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Please tell me i am being stupid Ok so we are picking Luna up today at 1 pm(woo hoo) but last night we got out lycans carrier to clean it out and i just bawled like a baby, i feel like i am betraying her or something. When she died we put everything away and didnt give it a second look now i just cant quit getting teary eyed when i look at it. Her little food bowls, her carrier, crate. |
I went through the exact same thing! I now have 2 more but I still think of my Mya everyday and the only way I got through the guilt and feelings of betrayal was by telling myself that she would be happy that we were sharing our love with another but we will never replace her! You are doing the right thing and this new little one will bring you the joy you miss that only a yorkie can bring. Enjoy! |
Awww :cry: You will always love and miss lycan, but now you will have Luna to love, too. Those first reminders are the worst. Soon it will be Luna's things with a little reminder of Lycan. Maybe you could make a little scrapbook for Lycan, sorta a reminder that he is not forgotten. |
no you're defenatly not being stupid. the same thing happened with bandit and tucker. after a while you ust kind of... i don't really know how to explain but it doesn't hurt the same way. congratulations on luna you're going to love her. i'm so sorry, i know it hurts. but it will get better. |
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Congratulations on your new addition to your family. Luna will help mend your broken heart. Lycan is proud to share her things with the new baby. |
thanks guys you are the best support group a girl could ever have. |
You are not being stupid at all. You will always remember your little Lycan. But that doesnt mean you can love another little baby. I know that Lycan is happy that you will have Luna to love and that will not forget her. |
I was like that when I got Lily Mae.. I put Mochas stuff away in the closet and when I took it down i was a wreck.. My best friend had to come over to help me out.. It is going to be hard at first but little Luna is going to me good for you... As several people have said, she will never replace Lycan but you have plenty of room in your heart for another... God bless and know Lycan is up in Rainbow Bridge playing with Mocha, Bandit, Moke, and all of the other Yorkies that have passed away!! |
This is not stupid...this is love. There are a multitude of things that remind us of the of loved ones we have lost and it's perfectly normal to feel grief and miss them. Stupid would be NOT feeling anything when reminded. |
Hi Angie Sorry, about how You are feeling but believe Me when I say it is very normal. Soon You will feel better .After You get Your new fur baby home,It will start to get better.My Mom passed away very young a few years ago.I had gotten Her a Chihuahua A few xmas's before She passed,Well that dog was so spoiled by Her that it had to have chicken Mcnuggets on Thursdays or it would get seriously depressed! I inherited the dog back when Mom died and it turned out to be the only thing that got Me out of bed because I could not go on without My mom {My best friend}but I had to get up and feed it.Well Blue and I became very close and He passed 2 yrs ago and I buried Him at My Mom's feet,To rest with his Mom ! I had Him about 10 yrs and when He passed He took apart of What I had left of My Mom. When I decided to get Daisy I felt the same as You-The guilt came in.But it has gotten better since I have Her.I feel happy again to take care of Her it is a real joy and I know Blue is looking down on Us from My Mom's lap and is happy for Me. I hope this story helps You in some way.Relax and enjoy Your new baby.It's the right thing :tinyheart |
Tears are the worlds best healing aid, so do yourself a favor and enjoy that you have the ability to heal yourself :) :hug: |
The same thing happened when I got out some of Gracie's things for Lexy. I still miss her so much, but now I love Lexy too! Do you ever dream about Lycan? The sweetest dreams I have are about Gracie! |
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OH boy, can I relate. I went through the exact same thing. In fact I'm getting teary just reading that you are. It will get better, especially with the help of a new little furry baby. Luna will have her own special place in your heart just as Lycan did. We're thinking of you... :hug: |
Me too - I couldn't use Muffy (the peke) stuff with Sabrina. It just hurt me after 15 years with her, and I'm sorry - but I celebrated my new puppy by giving all Muffy's stuff away and buying new stuff. I know - I know - but that's how I handled it. On the way to get her, I bought a new carrier, new leash, collar, bowls and bed. It was like a celebrationof new life and I knew Muffy would approve of me finally getting over it. Frankie - sabrinasmom |
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its natural to cry and theres nothing wrong with that, you are not trying to replace your baby or forget her she will always have a place in your heart, your moving on and giving another baby love and thats a wonderful thing to do, so you enjoy your new baby. wendy and rosie :rose: :yorkiesar |
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Enjoy those little paw steps on the floor and those morning kisses that will soon be at your house again. |
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Oh no Angie, it's not stupid, it's really normal. When I lost my pug last December I would just break out into tears every time I saw a pug. We took him in to be cremated and then went out of town so i didn't get his ashes until almost the end of January and when I got there and they gave me the box I just started sobbing, right there at the desk! The day I got Chewy was so emotional, after the day was over and everyone went to bed I sat with him in the kitchen and then started crying again, this poor animal didn't know what hit him!! He has made me so happy and has filled the void that was left by Pike. Cry, get it out of your system, it's fine. Little Luna baby is going to make you happy - you'll see. Chin up and pictures, please! |
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Okay - I'm not reading anymore - I keep crying thinking of all the furbabies gone on before and sabrina's looking at me like I've lost it! It'a a miracle we do this again and again! It's the love - they give so much - it's so worth it - I'll do it again - I have to do it again - God, feels so good it hurts! Sabrinasmom - frankie |
There's absolutely nothing wrong with your feelings. Maybe you want to put her stuff away, and get new for your new baby. |
oh angie!! it's not stupid!! perfectly normal!! but you will have lil luna to help you get through it! |
Those who have crossed the Bridge You have lots of company in the grieving department. I have 7 younguns and still I cry for my wee Jesse every day..LIKE RIGHT NOW! Villette was so kind as to include him in my avatar. There will never be another like him. I took one of my grand-daughters to lunch the other day. She was owned by one of my rescued Yorkies, CeCe, who died of a heart ailment last winter. When we got into my car andopened the case for a CD, there was a bright green harness that had been CeCe's. I keep it in there in case another baby will need to be rescued, and to give me alittle piece of her. Brit picked up the harnes and looked at me with the saddest face a 17 y.o. can have. Whisper (who is in Pat's avatar) is Brit's dog now and is so loved but she will not wear that harness, ever. It is CeCe!! Okay, now I cannot see the keyboard for the tears but, your little one and my little one and all those that have crossed RB will always be with us and will always be missed. |
You are not stupid at all . It often happens to me . I kept some of Zsa Zsa things as her little tent and doghouse that she received for her bithday and when I see Jade and Choulita using them , sometimes I cry ( remembering Zsa Zsa sleeping in it) . It is only human , we loved them and they are not here anymore . |
Hugs and Puppy Kisses I'm just now reading this post...and am thinking of you as you go get Your Luna. I've been right where you are...and it does hurt so much... *** When you reach and get Luna...the feeling you get at that moment is so incredibly hard to explain...almost like a gift being given... And its because of this past loss..this past baby you had....that your passing on a New Love to a New puppy. The puppy has Lycan to thank for the tons of love you have spilling out to give....so..somehow..Lycan lives on...in both you and Luna... *** One day...one sweet glorious day...you will be with Lycan..and Luna...and our entire time on this earth will make more sense... *** Bless your heart...we are thinking of you...and enjoy those sweet Luna puppy kisses...they come from a special place. |
Annadoodle, those words are very touching, i stayed strong reading through this entire thread, but those last words you wrote got the better of me! I have lost 3 yorkies in the past, i kept somethings from each of them, i dont let my baby girls ( Chelsey & Chanel ) use them, i still feel that those few things belong to them, i still think and cry over each one of those babies, but my Chelsey and Chanel make things a lot easier, they do things the others did, they sometimes look at me in the same way that my others used to, thats when i know that they will never leave me, and they know they will ALWAYS be loved by us, and i know that one sweet day, we will all meet again!! Lycansmom, enjoy your new baby, she came to you with good reason, she is a godsgift ;) I cant wait to see pics of her and read all your stories!! |
You're not stupid at all....and you 're definiately not alone . I've kept Pepper's little things... makes me tear up just writing his name. His little face is still my screen saver on my computer..I don't know if I'll ever want to change it. We can't help from missing them. Enjoy you're new baby and congratulations! :rose: jeanne |
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