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lycansmom 07-31-2005 06:37 AM
Please tell me i am being stupid
 
Ok so we are picking Luna up today at 1 pm(woo hoo) but last night we got out lycans carrier to clean it out and i just bawled like a baby, i feel like i am betraying her or something. When she died we put everything away and didnt give it a second look now i just cant quit getting teary eyed when i look at it. Her little food bowls, her carrier, crate.

leximax 07-31-2005 06:42 AM
I went through the exact same thing! I now have 2 more but I still think of my Mya everyday and the only way I got through the guilt and feelings of betrayal was by telling myself that she would be happy that we were sharing our love with another but we will never replace her! You are doing the right thing and this new little one will bring you the joy you miss that only a yorkie can bring. Enjoy!

Laura 07-31-2005 06:42 AM
Awww :cry: You will always love and miss lycan, but now you will have Luna to love, too. Those first reminders are the worst. Soon it will be Luna's things with a little reminder of Lycan. Maybe you could make a little scrapbook for Lycan, sorta a reminder that he is not forgotten.

MeganS 07-31-2005 06:43 AM
no you're defenatly not being stupid. the same thing happened with bandit and tucker. after a while you ust kind of... i don't really know how to explain but it doesn't hurt the same way. congratulations on luna you're going to love her. i'm so sorry, i know it hurts. but it will get better.

Stitches29 07-31-2005 06:45 AM
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Originally Posted by lycansmom
Ok so we are picking Luna up today at 1 pm(woo hoo) but last night we got out lycans carrier to clean it out and i just bawled like a baby, i feel like i am betraying her or something. When she died we put everything away and didnt give it a second look now i just cant quit getting teary eyed when i look at it. Her little food bowls, her carrier, crate.
I can say first hand that you are NOT being stupid. When Moke passed away in March, I packed all his belongings (including crate, toys, dishes, blankies and a homemade quilt I made him). I have just recently started bringing things back out for Maggie. I was very hesitant at first. I had told my husband back in March, that nobody was allowed to ever use Moke's things. It still brings a tear to my eye, when I see Moke's belongings. Maggie is very gentle with all of Moke's things. It's almost like she knows what a special friend he was to me.

Congratulations on your new addition to your family. Luna will help mend your broken heart. Lycan is proud to share her things with the new baby.

lycansmom 07-31-2005 06:46 AM
thanks guys you are the best support group a girl could ever have.

Marie 07-31-2005 06:51 AM
You are not being stupid at all. You will always remember your little Lycan. But that doesnt mean you can love another little baby. I know that Lycan is happy that you will have Luna to love and that will not forget her.

bkessler 07-31-2005 06:56 AM
I was like that when I got Lily Mae.. I put Mochas stuff away in the closet and when I took it down i was a wreck.. My best friend had to come over to help me out.. It is going to be hard at first but little Luna is going to me good for you... As several people have said, she will never replace Lycan but you have plenty of room in your heart for another... God bless and know Lycan is up in Rainbow Bridge playing with Mocha, Bandit, Moke, and all of the other Yorkies that have passed away!!

sylvan 07-31-2005 06:58 AM
This is not stupid...this is love. There are a multitude of things that remind us of the of loved ones we have lost and it's perfectly normal to feel grief and miss them. Stupid would be NOT feeling anything when reminded.

ladyfaylyn 07-31-2005 07:00 AM
Hi Angie
 
Sorry, about how You are feeling but believe Me when I say it is very normal.
Soon You will feel better .After You get Your new fur baby home,It will start to get better.My Mom passed away very young a few years ago.I had gotten Her a Chihuahua A few xmas's before She passed,Well that dog was so spoiled by Her that it had to have chicken Mcnuggets on Thursdays or it would get seriously depressed!
I inherited the dog back when Mom died and it turned out to be the only thing that got Me out of bed because I could not go on without My mom {My best friend}but I had to get up and feed it.Well Blue and I became very close and He passed 2 yrs ago and I buried Him at My Mom's feet,To rest with his Mom ! I had Him about 10 yrs and when He passed He took apart of What I had left of My Mom.
When I decided to get Daisy I felt the same as You-The guilt came in.But it has gotten better since I have Her.I feel happy again to take care of Her it is a real joy and I know Blue is looking down on Us from My Mom's lap and is happy for Me.




I hope this story helps You in some way.Relax and enjoy Your new baby.It's the right thing :tinyheart

kewtee 07-31-2005 07:06 AM
Tears are the worlds best healing aid, so do yourself a favor and enjoy that you have the ability to heal yourself :)
:hug:

eensor 07-31-2005 07:07 AM
The same thing happened when I got out some of Gracie's things for Lexy. I still miss her so much, but now I love Lexy too! Do you ever dream about Lycan? The sweetest dreams I have are about Gracie!

lycansmom 07-31-2005 07:08 AM
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Originally Posted by ladyfaylyn
Sorry, about how You are feeling but believe Me when I say it is very normal.
Soon You will feel better .After You get Your new fur baby home,It will start to get better.My Mom passed away very young a few years ago.I had gotten Her a Chihuahua A few xmas's before She passed,Well that dog was so spoiled by Her that it had to have chicken Mcnuggets on Thursdays or it would get seriously depressed!
I inherited the dog back when Mom died and it turned out to be the only thing that got Me out of bed because I could not go on without My mom {My best friend}but I had to get up and feed it.Well Blue and I became very close and He passed 2 yrs ago and I buried Him at My Mom's feet,To rest with his Mom ! I had Him about 10 yrs and when He passed He took apart of What I had left of My Mom.
When I decided to get Daisy I felt the same as You-The guilt came in.But it has gotten better since I have Her.I feel happy again to take care of Her it is a real joy and I know Blue is looking down on Us from My Mom's lap and is happy for Me.




I hope this story helps You in some way.Relax and enjoy Your new baby.It's the right thing :tinyheart
Thank you so much it does help crying again but heck i always cry LOL. And i am sure all of you are right once i have her with me i think she will keep me busy enough that the pain wont be so great

chloeandj 07-31-2005 07:30 AM
OH boy, can I relate. I went through the exact same thing. In fact I'm getting teary just reading that you are. It will get better, especially with the help of a new little furry baby. Luna will have her own special place in your heart just as Lycan did. We're thinking of you... :hug:

sabrinasmom 07-31-2005 07:33 AM
Me too - I couldn't use Muffy (the peke) stuff with Sabrina. It just hurt me after 15 years with her, and I'm sorry - but I celebrated my new puppy by giving all Muffy's stuff away and buying new stuff.

I know - I know - but that's how I handled it. On the way to get her, I bought a new carrier, new leash, collar, bowls and bed. It was like a celebrationof new life and I knew Muffy would approve of me finally getting over it.

Frankie - sabrinasmom


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