I would like to know what you think
 

Dear Yorkie friends,
I was just informed that I have cancer and now my husband said that we can not get another yorkie. He feels that I will not be able to take care of two little dogs. I am very sad he promised that after we returned from our trip we would get another one. Now he is going back on his word. I really want get another or am I just being selfish that this time?

So sorry to hear you will be fighting Cancer. I don't think you are wrong in wanting another little soul to care for. Maybe your husband is worried about how you will be feeling while you fight this dreaded disease. He probably doesn't want you to get overtired. Going through the treatment for cancer is very taxing. Some days you will feel great and some days you may not. Maybe you should ask him why he feels this way. My thought and prayers are with you.

I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis!!! I'll keep you in my prayers!!!!

I'm sure your husband is concerned about how you will feel going through whatever it is that lies before you. Personally, when I'm feeling down or not having a good day Mufasa makes my day so much better so I would want to pursue getting another puppy. That's just my opinion. You might want to ask your husband why he doesn't feel like you should get another one right now.

I know nothing about having cancer, but I am sure you are very worried and probably scared. If it was something we had already seriously considered, I would want to go ahead and get another furbaby too.

I am so sorry you have to go through this; your husband might be one of those men who would rather suffer an illness themselves than watch a love one go through it. He is probably very afraid also, and men don't handle fear well, after all, they are taught never to be afraid. The first 6 months of a puppy's life can be very trying and the potty training issues bother some people more than others. He may be overwhelmed right now, but one of the most important things in beating cancer is a positive outlook, and perhaps a new puppy could be a "reward" for recovering from cancer. Personally, if I had cancer, I wouldn't worry about seeming selfish, and psychologists say a little selfishness is very healthy, you never want to be selfless. My prayers are with you.

What a shock this must all be. I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis!!! I am sure your husband has your best interest at heart...with all that you will be coping with, having to care for a new pup may be a bit more than you need to be dealing with right now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I am very sorry about your illness. Give yourself time to go throughthe cancer treatments. you need to be taking care of yourself, and this should be the primary goal in your life. Wait until you are in remission, and feel better .Your husband loves you and wants the best for you. I am so sorry.
Best wishes to you. :aimeeyork

Let me begin by saying that I offer to you my heart felt prayers and sympathy for I know that it cannot be easy to have received the news that you have received. Living with such unbelieveable and inconceivable news is difficult because we all have the feeling of "not me" until it's us that the doctor is speaking to. May God bless and keep you, and may your family, furkids, and friends be more than enough support to carry you through the rough patches.

That being said, and although I know my opinion may not be the popular one, I tend to agree with your husband. Although he "promised" you another yorkie, taking in another baby at this point would be very taxing. Teaching a furkid to assimilate into your family and your family to assimilate themselves into the life of the dog (training, IMO, goes both ways) is not an easy task. You're facing a serious health matter, a potentially life altering experience, depending on the level and degree of treatments that you will need. Perhaps it would be best to make sure that your own health is stabilized so that when your new baby comes into the family s/he can enter into a family that is prepared to give him/her full focus vs. having to split time between caring for your heightened level of care need and the needs of a new furkid.

I tried to say that as gently as possible, and I hope it is received that way.

Be blessed~

I think all yorkie owners would agree on one thing for sure.... these little furry things bring us such joy!!!! Does your husband know that is why you desire another??

Sorry your ill but personally if it were me I would hold off. Maybe make a new pup your goal once your in remission. It will be one hell of a motivating tool. I think it would be hard on you and him to have to care for and housebreak a new pup while your dealing with your medical issues.

Good luck in what you decide. Hope you can kick cancers butt.

Cathi - I am so truly sorry to hear of this devastating news... I know how this can affect a family as I just went through it with my mother. And like me, my mother was an animal lover. She wanted a German Shepard just before she was diagnosed... (She knew in her heart that it was cancer, but never told us until it was confirmed). Dad let her get the dog, but to tell you the truth I can totally understand where your husband is coming from... It takes alot out of the patient, as well as the whole family to deal with a crisis like this. To fight the fight that you will need to battle is going to take all your energy and mite and will you have the extra energy to take care of a puppy? Maybe it would work out ok if there were more than just you and your husband in the home to look after the puppy. I'm not saying that you shouldn't get another one - because if that's what you want, by all means go for it. But you have to think about the puppy's well being too and whether it will be given the attention he/she needs. I hope that things work out and that you can find a way to make it work. I also hope God blesses you all with the strength to fight a fierce battle and win it! Stay strong & positive - it may be a rough road, but you can beat it!!! Have faith!

I am so sorry..
 

I think you wrote this very beautifully and I feel the same.
My dear friend I will keep you in my prayers and pray for a speedy recovery from this illness...

I am so sorry you are facing this diagnosis. Maybe just put getting a new baby on hold. I will keep you in my prayers

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis; put all your strength into your recovery and then plan on finding your perfect puppy. God bless.

SWeetie,1st of all I said a prayer fir tou when I lit the sabbath candles! honey ,you are not being selfish at all.I think the new yorkie will give you a ray of hope and sunshshine and uncinditional love in your up and coming battle which I know you will beat!I Think hubby is just scared, have a candid talk with him and go getanother fur baby this wknd that he promised! Please keep us posted.