I would like to know what you think
 

Dear Yorkie friends,
I was just informed that I have cancer and now my husband said that we can not get another yorkie. He feels that I will not be able to take care of two little dogs. I am very sad he promised that after we returned from our trip we would get another one. Now he is going back on his word. I really want get another or am I just being selfish that this time?

So sorry to hear you will be fighting Cancer. I don't think you are wrong in wanting another little soul to care for. Maybe your husband is worried about how you will be feeling while you fight this dreaded disease. He probably doesn't want you to get overtired. Going through the treatment for cancer is very taxing. Some days you will feel great and some days you may not. Maybe you should ask him why he feels this way. My thought and prayers are with you.

I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis!!! I'll keep you in my prayers!!!!

I'm sure your husband is concerned about how you will feel going through whatever it is that lies before you. Personally, when I'm feeling down or not having a good day Mufasa makes my day so much better so I would want to pursue getting another puppy. That's just my opinion. You might want to ask your husband why he doesn't feel like you should get another one right now.

I know nothing about having cancer, but I am sure you are very worried and probably scared. If it was something we had already seriously considered, I would want to go ahead and get another furbaby too.

I am so sorry you have to go through this; your husband might be one of those men who would rather suffer an illness themselves than watch a love one go through it. He is probably very afraid also, and men don't handle fear well, after all, they are taught never to be afraid. The first 6 months of a puppy's life can be very trying and the potty training issues bother some people more than others. He may be overwhelmed right now, but one of the most important things in beating cancer is a positive outlook, and perhaps a new puppy could be a "reward" for recovering from cancer. Personally, if I had cancer, I wouldn't worry about seeming selfish, and psychologists say a little selfishness is very healthy, you never want to be selfless. My prayers are with you.

What a shock this must all be. I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis!!! I am sure your husband has your best interest at heart...with all that you will be coping with, having to care for a new pup may be a bit more than you need to be dealing with right now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I am very sorry about your illness. Give yourself time to go throughthe cancer treatments. you need to be taking care of yourself, and this should be the primary goal in your life. Wait until you are in remission, and feel better .Your husband loves you and wants the best for you. I am so sorry.
Best wishes to you. :aimeeyork

Let me begin by saying that I offer to you my heart felt prayers and sympathy for I know that it cannot be easy to have received the news that you have received. Living with such unbelieveable and inconceivable news is difficult because we all have the feeling of "not me" until it's us that the doctor is speaking to. May God bless and keep you, and may your family, furkids, and friends be more than enough support to carry you through the rough patches.

That being said, and although I know my opinion may not be the popular one, I tend to agree with your husband. Although he "promised" you another yorkie, taking in another baby at this point would be very taxing. Teaching a furkid to assimilate into your family and your family to assimilate themselves into the life of the dog (training, IMO, goes both ways) is not an easy task. You're facing a serious health matter, a potentially life altering experience, depending on the level and degree of treatments that you will need. Perhaps it would be best to make sure that your own health is stabilized so that when your new baby comes into the family s/he can enter into a family that is prepared to give him/her full focus vs. having to split time between caring for your heightened level of care need and the needs of a new furkid.

I tried to say that as gently as possible, and I hope it is received that way.

Be blessed~

I think all yorkie owners would agree on one thing for sure.... these little furry things bring us such joy!!!! Does your husband know that is why you desire another??

Sorry your ill but personally if it were me I would hold off. Maybe make a new pup your goal once your in remission. It will be one hell of a motivating tool. I think it would be hard on you and him to have to care for and housebreak a new pup while your dealing with your medical issues.

Good luck in what you decide. Hope you can kick cancers butt.

Cathi - I am so truly sorry to hear of this devastating news... I know how this can affect a family as I just went through it with my mother. And like me, my mother was an animal lover. She wanted a German Shepard just before she was diagnosed... (She knew in her heart that it was cancer, but never told us until it was confirmed). Dad let her get the dog, but to tell you the truth I can totally understand where your husband is coming from... It takes alot out of the patient, as well as the whole family to deal with a crisis like this. To fight the fight that you will need to battle is going to take all your energy and mite and will you have the extra energy to take care of a puppy? Maybe it would work out ok if there were more than just you and your husband in the home to look after the puppy. I'm not saying that you shouldn't get another one - because if that's what you want, by all means go for it. But you have to think about the puppy's well being too and whether it will be given the attention he/she needs. I hope that things work out and that you can find a way to make it work. I also hope God blesses you all with the strength to fight a fierce battle and win it! Stay strong & positive - it may be a rough road, but you can beat it!!! Have faith!

I am so sorry..
 

I think you wrote this very beautifully and I feel the same.
My dear friend I will keep you in my prayers and pray for a speedy recovery from this illness...

I am so sorry you are facing this diagnosis. Maybe just put getting a new baby on hold. I will keep you in my prayers

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis; put all your strength into your recovery and then plan on finding your perfect puppy. God bless.

SWeetie,1st of all I said a prayer fir tou when I lit the sabbath candles! honey ,you are not being selfish at all.I think the new yorkie will give you a ray of hope and sunshshine and uncinditional love in your up and coming battle which I know you will beat!I Think hubby is just scared, have a candid talk with him and go getanother fur baby this wknd that he promised! Please keep us posted.

Cathi,

I am sorry you have to go thru this hard times... I am sure you will do great... and puppies are such a joy to have... I don't really know what to suggest... I think you need all the joys you can get right now... Hugs....

I'm sorry for what you are going through, and what will be coming your way while you fight this. I wish you and your family all the best.

About your husband not wanting you to get another baby: He probably has the best of intentions in wanting to hold off with it for now, I am sure he is not trying to upset you. I know a few women who have battled breast cancer, and I know the treatments they went through took a toll on them. I don't know your situation personally, but maybe it would be best to wait for now and find out what treatments you are going to go through and how your body is going to respond, before adding another baby to your family.

I'm sorry your going to have to go thru what it takes to combat this nasty stuff, but I don't think putting things on hold is a good idea either. It's almost like giving up already and he should not be thinking like this. A more positive attitude is what's needed now, and to go on with "life". Warm hugs to you and prayers are on their way.

I wish you well in your fight AND recovery!!! Maybe a pup would be a lot to take on at the moment but have you considered an older/adult dog? Maybe a rescue? If you were able to find a dog that is already grown and trained he/she could be a great addition to your family.Also giving you comfort and support and your present furbaby a playmate for when you are too tired to play! You will be in our prayers!

Prayers going out to you and your family. I agree that it would be best to see why exactly your husband is against you getting another pup. Maybe by letting him know the way you feel will help him understand why you would still like to move forward and get another fur baby.

Thoughts and prayers your way. I too would think about waiting even though it is hard. I know when my dad went through chemo he stayed tired all the time. Even in the best of times it can be difficult with a new furbaby. Good luck in whatever you decide. Only you and your hubby can make the final decision.

So sorry to hear you have cancer ....... :(

I think you should have another one .... they sure can make you feel better in no time and think of all the Puppy kisses ..... they can sense when your not doing well ...... and might be able to help you get through this tuff time ....

thank you all
 

I spoke to him yesterday about a new pup. He feels that I will not be able to properly train one at the present time. He said that he is not able to take care of two furkids if something happens. So I guess for now I will have to wait.
Thank you
Cathi
P.S. I have no plans in letting this cancer win

Cathy,
As soon as you're well, you will have time for a new puppy :) It will be something to look forward to and what a great get well present!

You are in my prayers.

Tammy

Cathi - I'm sure you are disappointed, but at least your little one now won't feel like he's totally taken a back seat to you. Cause if you had to fight the sickness & take care of a new puppy that's alot of attention you'd be taking away from the current baby and I'm sure you wouldn't want to make him feel any less loved. Like someone else said, keep the new puppy as a motivator once your in remission - it will be a happy ending for you then! Good luck and I will continue to pray for you & your family through this rough road.

God bless you love. I do hope things work out well for you.

Can I just say this though. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, and the other day was diagnosed with Cardio Vascular disease, I also have Osteo-perosis, and heart problems. I'm not complaining, just to say I've got a new puppy Suzi she's 10 weeks and she has given me a new lease of life. (My other Yorkie Katie is 14 months.)

She takes my mind off things when I'm in pain and feeling sad. We went through the same decisions love, but life's
too short anyway.

Love & hugs Shirl x x

you need a healing..
with the new puppy.. i think it would be good for all of you too
your puppy needs a playmate..
hopefully you will recover more quickly
with the joy of 2 puppies to love:)

puppies have healing powers:animal36

Oh Cathi, I am so sorry to hear your diagnoses of cancer. :( My heart goes out to you. Sending P&PT your way hun.
(((((((((big gentle hugs to you Cathi))))))))))

Best of luck to you and I will be praying for you!