Don't know which to pick...
 

So I'm faced with the worst possible choice ever. Since Mike's grandmother is going to pass away soon and his other grandmother won't allow the puppies at her house with us for like a month until he get his inheritance money I'm faced with...

A) Ask around and hope someone would take care of them for a month or so until the money comes.

B) Have Mike live with his other grandmother and the puppies and I just live from the truck for a month or so.

C) Give them up to someone else.

I don't want to do any, but I need to pick one and I have to do it soon. I don't even want to think about C.

I really have no idea what to do. Any suggestions?

Aww i'm so sorry for you :( Try A first :D could noone foster them untill u get back on your feet. i hope you dont have to get rid of them hun :( hugs to you what a horrible time.

Time for a reality check: Grandma isn't dead and you are planning how to spend the inheritance money? I would highly suggest rehoming these yorkies, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but if your future is planned around waiting for people to die before you can have a home, than it's time to make new plans. What if grandma lives?

Wow!:eek: How harsh is that! Maybe you shouldn't assume that you know the whole situation and get over it! She did not say anything about how she was spending the inheritance money but simply that she needed advice on what would be best for her dogs during that time! Who knows maybe they know for sure is is going to pass away. and judging by option B they do not live near the grandmother and that is why they are staying around. not just so they can get their hands on grannies money. geez! some people around here just have to get off their high horses!:mad:

Actually I happen to agree with Nancy's advice.

Do a quick search on the op's other posts...and not assume someone else...may be assuming.

All I found was the op complaining about her grandmother in law. That's it.

Yeah, me too!! I don't understand why the very negative posting for a young girl who is trying to figure things out!! Are we all missing something?

They live with the grandmother. Apparently they do not have the means to get a place of their own without the inheritance.

Wow tough situation. Any one of us at any time can run into situations that are similar, down on our luck type situations. I thought you lived in an apt with your fiance and his brother and his fiance though? Did that not work out? Im trying to think what Id do with my boys if I had no choice. I guess Id get a friend or family member to take them in. Sounds like your fiance is close to his family and they are local, can one of them take you and your dogs in for a month? Can you and your fiance offer to pay rent to someone for one month for one bedroom? Id try to do that and neither of you move in with his grandmother.

Good Luck though .. I feel for you!

I'd try to go with option A if at all possible.
Wishing all well, whatever the outcome.

She asked for advice, and I gave it. There is a difference between being supportive and being an enabler. If she had said she was waiting for a job opening or finishing school, my advice would be different, but she waiting for someone to die before she can have the funds to have a home. You need to be able to care for yourself before you can care for a pet. I stand by my advice and suggest that since she is young, and has no children, it would also be a good idea to acquire a set of skills that are marketable, and will enable her to provide a home for herself, and others.

I would try option A and I wish you the best of luck...

His grandmother was told she has two weeks left. She has cancer in her brain. Its not going to go away. The reason why we need the inheritance is because she would not allow my fiancé to have a job because she wanted him at the house with her all the time to take care of her and his father who is disabled. She also didn't want me to have a full time job because she wanted someone to run all her errands and do all the shopping. So on my money which isn't a lot a month, I had to pay for all the stuff for the puppies, plus pay bills, and gas for two cars. Thats not easy on someone who doesn't get paid very much.

We need the inheritance because we were not able to save up money. Plus the doctors told her last month, the cancer was going away and she would have 10-12 months. Things happen. Now her cancer won't go away and its still in her brain. Just last month, Mike had to take her to radiation for ten days straight to get rid of the cancer.


If she would have let him have at least a part time job then we could have enough money by now to get a place of our own without the inheritance, but because we moved up here to help her she told us one of us couldn't have a job. Since it's his family, he stayed home all day.

All I'm asking for is advice on which one to choose. I'm not really looking to be critized and stuff, I get enough of that around here now. I go to bed every nigh crying because I know the next day will be worse, and so far, nothing is better.

I'm not sure what the problem really is. If his father is still living but disabled, they won't be able to kick him out of his home for quite some time, if at all. Stay where you're at with your babies and find a full time job anyway.

I'm not criticizing you, I'm telling you to wake up and smell the coffee. How will she not let you get a job? Don't let others make you a victim. The money you spent on the puppies could have been used to make an apartment payment. Sometimes you have to give up short-term rewards in order to reach long-term goals.

Most hospitals have social workers that can help granny get the care she needs, have your fiancé ask the doctor about this. Not everyone is cut out to be a caretaker, it sounds like this job is too tough for you. Get a job, save your money, and get out as soon as possible. Honestly, option A would be the right choice in most cases, but just because you thought B was a possible choice, I had to choose C. B should never be an option.

My dad had brain cancer, and lived over 10 years with it, while my mother was sick with Alzheimer disease, I was their caretaker, and I know this is a tough job, and not worth all the money in the world, the ONLY way I could do it was that I loved them so much. I know they were treated with love, kindness, and dignity. I don't think I could have done such a fine job in my twenties.

if you need help finding homes for the pups, please let me know. i am a rescue coordinator with Save a Yorkie Rescue, Inc. in PA. maybe we can help find foster families or adoptive homes.

Well first off she didn't want anyone from the hospital to take care of her, she wanted her grandson to do it. I fully understand that. We were actually lined up with jobs in MD back in Sept and were moving down to MD, but thats when she found out her cancer came back and she begged us to stay. So we did, we stayed because she needed us. No not everyone is cut out to be a caretaker and I can't tell you how many times Mike was fustrated or annoyed by being called so much. We have gone over our minutes twice in the past because she called us so many times. Plus our batteries died in a day.

Two puppies weren't part of our plan, but when the other two in the litter died, she told us to keep them both, which we did, and we love them more than anything.

She's had cancer for LONG time now. It's coming to an end. She can't get up by herself anymore, and she hardly eats anything. She needs to be on oxygen all the time. Plus despite it all, she is still smoking. Why? Because she knows and we all know she doesn't have long left. She can't remember hardly anything anymore either. It all came fast and hard and now its really hard.

Mike loves his grandmother, he won't show it but I KNOW he wants to cry, I know he does, but he won't. He offered to take care of her, and she told him she needed him all day, everyday. Thats what she got.



Everything is going to get better for us, I know it will. We have been through so much in the past three years that I myself don't even know how we are still together.

I just have to add one more thing, since you are not married, this will be you Mike's inheritance, not yours, you really need to protect yourself. I know you probably think you will be together forever, but it's always good to have a back-up plan.


I mean I just don't get it, why if she dies you and the puppies have to live in a truck?

Wow that sounds like a harsh situation.... And I think she's asking for advice, not judgement... BIG difference! But tough love is sometimes needed!! (when you know someone a little better!!)
How bout this.... Do you have any other friends you and the pups can stay with? Maybe then you BOTH can get jobs,or at the very least one of you, that way your not just living waiting for someone to pass for inheritance $$... Honestly, that does come across a little wrong, even makes me feel weird!! lol I must say though that you both should be working!! Hope that doesn't come across as judgement! Just trying to be honest with you and helpful at the same time!!
Good luck

VERY true!!!!

Even if you are married....it's not your spouse's inheritance. As long as you keep it in your name only...no joint accounts your spouse can not lay claim to it.

And as someone who has received inheritances....trust me...it's money you do NOT want. I'll give all mine back....in exchange for the people it cost me.

The inheritance is his and I'm not one to think we'll be together forever, but for right now, we are together. Just because the money goes to him doesn't mean he won't share it with me. I've paid all his bills PLUS bought him things from money I recieved from family.

We've talked to people and we have two people that have offered to watch the puppies. Both don't live anymore than an hour and a half from where we will be living so we can visit the puppies whenever we like.

Oh Honey I commend Both you and your BF for taking care of his sick Grama. It has got to be really hard.
I would Try really hard to keep those babies.
"Gingergirlsmom" lives really close to you and works in rescue Not that you want to give you pups up. but maybe she can help find some one to foster them for a month or so till you get your place.
I will point her to this thread for you ...

Oh and just a warning... I'm sure it won't happen to you, but it did to me! And believe me, THIS never even crossed my mind!! When I was about 22, so 10yrs ago, (wow I'm getting' up there!!) I was living w/ a bf, and we thought how cute it would be to get a puppy!! (HUGE commitment).. We bought a Boston Terrier, and two months after we got her we split up!! SURPRISE!!!
SO, my friends offered to take Rose, just for a month or so till I save $$ to get my own place again. Well it took about 40 days, and when I was ready for Rose they would not give her back!!!
Long story short, it ruined our friendship, and I ended up letting them keep her cause her kids and other dogs were so attached. They had a huge yard and I wanted what was best for her...
But I learned a very good lesson for myself, that dogs are a HUGE commitment, and need to be brought into a stable environment... I was heartbroken....
Your story just reminded me of what I went thru, I'm not saying that would happen, but just make sure you trust whoever fosters them! I really trusted my "friends" and look what happened!!!

I do not believe for one minute that Nancy or anyone else is judging the OP. If we were smarter, we would actually see the importance and wisdom of Nancy's words. And in fact, Nancy has been the only one in this thread who has actually provided helpful advice rather than a 'pat on the shoulder'

I could say more on the subject - but I will leave it unsaid because it would be a lot harsher than anything else anyone has said already. Obviously the OP doesnt care for real advice - or even advice pertaining to "option C" - which makes me wonder why she would have even posted it. I'm going to stop here.

I agree that Nancy's advice was sound. It's always hard to hear critical advice, but
pets are a huge commitment and for the love of the puppies, do what's best for them.

I wish I could help...what part of PA are you in?

I agree with you 100% on both comments.

I know it is very difficult caring for a loved one who is terminally ill. I assisted in the care of both my mother and father who died this year with lung cancer and liver cancer, respectively. Although it was difficult, I feel blessed that I was able to care for them and try to make their last months as comfortable as possible. I believe your fiance Mike will feel the same way. Maybe right now you can take it a day at a time and not make a hasty decision. Good luck.

That actually happened to a friend of ours. He asked a lady on craigslist to watch his cat (Which was a BIG mistake, he should have asked someone he knew.), but anyways, the lady gave the cat to her friend whose cat just passed away and then she moved to FL and no word on what happened to his cat.



That is another reason I'm not just going around posting for people to take care of them, but I actually have a few ideas on how to stay with the puppies and keep them, I just need to do some stuff first.


Right now everything is stressful. Were packing and cleaning and throwing a LOT away. Were in arguments with people almost every day. (i'm currently PISSED at his brother for walking in on me changing IN MY OWN BEDROOM and then he tried to yell at us saying were never dressed. He just always wants to come in when were changing.) But if I sound bitchy or rude, I'm sorry, I'm just so stressed right now that almost every little thing sets me off. I'm still waiting to make it through one day without bursting into tears.


But I'm trying to avoid and ignore anyone criticizing me or saying mean things, I'm just really not up for any of that.



Were in York, PA right now.

I agree with Nancy, and I don't think she was being harsh at all. I think she sounds very wise.