at my wits end
 

well the subject says it all!

i dont know why but i just feel so overwhelmed with odie lately. i cant help but think of how much easier things would be if i didnt have him anymore.

really though, i cant ever see myself giving him away its just so hard to take care of him sometimes. and its not even him its just that i keep having to take him to the vet and i dont have money...at the time i got him, i was working two jobs and it wasnt a problem. but now that i am unemployed, whenever i have to ask my parents or fiance for the money, i know that they're getting tired of it and that whole "he's your dog, you need to take care of him" things just hangs in the air and very heavily over my head

i'm not looking for sympathy or anything, i guess im just venting....and please, if you do leave a comment please dont say things like "well if u cant take care of him, then you should find a good home that can provide for him" because hes being taken care of just fine but i just feel helpless...

and this next statement may be a little much...but...having odie has really made me question wether or not i want children. because when he gets sick i dont know whats wrong with him and i dont what he wants or needs...and like i said..i just feel so overwhelmed....

and all of this makes me very sad.

I don't want to laugh but I had 4 kids, 4 grandkids, and now 2 great grandkids and nine dogs. Believe me when I say sometimes I didn't want the responsibility of any of them! I can tell you there are times all parents become overwhelmed and wonder why they had kids.

The thing is everything gets better with time.

I'm sure there are times you think Odie is just to much trouble then there are times you are so sad and he will lick your face and look at you like " can I help?"

I do think sometimes it is important to vent and have someone to talk to. I hope you find a job soon and things get back to normal. Hang in there!

I too, have felt overwhelmed with my pups but it does get easier with time and they do grow up quickly and they become much easier to care for. When I used to start feeling and thinking that I did the wrong thing by getting a pup or a 2nd pup.....I would stop and think, what would my life be like without my little sidekick(s) and I realized I would be so lonely and so incomplete. They have brought so much joy and love to my life along with the frustration of the time constraints and responsibility that it so outweighs the tough stuff.

I will be sending you positive thoughts and good energy that everything for you will soon be on an upswing and these days of frustration will be something of the past. You are a good mom to that lil pup and he sure does need you.:):aimeeyork

:thumbup::thumbup: GREAT post! I completely understand being overwhelmed. It's hard to talk about things like this because some people are just so passionate about their Yorkies and can get a little upset and abrasive. It's so easy to get frustrated! Some days I so regret having dogs but then they just look up at me with their sweet little eyes and lick my face and I remember again why it's all worth it. They get better with time, also. Franklin is almost over his puppy stage and I can't wait until he's a perfect little dog like Maggie. Have some patience and he'll calm down. Good luck. :)

Hang in there! You can lean on us...we all have hard times...there is brighter times around the corner!

I totally agree with this post. Just keep telling yourself that "This too shall pass.." Things will get better, keep your chin up!

Peace and Love,

It is ok to vent. Everyone needs to.. at times. And this is a good place to do it. Your feelings are normal. Under stress.. we all question ourselves. The joys that Yorkies bring far outweigh the stress that we may be under. There is so much love in those little hearts.. and it just keeps on growing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there.. it will get better.

I felt that way after I got Lucie. Duke was such a breeze as a pup and even now, other than not being able to vacation and stuff he's so easy. Lucie is a terror! She's beyond hyper, chews on everything, sometimes she makes me nuts haha. But I love her!
Things will get better, it's probably just all the stress from not working right now and things just piling up on you. And you are young, I saw on your profile that you are 20! I'll be 24 next month, and believe me, I have no desire for children anytime soon! You don't need to worry about that right now.

Awww, i'm sorry you are feeling this way. You are not alone in that and things definately do get better.

why is he sick so much?

When I first got Bailey, I had recently lost Tiffy - another Yorkie. I had nursed Tiffy through her last 6 months of life til it was more humane to have her put down.

I got Bailey when she was 9 weeks old, and during the first week while leash training her, my I tripped over a loose piece of pavement. I broke a bone in my arm, gashed the bridge of my nose with my glasses (requiring stitches), scraped my knee and had a few more bumps and bruises. I did all this in order not to fall on her.

During my recuperation, I had to take care of a new pup (ya know, constant trips outdoors to housebreak, stopping chewing, crying and all the hassles of a little one. There were times when I thought, "I have to give her back" "I can't handle this". But, I stuck with it, slowly my wounds healed and very slowly Bailey got through all the pitfalls of puppyhood. I felt overwhelmed, to be sure, but I am so glad I didn't give up. She is such a joy.

Hopefully, you'll get through your hard times and you will be able to look back on this and be happy you persevered.

By the way, you didn't specify the illnesses. Maybe folks on this forum can be helpful to you.

;)

I do understand what you say about the choice of having children. I, too, was terrified. They are a BIG emotional responsibility. Yes, there will be times when the worry for them is such a burden, that you feel overwhelmed. It happens, but its worth it though for the good stuff they can bring into your life. My son wasnt planned, but if I had to do it again, I wouldnt change anything.

Things in our life can get rough sometimes, and that can reflect on others in our life, including our pets. But were doing the best we can do. I just try to accept that the best I can do is good enough, even if it doesn't seem that way sometimes. :)

Are you actively looking for another job? If so, you may feel differently once you find one and feel a little more financially independent.

I think everyone feels overwhelmed at one or more times in her life. As someone above said, this too shall pass. Try to evaluate whether your feelings are coming simply from stress (which they probably are) or if you're truly in a situation that can only change if you give up your furbaby. That might put things a little more in perspective for you. In the meantime, ((((hugs)))).

Bless your heart!!!! I'm a mom of 2 and then I have my Mufasa. There are plenty of days I want to throw up my hands and be done with ALL of it but as the others have said it DOES calm down and then you realize you couldn't live life without all that you have. It IS overwhelming but you just hang in there because that little guy is depending on you. Tomorrow is another day and things WILL get better sweetie!

{{{{{Hugs}}}}} are what you need right now. Believe me! There are times when everyone wants to just get up and run away from it all. You are not alone.

I totally understand where you are coming from, I would not give Lily and Kingston up for all the money in the world but sometimes I wonder if I can do it, one of them are always at the vet my husband is trying to get his MBA and I am losing my job In Sept. So I completely understand. Just like many have said it will all pass and one day you will sit with him and wonder how you will ever live without him. As far as not wanting kids anymore we were supposed to start trying 8 months ago but having the dog and being up with them all night and spending all our spare cash on them and my job changing I also have second thoughts about having children. Good luck with everything and remember to enjoy the good time, we have all been there.

aaahhh I totally understand where you are coming from. I live alone and its just me and my boys. I love them to pieces and WOULD NEVER rehome them, but sometimes yes its hard. They are there 24/7 and on my mind when Im not home that I need to get home. I can't just 'take off' for the weekend and leave them with a hubby or bf or someone. And because its just me and I work full time, all the after work invites I get I have to either turn down OR go home first to let them out and then see those sad faces when I have to leave again.

It WOULD be easier to not have them, but my life would not be complete without them. They brighten my days in more ways than take away from them. They also ARE my children. I don't lean towards having skin kids of my own and having these guys makes me realize even more how much work kids are! :)

Now if I could just HOUSEBREAK THEM!!!! ggrrrrrr

aww keep your chin up girl, things will get better! :) They say "that doesn not kill us will only make us stronger"!! I know it sucks when everything seems to be on the uphill but that means that one day you will be at the top and have a nice easy ride down, without all the struggles.
Please share what has been going on medically with with Odie, I'm sure we can help to make things a bit easier. Here on YT there is almost always someone who has been there, done that, and can probably/hopefully give you some pointers.
(((((hugs)))))

thanks for all of yalls hugs and good thoughts.

now lets see if i can answer some of those questions..lol

as far as vet visits go, he could be worse i guess...like back in June i had to take him because he ate a flea and that gave him those worms in his stools, and then in July i took him because the inside/middle section in between his pads got infected and now he has this hot spot where he has just dug at it soo much that its not bloody and pussy....these last couple of months have just been crazy.

and im sure you're all right with saying its stress. as much as i try to claim that im not, i finally hit rock bottom with it all i think lol

employment in my town is so ridiculous right now!!! either companies and businesses are on a hiring freeze, or they're laying people off, or they're hiring internally for people that have been layed off. i have been actively looking for a job since last December....i still cant believe it! i have never been this long without a job. BUT tomorrow i have a meeting with a long time friend of my family about working for him doing what i already do, photography, and he's talking about putting me in charge of all the photographers and being in charge of his website...so im gonna keep my fingers and toes crossed on this one haha

i do feel better for having vented and of course yall are always great about sending hugs and prayers and *good* doggy dust my way or to anyone else who needs it.

We'll keep our fingers, toes and paws crossed that tomorrow goes well for you!! :)

Hang in there! There are times we all get overwhelmed by life

To start out with I want to give you a ((hug)) and let you know that even I, an old grandma, sometimes feels overwhelmed with my doggies. This morning while they were waiting for me to get their food ready, my Pommie, Snowboy, totally tore up a large plastic bag full of clothes waiting to go to the 2nd hand store. Plastic everywhere, even hanging out of his mouth. He goes crazy waiting to eat. Sooooooo, we spent some time sitting and staying instead of eating. UGH!!! So you see we all have our moments.

Have you ever tried the anti-itch with a bitter taste to it that is for hot spots? Chipper gets spots that he will just chew on and I use that all the time. He responds to it quite well. Now Snowboy, that is a whole different story. Has to be hot sauce before he will leave anything alone----not on his skin----on furniture, etc.

I understand, there is an emotional and financial toll when our pets are ill. I told my hubby the other day when our new dog was so sick (we just put our last dog to sleep) to never let me get another dog. We don't have the financial worries, but the vet bills aren't cheap. It's just so gut wrenching for me to have a sick pet. I agree with what everyone else said, it's ok to vent. Anyone who has ever had a child or pet knows how you feel. We've all been there at some point. Hang in there and I hope you find employment soon!

It just helps to talk about things and there are so many nice people here that understand. Sometimes better than so called friends or even family. Just last night my husband said, You can't stay mad at Kayla when you look in that little face. We are still having tee tee problems. I think she will be an old lady by the time she knows not just to go out the doggie door and look around and come back in and tee tee on mommy's carpet. Then I was really overwhelmed at time with the time scheldule, shots, and trying to get Max to eat to only have him throw up and then he couldn't take his insulin. Stress galore!!! But now that he has passed away, you know what, I would do it ten times over just to have that little face to look up at me again. Hang in there and just remember you will feel better tomorrow. Sometimes only a day makes a difference.

Yay! Crossing my fingers and toes as well - I hope you get it!

I hear you
 

Were in the same boat I went bk to work part time to pay for violett, 2500 then she had the trip to ER vet 435. Hubby hasn't been working much he's self employed ,we just had to dip into our retirement to pay our taxes and so on. it does get depressing when you need the money and you dont no know how youre going to pay the next house payment.Let alone if your baby needs to go to the VET. I always feel like my family will say you never should have gotten another yorkie let alone a 2500 dollar one. I pray things will get better for you, and please no that you ae not alone. you wanna know how much my edison bill was this month? lol $494.94.
Keeping you in my Prayers.
God Bless.
Michelle,Spanky and baby Violett.

I know just what you mean! Don't worry, i think most people on here know what you are going thru. For one I'm 21 and it's me and my bf and the 3 dogs(well babies lol). I love them soooo much, they are my children and have made me rethink ever having kids, i love them like nothing else but sometimes im like...WOW 3!! I went crazy and basically got all 3 w/o even thinking it thru, i dont regret it one bit but financially it is hard. If one gets sick and they get better, then the other gets sick, its so unpredictable. And then i feel like i can't go out for too long, i barely do even and when i do i feel bad, and feel like i should go home right away. I want to go on vacation and feel too bad to and im young and should be able to do what i want, but their my responsibility. But the good outweigh the bad, well actually there is no bad with them, its all good, its just struggling financially and not wanting to leave them. But they bring happiness and so much love, i just dont know if i ever want children anymore. :rolleyes:

Good luck with your meeting!! I understand your pain with the job situation, in my area of CA, well probably the whole state by now, we are going through the same issue here with work... I don't work either, just going to school right now, and my husband has been looking for a better job for awhile now..There are high points and low points but it's bound to get better!;) sometimes stress just gets the best of you.

right after I got chester I was so overwhelmed I wanted to give him back, now I cannot imagine a day without him , he is the best thing in my life right now and always will be, when we all get stressed and overwhelmed everything is to much, it will get better, hang in there