequent a lot of places with outdoor seating.

Guess I have to give my dh a LITTLE credit when it's due:D

Hope your hubby will lighten up a little about your babies.

What is up with all these men? How can you not consider a Yorkie, your child? I guess I'm fortunate, well, I know I am. My angel husband loves anything I love. He thinks all their clothes are adorable, doesn't mind the pony tails, and takes them out and playes with them for me. I'm sorry for you guys that don't have cooperative hubbies. Maybe they'll come around soon!

Give him time.
Maybe after awhile he'll come around.
Mine was kinda like that when I got my first one 10 years ago.
He didn't want an inside dog ..Period.
He tried to ignore her for about 3 days.
The pup refuse to leave him alone, she played with his feet,
bark at him and would just sit and stare at him.
He couldn't stand it and reached down to pet her...That was all it took.
This girl became his side kick and she just loves him to death.

NOW.. we have several.
He lays in the floor ...they climb all over him, he play peak a boo with them.
If he naps on the couch, there is always 3 or 4 that is napping with him.
His favorite part of the day is when we sit outside and plays with them.

He thinks they are cute when dressed up.
He sits and brushes them.
He takes them for car rides and doesn't mind showing them off.

When I breed a litter, he falls in love with the puppies and hates to let any of them go.
And if he don't like you, you won't get one of the pups either.. :p

We refer to each other as mom and dad.
And they know who we are talking about.
If I say go see daddy.. they take off looking for him.
or he'll say go see mom and they will come looking for me...

It's so nice to be married to a he-man with such a big loving heart..:D

My babies sleep with my husband!!! They used to sleep with me (I can't sleep on the waterbed anymore). When he gets ready for bed, he'll say come on guys it's time for bed and they run right in front of him to get their spots. I guess I am going to have to get one of my new babies sleeping with me. I'm sorry your husband feels this way, mine thankfully is wonderful with them & loves them.

Your DH does sound irritating to me and I do hope he comes around. It might take awhile. How long has he been this way?

As for my story, my hubby had never had a dog, his family had never had a dog and also views it as the dog is "owned" by the people. Then one day we went jogging and we came to this dog park and saw a little cute yorkie jumping up and down a bench kissing its mommy. I told my hubby I want one of those! He totally said NO!

Like I'm going to listen to him.

Then I went on a crusade looking for a yorkie, I found my Wookie. Went to the breeder without DH, then came home and told him I'm getting Wookie. No matter how much he kicked and screamed I didn't care, I was in love. So he relentlessly went with me to pick Wookie up. In the car ride home, I was already training Wookie, "I'm Mommy and that's Daddy" hubby heard me say that and said "no, I'm not daddy, I don't want to be attached". Well I said that's too bad. I told him that this dog is going to be part of our life, he will live with us, sleep with us, we will feed him, clean him, shelter him, and he will be part of our family (we have no kids), he will be like a kid to us. He didn't say anything else during the car ride home. That was in 2005.

Now, he can't sleep without Wookie between us. He's constantly looking for Wookie when he goes to bed. Wookie showed him loyalty, compassion, understanding, and love. While he was going to school and would come home late, Wookie would stay out in the living room to wait for him no matter what. When he's in the computer doing some programming, Wookie would wait for him and just stay with him all night if he had too. DH saw this and I made him understand. I made his whole family understand. We can't leave the dogs in the house, if we are going to his parents house, we bring all of them with us. His parents saw how much I love my dogs, the way I talk with them and take care of them. Now everyone has turned a 360 when it came to dogs. Now when we go to his parents house, his parents are always looking for our dogs. His parents even gave them money last Christmas, each one had a "Christmas envelope in their tree with each of their names on it".

Wookie changed our lives for the better, we get along better, DH even pointed out the other day that our dogs are teaching us to be better parents. When we argue, all our dogs looks so sad and always wants to hug us, perhaps to stop. They teach us to be better people so I do hope your DH can understand this too.

I totally understand your situation. My DH took Wookie and Naboo (our second) so when Naboo got preggie I was able to keep Squeekie and Squeekie is all mines!!!

hmm you live here near me.. you should let your DH hang out w/my dh lol maybe golf?? lol teach him how to let his soft side show lol... I want to get a girl (remember me on your next litter lol) and i plan on dressing her up and babying her :D lol he will just roll his eyes lol... I do want to make sure that everyone knows he is NOT mean to my dogs or he would be out on his hiney!!

thats how my family is!! I want to take my babies to family outtings and such he thinks i am NUTS!! :( maye he will come around... he is a good man, and he plays with them... wrestling and such... but he doesn't LOVE them like I do...

How long have you had them? It'll probably just take time and take more experience or certain circumstances and hopefully it will just "click" in his brains. Remember not only do you have dogs to train but you also have DH to train too.

I think what got my hubby to start is that I had him stop looking at their "exterior" of what they are and how they look but had him look at their eyes, how they interact with us, their body language, and starting speaking for them "so to speak". Know what I mean?

i have had Henry for a lil over a yr, but Teddy had only been here 2 months.. I didn't push him too hard on Henry, cause he didn't want an inside dog in the first place.. after my TAH I told him I wanted another pup and I found Teddy and fell in love!! I am going to try the look in his eyes thing though! ;)

This is my BF all the way. He is amazing with my dogs. I don't know if he is so much an animal lover, or if he even loves my boys, but he will carry them around, walk them, take them for ice cream. He will take pics of them to send to me just because he thought they looked cute doing something. He buys them food and treats for his house all the time. He lets them sleep on the bed and even between his legs even though it gives him a backache in the morning. He brushes them. He watches tv with them and points out dogs on tv so fletcher can watch (my fletch watches tv like a person, but when dogs or other animals come on tv he goes nuts!!) He taught them how to swim in the pool and puts on their lifejackets without making fun of me. IF he is home and Im at work he will go and pick them up and bring them to his house so they are not home alone all day. He plays peek-a-boo, rubs tummies all night, picks up pee & poop, mows the lawn a different way so its easier for them since they came into his life.

I love him all the more for it and it shows how much he loves ME by making my boys as important to him as they are to me! :)

IM a lucky girl! :)

LOL. Yes the look into the eyes never hurts. Especially when it gets bigger and you see tears swelling up if its an emotional moment.

What's TAH?

I can't imagine anyone not feeling love for these animals, especially when you come home from work all day and coming home with them greeting you and they are so happy to see you. If they do that to your hubby you can say things like, look how happy they are to see you, don't you just see all the love they have for you? They miss you so much! Then you can also give him that big puppy dog eyes.

My husband is something like that also! I think, like someone already said, they are jealous! He thinks we are all nuts, going on about our furbutts the way we do! He is doing better, lets him lick his ears when he first comes home, and sometime letting him sleep with us! Before he would not even think of letting Nolee sleep in our bed. Slowly but surely, we are getting there with him!:animal-pa

TAH- total abdominal hysterectomy.. sorry lol yeh we are going to start givng daddy some extra puppy love hehe

I'm sorry that your hubby doesn't take an interest in the things that you enjoy. I assume it's not just your furbabies, is it? Of course Yorkies (or any dog for that matter) aren't things...didn't mean to imply that.

My husband loves Abby and Daisy as much as I do. He enjoys seeing me enjoy them. When I buy them new clothes, he just chuckles to himself because he knows how much I love dressing them up.

We took them to the riverfront the other night and I had them all dressed up in dresses and bows. Some guy asked him if Daisy was a girl...Umm, she had on a dress with a can-can under it and big bow in her hair...

Hubby said, Nope, Cross Dresser .....

He walked Daisy all over and after we had dinner at an outside cafe w/ the girls (Abby and Daisy) he picked Daisy up in his lap and held her. Both he and my son love our babies.

We also have an 85 lb Golden Retriever that we all love to pieces.

I so wish I had some sage advice to give you. If my hubby talked like that to me, it would really hurt my feelings. It sounds like to me the problems go deeper than your dogs. Maybe he'll come around eventually. I hope for your sake that he does.

:hug: I wish you the best of luck.

PS Enjoy the heck out of your babies and dress them up every chance you get! There's no reason for you not to enjoy them to the fullest!! :wub:

I like that :) I think I'll tell hubby how much I appreciate him tonight. :love:

LOL...Mine is not into golf or sports.
He likes to play music and build things.
Right now he is working on the house...:D
But, if you ever come my way, let me know.
Maybe you can stop by and visit..;)

;)...there you go.

Mine is so not a 'sports man', but he loves golf... he is into building... we bought a house in Fisk and we are rebuilding it....


Anyway

I finally had a talk w/him tonight, and made him talk to me even though he really didn't want to get into it... it turns out he IS jealous of the dogs!! He said that I spend so much time w/them that I don't always get to give him my undivided attention... it never occurred to me... for one i am ADHD and my attention is squat anyway lol and two we have a 3 yr old and a 9 yr old you would think that he would be over that by now lol!! But we have always made time for each other... i told him that i would make sure we get more mommy and daddy time, but that i was going to get a girl yorkie (after teddy is fixed and fully potty trained), that i was going to dress her up in pink frilly dresses and he was to keep his sarcasm to his self!! :D:D i think we have a breakthrough!!!!!!!!!

My fiance says he likes your husband and would like to meet him haha He feels the same way:rolleyes:

My heart is jumping for joy for you! Its very refreshing and always good to have heart felt talks and every great relationship is based on good communications. I'm so happy for the both of you! (BTW, what did he say when you told him you were getting a girl? lol)

LOL He gave me "THE LOOK" you know the one that says 'uh no' and I gave him the little smile that said 'yeh you know i will' lol.. we have an understanding though ;) lol I never thought he would be jealous, so i didn't even give it a second thought... he is one of those sarcastic, buttheads.. but i guess he needs his mommy and daddy time lol.. i guess i have been so busy with everything else i havent been pampering him as much... between his new route (he is a vendor), the kids starting school, and every weekend we have ppl here because we are rebuilding a house that has fire damamge.. things have been so hectic he is missin his love ;)

We are really into hunting & outside stuff so when I went to buy cloths I bought 2 of the same camo tshirts. He would put them on both of them and of course when we took them off the babies would be mad, they liked them. He couldn't say anything about the shirts beause he loves camo. Now I buy whatever I want. :D