Rehoming?
 

Hey all. So I want some advice/opinions I guess. I have been thinking a lot about rehoming my puppy. It's been such a hard decision to make though, I just don't know what to do. I'm crying as I even write this.

I got my puppy a few months ago, and he's five months now. I'm a college student who works full time, and I must admit he was an impulse purchase, although I never regretted that fact. I love him more than anything but I just feel like I am not giving him the best life he could have. He stays in his ex-pen during the day, and sometimes when I get home I am just too worn out to play with him or walk him, or give him all of the attention he deserves. He is just the happiest puppy I have ever met, though. He doesn't act sad about it and he just gives me more love than I ever imagined possible. I love him so much though, and I want the best for him, and I just read about how must love you are all able to give back to your yorkies and I know I don't meet that whatsoever. I'm just so scared I am going to rehome him and miss him so much. But I don't have the time to train him, potty train him. He goes to obedience class with me once a week but I don't practice with him as much as I should. I have spent so so much money on him getting all of his shots and toys and the best of everything. I just keep thinking I may not be ready for this responsibility with my lifestyle.

Plus, I don't know what rehoming even involves or how I would find a good home for him. I know people won't want to spend money on him, but I have put so much money and effort into him that I kind of feel like I should at least get something back for the shots/food/toys/etc I have put into it.

I don't know, this is the absolute hardest decision I have ever had to make and I am hoping you guys will be able to help me out. Look at his pictures, he is the sweetest little baby teapot I have ever met in my entire life. Please guys, I just don't know what to do anymore.

So sorry you have to rehome your baby. Please make sure you think through who you will allow to adopt him. I would also recommend you get him neutered before he goes to another home. If that doesn't work out you can also contact a rescue if you feel you can let him go for free. A rescue will make sure he goes to a great home and they will also do phone interviews and home visits before anyone is approved. Plus he'll be fixed before adopted.

Hope everything works out.

very hard decision
 

I can imagine how hard a decision it is for you.....I would definitely charge a fee for him, he could wind up in a puppy mill as a stud.....Lots of those in Missouri (and other places)


If you do, please put him on this board (adoption) and screen the people well.


Let us know if you need help....but it's only a decision you can make..:wub:

roxanne

I sure wish you lived in Ontario Canada I would have loved to take him. My baby Diddy is also 5 months and I was looking for a companion for him. Good luck. I know how I would feel if I had to give up my baby. My husband thinks I have gone yorkie crazy. lol.

You're absolutely not being fair to your puppy. Try to find a Yorkie rescue. They will screen a potential owner thoroughly. They need to be with people not cooped up all day in an ex-pen. Keeping him or her in that condition would only be selfish on your part. I know it's a tough decision and that you love your puppy, that's why you have to let him go to another home..

Gosh that was pretty harsh... I know lots of YTers have to work all day and keep their babies in x-pens. They are perfectly fine and I know many could attest to that.

To the OP: I can't even imagine how hard this must be on you! I wish you the best of luck and please don't be too hard on yourself.

Sorry jim n I have to disagree with you. She obviously LOVES her puppy...that is all that matters. OP, your puppy is used to your scedule, he doesn't know any different. If he is happy and playful when he sees you then he is doing just fine. Tucker used to be in a crate while I worked. Now that I am retired I see that he basically sleeps all day anyway! I know that rehoming is the hardest decision you could ever have to make, but don't immediately assume that is what you need to do. He is loved and happy and doing fine it sounds like to me.

My first dog that was just mine, I got when I was in school. She was alone during the day too but she grew up healthy and happy. And don't forget your puppy will be around for a long, long time....school is only for a few years. Only you know if you can handle him while in school but if you do decide he's too much, please try to find another yorkie talk member to rehome him to. That way you'll know he goes to the best home possible. {{{hugs}}} I know how hard this decision is. I hope it all works out for you.

I am a full time pre-med student and I work part time as well. I have two dogs! Needless to say, I don't always have every minute of every day to spend with my babies. Franklin is in a playpen and Maggie is crated for around 4-5 hours a day when I have class. But that doesn't stop me from being a great dog owner! They are out every second I am home (except when we all go to sleep). I take them on walks or to the dog park every day. Even if I'm not playing with them, we are spending time together and we love every moment of it.

It's all about prioritizing your time. It definitely can be done, though.

OP: I understand what a hard decision this might be. Good luck with whatever you decide to do! I would definitely find a reputable rescue to surrender to unless you want to screen people yourself for your puppy. If you DO decide to give him up, please make sure you find him the best home possible! There are too many people out there who are just looking for a toy these days.

Agree with You
 

I agree, it has to be tremendously hard to give up a dog and if just writing the post is making you cry, your heart will break if you rehome.
Although I had a dog many years ago when I worked, I found it to be a challenge to give the dog enough time and vowed not to get a dog again until I retired. I did that and feel fortunate to have the time to share with my dog at this time in my life.
Maybe the suggestion of getting a companion is better than rehoming although it would be more costly.
Another suggestion might be to find someone who has a dog and share dog-sitting times.
Good luck with your decision.

Lots of people work, and go to school, if rehomed he might end up in such a home, however it is the time that you do have with him that is important. You say you don't have time to play and exercise him every night, how many nights a week do you have time for this, it really doesn't take much time. I think ½ hour a day would be great, this could be used for walking and would be great for you too, as walking alleviates stress. Are there other things you like doing with your Yorkie such as brushing or training, these things count as quality time. Again 5-10 minutes a day while you are feeding them can be used as training time. I use Joey's breakfast for "treats" for training purposes, and ½ o his dinner. How about sleeping at night, does he sleep in your room or is he off by himself? This is a really hard decision, and I think it's great that you are trying to decide what's best for your baby. To me, this means that you really do love him, keeping a pet that you don't have time for isn't a sign of love. So it up to you to decide how much time each day you can realistically devote to him. Best of luck with your decision.

Sorry about your puppy:cry: but if you give him to a rescue I don't think you will get any money, I think you will have to pay them as they will take him to the vets and any other things he will need. I just got my Ivy from a rescue this week and they asked me all kind of questions, home visit, and called my vet and my groomer just to make sure she was going to a good home, so if you go to a rescue trust me he will have a good home. Good luck

You shouldn't have to pay to surrender him but it's not likely that the rescue will be able to give you any money as most of them are non-profit and run solely off of donations.

HI,
Maybe there is other possible solutions instead of rehoming your Puppy. If you can have friends or family to help you with your little one, then this will give you the support you need:aimeeyork Could someone watch your little guy while you are out? Puppy sit? I can see how much you love your puppy, and I feel like there could be other alternatives other then rehoming him. :aimeeyork It is something to think about. :aimeeyork Try not to make any quick decisions, and really think of different alternatives. :aimeeyork

WoW!! I was shocked that you would be that mean. Maybe you just worded the first sentence a little too harshly??? Sometimes a dog just doesnt work out but the important thing is too find a loving home. I had fostered a few different breeds that were placed into rescue but none of them seem to be the right fit for my family. I always thought that this might be my "next" dog. (I had two huskies and had to rehome one due to aggression towards my 1 yr old son. I was heartbroke, this was my baby for 6 yr but I couldnt put my child in danger) I ALways found great homes for them but unfortunately none of them were what I wanted. I got GiGi last March and I was so afraid I would just not want her. Anyways, love her would never give her up!! FINALLY.. anyways long story. so do whats best for both of you. I worked full time and had two dogs and yes even a child while I was in school, and they were both fine. Get a dog walker or a friend who would love to walk you gorgeous yorkie if you want to make it work. Good LUCK!!

Good luck on this very hard decision you have to make.....your post shows how much you love your puppy and want the best for him.....Im sure it must be very hard on you......I wish you and your puppy the best!

I totally understand what you're going through. I suffered severe anxiety and guilt by leaving Bailey at home while I was at work. I was also concerned about the added responsibility. It was a feeling that I didn't realize I would feel until after I got her. It was so bad that I asked the breeder to take her back so I could figure it out. The breeder did and after a couple days, I missed Bailey so much that I brought her back home. The breeder totaly understood my situation and has helped others before under the same circumstances.

Not sure if your breeder, a friend or someone at the vets office can help you out for a week to give you time to rethink it over before a permanant arrangement is made? That two-day break made all the difference for me. And now Bailey and I are bff's.

Good luck!

You are in our prayers. I know you will make the right decision. Your love for her will help you decide.

For all of you that disagree with me or thought what I said was mean, sorry, but for me it's all about the puppy. Please go back and read her post again. The pup is in the x-pen all day, there are times when she's too tired to play with her or walk her. She doesn't have time to potty train. They go to obedience class once a week but don't practice what they learned. Come on people!! Doesn't the puppy deserve better. I'm sure she is a great person, I'm not questioning that. I'm also sure she loves her puppy, otherwise, she wouldn't be asking for help here. I just could never understand why ALL YOU PEOPLE that work full time have puppies that you keep penned up all day just so YOU have something to entertain yourself with when you get home. Seems a little selfish and unfair to the pets...

rehoming is a good thing
 

advertise him on yorkie talk.. and im sure someone will buy him and then you can be assured he has a better life. then you can get a new puppy down the road...best wishes:)

I think this girl is making a VERY hard decision. Trying to do the right thing for her puppy. I dont think calling her selfish is very helpful. I think she realized that this wasnt fair to her puppy and is trying to rectify the situation. Whether it be putting the dog into a rescue, rehoming, or just changing things in the home situation. I think we should be here to help and support her in the decision that she decides to make. I understand that you are all about the Puppy but I think she is Too.. even if maybe a little late. I am not sure anywhere she said she didnt potty train or even train her dog. I love my GiGi and sometime I am too tired to play with her but she still loves me. I usually dont get involved in the negativity but I think she put herself out there, admitted her mistakes and asked us for help and support.

Call us selfish, but you are extremely rude. YES this is the hardest decision I am making. If I were being selfish, then I would keep my baby without another thought. I do agree that my puppy deserves a better life than I can provide at this particular point but that DOES NOT MEAN I am not giving my puppy a good life at all. YES I am trying in potty training him. Don't you think the reason he is in the ex pen with his potty pads is so that his potty training remains consistent? And why would I spend the time and money at an obedience class if the situation was so horrible that he wasn't able to learn ANYTHING at all. I said I don't practice with him as much as I should, not that I don't practice with him at ALL. Unfortunately some people don't have the luxury to stay at home all day with their pets but that does not make them any less of a loving pet owner than you. If I am tired at the end of the day, excuse me- I am a full time college student and work at a daycare caring for eight infants under twelve months at a time- so yes, it is tiring. MY GOD, I came here looking for support and am thankful for those who have offered it. But I cannot stand those on this website such as yourself who preach and believe it is their way or the highway.

All digression aside, I have discussed this with my breeder and she has offered to take him back. I'm still debating this every minute because I would prefer to choose the family myself if rehoming is what I decide. The adoption fee has nothing to do with wanting money for HIM, just that I would give the new owner all of his toys, crate, x-pen, food, treats, hygiene products, leashes, collar, etc etc etc. There are also foster programs I am looking into that can take the puppies until my situation changes and have more time to devote. A rescue program isn't something I'm interested in for my own reasons, but I'm glad most of you are supportive and I really really thank you for that. Thank you for respecting how hard this decision is and how much I do love my baby. I doubt I will come back to this thread because negativity from those who are offering it is only upsetting me further, but if you can help at all I appreciate the PMs. Happy 4th.

Well ALL OF US PEOPLE here just arent lucky enough to not have to work to survive I like you I guess! HELLO people have to work to live, if you didnt work then how could you afford to even take care of the puppy, (vet visits, toys, food, etc) That just dosent make sense. People that have full time jobs deserve to have a puppy like anyone else. I think you may need to re-think your logic.

Sweetie don't let one person's negativity run you off this thread... What you have brought here is VERY personal, and I TOTALLY understand this person's comments upsetting you further. HOWEVER, everyone else has been very supportive, understanding that you ARE thinking of your babie's best interest, and THAT in itself shows how much you love your dog!! So I would just try to stay focused on the positive, and who cares what that rude person's opinions are, they don't matter...
Having said that, my heart goes out to you, I see how much you love your baby, and I am praying there is something you can work out to keep him. He is a beautiful boy!! I know it's another cost, but could you maybe hire a pet sitter to come in once a day for playtime, walk ect? Probably wouldn't be too expensive... My pet sitter charges $15 a day and it's well worth it in my opinion... Because I have to work too!!!! Like most of us!!!
Good luck to you, and I personally think your a great mom... ;);)

I just hate all these "rehoming" threads that turn one member against another. She asked for advice; people gave the best advice they had, and are allowed to use words that some people think are harsh, but harsh and rude are not the same thing. Then it becomes an attack on the "words" people have chosen to respond with, one person defending their position, and others blowing up the words out of proportion.

To the OP, I'm sure the advice given to you were only intended with the best interest of the puppy in mind. This is an emotional issue, and people always have strong feelings on the subject of rehoming. Best of luck to you, in making this very difficult decision.

Very true.....

I have a almost 5 month old female and would absolutely love to have a friend for her, but I believe it would get too expensive with 2 of them. I hope that you find the perfect person to take him. Be sure to screen people well as there are alot of mills and backyard breeders that would love to get their hands on him.

I don't think anyone should criticize you for trying to do what's best for your Yorkie. IMO, you are being very unselfish putting what's best for him over your love for him. A dog is a huge responsibility, one that you freely admit you didn't think about when you got him. I give you credit for realizing you may have made a mistake and trying to place him in a home with someone who has more time for him.

From what you describe, it does seem like you have too much going on to give him the time and attention he needs. A dog is a fifteen year commitment if you are lucky and a substantial financial commitment, too. As these guys age, they can rack up some serious vet bills. If you don't feel you can make the necessary commitment to him, finding him a wonderful home with someone who can is a very brave decision.

My Lady is a rescue who was basically neglected for the first four years of her life. She was also an impulse buy and the novelty wore off quickly. Her former owner was a nurse who worked 12 hour shifts and had no time for Lady. She was locked in a crate all day and penned in the kitchen all night. When her former owner moved, she left Lady behind. It would have been much kinder to have rehomed Lady than to make her live like that for so many years.

Good luck with your decision.

wow!!!! i think some people shud just keep their negative comments to themselves.

as for the op, im glad that u are actually coming forward and admitting that might not be giving your dog as much attention as possible. just because u work all day doesn't mean ur puppy isn't used to ur schedule already.

i work full time myself and that doesn't mean that im being mean or selfish. i don't have my Abby for "toy". i think that's too harsh. some people actually have to work to make money. the fact that i work doesn't mean that i love my baby any less than if i wud be home all day.

i also don't think its necessary to post here with curses and negative words. i'm guessing things could have been written in a different way but i dont think it's fair to put this girl against the corner. she's trying to do better for her baby and i think all the support given is great.

honey, u just do wat u think is better for yourself and the baby. forget about what anybody else has to say. good luck with ur decision and if u decide to give him away and get him back later... then u do just that.

good luck

she is very brave and smart to want a better life for her puppy.. and you are right.. people should think before they get a puppy. its almost as much work as a human baby..but, people learn from their mistakes, and hopefully she will find a great home for her pet..