FUMING!! Why am I so upset??
 

OK guys, I just found this out and I am fuming mad. I don't know why I care so much, but can only imagine it's because I love our babies sooooo much.

A girl at my work (really nice girl but still) is getting married next month. She has a 6 year old, he has a three year old. They will be moving in the next two months, and are currently renting from his cousin at this time. She is beyond stressed. They are having problems with his son, which is causing problems in the relationship. They are also very stressed financially and like I said are looking to buy a house and move after the wedding. She also wants to be pregnant the day after the wedding, right?

OK, so she decided a week ago she wants a yorkie. She doesn't even like dogs, but "wants my own dog that will listen to me because no one else does." I tried to tell her about all the health problems. behavior problems, and such that comes with owning a yorkie. I tried to explain about reputable breeders, the dangers of owning a yorkie with little kids, and the trouble with potty training. Well she just got one. I don't know from where but I am assuming from the internet. It's a pound and a half and that's all I know.

Why am I so angry? Why do I care so much? Sorry so long guys but I really, really needed to vent. I just love this breed so much and understand the time committment it takes raising one properly and all that. I won't even be able to pretend I am excited for her I don't think. What do I do? What do I do when she starts complaining about it in a few weeks or months? HELP!!

(sorry so long!)

I guess all you can do is be supportive.....and just maybe you will end up raising her yorkie!

LOL, sorry, but if she wants a dog that "will listen to her because no one else does", I think she is in for a surprise.:rolleyes: Maybe she should have opted for a Golden Retriever.;)

When she told me that about wanting something to listen to her I DID laugh out loud! I tried to explain the whole terrier mentality and everything but nope, all she sees is a little toy.... She doesn't even like dogs- she doesn't even like Ranger!!

I feel sorry for the little baby. It isn't very big. You have every right to be concerned and upset... but unfortunately... people don't always listen. Sounds like she is not thinking properly. Just jumping from one thing to another. Not a good time to add a puppy.

She will probably run out of time for it too.. and give it to someone who knows what they are doing.

Hopefully, after you have time to cool down a little, you can give her some ideas on how to properly raise the little one. For the puppies sake.
Good luck to you. Wishing you happiness and peace of mind.

You are angry because you care so much for Yorkies. You don't want that little baby to have to go through a rough time. Yorkie lovers are very passionate, loving, caring people. Who want the best for all Yorkies.

Your friend sounds like someone who is looking for something and hasn't yet found it. She is piling too many things on at once. You should try and talk to her and see if she can't do just one thing at a time. Starting with his son and work that problem out before getting married. Also renting while saving a nice size down payment on a home will be less stressful when paying a mortgage. A dog should not even be on her list. She's biting off more than she can handle right now as it is.

People are just lame....she will probably be someone that tries to re-home the yorkie in a few months!!! She is getting a dog for all the wrong reasonss - so sad.

Thanks and I agree- I know what the right thing to do is, it's just hard when you feel like you tried to help and all of your advice went out the window. She thinks I am over-protective of Ranger so it's hard to want to give her advice and expect she'll take it. I hope that baby will be OK.....

Hey- you are just down the street from me! I am in Middleton..

She knows all this! We talked about it last week and she even said she knows she wants a dog for all the wrong reasons. She even said she just wants one until she can have another baby, which is hopefully nine months after the wedding. They are going to counseling for his son, and are saving money for a down but still!! I have spent over $1500 in vet bills since Sept. and they are struggling to pay for the wedding. I guess in a few months when she tried to re-home her I will try and help then... (Good lord your babies are precious!!!)

Can you imagine Teddi going to a home like that, instead of yours?!?!?!

Really? That is great. I have found someone close. Hopefully, this gal will want someone else to take her baby. If she does and you don't want it... let me now. I love Yorkies!

why am I so upset
 

I agree and it would be big enough to defend itself.:confused:

I know it's upsetting, but you did your part. You tried to warn her of the huge committment. Sounds like she got this dog for all the wrong reasons, but hopefully she will suprise you and be a loving and attentive owner.

I would advise you to be as supportive as possible, for the sake of this dog. Don't go out of your way, but if she has questions answer them to the best of your ability.

It's easy to expect the worse, much harder to hope for the best, but that's really all you can do at this point. Fingers crossed that this baby has a long and happy life with its new family.

why am I so upset???
 

I would be upset too, sounds as if she needs counseling more than her son.
I worry about the yorkie being so tiny with small children.
Wonder if it would help if you get her on YT to express her feelings about getting a yorkie and seeing how much time and love they require, BUT, maybe not, she would get it.:eek::eek:

Well, since she didn't seem to listen to you when you tried to tell her all the other stuff, maybe she'll actually listen when she needs some advice, perhaps be her mentor and maybe she'll actually start to understand the seriousness of being a Mom to a furkid. That's about all you can do now.

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2. Give me time to understand what you want of me.

3. Place your trust in me. It is crucial for my well-being.

4. Don't be angry with me for long and don't lock me up as punishment. You have your work, your friends, your entertainment, but I only have you.

5. Talk to me. Even if I don't understand your words, I do understand your voice when speaking to me.

6. Be aware that however you treat me, I will never forget it.

7. Before you hit me, before you strike me, remember that I could hurt you, and yet, I choose not to bite you.

8. Before you scold me for being lazy or uncooperative, ask yourself if something might be bothering me. Perhaps I' am not getting the right food or I have been in the sun too long, or my heart might be getting old and weak.

9. Please take care of me when I grow old. You too, will grow old.

10. On the ultimate difficult journey, go with me please. Never say you can't bear to watch. Don't make me face this alone. Everything is easier for me if you are there, because I love you so.

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8 Weeks old and 1 lb. 2 oz.!!! What kind of "breeder" lets someone take them at this point??????????????

Thanks for all of your advice guys. I know what the right thing to do is, and of course I will help her out if she needs it. It's just easy to come on here and vent cause I know everyone would feel the same way I do. And yes, sometimes it's easier to fear the worst than hope for the best because I know the turmoil that's going on there and can only imagine a tiny pup in the midst of it all.

Go hug your babies for me!!!

You are a sweetie. Don't be sorry for caring so much..These babies are worth it.

Fuming! Why am I so upset
 

[Just saw this on another thread.
A PET'S TEN COMMANDMENTS


1. My life is likely to last 10-15 years. Any separation from you is likely to be painful.

2. Give me time to understand what you want of me.

3. Place your trust in me. It is crucial for my well-being.

4. Don't be angry with me for long and don't lock me up as punishment. You have your work, your friends, your entertainment, but I only have you.

5. Talk to me. Even if I don't understand your words, I do understand your voice when speaking to me.

6. Be aware that however you treat me, I will never forget it.

7. Before you hit me, before you strike me, remember that I could hurt you, and yet, I choose not to bite you.

8. Before you scold me for being lazy or uncooperative, ask yourself if something might be bothering me. Perhaps I' am not getting the right food or I have been in the sun too long, or my heart might be getting old and weak.

9. Please take care of me when I grow old. You too, will grow old.

10. On the ultimate difficult journey, go with me please. Never say you can't bear to watch. Don't make me face this alone. Everything is easier for me if you are there, because I love you so.

~~Take a moment today to thank God for your pets. Enjoy and take good care of them. Life would be a much duller, less joyful experience without our little critters.

We do not have to wait for Heaven, to be surrounded by hope, love, and joyfulness. It is here on earth and has four legs.:aimeeyork

Didn't mean to do this twice but I copied and pasted from FUFUFashions.

Already had a hypoglycemic attack........ Poor baby. She is vomitting now but they don't want to take her to the vet because they want to "wait and see." I'm on the phone with her right now......

Fuming!!Why am I so upset
 

What a nightmare you have on your hands, good luck and keep us posted. These babies are so fragile.:(

Hopefully she will realize raising a yorkie is not wasy stuff and you will end up with him/her. :)

EXACTLY!! I have 2 Yorkies and a Golden and my Golden minds me like a soldier. The Yorkies...not so much! :rolleyes: They are darling and I love them to bits! I waited to get a smaller dog after my kids were grown for that very reason.

Be supportive and help her as much as you can. It's in the best interest of the dog.

Tammy :)

"wait and see?" The poor little one does not have the time to wait and see .YIKES. :eek: Your friend has gotten in over her head. She just got the little pup and it is already sick. Hopefully she will learn quickly on how to handle emergencies, and properly care for her new puppy. It is a tremedous amount of work and responsibilty .The little yorkie Puppy is much more like a human baby then people realise. She is already swamped in her personal life, and needless to say this is extremley poor timing of your friend . Bringing home a fragile, Yorkie pup, mostly looking for someone to talk to? Heck she needs therapy.:aimeeyork

How is the baby doing? You are wonderful for stepping in and helping her.
Please keep us posted.

I told her to take her to the vet asap. She said they don't even have a vet. I said you better find one fast. She doesn't think the baby had ever eaten hard food, even though the "breeder" sent them home with Kibbles and Bits. She said she hadn't really eaten since Sat. and then this morning was lethargic and shaking. Her fiance got her to eat some food but now she's been vomitting. They of course didn't get any health guarantees, contracts, etc. and paid $1000 for her with nothing. I guess yorkies are an easy way to make a quick buck. The breeder had two or three litters, eight pups in all. $8000 for all the pups... Wow.

I am trying really hard to get them to get her into a vet asap. but I doubt they will take her in today because she's coming into work and her fiance is at home with the pup..... I just want to go home and hug my baby Ranger!!!!

I would be upset too, there are too many people these days who get dogs and really don't know what they are getting themselves into, and then you see another person go and do it. People like this only add to the problem, but sometimes you'll be shocked, and the person will end up providing a really good home for the dog! I'll keep my fingers crossed that this will turn out to be the situation for this little yorkie.

Hug Your Ranger ........ This is out of your hands .:aimeeyork Poor puppy though. Could you tell the fiance to give the pup a little Kayro Syurp, rub it on her gums? They could lose her , if not treated. :eek:

Sorry you are going through this. Maybe once she realizes that she is in over her head she will rehome that baby to someone. And if you can't take it, maybe you can help her find a good home for it! I pray that everything turns out right. Just help her as much as you can on informing her about everything she needs to know.