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Do you think this is fair? So, I am getting my very first yorkie baby next week, the puppy will actually be my birthday present which is on Wednesday the 6th and that is the day I am getting him. Well the deal was that my boyfriend paid half of the puppy and I paid the other half, which is making it my birthday present from him. BUT he said that since he is "letting" me get the dog that he gets to name him and I cant dress him up in any clothes whatsoever!!! That really isnt a problem, but I am the one that is going to be taking care of him, so I think that I should be able to do what I choose....Do you think this is fair. I mean it is MY birthday present......:( |
Tell him a gift with strings attached isn't really a gift... |
Tell him that since your "letting" him go out with you he's not allowed to tell you what to do! ... well, maybe after he pays his half haha, he might not like that very much! |
No I don't think he's being fair love. It's your birthday present. You must insist on the clothes. If only hoodies in winter. Yorkies have no undercoats like other dogs so need these. Tell him he wouldn't want your furbaby to get cold. (He'll probably fall madly in love with your little one and let you get anything anyway.) Also put the names you like on stickers all over your place. It could brainwash him in to picking one of those. Anything he picks say Arghhhhhhhhh!!! No you couldn't call a Yorkie that. lol. Good luck love. Hugs Shirl x x |
If I were in the same position, I'd do it anyways and tell him to hug one:D;) |
Do what you want when you get him. "letting you get the dog", maybe you need to wonder about this before you take any further steps with the boyfriend. My husband didn't want me to have one due to us moving around a lot, he was in a special op unit and did not want us to deal with heartbreak if we had to move and could not take him with us. But now we are staying put here in KY so he agreed now was the time for us to have one. Maybe you need to ask him (boyfriend) how long he plans to stick around since he is the boyfriend. |
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Oh yeah the sticker idea is a good one! Yes I know that as soon as I put that little Pittsburgh Steelers Jersey on the little one, my honey will melt! Good ideas by everyone! |
My dh NEVER tells me what to do. We discuss things. Things like that only get worse if you tie the knot. My dd has learned the hard way and has finally started connecting with young men who respect her wishes and decisions. Good luck in the future, my dear. Joanne |
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That would be heartbreaking for me. It wouldnt really feel like a present. If my husband told me that about my sweetie, I would just tell him 'Thats what you think!'. |
tell him if its YOUR birthday present then its YOUR dog. look my boyfriend and i had a deal.. he paid for it n i paid the vet bills (shuda been the other way around lol) anyway... everybody knows that Abby is MINEEEEEEEEEE. He always tells ppl that its his cuz he's on the contract from the store. but i dont really care, she's mine and i do watever i want with her. if u are the one thats goin to be lookin after the baby n feedin n bathing, then by all means its urs. i dont think its right for him to be setting up guidelines n stuff. believe me he will love the clothes for them once he sees them on. good luck |
I would let him pay for his part however he would have no say in how I cared for him. Make sure when you register him you put the baby in your name ONLY and then you can put the name you want on the papers. Men sometimes, they think they have to control everything. |
Okay well I guess I should clairify the whole him "letting" me get the dog. He knows that a yorkie is my dream pet, and it is all that I talk about on a daily basis! Well he went and bought this really nice fancy sports car and then realized that it wasnt such a smart purchase since it is a two door and if their are kids in our future it would be a hassle. So he said that when he sells the car that we could get the dog. Well he sold the car and was still hesitate. He gave the speech about how big of a responsibility a puppy is and all of this stuff that I already know! So he said you do the research and find a puppy and then we will go from there. So that is where we are. I found my puppy and the puppy is paid for, half by me and half by him. And these other guidelines flew into the picture, about him naming him and no clothes! |
I hate when guys throw that kind of attitude around. If this is YOUR gift then you do what YOU want too with it. Secondly, no man is going to "let" or not "let" me do anything. I'm a grown woman and I make my own decisions. |
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Work hard and repay in full the amount of $$ that the bf has contributed to the yorkie fund and remove the stipulations or you will have to accept this gift with strings attached. It sounds like he is either joking and has a mean sense of humor or he has a control issue. And neither is a good thing in a long term relationship. |
Just out of curiosity, did you "let" the bf get this very expensive sports car or did he just surprise you with his gift to himself. The fact that he sold the car to accomodate a future family is completely beside the point. And the fact that YOUR wants and needs relied upon him selling the car makes it very clear that his wants and needs are more important than yours. Chances are, this will not change after marriage and children come along. |
Do you live together? I agree with most everyone about his stipulations, but maybe we're over-reacting. See if he actually has names for the dog picked out. My hubby really wanted to name our dog after a super hero. He didn't tell me this until after I suggested Logan; he was totally okay with Logan because it's the human name of wolverine. Some men get this thing in there head about little dogs. That's you're gonna spend oodles of money buying it more outfits then they have & give it a silly foo-foo name. It sounds like he might be making things worse in his mind then they actually are. Maybe you should talk to him & let him know what names you are thinking of. And my hubby is pretty much against clothes, but he lets me dress my boy as long as they are manly/athletic clothes. Just talk to you boyfriend & hopefully you two can come to a compromise. |
Let him think... I say let him think what he wants about him naming the puppy but AFTER you get him just keep calling the puppy the name that you've chosen. Since you'll be the one taking care of your puppy, the name should stick. I'm sure your boyfriend will fall in love with your little one once you get him. My husband said if I got a little dog that he wouldn't walk him (the only dog my husband said he was walking would be a Bulldog!) :D After we got our puppy he fell in love with him too and now he argues about who the dog loves more!!!! I dress my dog, put his hair in a top knot, and guess who walks him now!!!! It'll all work out I'm sure. Have fun with your new puppy. |
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Sorry, I'm just not one to be "told" what I can do in that manner. :thumbdown And no, it's not fair. Your dog, should be your call. |
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If hes controlling when it comes to money now it will be much worse if you get married. I would work to pay for the dog yourself then you can do as you please |
With the name thing I think it is that he is worried he will be saying something like "here cupcake" or "here princess". When we recently got our chi, I bought her with my own savings (hubby and I each have our own for extras) for Jim's bday. The deal was we could get another puppy when he got another motorcycle. He did so we did. He said he was naming her. He had wanted a boy to be named Thunder but fell in love with the girl. I said he could pick any name as long as it would not embarrass me at the vet's. He is the one who picked Cocoa Puff and calls her Puff. The big softie! |
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I had the same situation with a previous boyfriends...and well he isn't around anymore. I am a very strong person and for a person to tell me I can't...well it doesn't work well with me. I am a person that believes in treating others as you would like to be treated, and I would never TELL someone what they can do. Relationships are give and take, but both should be deciding this not one. If he is serious about not letting you, this situation may be the least of your problems. But again only you know him and maybe like said before you just need to have a heart to heart :) My boyfriend now is a sweet heart. We have been dating for two years in december and I can seriously say I have never gotten along with someone better. We never fight...we discuss things and figure out what is best for US. Hmmm... only time will tell. :) |
Just a word about "letting" you dress your new baby. My hubby thought I was insane when I started buying clothes for Scooter! Well, wouldn't you know it! Now, when we go out, I catch him looking through the "masculine" doggy clothes and buying them for him!! lol tears:lol tears |
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